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manny4life: Thank God for the freedom of expression and right to speak, you're at will to say whatever you feel like. Lol @ we fraudulent, yet, during the cycle of importation, clearing, inspecting (with almost like 10 agencies), transporting, retailing, at each point of the process, one of your miserable bros and sis has been involved in the process and you DARE call Igbos fraudulent...

Amadioha should send thunder on your leprosy hands you used to type that..

Yorubas remains the same, the bane of every society, that's exactly what they are.. . QUOTE ME ANYWHERE.

What makes you different from Bluetooth, Manny4life, with the statement I highlighted ?

You can't "fight the good fight" for your tribe without making stûpîd statements?
Inferiority complex makes you highlight the "supposed bad" in others (this goes to the Yoruba internet warriors too). If there's so much good in you all to showcase, as you all claim, you won't even have the time to dwell on silly steretypes about others.

You're as good as Dayokanu and co. No need to place yourself on a higher pedestal.

Deluded hypocrites.

^^^ troll alert!
The size of their fonts is inversely proportional to their IQ.

If you reply this post, an asteroid will hit your little hut tonight!!

manny4life: Haha, I'm not surprised... Birds of same feathers will flock together. Apparently, let me see, America does share your view, perhaps, Mothers, families of America does share your "INTELLIGENT VIEW"....LOL

I've been expecting your dim self to start comparing me to Kim kardashian. That's always the easy route to go. Olodo lasan-lasan!

manny4kim: Whether she's getting paid or not, how does that affect me? When Obama made a comment about the show, and barred his daughters from watching it, wasn't he the most powerful man in America? Oops, he wasn't getting paid. When Oprah made a comment, wasn't she 2000x richer, wealthier, connected, powerful than she is? When Wendy made her comments, several media groups, weren't they well placed that she is? Oops, I forgot, they weren't getting paid..lol Even when Beyonce refused to associate with her even at the awards, let me guess, that one was hating because she wasn't getting paid...

Because they're making comments about Kim makes them better than her or doesn't make them hypocrites? I really don't get the useless point you're trying to make here? Are you beyonce ? Are you Oprah ? Why are you comparing yourself to them? Celebrities will always condemn to make themselves look "righteous", so what are you on about?

manny4kim: I will NOT argue with you because I see where this is going...

AGAIN, birds of same feathers flock together... Ride on sis, you have the t-stamp on your forehead...

. . . Kim kardashian vs. the pôrn industry, who would you rather direct your frustration at? The former, definitely not the latter, you jèrk off off to loads of their clips religiously. Fûcking hypocrîte!

manny4kim: Unfortunately, I do now owe neither you or her an explanation (no disrespect), however, she can be an international fuckery for all I care, all I'm interested is in here polluting the minds of the younger kids who watch their family show only to Google here and "BAM" sex tape all over the internet.

Lol@ polluting the minds of younger kids. You're lame. You're clearly a hater. Polluting the minds of younger kids? Really?? You're directing your anger at a woman that made a ONE sèx tape (wey don expire) years ago?? Why not direct your anger at the pôrn industry? Abi when kids type "pôrn" in google search box, na "Kim kardashian" go pop up? Olodo ni yin, sir, with all due respect. Divert your kids-pollution campaign to the pôrn industry. Let sleeping dogs lie, leave kim kardashian alone!

manny4kim: I'm not mad nor angry about her she makes her money, for all I care, she can't change the view of America's perception. I'm sure Oprah, Obama, social leaders in U.S. are angry because she made a huge money from something they and their partners do in the bedroom... Here yourself out

Lol@ social leaders are angry. Obama is concerned about Kim kardashian. O. . . . K.
Which yeye American perceptions? Celebrities have haters; that's normal. Kim has the people that worship her!! The hilarious thing is, like her, hate her, she's getting paid. She has since moved on! Yall are still stuck in her miserable past. Who should be stuck, her or you? Hehe. Pathetic!

[quote author=Yoruba_Omoge]You're not a prosti tute yet you watched the video and were even able to criticize her performance. Okay ooo[/quote]Lol! Most even spent $$ to buy the tape to watch over and over again . . . most of the ones that watched too will call themselves Christians. . . some of the critiques are even baby mamas (3 babies, 3 fathers). . . it's just a great loop of Bûllshît.

getukudo: Abegi mek I hear word! The sad part is you still watch por.no.graphy...

Manny4life, please answer this question. .
Pathetic hypocrites!
Why are you angry exactly ? What's exactly is you people's problem? Please highlight them.

A sèx tape was made, it was leaked intentionally or unintentionally and money was made!!
So what exactly is your headache? Why not go down on your knees and beg whatever you pray to every morning to bless your dàmn hustle.

Who are you to castigate kim kardashian's "morals"?? Are you any better?? You sin differently makes you any better? Who made you a moral judge ?

Admit that you're angry because she made huge money off what you and your girlfriends do everyday (and you ain't getting a dime for it), which isn't easy to pull off like someone said. Don't bring no damn morals into this . . .

There are gazillions of pôrnstars out there and you ain't mad at them, you watch them with keen interest daily, but suddenly when someone makes a single sèx tape with her boyfriend and gets rich overnight, she becomes your worst nightmare . . .

[quote author=nl.official]What in tha Fuc.k are you saying? Are you trying to sound intelligent? Kim K is a crumb and cannot be given any credit.

May your children emulate Kim K.[/quote]You and your likes should calm down, will you?

Sweetlemon isn't saying you should make a sèx tape and make millions from it. No!
The same way I'll say Nigerians should emulate the positives aspect of boko haram is the same way Sweetlemon is telling you to emulate the positives of the pregnant kardashian's lifestyle.

Now, what are the positives to emulate in boko haram; they are very zealous and determined compared to your senile Nigerian government; when they said they'll do something, they did it; their actions bring their desired outcomes.
Same way the positives of Kim's are; turning faliure and shame into total success overnight; getting back up, dusting yourself and moving on; when life throws an obstacle at you, overcome it.

Do you now understand ?

Instead of forming beer parlor cliques on websites and our various homes, criticizing fellow humans like we're God, why not focus on ourselves? Remove the log in your eye before attempting to remove another person's. Don't judge someone just because they sin DIFFERENTLY from you.

forbisi: I thot d harvey was just a stage name along wit d goldie. But what is d man's motive 4 doing all dis now? Defly not out of love and kind heartedness.

You're saying that because you knew she was "dating" that Kenyan dude. What if the husband didn't know and he just innocently posted the old pictures? What if he's all the way in Malaysia and totally clueless about what's going on? What If he didn't know his wife was on BBA ? (don't know how that's possible, but anything is).

bettymafy: Ooooooohhhh, so it is now the girl's fault that she was called an I-diot? Interesting. . .

Maybe, maybe not. Either way, she needs to suck it up. If OP was indeed at fault, he has apologized. No one is perfect. No relationship is perfect. These are some of the incidents that occur in relationships; its either they move on together or move on separately.
He's even on NL sharing his story. What else does she want ? A human head?

Zechy09: @ OP, I mostly read and move on but had to comment. I am married and have to tell you the truth, no woman that pictures you as her future husband will break up with you because you called her "idio t". This generalisation is applicable to both oyibo and naija (Please folks forgive my generalisation). this reaction is not from the abuse, it is from cumulative issues. Please watch her carefully to determine if she is the unforgiven type because you may not be able to handle such in marriage. PLS DO NOT CALL YOUR FIANCE SUCH DEROGATORY NAMES EVER COS IT WILL ALWAYS PLAY IN HER HEAD!
Hard truth:
She may not really love you as you love her which is a recipe for low self esteem in men because you will work very hard althrough the marriage to retain her love. love fades which is normal for long distance r/ship.

Recommendation:

Free her now (if you have apologised sincerely), if she will make a good wife, trust me, she will come back and tell you never to abuse her again. Also try and think about the past six months of your r/ship, you may realise that she has lost interest.

My two cents!

I agree with your story apart from the sentence in caps. Men are not as emotionally hyper like women. For a man to call his spouse an îdîôt, he must have reached and exceeded his "pain threshold".
If you know your partner well enough, you'll know what makes him angry, and if you decide to make him angry and he reacts by calling you names, then it's a 50:50 situation. Do me I do you. No one should cry foul.
If you want an insult free and respectable relationship, watch the stuffs you utter.

I do think she's tired of the OP. The îdîôt thing is just a cop-out. Or the OP sef na mumu, the kinds that don't take charge and get taken for a ride!

Dang! Didn't read the topic. The guy was the shît-starter so I guess . . .

Tgirl4real: Ha! No o. I'm going to search for male debaters now.

It's still a "no" from my baby.

Tgirl4real: Ok. Thanks BABE!
I will strike out legal in the first one.
Efe, pick one out of the topics available.
Is anyone else interested in debating?

Tgirl, too much female vibe here so Coogar has pulled out. I'm representing him.

Tgirl4real: I get. But if u gonna be paired with someone, u have to show some commitment. U get?

That's why you should pair me with coogar.

Tgirl4real: [s]Who is more prone to sex.ual abuse,the male or female child?[/s]

The decadent lifestyle of our youths, who is to blame? The society or the family.

I am fine with the initial topic too, provided it's edited.

Or a topic that has to do with FIL/MILs, background checks, and SIL/DILs.

Tgirl4real: How far Efe, Coogar, BABE, Sisikill?

Here's the koko of the marra. I have a tentative itinerary outside of here. Therefore, I can't promise you I will debate. However, if I'm available, I definitely will. As per date, I'm fine with any saturday(apart from the 9th) the rest agree on.

bukatyne: Then our grand parents were all idiots since they went to the intending groom's village to research his background and family if they have any curse, disease etc. The father is not finding out to inform the daughter; He is acting as a guide.

The premises that conclusion was drawn from aren't from the post you quoted. So, I have nothing to say to you.

[quote author=baby_123]I have never lived in the same town and house as my parents since i was 17. Not even same country. But no matter what, when i am serious with a guy. He has to meet my parents. My parents will talk and assess him. If they give approval, we most definitely would have had a relationship. Your father raised your ex, but still didnt have the judgement to know he was bad eggs. Was that not your job? To tell yourself the truth and look out for your own best interest? So why will a father that goes to check on his prospective son in law know anything at all? Is it the money that should matter or the personality. Obviously you have said your ex was rich, maybe your dad wanted to maintain the same lifestyle you were used to, and that was the focus. I am married ma'am, so save the conjecture and your speech for someone else. What is wrong is wrong. My father would not bring himself down to that level. Nothing wrong with doing background checks, but it is the guy's attitude that should be most important. I also will never bring shame to my family by marrying someone with a shady past or present. My dad knows who he raised and he trusted us to make the best decision for ourselves. for my dad to be escorting my husband to his job, what an insult and a let down. I shouldnt even be getting married, as i cant think or reason for myself. How many more times will i need my father or family to think for me in my husband's house? My family is not inlay of bournvita or chin chin[/quote]You're a darling.

Vikin: Time for family engagement!

No time for cyber riff-rafts chasing my a.r.s.e.e.e!

More like it. I'm taunting you already? You just can't help but comment?

Listen sweety, bullying is a gradual process. I'm glad i'm already suceeding. Soliloquizing is a sign that you're succumbing. I'm getting to you. Your tone has also changed. You were sister mary a while ago, now you're gangsta; another sign of success.

Senile f o ol.

[quote author=Find Out!]Most responses on NL here simply prove that some women can choose to be rational when they feel like it and choose to be biased when it appears convenient for them.[/quote]This!

Vikin: Lol.... Some people love the attention of trying to feel like one online. For all I care, they might be a sick fellow typing away their sorrow and trying to feel good! Nothing going on for them, but come ranting online.

I type with only one finger and no intention to change that all because I want to show some weird character online!

They know their type, I don't succumb to it, if you don't like my opinion and can't discuss like an adult, I have no time wasting on such fellow. I just ignore them!

Meanwhile, the melon is finished o! Wil get some other refreshment!

Motherf u cker, you sure you don't have the time for me? This is you crying, you know. You're already writing epistles and eulogies and I haven't even done anything. Pathetic and laughable. What the french is "some people"? You scared to be bullied?

You're in for it. You WILL be bullied. Next time you see me, you run!

oyb: who wants to have to take care of one's daughter after she gets married?

would anyone be happy in such a situation?

a relative had this exact issue - the guy she brought home had mad money - but no one could figure how the guy was making his money. long and short of it, the girl married the guy, and not very long after,the guy got busted by NDLEA. they locked up the guy, impounded the house, everything. the girl's folks had to house her somewhere and start paying the kids school fees.

back in the day parents used to do extensive background checks into the families their kids were marrying into - no one wanted any surprises down the line

The "a relative" didn't know what the husband was doing for a living?

ileobatojo: Lmao! That picture is disturbing and cute at the same time. Love your approach to the online bullying though!

Still hurting? Awwwww.

Ileobatoso, life sucks uhn?

Approach to the online bullying? F u cking reta--rds. Better start writing your suicide notes.

[quote author=BABE!]Ileobatojo, don't you just secretly wish you were a housewife?
Lounging with your kid/s? Having a good time with them? Have your whole life centered around them? Don't you just wish you have that luxury to worry less about when your next pay check will emerge, because its all about your kids? Arggh!

Life sucks, doesn't it ?!
Not everyone will have the iPhone5, some will be stuck with Nokia3310 till Jesus comes, but at least, lets be honest with ourselves.
If you keep basking in your "my nokia3310 is better than an iphone5", the dude next door that had the plan to give you an iphone5 as a gift will change his mind, because he'll think you don't want it, meanwhile na lie. . .

Nigerians and their "ako"!! [/quote]

Vikin: Anyone for water melon ?

You're a serial 1d1ot. Grow the balls to quote me and you'll regret ever registering on Nairaland.

[quote author=Find Out!]Its like some nairalanders will gladly be with a wealthy serial cheat and wife beater than with a caring well mannered focused not so wealthy man.

How visiting his office to see what goes there can guarantee his daughter's happiness still beats me o.[/quote]If the man going to the office will bring out facts that no one(especially his daughter) knows about his SIL, then fine.

But like you said, what is the purpose of a few hours visit to the SIL's office?

I don't know why some parents think they have super powers to declare a suitor unsuitable.

The daughter's loyalty lies with her spouse! She knows more than they'll ever know. Fact is, she'll be one hiding things from her parents.

So all these women shinning teeth here and saying "there are many wolves in sheep clothing" are raising red flags.

If the father's visit to the SIL will bring out facts that the daughter doesn't know after all these years/while of being with her lover, then she's not even fit to get married. If anyone is waiting for their dad to "reveal the wolf" then marriage should be the last thing on their to-do list.

Vikin: Next time avoid quoting me if you can't speak like a well-mannered "babe".

I don't discuss with trashy tongues, even online!

My last post to you!

see ya!

You're a reta--rd! You're in urgent need of an adult english/reading class. Dumb broad. "My yous weren't directed at you", I wrote that with a damn cheesy smiley at end, and it still wasn't enough. You want me to kneel? address you as my highness? F u ck your life!

Good you're running. I was about to fry your eyes.

Vikin, your father will find out more than what you already know about your spouse?

Can the father know 99% of what his daughter knows about her spouse?

Vikin, you already know this man you're presenting to your parents . . .you've known him for all these years and suddenly what your father sees after going to the office will "disqualify" the man?

If you're not an 1d1ot, you'll already know what the father is about to find out. It's 2013! Abi you want to tell me you've never been to your spouse's office to see what he does?

Vikiin, if your father is the one that has to go his office to "confirm" for you, then he raised an 1d1ot.

PS: my you's were directed at you

Read and weep!

Vikin: Like I said, if you got nothing to hide, why tremble!

By the way, you should also learn how to address people, I can see you are well raised!

Who the f u ck are you?!?! I already told you my you's weren't directed at you!

Was my post about having nothing to hide? Was it about the SIL trembling or about the dad sitting his old self down on a couch?! You're acting like the father is about to find out some deep secret, whereas, the daughter should (if she's not an 1d10t) already know what her spouse does, and she's obviously fine with it.

Speak to me like an 1d1ot again and i'll have your head for lunch!

Vikin: Coogar, there is nothing like trust in this one oh! As far as its marriage, he takes his time to find out about the person family and work relations too.

I don't have any problem showing off my medical records if that's the requirement afterall some churches request for that before getting married. So my dear, if you got nothing to hide, why brother and tremble!

Your father will find out more than what you already know about your spouse?

Can the father know 99% of what his daughter knows about her spouse?

You already know this man you're presenting to your parents . . .you've known him for all these years and suddenly what the father sees after going to the office will "disqualify" the man?

If you're not an 1d1ot, you'll already know what the father is about to find out. It's 2013! Abi you want to tell me you've never been to your spouse's office to see what he does?

If your father is the one that has to go his office to "confirm" for you, then he raised an 1d1ot.

PS: my you's are not necessarily directed at you

StateOfMind: Coogar's analogy is totally out of place here. This father's concern isn't out of greed, I believe he only wants to make sure the daughter he raised for years isn't falling into wrong hands. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't trust his daughter's judgement, all he wants is to see for himself, and if that's a criterion to marrying his daughter, then so be it.

He wants to make sure his daughter doesn't fall Into wrong hand? And going into his future SIL's office for a few hours will rule out the possibility that the SIL is wife beater, a serial killer, a cheat, a sterile bloke??

If you really really want to make sure your daughter is in the right hand, you think going sitting in an office and staring at people is the way to go about it ?? In short, you can't know these things for sure. Your daughter knows best! She may even be the one hiding things from you(the father).

The dad is hungry! or he's being over protective like you claim but he's going about it the wrong way. . . common sense and decorum should be applied here. There's should be a balance! The two adults planing on getting married are grown! . .except he raised an idîôt, ike someone said earlier.

Tstark: Thank you sir! Unless the fatherinlaw raised a fool and doesnt trust her judgement

You're right on point. That's the picture he's painting and many more.

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jemecks: I followed my cousin to see the parents of his proposed wife,,on getting there we introduced our selves and presents the wine as custom demands in ibo land, then my cousin made known his intention to the girl's parents.

To my greatest surprise the dad asked my cousin his work and he told him,so after discussing with them we took our leave with the promise to come back as soon as they are through with inquiries, in order to pay her dowry, but to our greatest surprise the dad of the girl insisted that he must visit my cousin in his office or company and monitor the office for some time before he will give his daughter out to him.

plz Nairalanders what do u think this man is up to, i need your contributions and advice because my cousin is considering breaking up with her .

Wetin dey worry the dad? Monitoring the guy's office will prove what? If he really wants to do a background check, then that's not how it's done. He's a novice! He needs to physically attach himself to the to-be son in law for a whole month! Eat, drink and shower with him!!

Leeches! The dad is a leech! Isn't that even embarrassing ? Some people no get shame.

How would he feel if îdîôts are probing into his own daughter's affairs.
So if he's not satisfied with the "state" of the office, he won't give his daughter out? Who the daughter be sef? Blue-ivy?

Illiterates! The dad is . . .

coogar: Gambrosia did 8 times......heard from a reliable source!!!

Well, they're having the time of their lives. Show goes on!!

surveyprof: I tried calling the U.S phone number dis morning, and it was ring +1 2154630259, she did not pick either, perhaps time zone difference.

The number has been disconnected/not in service.

How can one even forget? Who forgets harm done to them? The memory is still gonna be there regardless.