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I recently had a talk with a male friend of mine who got himself into trouble due to this same issue. He is a successful guy by all standard, he has good job, he has a wonderful wife (she is one of the best wives I have ever known) she cooks like cooking is going out of fashion and he himself commend their sex life as being great. He just impregnated a lady and what he went through to get the lady abort it was hell, infact the lady had to request for a million naira to be paid into her Nigeria account for her to accept which he did within 24 hours bla bla bla bla

When we sat to talk he confessed to me that he has been going out with that lady for like 2 years (his wife can die trusting him though). I asked him to give me a reason at least one reason he was involved in an extramarital affair despite the great family relationship he has and I was shocked to hear that ‘I really cant come up with any reasonable excuse other than that we men are like animals’

I still cant come up with reasons why men cheat and it hurts. This guy beats me because we are very close friends and for over 2 years I was fooled into trusting him. This is a very ‘decent’, well read, comfortable, young professional guy, he has this kind of personality that you cant just help but like and everyone thinks he is one of the very few men who never cheats. Up till now the wife still trust him and I feel for her because she is putting in all her best.

Eyin married men why do you cheat please?

I hope we wont be subjected to having to bring out our me*****tng pads during airport searches now

I wish you all the best in your decision. . . . . and on a lighter note Mrs S has got a lot of work on her hands with that kind of Mr S's look, she got to keep loads of flies away 

Your best bet is Ghana if you can get something going there for you. I've no lived there but was on 10 days holiday there sometimes ago and believe me if i have my way i will gladly relocate there.

Nigeria Dont ask, go there for 3 months you wouldnt need anyone's to tell you what to do.

Without asking one's parents how does one know that one was or was not circumcised?

It is better imagined than experienced. I dont wish even my enemy such men. I still dont understand how my sister is able to live with her husband of 11 years, its horrible and a terrible experience. You need a special kind of grace.

I was bless with same over 6 years ago and i must tell you ITS A LOT OF HARD WORK. If you are in Nigeria you got nothing to worry about since you have relatives and friends all around you. They dont necessarily fall sick at the same time its just ppl's assumption.

If you fancy seeing them in same outfit like me fine if not nothing to worry about except they request it and you want to be fair to them. Yeah, they fight a lot, they play a lot as well, you will get tired intervening in their fight leave them to satisfy themselves and one will eventually run to you for help.

Mine used to be in the same class but when they changed school the new school said they dont put twins in same class which i think is reasonable since they are together all the time at home they need to miss with others and make friends otherwise they'll feel they are fine as each other's friends.


Some could be quite demanding depends on how you bring them up, you need to teach them from babies to be independent like mine i taught them to hold their bottles on the mouths when babies their age were still being helped with it so they got used to it. I was alone with them apart from few ppl checking in once in blue moon, you know how it is abroad.

Apart from the hard work of attending to 2 kids at the same time no real issues per say esp when you are in the midst of your family and friends.
They are wonderful kids and when the trouble is over you will wish you have them again and again. C

Congratulations and all the best.

Fhemmmy:
Well, time will tell, and it will take an idiot not to think that the dude has some other agenda.

With that age difference you can say that again. OMG! i cant imagine this

Yes indeed she acted stupidly but why on earth will people be testing/tempting people, dont think its fair because we are all human.

U ppl shd realise that some ppl need to just jump on the keyboard at times to keep their sanity. So when dey need to do that let's just leave them to enjoy themselves while it last

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Try new things
do something that scares you, even just once
Take time to laugh, love and be merry with friends/family
Take short trips or travel somewhere new
Don't fear. . .regrets/bad choice are allowed, just learn from them
Free the mind, the soul and enjoy [/color]

Noted, bless you.

Outstrip:
Don't let some hell bent heart
Leave you bitter
When you come close to selling out
Reconsider
Give the heavens above
More than just a passing glance

Nice one there, thanks a mill.

Not really sure where to have this topic but pretty sure the moderator will do his job if this is a wrong place for it.

The question came to my mind recently during a period of brief depression and i've been trying to check out what and what enjoying good life is. Please guys lets talk about this how do one enjoy good life or what do you call living life to the full?

Hunnnnnnnn, presently i take Dublin bus to and fro work Monday to Friday and tram to church on Sundays so you can imagine how hard i laughed when my brother who is self employed and lives in his own house asked me to send him one SOLID SPORT car, i laughed so hard i forgot my name and while at it my younger brother wants me to send E series Nokia phone to him when i am using Nokia N70 for almost 2 years and one useless Sony Ericsson i got as a gift.

She may, she may not but one sure fact is she still have some strong feelings for that guy. I can definitely assure you of that because it happended to me, let her into your worries about it and if she loves you believe me she'll adjust just like i did.

chaircover:
One woman one trouble . . . .

4 women . . . . . . .

4 x 4 troubleses

Hi folks, pls i just got sony ericsson c905 and in just 2 weeks something has gone wrong with receiving calls, i cant hear the caller but the they can hear me very well. Has anyone an idea of what the problem might be pls? Ive checked all the setting but cldnt find anything. Thanks

Got dis from a friend, enjoy.

Shop Lock!!!

If you are unmarried, store this as info to use when you do get married.
For the married please share with your spouse.

MANY sisters have boasted in my presence of how often they have had to 'lock shop' early, or how they lock shop for weeks, sometimes months, in order to teach hubby a lesson or just to spite him. These sisters are of the impression that they can do as they please, because they have the shop keys. As a result, they lock shop for every little thing, without giving consideration to the 'shopper'.
There are exceptions to every rule, and opinions will sometimes differ. However, where shop-locking is concerned, my philosophy is that shop should remain open at all times. I agree that teeth and tongue will meet, but shop-locking should never be used as a weapon or tool in conflict resolution. Couples should find suitable ways to solve problems.

It is a fact that not all 'shops' have a common closing time. As a matter of fact when one shop door closes, another is usually right around the corner with a big neon sign that blinks 'OPEN FOR BUSINESS'. Be wary of shops that are open late! The goods they stock are usually illegal, contaminated or expired. Ladies, if you or hubby should get sick or go to an early grave, let it not be due to consumption of tainted goods from another woman's shop.

Shop-locking adds fuel to fire in most cases. Women should never be fooled into believing that by putting up a 'CLOSED' sign on the shop door they are on their way to problem solving. Women, a hungry man will not allow himself to starve to death. Some will stop at nothing in their quest to satisfy their seemingly insatiable hunger. They will accept anything, whether hot and spicy or cold and icy. Some men will eat food not for taste, but for mere survival. They eat to live, to satisfy a need. That, my friends, is the nature of man.

When shop locks, who suffers more? In reality isn't it the shopkeeper more than the shopper? Sisters, please, I implore you, learn from the immigrants who come and set up shop on our soil, and keep shop open. Stop closing shop for every little thing. Open shop in shop seasons. Open shop on holidays. Open shop late at nights. Open shop during storm and hurricane. Open shop when shop should be open.

Even the well-bred man who eats out and scrupulously cleans his hands and mouth will bring home even a morsel from his street meal. Visualise what could happen when shop reopens for business as usual and some of his contaminated crumbs fall onto your plate. Imagine that you would have contributed to this scenario by locking shop.

A word to the wise is sufficient!

@siena, she's white? She look more Ayo to me than Katie lol

duality:
untill youcan prove to me100% that they are actually married then you are wrong.

. . . . .and until he can prove

quadrant4:
I just can't imagine to find married men and women discussing and wanted to meet single ladies

quadrant4:
high sense of irresponsibility.Do u agree with me?

No i dont

aisha2:
As much as i respect Governor Fashola for His wonderful work, I cant satnd Asge kissers like the Commisoner. Lead Protest ko, lead protest ni.

Lead protest ko, lead pretence ni

Ha anyone got the link to a youtube video of Patrick with big oyinbo like that during one of their sessions in the house please?

Another opportunity for some embezzlement, I'm sure half of the money meant for the training will safely land in some ppl's pockets.

Lagos isnt that bad. U just have to be prepared for lack of normal facilities you are used to. All the best.

Now this is a good one coming from Nigeria, kudos to the guys.

FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE VS CAREER WIFE



FULL TIME House Wife

House Wife: Welcome Dear, how was the office today?

Husband : Fine o jare. How are my kids?

House Wife: They are asleep already. Change your clothes while I get your bath water ready.

(10 minutes later)

House Wife: Dinner is ready oooooooo. (She sits down and watches the husband eat, waiting for a compliment).

House Wife: The landlord was here today.

Husband: (stops eating) For what again? I have paid the house rent ke!

House Wife: He brought the bills for PHCN, LAWMA, Security, Water and Sanitation. Iya Agba too phoned that she needs money for that medicine we promised her last month. Mama Kemi brought the Ankara material for her father’s burial. Its N5,000 for 6 yards. We don’t seem to have enough foodstuffs again ooooooooo,

Husband: (Grunts)

House Wife: Ehen, you promised to give me the money for my cream yesterday. Junior’s food is finished oooooooooooo. I want to do my hair tomorrow ooooooooooo to enable me attend Iya Kofo daughter’s naming ceremony. I will need some pocket money as well. Even though I don’t have a shoe that will match the colour of the lace material, I will manage the black one any way.

Husband: (begins to cough)

House wife: Oh Sorry Dear! (Rushes to get cold water from the fridge). The devil is a liar! Sorry Darling! Let me get you a pack of juice.

Husband: I am very tired Dear, I am going to bed. We will talk about this tomorrow.

House Wife: Ok, I will join you later. I want to watch this film on TV. Galaxy showed part 1 yesterday, and part 2 will be on soon.

Husband: (Staggered to bed full of anxiety, with no idea on how to meet up with these entire financial obligation)









CAREER Wife



Career Wife: (Gets back from work) Ekaete! Ekaete!!! Ekaete!!! Where is this useless girl sef?

Ekaete : Yes MADAM! Welcome Ma. I de come. I been de attend to the children. Dem don sleep just now.

Career Wife: Ok, get those things from my car for me right away, and get my bath water ready. Set the dinner very snappy. By the way, is Tunde back from work yet?

Ekaete : Shay Oga? E nefa come back yet oooo. He been phone say na pounded yam im wan chop for dinner and I don prepare am plus the rice wey you wan chop self. But dem junior na egg and yam dem request for.

(10 minutes later)

Ekaete: Madam, de money you gif me to pay for junior dem school fees, na de receipt be dis. I don go buy the bags of rice, beans, garri, sugar, salt, semo, turkey and fish. I efen go to Mile 12 for Ketu to buy the yams, cassava, onion, pepper, vegetable, fruits and meat.

Career Wife: Ok. Did Tunde give you the money to pay the bills for PHCN, LAWMA, Security, Water and Sanitation?

Ekaete: yes Madam! He efen gif me money to pay for the house rent for landlord account. He gif Garba money to buy one drum of diesel for the generator, to service the generator, fill the gas. E don pay my salary and Garba own.



(Tunde enters)



Husband:Ah! Bridget, you are back already. The Traffic today is disastrous!

Career Wife: Is that so?

Ekaete: Oga Welcome Sir! Let me get your bath ready while you change your cloth. I don prepare your favourite meal as requested.

Husband: Oh that’s great, Ekaete

Career wife: OooooPh, I am going to bed, I got to be at the airport early to catch the first flight to Abuja tomorrow.

Husband: I will join you later. Got to watch the match between LIVERPOOL AND CHELSEA.

Ekaete: Oga, your dinner is set. (She disappeared into the kitchen)

Husband: (Eats his dinner alone without a companion).

Hope4ever:
How would a couple with no parents on either side have done their marriage and

In yoruba land you always have parents (chemical maybe ) If they both have lost their parents 'ko ni buru ko ma ku enikan moni' (it cant be worst to the extent that one will be alone without at least a family member). We normally refer to our big uncles as 'father' so even if you dont have biological parent you must still have 'checmical'. 'The chemical' parents will stand as the biological parents.

Hope4ever:
what does it mean if they say they did not go to the registry?

As explained above it means they are not married legally and are not bound by legal requirement, they can divorce without involving any court because they are not recognised legally in the first place. Also one can not challenge the other in the court of law for marrying more wives/'husbands'. Also they have to legal obligation to share their properties with each other.

Well i'll help you to the best of my understanding though i cant exactly tell you how it used to be 20 years i had mine only 10 years ago.

In yoruba land a man sees a woman he is attracted to and woos her, if she is interested after a while (a period of courtship) the family of the man sends a request to the family of the woman asking for a date they can come to their house to meet the family. The woman's family sends a date (or refuse if they do not support it for whatever reason sha), the man's family (usually few of them at this stage) then goes to the woman's family on the agreed date and introduce their mission and one to another.

If there's no wahala (like we have in Nollywood where the man's father would realise he is the father of the wife to be, or the where the man realises the wife is be has been the same girl he has been having it 'good' with  ) then a date will usually be agreed on for the normal engagement/traditional and church wedding where necessary.

Registry is not part of yoruba culture (who will waste his money to go to court in those days when the woman is only supposed to be a glorified slave that is supposed to obey and carry out her master's instructions without questioning him. And of course they don't need court in those days because divorce was almost non existence ).

In these days however, the popular way of doing it or at least the way i had mine was: Family introduction where a date was agreed on for the wedding proper.  In most cases after the introduction the following follows:

Thursday the couple to be goes to registry with few family members (some only the 2 of them) where they sign legal document and legally from then on they are husband and wife.

Friday the guy's family comes to the babe's family with loads of guests, drummers, loads of goodies and dowry (the dowry is usually returned to the family of the guy by the family of the woman, i think they said its to say that they are not selling their child). Lots of merry making and traditional rites. . . . . its real fun.

Saturday the couple to be (religiously i mean, already couple legally), family, friends, frenemy, goes to the church and the man & the woman gets joined together as husband and wife after which everyone goes to reception venue for some nice time and party afterward. Pls note some couple combine both traditional and church wedding on Saturday, traditional early in the morning and then followed by church. .

In yoruba land there is no provision for divorce (well, in those days) once a woman is married to a man she becomes his 'property' for life. These days the procedure for divorce is like that of any other tribe. If they are legally married they go to the court to seek dissolution of the marriage but where they did not get married legally the woman packs out of the man's house. That's the much i know i don't think there's any traditional way of divorce in yorubaland.

Hope this is useful for you.

That's completely different from what the guy said then, i was wondering if it could be true because he said he was there. Ok, may her soul rest in peace. Amin.

I understand your frustration but no devil told no one people shoud not be happy.

Sorry i don't have a link as i said earlier, got that from someones facebook this morning. I saw something like controversy surrounds the death of. . ' in Punch but couldn't read the news because it on subscription. Well, all i know is anything is possible in Nigeria. I am still investigating unfortunately she has been buried so no hope of autopsy. Well, fingers crossed, I'm sure more will be heard sooner or later.