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Mekuseh11:
I saw a thread where a lady was misleading Young women about not staying with a man who can't provide for her needs.

I have seen this mistake play out repeatedly and I'm surprised the average woman refuse to learn from it.
Firstly what do women mean by broke guy?
No personal house, cars, assets?
How many men in Nigeria owns the above? Does that mean they are unmarried.

Reality is different from emotions and woke ideologies.
Most okada riders, Keke, shop owners, small business owners, civil servants and below 50k salary earners are all married.

So who marries them , fellow men?

Only few men are rich -- which means few rich men and alot of broke men( feminist theory)
Very few women are rich and majority are broke ( fact)
So if few rich men decides to pick a wife, it means broke women will be left with broke men and they have to get married ( reasons a lot of 30plus women are stuck).

The truth is the average Nigerian woman by the virtue of the economy will marry what they refer to as broke while only a fraction of the few lucky ones will marry a rich man.

I don't understand why women keep deceiving and misleading themselves.
Dating and marriage is two different things.
You can have standards when it comes to dating and a guy with packaging ( broke in the real sense) will get any girl with such mindset laid with fake life, but when it comes to marriage men chose which means you are stuck with what you call broke.

My advice to ladies that would listen. Find a guy you like and build with.
It's rare to find a lazy Nigerian man that doesn't have plans to get rich( even though the economy is harsh on most of them).
Yahoos boys, kidnappers, barrow pushers, hawkers and every hustler is chasing money but some will be Richer than others ( facts).
Don't judge anyone especially if you have a brother who is also hustling to survive!!!

That's why we have many evening newspapers today ... they wait for the " handsome prince in shining armour " till they're 30 then the delusive dream fade off And reality hits them hard ... buy then na them to dey find ANY man willing to marry them even at their own expense . They'll now starting flooding the church and disturbing God

They should throw him in jail throughout his life .. he's a murderer

Dollarseeker:
Gambling may mean a different thing to you.
sport betting is not a sin. if sports betting is a sin, then forex trading, crypto, stock exchange market, buying of shares etc will also be a sin.

God hates getting drunk but that does not mean that God hates drinking.

You wan use 100 naira chop 10 million ... if it isn't greed what is it ??

This is fir people that say " Na money be fine bobo "
They think once they have money they can get any girl ... only for it to end in tears later on

How old is she ..? She might be getting senile ( sorry to say ) cause I'm not sure this is possible

popcykaylah:
Why you dey respond to this liability of a being. If her father was responsible enough and he took good care of her she wouldn't be here looking for a man to feast on ,her level of entitlement is like a parasite. I can never date a woman with such orientation

No mind her .. they are many like her these days
Make we guys dey wise up abeg

Dizzyyish:
Comrade, vawulence is prohibited in this place oh

Comrade the content of your topic says otherwise

Godszilla:
https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-64881435

Good for her ...
The power of God can't be bought simple and short

Good for him .
Lessom 101 :- Don't marry a jobless woman

If na me I go Japa sha .. this country don comot from my mind

NB :- this is not an advice

SmartyPants:
Which next time?

I dunno comrade

You'll Never Walk Alone

Banilla:
Men are better than women till you need pity...

Then it's, "Men are victims of women"... "Women are evil and manipulative"... "Avoid women for your own good"...

Superior mumu gender. Nonesense.

Who plays the victim role most between both genders ?

Don't you have a father? Or brothers ?
Stop crying and acknowledge the fact that men are superior to women mentally, physically and emotionally . Even the bible called yall " the weaker vessel ". Make I nor hear you later say you dey find man wey go take care of you sha

sekundosekundo:


My worry is not calling us "children" but how a FOOLgrown man will commission a wooden bridge and a toilet as a constituency projects.

Guy you just made my morning ... is that real ??

An obvious fact ...

These ones nor get joy at all

Nor be lie

siofra:
Mind your words before I report you to the mods

Kindly do so

Start addressing everyone as sir ...even kids
Takes nothing from you

Could be pride tho but its bullshit

Read your bible..The only proper reason for divorce is adultery
Your " till death do us part " vow at the altar wasn't just mere words...


Next time look before you jump into marriage. You surely will have seen the signs before marrying him but you choose to ignore

Naso una dey date/marry gamblers and drunkards and start complaining when it gets worse knowing fully well that such behaviors are bound to get worse naturally

So you've done prostitution till it now looks funny to you abi ??

Kobojunkie:
1. Who send you business?

2. Abeg stop convoluting o'jare! How does your one story change the condition for millions living before our korokoro eyes in poverty?

Lol I can never fall into such trap . If i ever open a business for my partner ... there will be deals to be signed at my own terms


That's just one out of many I've encountered. Y'all are ingrates by nature that's why no matter what a man does for a woman, she'll still end up asking him " what have you done for me. If he over do to prove his love they'll still ask " I never told you to "

Go and get a job and stop pretending to be an orphan
Even orphans leave the orphanage when they're 18
You just want to relax and be taken care of .......sorry

Yes . If she thinks well and gives peace of mind
And the age range must be close sha

I'm guilty of this too ... Damn
I practice saying No but always end up doing otherwise when the time comes

So you don't have ambitions to achieve, to solidify your career ?

The probability that it will end in tears is very high

Kobojunkie:
1. Only a fool, an slowpoke even, would look for and bond with a person of lower financial status in marriage. Also, hypogamy offers men none of what you claim as reality clearly reveals.

2. LOL... so every market woman wey dey sell shop na closet millionaire according to you? You don't like to visit reality much, do you?

Well unfortunately for you ... you can only cry, wail and rant . That's the the society is . You give a woman feathers and she tends to fly towards the sun at her own risk too .

I've seen things ma'am. You don't have to be a millionaire before assisting your husband in the family . I no get time to type I'd have shared a story of a middle aged man that opened a cool business for his wife yet she was still asking him for money . She never assisted with catering for the kids financially( no matter how lil ) which was the main reason he set up the business for her . Learn to fend for yourself like a proper adult and stop begging up and down looking for alms like . You'll never see a woman from the west or Europe thinking with am orphan mentality like this .

Get a Job

EriMma1:
LoL.. where the husbands kwanu? Is it the ones that are still struggling to feed themselves? You don't seem to get the drift.

Bye o.

Lol don't come back here to wail I'm 35 and still single . Wait for mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates . There's nothing to get here than another female manipulation

EriMma1:
That was why I said you have no business being with a woman if you can't cater for her needs. Period!

And her need must have to do with finance ba ?
Learn to cater for yourself ... then the man will respect you not begging for sub , money for hair , wigs and clothes etc everytime

An average Nigerian girl can't even transport herself to go see her boyfriend or pay for a meal when they both go out . Is it the same way in Europe and the west . Hungry girls everywhere. No wonder una nor dey see husbands sef.

Kobojunkie:
1. Times have changed yet the vast majority of Nigerian men out there continue to submit to hypogamy en mass? You sure say you even still dey connected with reality as e dey on ground so?

By the way, a man opening a store for his wife does not change her status much because in a majority of such cases, said women continue to live as dependents.

Lmao how many rich women look for financially lower guys?? Men practice hypogamy for security purposes
Once a woman is richer than her man you see her misbehaving . Btw how many of you starting from yourself will marry a guy she's richer than ?? Y'all will feel like he came to eat your money

I disagree. The woman continue to live as dependent while saving her own money ba . Most women rise from there and start seeing the mass as a low class

They'll now start seeking for an upgrade

EriMma1:
Leave that feminine bullshit! That's what you men are using as excuse to dodge responsibilities these days.

By the way, feminism is widely misunderstood. It doesn't mean equality with men in the area of financial responsibilities but equality of rights to work, earn and occupy certain office and political positions. You are just being ridiculous to think feminism is all about sharing responsibilities equally. No!

To your question, a womans duty is to make sure the home is in order and the children and husband are well fed and cared for. Manages the husbands finance very well. Proper Home and financial management is what we bring to the table.

Ehen e reach Bills .. feminism turn to bullshit . So In your opinion feminism is about having equal right as a man but not having equal responsibilities as a man ba ??

Well a responsible man can manage his home and finance alone and do it properly .. it's all about frugality

Women are becoming increasingly accepted in all areas and sections in the workforce . And that was what y'all have always wanted. So go get a job ma'am.

No sensible man wants a woman that cannot bring anything reasonable to the table this days.

EriMma1:
You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

Times have changed .. back then women were not allowed to work . They were mostly housewives until y'all started your equality and feminism thingy
You wanted to work and the modern days brought equality which is good. Women are becoming anything they wish to be and they're hitting different landmarks and achievements ...Now you are complaining you want to go back to the days of housewifery ( probably because of laziness)

You skipped my question what do you bring to the table?