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ashamed to say so but yes i have stolen.

1: usual 10naira 100naira at a time 500naira not wise then primary school days
2: meat from the pot most times.
3: secondary school borrowed money from a classmate is ss3. 1k to pay 2k couldnt meet up so stole jewelleries to sell in ibada so as to pay back. thou later confessed by mum was dissapointed.
4: came home from school during weekend mum was in church, came in through the fence, scaled the wall and stole 2k and went back to school. didint tell anybody but have to live with that for the rest of my life on my conscience. came back from school on holiday and was told thief came to house they didnt know it was me. repented and begged God for forgivness.

This is funny. but at least make my babe papa allow me marry him daughter first make them see if i go pay or not.

@ poster

to be honest whoever wrote that articule is either stupid or daft. it all depends on the type of family the girl has. some family that are well to do dont ask to go and bring millions before they allow you marry their daughter, some tribe will ask you to bring it thou but they will return it back to yoy and tell you to use it to look after their daughter. some poor families will also see it as an opportunity to milk the guy dry especially if the guys is showing himself off.

if all families were asking for millions, those okada riders, conductors and bus drivers wont get married then but they are. reason i know this is because my babe is from anambra niise to be precise, 1st daughter and 1st born and i have made inquiries from friends, collegues, and elders to know what if its tru about what they say about high bride price. in some cases its true and in some cases it isnt.

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la19:
@axeman85 ,
600-750 should do.

are you sure is that inclusive of all the duties involved ? eg customs papaer.e.t.c and i am talking about the 406 with metal grill in front just like the one on this thread .

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-312184.99999.html#bot

those of us abroad will like it and wont mind but in naija they frown at it and people get embarassed

i remember trying to kiss my woman in ss and some other time in public in lagos and she just resisted and i asked why, she said she is shy and cos its in public.

price!!!!!!!1

[quote author=mama-gee link=topic=356680.msg4990604#msg4990604 date=1259107962]They both need to leave the 19th century and come into 2009. [/quote]if you mean the girls parents then i totally agree with you. [quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=356680.msg4990485#msg4990485 date=1259106318]Hold on!. . . isnt that the same Bible that said what God has joined together no man shall render assunder?

There's time for everything. . . a time to listen and obey your parents. . .and a time to rebel and do what your soul inspires in you. She should swear your friend to the Bible that he will never betray her trust in him. I'd hate for her to rebel against daddy and then few months down your friend dumps her. Long story short. . . we have rebellion on the crystal ball.[/quote]yea my friend is ready to go to any length as ehe has even prmosed not to betray the girl in any way or form and will stand by her and he is doing just that. but you know its not always easy when they are far from each other but my guy is going home in january to spend time with her and decide on next step to take if na to give the girl belle. lol

@fhemmy

the guy is in uk, while the girl in question is in naija. and the guy is planning to relocate back to naija but in regards to police wahala the guy sef hold him ground.

then go back the way you came.

its not as easy as it seems guys.

even pastors confirmed it that as long as she was forced to do it then it wont work and doesnt count in any way.

good when am ready i will contact u.

[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=356680.msg4986773#msg4986773 date=1259070074]Men/Women will do wat is on their minds whether they swear on bible or not. Making her swear with the bible will not change the girls mind is she wants to continue the relationship.[/quote]true .

Charchar:
I was just thinking that if she could go to the UK with him it wouldn't be such a big deal because of the life style there. Yes being in Nigeria as a woman without no family I am sure would be very hardbecause all she would have would be her man, woman over there I find need their famillies. What a terrible situation to be in. I wish them luck

i understand but my guy doesnt want all the hassles in the uk as due to his status she the girl if they get married can also come and go as she pleases.

thanks very much for your thoughts.

jay bee:
axeman u sure say u r not the man in question? remember u went to naija 3 times dis year as well.

@post
Is she the only girl in the world? you are not yet married to her and you are already having dis sort of problems with her parents. Count your loss and move the heck on

lol well i said my friend,

she is not the only girl in this world but as they say love conquers all things. well my guy sees all these things the parents are doing as a mean of distraction but my guy isnt shaken at all.

when you find the right woman my guy you would make sure you hold on tight to it and not let it go.

the guy lives in uk but has been to naija regularlr in fact 3 times this year alone he has gone to naija and he is moving back to naija to settle down, he has just recently gotten an apartment and they girl is overseeing the setting up of the place. but he has residency in uk so he can go and come back as he wishes. the girl is in naija

Charchar:
This is truly so sad. Over here is so different because of way of tradition and stuff. When I married my husband it was hard as well. His family made it hard too. He told me that if his father were still alive he might not have married me because of the old school way. That is why I find it such a sad thing for her. I hope she sticks with her man as long as she knows he is the real deal I would go for it. Does his family have a problem with it? She will be forgivin in the end.

the guys people are ok with it but his mother didnt approve at first but the guy stood his ground and tol her its either she accepts the girl or she lumps it. and they mother had no choice but to accept her son wishes. seeing his mind is made up already.

Charchar:
Why would ones parents use the bible in the first place to make her give up something that might be of Gods will in the first place. That is 2009 and people need to change. I think if she knows he is the right man for her she should stick with him. People are forgiving for anything they ask forgiveness for. ? Here let me ask this, are her parents gonna ask to be forgave for using the bible to thier favor?

my sister i am really suprised myself. because the way the girl talk or her parents. they are xtians who pray and worship God seriously but for them to do what the did is just very sad. very very sad. even the bible forbids it as well as the human laws.

this has made the girl so confused as she is torn inbtw 2 worls her parents and her guy

guy.girls/married/single whats your take on this ?

In my earlier posts, i posted a topic about a friend of mine who loves his babe very much and she too is in love with the guy in return. but due to tribal differences, igbo/yoruba the girl from anambra the guy from yoruba and broken home. good job in uk and financiall ok to a reasonable standard.

when the girls parents found out about their relationship, the father disagreed and treathen to disown the girl and too cut the long story short they are giving the girl serious issues

my guy spoke to his babe this morning at aproximately 8:00am, to speak about them and to know whats going on and the girl told him that her parents forced her to swear with the bible to break the relationship

so my guy told the girl that as long as she was forced to do it then she hasnt made any promises and what she did doesnt count.

so my question is this. what she was forced to do does it make a diffeerence if she still continues with the relationship ?

guy.girls/married/single whats your take on this ?

In my earlier posts, i posted a topic about a friend of mine who loves his babe very much and she too is in love with the guy in return. but due to tribal differences, igbo/yoruba the girl from anambra the guy from yoruba and broken home. good job in uk and financiall ok to a reasonable standard.

when the girls parents found out about their relationship, the father disagreed and treathen to disown the girl and too cut the long story short they are giving the girl serious issues

my guy spoke to his babe this morning at aproximately 8:00am, to speak about them and to know whats going on and the girl told him that her parents forced her to swear with the bible to break the relationship

so my guy told the girl that as long as she was forced to do it then she hasnt made any promises and what she did doesnt count.

so my question is this. what she was forced to do does it make a diffeerence if she still continues with the relationship ?

ubamu2029:
@ All,

Thank you very much for your generous contributions. I'm overwhelmed by the quality of advice I'm getting and it's indeed an eye opener.

I do understand that things have changed over the past 5 years. I would have loved to travel to nigeria yearly but it hasn't been possible because I was a student most of the time I have been here.


I have friends in nigeria whom I would like to see. I have also sent some gifts back home and hope to take some more with me when travelling.

N200,000 is only an estimate. Besides this amount, I have put aside about £400 to give my younger ones and cousins for their school fees. I don't intend to stay in the hotel because I want to spend the few days with my Mum and siblings.

I don't intend to pay for public transport when I get home. However, I am borrowing a car from my elder brother and will be in control of it throughout my stay.

Once again, thank you all for your informative contributions.

based on what you have said now then 200k should be enough , all you just worry is petrol money and odd expenses. . have a safe journey

@poster

200k is manageable but this period u are going to naija is xmas so the probability that you will spend more than that is high. especially if you are going to the village. or east. i stayed in an hotel for 2weeks in kuly as i said earlier and it was 4k5 per night for 14days thats like 72k, at least on a daily basis i spend mtn 750 12k this is excluding the ones i can remember oo. food minimum is 1k per meal. so lets say 2meal thats like 2k =32k, transport, 3k per day taxi =48k minus the time i had to enter BRT and fly okada oo so based on what i can remember total -=164k.  bearing in mind i didint give anybody 1penny, as i coded myself well well.  this is what i can remember, no clubbing, no drinking, no going far in taxi becos 3k was from like to and fro from gbagda to ikeja gra ooo. and i even price am well sef for that price. so in reality you might be able to manage it well but to be realistic it is not enough.

segzeybaba:
wetin u dey yarn my guy? cut your coat according to your size!
u think say for 'abroad' money dey grow ontop trees, shurrup man

@axeman85
which hotel accomodate u for 4k5? isit a standard room sha?

my broda . u no wan know the kind hotel oo, it was a hotel in gbagada area, it was an hotel i used to know while i was growing up but to be honest the place is nothing to write home about and reason i stayed there was becos i wasnt planning to go to naija that period but i had to rush off and didnt have enough funds so that was all i could manage.  

the toilet was rubbish i couldnt even bring myself to sit on it, light was zero , most times i have to shout before they switch on the gen as per janded personality na u get. lol. anyway i didnt mind sha

@poster

what you can do to manage what you have. is dont tell people you are coming and also dont parade yurself going roung and dont allow your parents to start taking you everywere asking you to go and greet this person or that person. and the ones that see you dont spend much time talking with them. just give them what you can give and vamoose. this i know becos after my 1st trip in january , i went to naija again in may and this time around it was just me and my wifey.

didnt tell anybody i was coming and didnt really go out much so spent less. and last time i went ot naija again in jult this year spent 2weeks apart from the cheap hotel i stayed it was just 4500 per night. no mr biggs or too much taxi or 1500 credit .

it was good cheap food, credit of btw 100-750 mtn i was using. avoided as many people as i could possibly can and towards the end of my stay few people that saw me i just gave them talk. made them understand that life in uk is not the way some people make it or paint it to be. shikena meaning i didnt give anybody a penny. all in all i spent close to roughly 200k minus flight fare ooo

@poster

i smiled when i saw your post. lol

let me share my own experience with you. i went to naija this year january after 5yrs in uk.

i satyed in holiday apartment where i had to pay 7500naira per day excluding feeding cost, diesel cost as well as transportation cost.

i had a taxi guy that i use ost times cos i use him like 4 to 5hours he will take me to were i am going wait for me and bring me back thats cost 5k naira per day.

everyone that came to say hello i give transport fare back lowest amount i dished out was 2k highest amount 6k5.

mtn credit per day was spending 1500 or 3k per day.

diesel was 5k for 2days

beer cartoon of 24 i think star was like 2500 or 3k

this si just a list of what i can remember this is becuase i didint stay at home as per i went to hide muself where people dont know me oo so this was just a few people that knew i was around.  i was in naija from 21st jan to 8feb i think . this is as far as i can remember sha.  but am sure i spent almost close to £1000 if not more plus extra 100k naira

this is for 3weeks ooo

@poster


how much will a very clean 406prestige or executive land to lagos, clean, auto transmission, fully loaded ?

bandore:
@axeman85 the 406 rhf manual executive is 700k, leather no scratch, solid engine,full electrics,, alloys ,,,conversion is very very easy for the experts which I use,,
the lx model is 650k,,,
final prices, thanks

thanks for your reply, i was preferrably looking at an automatic, also how much does the conversion cost and 700k is that also including clearing cost in lagos to land at my doorstep ?

@poster

there is a saying in my lanuguage that eni ti o ni ori ko ni fila, eni ti o ni fila ko ni ori.

meaning. someone that has head, has no cap to wear on the head
and someone with cap has no head to wear it on.

you are here looking for my right and am sure when you eventually do you will hold on to him ight, and there are some ladies who have guys looking to get married to them but they are playing away time thinking they have enough time to get married.

my word to you is that since you are open to other tribes as well. just hang in there, it might take time but hopefully not much time but your mr right will come soon. just hang in there.

KINGDOM GREETINGS
KINGDOM PEACE.

mechangeid:
Martins is from Nigeria i think he knows what he is doing,i have some friends abroad who also do the same,OPERATING SECREAT ACCOUNT and leave PUBLIC account EMPTY,this dude is hidding his money somewhere,its impossible to spend 65k pounds in 3days expecially in uk.So leave the dude alone he knows what he is doing

who told you it is impossible to spend £65k in 3days ?

i can very well infor you that footballers spend even more than that in just one day on a night out in london, with limos, champagne that cost more than £3k at a pop. so just hope he is doing something important with his money and not just using it to enjoy life.

guys dont be suprised. you will be suprised on how much these footballers spend on just a weekend alone.

where i was working before as a financial advisor i had a fooballer customer once that spends £50k per month on champagne. he was almost going bankrpt but the timely intervention of myself and company to rescuse him out of the debt he was in via a Debt management Plan. were we negotiate with all his creditors.

@poster

as i said earlier, you need to extremely mega patient for now, i dont know how long you are going to be in uk for so cant say much.

as for me as i said. i am also in a ldr for more than 15months now and i have been to naija 3times this year july was the 3rd time. so i am looking forward to going again in january, infact my bags are packed. as i am moving back finally by july next year. so as they say body no be firewood, but i can proudly say i have been able to control myself. and havent looked at any other lady apart from my woman.

also hope i mentioned that my BT bill comes every quarterly and the lowest i have ever paid is £80 minus almost £40-£50 monthly on lebara topup.

light red candles with her picture in the middle.

personally. i have never accepted any gifts from my ex before even while we were dating. when they give me gifts i always give them an excuse for them to hold it with the excuse i wil collect it later which i never do.

so if an ex gives my woman gift, personally, i wont tell her not to collect it but also i wont like it.

ok i apologise then, jst the handbrake position suggested so.