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The exit of Naomi Osaka from the 2021 Roland Garros Tournament over her decision not to engage with the media after the matches has led to much debate.
The four-time Grand Slam winner has been battling depression since 2018. She stated, “This isn’t a situation I ever imagined or intended when I posted a few days ago. I think now the best thing for the tournament, the other players and my wellbeing is that I withdraw so that everyone can get back to focusing on the tennis going on in Paris.”
Although many athletes sportspersons consider press conferences a part of their job, it shouldn’t be at the expense of their mental wellbeing. Imagine a situation where she retires from a match injured and in need of urgent medical care, would she not skip the press interviews?
Several celebrities and sports personalities have applauded the decision of the world number two.

Tennis legend Martina Navratilova said, “I am so sad about Naomi Osaka. I truly hope she will be ok. As athletes we are taught to take care of our body, and perhaps the mental and emotional aspect gets short shrift. This is about more than doing or not doing a press conference. Good luck Naomi – we are all pulling for you!”
In their statement, the organizers said, “A core element of the Grand Slam regulations is the responsibility of the players to engage with the media, whatever the result of their match, a responsibility which players take for the benefit of the sport, the fans and for themselves.”

Naomi Osaka feels differently. She believes that expecting a player to answer questions after a gruelling match or defeat is like “kicking a person while they’re down”.

https://newsroundtheclock.com/index.php/2021/06/08/naomi-osaka-in-the-fight-against-depression/

The rate of insecurity in Nigeria has been a cause for worry for the citizens. However, the people are tired of the incessant cases. Initially, the complaints were about the northern part of the country but the east is equally having reoccurring cases. This does not rule out other regions suffering from this menace. Bandits seem to have taken over strategic areas in the country. Hence, this makes road travellers to be at their mercy.

Consequently, the citizens have called on the leaders to be more proactive in curbing the insecurity rate in the country. The recent cases equally necessitated the people to wonder if there is any end in sight.

1. Death of Ahmed Gulak in Owerri Imo State, is scary. 36 States & FCT, are on fire. Jos Plateau, Benue & Southern Kaduna most especially. But Buhari will fly to Mali. A man whose house is on fire but he turns his eyes elsewhere, must be impeached. Lawan must be impeached as well

— NEFERTITI (@firstladyship) May 30, 2021

Ahmed Gulak killed by unknown gunmen
On May 30, news of the death of a former aide to Ex-President Goodluck Jonathan, Ahmed Gulak in Imo state filled the internet. According to the reports, Gulak was on his way to Sam Mbakwe Airport from his hotel room when he was attacked by unknown gunmen. He was shot dead in his vehicle at around Umueze Obiangwu in Ngor-Okpala Local Government Area close to the Airport.

Over 150 people have been killed in Benue in the last 7 days by Armed Fulani Herdsmen.

There is a systematic genocide going on in the middle belt of Nigeria and it is largely under reported.#BenueUnderAttack#Genocide pic.twitter.com/hlgcozQ5kG

— BREAKINGTIMES (@BTBreakingTimes) May 28, 2021

The Nigerian Police stated that Gulak left Protea Hotel without informing them or their sister agencies. Besides, his cab driver reportedly took an irregular route where he was ambushed and killed.

https://newsroundtheclock.com/index.php/2021/06/03/nigeria-bleeds-as-insecurity-heightens/

The founder of the Synagogue Church of All Nations, Temitope Balogun Joshua, better known as Prophet TB Joshua, is dead. He was aged 57. News of his death filled the media space on Sunday morning after his church confirmed the sad incident.

According to Sahara Reporters, Prophet TB Joshua had been sick for two days. He held a service on Saturday evening and it was on his way to the hospital that he died.

The popular preacher was born on June 12, 1963, in Arigidi, Akoko axis of Ondo State. His death came as a shock to many. His church runs the popular Christian TV channel, Emmanuel TV.

A benevolent preacher par excellence
He constantly attended to the needs of the less privileged. From catering for widows to the giving of scholarships to orphans. Besides, he provided health care for many individuals.

https://newsroundtheclock.com/index.php/2021/06/07/prophet-tb-joshua-soars-to-the-stars/

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The subject of depression can be very sensitive but it’s not that deep in all cases. Just as in the extreme cases where one might need to consult a mental health professional, you could also relax symptoms of depression with these phrases common in the Nigerian parlance. As loose and ordinary as they may seem, constant repetition with a strong conviction could lighten up your mood, relax your nerves and shed off whatever negative feeling.

Las las we go dey alright

It is safe to say this is the Nigerian version of There’s light at the end of the tunnel. In a country where a lot of its people are faced with hard times and many have to struggle to make a decent living, many have settled to the phrase that seems to ooze a lot of hope for a better tomorrow. A constant reminder to oneself of this phrase could turn to be an efficacious medicine to depression

I cannuh come and go and kill myself

In other words, do your best and leave the rest. As succinctly put by Chinua Achebe, “Being Nigerian is abysmally frustrating and unbelievably exciting”. The mix of these bitter sweet experiences has evoked these phrase. At some point in the curve of depression, you may just feel indescribable despair and hopelessness, but repeating this to yourself even in the most jocular manner has the potential of helping matters in a fashion you may not consciously realise.

It is well….even in the well

As much as this mere pun, in moments of pain, panic and uncertainty this could be one of the statements of conviction to revive you. This is another phrase of hope popular among Nigerians as it features in our day to day lives, constantly repeating this brings some rays of positivity irrespective of how ugly the condition may be.


If there’s hope there’s life

This is a saying linked to Cicero, but a popular Nigerian tongue. Nigerians aren’t just the most religious in the world, Nigerians can also build anything on hope. Consciously developing such conviction could be another antidote to help you deal with sordid emotions whenever they occur.


If God be for me for….who fit be against me?

Maybe not so popular, but you find this cliché on car stickers, branded shirts etc. This is a personalised version of Romans 8:31. You hear many Nigerians make consistent reference to ‘village people’ as the cause of their challenges. While this belief is mostly apocryphal on issues relating to mental health, you can mutter these words during those personal moments when everything before you seems upside-down. This expression of faith could re-awaken the quantum of 1confidence/energy required to trump whatever depressive symptom you may be encountering.
https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/11/14/5-common-naija-phrases-that-could-ease-depression/

Good looking, impeccably dressed and a high-flyer, Dave Mebude is the “poster boy” for good genes, high fashion and career success. Yet, he has dark personality traits – his “best kept” secret.

Wait for it, Dave is a Narcissist! Yet all the bosses love him. He is the ultimate lap dog and suck-up artiste. He makes sure he takes the credit for anything good while he finds a scapegoat for every error; and when there is none, it must be manufactured.

As a supervisor, he has made life hell on earth for his colleagues with many exiting their well paying job to stay at home. Those who strive to endure his cruelty are either depressed or struggling with hypertension.

What’s the problem?
Dave Mebude blames others for his own bad behavior always. If he is lying, he accuses others of lying. Dave never takes responsibility, and it’s always someone else’s fault.

He ascribes undesirable character traits to his direct reports while attributing good characteristics of others to himself. His Team is filled with losers and fake people who do not measure up to his track record of success…

There are hundreds of thousands of Daves out there making life hell for family, friends and colleagues. They are classified as narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths by psychiatrists and clinical psychologists. They think that others are stupid while they are very clever — and truly, they can be quite cunning.

However, if you are familiar with their behavioral pattern, you will see through them and would cease to be part of the unfortunate people that for their dark tactics.

Abusers like Dave naturally prey on the weak and confused, and so the stronger your sense of self is, the less susceptible you are to their different forms of manipulation.

Manipulation Tactics
1. Deflecting: By deflecting focus from their own wrongdoings, the manipulator expects that others will forget about them and will ignore or even forget about what happened. It can be illustrated by the following:

2. Aggression: Instead of addressing people’s concerns, admitting fault, or examining their own problematic behavior, the manipulator attacks others. By doing so, they hope to do two main things: deflect attention from themselves and make themselves look better by making others look worse.

3. Lying to Look Better: Narcissistic manipulators try to make themselves look better by putting others down. They also talk explicitly about themselves in an exaggerated and unnatural manner. Narcissistic tend to brag a lot about how much money they have, how good at their job they are, how much better than others they are, how everyone is jealous of them, how everyone loves them, how great of a person they are, and so on. The main mechanism here is lying, or at least gross exaggeration.

4. Playing the Victim: Narcissistic manipulators are fake, fragile, and they are cowards. They pretend to be strong, call others weak and sensitive, bully and abuse people, but if you challenge them about their lies or stand up for yourself, they immediately start playing the fragile victim.

Conclusion
People with strong narcissistic traits are unwilling or unable to reflect on their shortcomings and destructive behaviors. As a result, they project, blame, and manipulate others to cope with their low and shaky self-esteem.

Manipulation tactics include deflecting, attacking and putting others into defense mode, lying about others being worse and themselves being better, victim-blaming, and playing the victim.

By resolving your own trauma and developing a stronger sense of self, you can become less prone to manipulation and narcissistic abuse.

https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/08/14/yes-youre-a-narcissist/

Rape is one of the most terrible crimes on earth and it happens every few minutes. The problem with groups who deal with rape is that they try to educate women about how to defend themselves. What really needs to be done is teaching men not to rape. Go to the source and start there ― Kurt Cobain

Shikemi Olulaja, not real names, is not flirty. She does not wear revealing clothes, yet she was assaulted and raped. The sexual predator? He is a brilliant Professor of Philosophy who was her Head of Department. The deed was done in the afternoon in his office on a university campus.

Poor Shikemi, who was a devout Christian and now works with a multinational supermarket chain in Ilupeju still keeps her dark secret to herself. The Professor, he is still forcefully getting some from girls young enough to be his grandchildren. He is a career rapist.

Charming, cerebral and charismatic, young undergraduates both male and female flock around the unscrupulous Professor. His predatory antics are unknown to a large majority of his Generation X, Millennials and Generation Z students. For many he is the true father figure blessed with good looks, impeccable credentials and empathy. However, the discerning and those who were ravished regard him as wolf in sheep’s clothing.

Just like Shikemi Olulaja, most of his victims are seemingly unexposed young girls who take religion seriously. The flirty, vibrant and wild party loving girls are not his spec.

The randy professor puts a lie to the myth that Only young, ‘attractive’ women and girls, who flirt and wear ‘revealing’ clothes, are raped.

Source: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/07/29/only-flirty-girls-wearing-revealing-clothes-get-raped/

We think rape is a special kind of evil similar to torture and murder…

It is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without that person’s consent.

Rape can be carried out using physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or against a person who is incapable of giving valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, has an intellectual disability or is below the legal age of consent. It has very dire consequence for victims.

Effects of rape

The World Health Organisation (WHO) has identified the under listed as consequences of sexual abuse:

Gynecological disorders
Reproductive disorders
Sexual disorders
Infertility
Pelvic inflammatory disease
Pregnancy complications
Miscarriage
Sexual dysfunction
Acquiring sexually transmitted infections, including HIV/AIDS
Mortality from injuries
Increased risk of suicide
Depression
Chronic pain
Psychosomatic disorders
Unsafe abortion
Unwanted pregnancy
Emotional and psychological

Source: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/07/11/the-evil-called-rape/

Michelle knew she was one of the people who never had luck on her side no matter how hard she tried. From getting her parent’s good genes to getting good grades, she always seemed to fall short.

So, after a while, she stopped trying to compete with anyone, her siblings or classmates, she learned to accept herself just the way she was.

Then one day, way into her university days, she had a friend that had been hospitalized after taking ill. It was at that point she tried remembering if she had ever been ill, and it turned out she hadn’t.

To be her age and never experienced even one ailment, she realized she was indeed lucky, not in the obvious way many others were, but hers was way better.

http://www.mystorytime.com.ng/2019/06/lucky/

…If you’re with somebody who has a serious illness, you can usually talk to them, have a laugh every now and then – the person is still with you. With dementia, there’s no conversation; there’s no togetherness, no sharing – Judy Parfitt

She is suffering from Alzheimer’s but they thought she was a witch and wanted to burn her. This account of her mother, who has Alzheimer’s disease, by Annah Mkhonto from South Africa is just one of many distressing stories about the misunderstanding of mental illness, and lack of access to care, on the African continent.

There is a lack of proper information about Alzheimer’s disease, and the pervasive belief that the kind of behaviour demonstrated by the afflicted is an indication of witchcraft. Alzheimer’s is a type of dementia that causes problems with memory, thinking and behavior.

Seen through the eyes of tradition, Africans can be cruel to people with Alzheimer’s disease. And according to Annah, the last time her mother disappeared people from a nearby community found her walking alone in the middle of the night naked. She couldn’t remember her own name and because she was naked people thought she was a witch. They wanted to burn her alive.
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Similar to Annah’s mother, elderly people in Nigeria suffering from Alzheimer’s are harassed for being thought of as a witch, or possessed by a spirit.[/center]

Remarkably, every three seconds someone develops dementia around the world. It is estimated that close to 50 million currently live with dementia. And by 2050, that number is expected to be close to over 130 million.

Understanding Alzheimer’s and dementia

Alzheimer’s is the most common cause of dementia which is a general term for memory loss and other cognitive abilities serious enough to interfere with daily life. Alzheimer’s disease accounts for 60 percent to 80 percent of dementia cases.

Who gets dementia?

Most people with dementia are over the age of 65. It’s estimated that 2%-5% of people with dementia are under 65. Some rare forms of dementia can affect people in their 30s, 40s and 50s.

What are the symptoms of dementia?

Dementia often develops slowly and the early signs are not always obvious. Symptoms similar to dementia can be seen in other illnesses. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell apart dementia from the usual mild forgetfulness seen in normal ageing.

[center] People may find that their ability to remember, think and make decisions worsens.
Communication and language often become more difficult.
A person’s behaviour may change and some people can become sad or demoralised.
Anxieties or phobias are quite common.
Problems with time perception may cause problems with sleeping and restlessness at night.
Anger or agitation is common in the later stages of dementia.
It is common for people to be unsteady on their feet and fall more often.
Gradually people require more help with daily activities like dressing, toileting and eating.[/center]


#Dementia #symptomsofdementia #UnderstandingAlzheimersanddementia #witchcraft

https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/06/05/its-just-dementia-your-mother-is-not-a-witch/

Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it – Tori Amos

Expectations on pastors can be unrealistic. And it is most chronic in Nigeria where “Christians” outsource all their responsibilities to God. There is no respite for these physical representatives of the divine in our incurably religious society.

Hark back to pre-colonial era and you will realise that Nigerians just lazily substituted pastors with Ogun (god of iron), Amadioha (god of thunder), and Osanyin (god of medicine) as their intercessors before the supreme being.

Yes! Pastors are largely the new intermediaries! They were handed over to us by our forebearers who dread the idea of approaching the supreme being directly. So, once they have a problem or things gets confusing, they turn to pastors for solutions.

Pastors are the new gods.

Growing up, we all indirectly learned that it was the pastor that we should open up to if we must solve life’s nagging problems. No one ever said it directly but it was always inferred that the pastor can solve almost any problem. And the list is endless:

Substance abuse? Talk to the pastor
Personal problems? Talk to the pastor
Marital conflict? Talk to the pastor
Family problems? Talk to the pastor
Depressed and anxious? Talk to the pastor

In reality, can the pastor have all the answers to drugs, marital, family and mental health woes? Most unlikely. The pastor doesn’t have all the answers! We have to learn not to go to pastors for help with all issues because they do not have all the answers.
It is time we start going to the right people that can solve specific problems. Take for instance, mental illness? It is unlikely to find help with a pastor except (s)he is a psychiatrist or clinical psychologist. It will take going to the right mental health professionals, right diagnosis and using the right medications, and sticking with treatment over time to resolve.

We should start asking the right professionals for help in order to find solutions to our problems. It’s time we stop expecting pastors to wish our personal, drug, marital and mental health woes away through prayers and the scripture. Counselors, psychologists and psychiatrists can help us heal fast through therapy because they are more equipped than most pastors who are not professionally trained to deal diseases of the mind.

Take your depression, anxiety, mania, and issues to the right people to move from a broken mess to a healthy and whole person.

Let’s start using the resources in our community, the professionals who are trained to help. Pastors can provide necessary advice, counsel and guidance but should not replace qualified professionals.

#Adeboye #Counseling #depression
#Healing #Mentalillness #Oyedepo #pastor
#psychiatrist #Psychologists

https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/06/04/pastors-cant-treat-depression-mental-health-professionals-do/

A demon cannot be doped – E.A. Bucchianeri.

Incorrect beliefs about mental disorders such as depression and anxiety are pervasive across the country. The misconceptions about clinical depression and anxiety spring from a genuine desire to understand them spiritually with well-meaning family and friends getting it wrong.

With the spike in suicide rate and increased conversation around depression and sundry mental disorders, here are a few things we should know if we are going to get it right.

1. Depression isn’t what our society make it out to be: It’s not a character defect, a spiritual disorder or an emotional dysfunction. Above all, it’s not a choice. Asking someone to “try” not being depressed is tantamount to asking someone who’s been shot to try and stop bleeding. Having faith in God’s (Pastors, Imams, Herbalists etc.) ability to heal is hugely important, and personal faith can help ease depression. But to deny medical or psychiatric treatment to someone suffering from mental illness is really no different than denying them to someone with a physical illness. The difference between the two is that the former is invisible.

2. Mental illness is not caused by sin: Physical abuse, substance abuse and neglect are parts of the effective causes of depression but may not always be the cause. Mental illness should not be treated as an unconfessed, unaddressed sin. This approach leads to stigmatisation and is alienation.

Viewing depression as a sin in and of itself prevents individuals from seeking treatment because the root cause is ignored or misunderstood.

3. Depression is difficult to diagnose: Depressed people become really good at hiding their symptoms, even from doctors, because of the stigma attached to the illness. You’re regarded as mad or insane once word gets around about visiting a psychiatrist. Sadly, churches and mosques are largely unable to address mental illness as it should without recourse to casting and binding demons. Furthermore, the symptoms of depression often tend to contradict each other, which makes it really difficult for a person suffering from depression to recognize it for what it is—let alone for others to recognize it.

4. Spiritualists can’t “fix” depression: The stigma associated with depression often prevent people from opening up to get guidance and support. Most religious organisations in Nigeria do not have the appropriate framework for dealing with such clinical disorders, and very few churches have licensed psychiatrist/clinical psychologists on their staff.

Most Pastors, Imams and Herbalists are ill-equipped to deal with depression and err toward a spiritual solution rather than psychological or medical treatment.

While lot’s of us have the best intentions when dealing with issues of mental illness, there is the tendency to misinterpret these clinical conditions and respond to them in ways that exacerbate them—and as a result, demoralize those suffering. Mental disorders should be treated by trained medical professionals with love and support from family friends and religious institutions to accelerate recovery.


#alienation #Depressionasdemonicaffliction #Depressionasstigma #Exorcism #Herbalist #Imam #pastor #psychiatrist

https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/06/02/no-to-exorcism-depression-is-not-demonic/

Unless and until our society recognizes bullying for what it is, the suffering of thousands of silent victims will continue.

Most bullies grow to become great big jerks. They graduate from snatching lunch boxes and pocket money to harassing, putting down, and even undermining their colleagues at work. If you have one within your circle of influence, here are some tips for understanding and dealing with bullies, no matter how old you are.

Stop Playing the Victim: The bully singled you out because they see you as weak and vulnerable. As is customary to bullies, they look for someone with some kind of trait that they can exploit. Bullies are looking for people that are willing to submit to their power play. If you make it look like the bully’s actions and words don’t affect you, it ruins it for them. Try to keep your ego in check and let it all roll over you.

For example:

If someone keeps making jokes at your expense, laugh along with them.
If someone makes sarcastic, fake compliments, thank them.
When someone says something rude, pretend that you didn’t hear them.
If someone harps on the same mistake or accident you made, tell them that you don’t care about that anymore.
Keep your cool if you do anything embarrassing so you don’t give them any fuel.

Separate Yourself from the Bully: As an adult, you have a lot more control over the situation than you did when you were a kid. You may not be able to “tell the teacher,” but you also can choose how you spend your time. You’re not necessarily stuck with them as you might have been in a school situation.

Take a Stand: For some bullies, a little more force might be needed. If a bully keeps pushing you despite your other efforts, you need to push back. Not physically, of course, but verbally. If there’s one thing that bullies hate more than someone shrugging off their flak, it’s someone standing up to them. Many bullies will back down at the first sign of resistance, so this can be highly effective.

Tell Someone Who Can Help: Despite your best efforts, some bullies just won’t go down easily. When things have gone too far and you can’t seem to get them off of your back, it’s time to ask for help. It’s not weak or lame to reach out to others for help with your situation. It’s good to see how you can handle things on your own first, but some battles just can’t be fought alone.

https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/06/02/even-adults-get-bullied-its-best-to-learn-to-fight-back/

When you say “YES” to others make sure you aren’t saying “NO” to yourself.

Peer pressure is that feeling that you have to do something to be accepted, respected and/or regarded as tough. It can be friends telling you to do something directly or making jest of you for not doing what they are doing. It can also be seeing others at a party smoking, drinking and feeling left out if you don’t.

There’s lots of situations where you might feel pressured to join in, even when you don’t want to. Here’s some situations where you might feel pressured to follow your mates:

Taking drugs or drinking alcohol

Having sex

Sexting

Shoplifting or stealing

Skipping school

Driving without a licence

Cheating on tests

Copying somebody else’s work

Dressing or acting a certain way

Not being friends with someone

Peer pressure is something we all have to deal with. It’s okay to feel confused or struggle with peer pressure. Everybody faces it at some point in their lives. By learning how to identify peer pressure you’ll get better at dealing with it. We’ve got tips and info to help you out in these tricky situations.

Standing up to peer pressure takes practice and courage – it can be scary at first.

There are ways to say no to peer pressure that will help you get out of the situation. The trick is to practise these when you’re alone, or with your parents or someone you trust. Then, when you need to use one of these, you will be more comfortable doing so.

Just say “no” and stick to it
Repeat yourself if necessary
Give a reason why it’s a bad idea
Tell them how drinking can mess up their lives
Make a joke out of it all
Make an excuse why you can’t
Suggest a different activity
Ignore the suggestion.
Leave the situation, others might just follow.


Read more: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/05/29/avoiding-negative-peer-pressure/

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#alcohol #PeerPressure #sex
#Sexting #stealing

Telling the difference between what expected #behaviors are and what might be the signs of a #mental problem isn’t always easy. Many are not aware that they are living with #mental #health problems.

Experiencing one or more of the following feelings or behaviors can be an early warning sign of a problem:

Eating or sleeping too much or too little
Pulling away from people and usual activities
Having low or no energy
Feeling numb or like nothing matters

Read more on: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/04/07/mental-health-condition-early-warning-signs/

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#mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness
#anxiety #depression
#love #selfcare #selflove #health #mentalillness
#recovery #mindfulness #motivation #wellness

#Addiction is a complex #disease, often chronic in nature, which affects the functioning of the brain and body. This disease, which also causes serious #damage to families, #relationships, #schools, workplaces and #neighborhoods, is the result of repeated involvement with a substance or activity, despite the substantial harm it now causes, because that involvement was (and may continue to be) pleasurable and/or valuable.

Read more on: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/04/07/addiction-is-a-chronic-disease/

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#addiction #recovery #mentalhealth #Psychological

Folks are usually about as #happy as they make their minds up to be – Abraham Lincoln.
You and I crave happiness same way most people do. It seems we all want to be happy, except for a sadistic few. But what is happiness?

Here’s one definition – happiness is simply the ability to not want more; to find gratitude and satisfaction in the moment that you have right now. In other words, your happiness and mine hinges on living in the moment instead of yearning for some future indicator of success.

Here’s five simple ways to live in the moment every day in order to achieve the happily ever after life:

Create balance and overcome burnout

You will always be exhausted and miserable if you are always overworked and overwhelmed. It would be hard, really hard to happy at all. Have set work hours – and stick to them. Set work hours for yourself and do everything in your power to stick to them. Otherwise, before you know it, you’ll be working until midnight every night.
Also make time for a holiday and book in breaks, at least quarterly. Even a long weekend every quarter is better than nothing...

Read more on: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/04/15/seven-simple-ways-to-live-a-happy-life/

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#happiness #love #happy #life #smile #photography
#instagram #beautiful #family #inspiration #lifestyle #fitness #peace #positivevibes #friends

Couples who are in love will have sex with each other on a regular basis. Truly, #couples who are happiest in their #relationships both love their partners more and have sex more frequently. #Sexual activity builds and maintains #feelings of #love and even #happiness that endure over time.

Every marriage goes through a rough patch. But truly resilient couples who come out the other side after going through hard times will be stronger than before. So, what are these couples doing that everyone else isn’t? They’re willing to do what it takes to keep the relationship alive.

An interesting psychological study by Arthur Aron identifies 12 ties that bind long lasting relationships. These 12 dimensions can help your marriage survive difficult times:

1. Display affection: expressing love in physical ways will keep your relationship passionate. To the woman, there is no point playing hard to get. Bask in the touch on your shoulder or kiss on the cheek to keep things intense. It is good for your peace of mind...


Read more on: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/04/14/sex-and-10-tips-to-help-your-marriage-survive-difficult-times/

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#intimacy #love #relationships #relationship #relationshipgoals #lovelife #sex #dating #romance #sensuality #marriage #sextherapy #art #lovers #sensual
#womenpower #mydreamgirl #lovejourney #sexualwellness #beingwither #describemylove #describeher

Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death. Ending one’s own life is a tragic event with strong emotional repercussions for survivors and for families of its victims.

Suicidal thoughts and #feelings can strike anyone of any age, gender or background. Life events can sometimes leave us feeling overwhelmed, unable to cope and #suicidal. At other times, we might not know why we feel #suicidal.

Why Do People Attempt Suicide?

Suicide often arises from a deep feeling of hopelessness. The inability to to see solutions to problems or to cope with challenging life circumstances lead people to see suicide as the only option to what is really a temporary situation.

Who can help?

When you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts and feelings it’s really important to seek out help by talking to somebody about it. Often times we think we can cope alone which may only make things worse.

Read more on: https://blog.fitila.life/index.php/2019/04/19/im-overwhelmed-and-thinking-about-suicide/

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#depression
#creativity
#suicide
#mentalhealth
#selfies
#psychology
#life
#self
#spirituality
#wealth
#world
#economy
#people
#money

#depression colors all aspects of our lives, making everything less enjoyable, less interesting, less important, less lovable, and less worthwhile.
Depression saps our energy, motivation, and ability to experience joy, pleasure, excitement, anticipation, satisfaction, connection, and meaning. All your thresholds tend to be lower. You’re more impatient, quicker to anger and get frustrated, quicker to break down, and it takes you longer to bounce back from everything.

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#depression
#anxiety
#sad
#love
#mentalhealth
#depressed
#mentalhealthawareness

Because #addiction affects so many facets of an individual’s functioning—from ability to tolerate frustration to establishing and maintaining a productive role in #society—good treatment focuses on many dimensions of life, including family roles and work skills as well as #mental health.

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#addiction #recovery #alcohol
#health #abuse #life
#drugs

Recurrent use of a substance or engagement with an activity leading to impairment or #distress, is the sine qua non of an #addictive #disorder. The diagnosis is based on the presence of at least two of a number of features:

1. The substance or activity is used in larger amounts or for a longer period of time than was intended.

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#addiction #recovery #mentalhealth #Psychological

Least five of the under listed #symptoms for a continual duration of at least two weeks, you might be suffering from #depression. It is important that you see a #mental health professional for proper #diagnosis.

1. Mood: #anxiety, #apathy, general discontent, guilt, #hopelessness, loss of interest, loss of interest or pleasure in activities, mood swings, or #sadness most of the time and maybe #suicidal and dying thoughts.

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Many things that would serve us (and others), our fear is what gets in the way. Fear of over-stepping a #friendship. Fear of appearing too needy. Fear of imposing. Fear of revealing our struggle and having people realize we don’t have it all together after all.

#Strength #Weakness #Friendship

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some of the most brilliant people in the world. Anyone can learn to be #mentally strong and change the world as a result by learning the under listed principles highlighted by James Altucher, author, entrepreneur, podcaster and wall street investor.

#MentallyStrong #Smartness

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A curious case of fraud within months of each on the accounts of Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association has been giving the Association sleepless night. Tongues have been wagging with members of the association and its executives bickering over what is deemed an insider job.

Former and present executives of the Association indicted by an independent investigation of the fraud claim have been running from pillar to post to hang the blame for the missing funds on their bankers, Sterling Bank Plc.

The indicted executive members of Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association customer are blaming Sterling Bank for the fraud of N1.2m and N1.7m respectively on its two accounts with NUBAN numbers 0000886683 and 0068955741.

Refuting the Association’s claim, Sterling Bank’s spokesperson, Mr. Olubukola Adejokun stated that the confidentiality and security of financial information tied to the Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association accounts were compromised by its executives.

A statement shared by the bank with The Witness stated: “We investigated the fraud claim by the Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association with the outcome indicating that confidentiality and security of financial information tied to the association’s accounts were compromised by its executives.”

According to the Bank, the protection of the financial information of its customers is taken seriously as it always updates policies and procedures to stay ahead of new strategies used by fraudsters. The bank also emphasized the need customers to understand that they have a role to play in keeping their financial information safe out of the reach of fraudsters, which is why it is consistently educating them to avoid suspicious emails, text or phone calls, and to protect their identities, smartphones and accounts.

The bank disclosed that: “The ex-chairman of the welfare account reported a case of N1.2 million after his phone was stolen and fraudulent transactions done through USSD, Flutterwave and mobile app on the 6th of July 2018. He, however, reported to the bank on 9th of July 2018 after the fraud had happened. We were able to salvage the sum of N500,000.00 and deactivated the account across our e-channel platforms.

“Immediately the issue was reported, we contacted the respective banks where the funds were transferred if we could still salvage the funds. We were able to salvage the sum of N500,000.00 and this had been credited to the customer’s account and was acknowledged by the customer.

“The custodian of the account (ex-chairman of the welfare account) failed to report incidence of stolen phone to the bank immediately it happened which would have ensured the deactivation of his account across all our e-channel platforms and ultimately prevent the fraud.

In addition, the second fraud on the Association’s account, according to the bank, was due to its linkage to one of the signatories’ personal account after his account had been profiled on its mobile platform using his registered mobile line and personal debit card details (PAN, Security, expiry date & PIN). The account recorded a curious debit of the sum of N1,746,000.00 which was transferred to two banks and also used for virtual top-up.

“The association’s executive who had his personal account profiled for mobile banking and linked to the welfare account, confirmed that he was called by someone who claimed to be from the bank and in the process, divulged his card details – PAN, Security, expiry date and PIN to this supposed staff. The divulged card details were subsequently used for the fraudulent transactions. We contacted the beneficiary banks and were only able to salvage the sum of N129,000,” the bank disclosed.

https://oraclenews.ng/suspicious-multi-million-naira-fraud-claim-tears-school-pta-apart/

A curious case of fraud within months of each on the accounts of Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association has been giving the Association sleepless night. Tongues have been wagging with members of the association and its executives bickering over what is deemed an insider job.

Former and present executives of the Association indicted by an independent investigation of the fraud claim have been running from pillar to post to hang the blame for the missing funds on their bankers, Sterling Bank Plc.

The indicted executive members of Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association customer are blaming Sterling Bank for the fraud of N1.2m and N1.7m respectively on its two accounts with NUBAN numbers 0000886683 and 0068955741.

Refuting the Association’s claim, Sterling Bank’s spokesperson, Mr. Olubukola Adejokun stated that the confidentiality and security of financial information tied to the Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association accounts were compromised by its executives.

A statement shared by the bank with The Witness stated: “We investigated the fraud claim by the Providence Heights Secondary School Welfare Association with the outcome indicating that confidentiality and security of financial information tied to the association’s accounts were compromised by its executives.”

According to the Bank, the protection of the financial information of its customers is taken seriously as it always updates policies and procedures to stay ahead of new strategies used by fraudsters. The bank also emphasized the need customers to understand that they have a role to play in keeping their financial information safe out of the reach of fraudsters, which is why it is consistently educating them to avoid suspicious emails, text or phone calls, and to protect their identities, smartphones and accounts.

The bank disclosed that: “The ex-chairman of the welfare account reported a case of N1.2 million after his phone was stolen and fraudulent transactions done through USSD, Flutterwave and mobile app on the 6th of July 2018. He, however, reported to the bank on 9th of July 2018 after the fraud had happened. We were able to salvage the sum of N500,000.00 and deactivated the account across our e-channel platforms.

“Immediately the issue was reported, we contacted the respective banks where the funds were transferred if we could still salvage the funds. We were able to salvage the sum of N500,000.00 and this had been credited to the customer’s account and was acknowledged by the customer.

“The custodian of the account (ex-chairman of the welfare account) failed to report incidence of stolen phone to the bank immediately it happened which would have ensured the deactivation of his account across all our e-channel platforms and ultimately prevent the fraud.

In addition, the second fraud on the Association’s account, according to the bank, was due to its linkage to one of the signatories’ personal account after his account had been profiled on its mobile platform using his registered mobile line and personal debit card details (PAN, Security, expiry date & PIN). The account recorded a curious debit of the sum of N1,746,000.00 which was transferred to two banks and also used for virtual top-up.

“The association’s executive who had his personal account profiled for mobile banking and linked to the welfare account, confirmed that he was called by someone who claimed to be from the bank and in the process, divulged his card details – PAN, Security, expiry date and PIN to this supposed staff. The divulged card details were subsequently used for the fraudulent transactions. We contacted the beneficiary banks and were only able to salvage the sum of N129,000,” the bank disclosed.

https://oraclenews.ng/suspicious-multi-million-naira-fraud-claim-tears-school-pta-apart/

The 2017 edition of Sterling Bank Environmental Makeover (STEM) has received endorsements of the Alake of Egbaland, Oba Adedotun Aremu Gbadebo, and the Executive Secretary of the Federal Capital Development Authority (FCDA), Mrs. Folashade Joseph.

STEM is Sterling Bank’s corporate social responsibility initiative which seeks to promote practices that contribute to the sustenance of the environment on a long-term basis.

It presently covers partnership with waste management agencies in 14 states, tree planting to combat desertification in parts of Northern Nigeria and an annual national cleaning exercise, with target of covering 24 states before the end of the year...

Read more: https://guardian.ng/news/sterling-banks-environmental-initiative-gets-more-endorsements/