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debosky: You sabi read so? Where did I say easy topics should be debated?

Debate a topic that will elicit strong reactions from both sides - that, is by definition, juicy and not synonymous with being 'easy'.

debosky: The topic is not the type to generate strong opinions from either side - most will not support it so it will be a damp squib.

Pick something juicy like DK recommends.

coogar: val's day?
that's tedious o - my spouse won't let me touch any gadget that day. the eve of valentine is okay!

Tgirl4real: Babe, u can cross out legal and use right.

Copied and pasted the topic as it was sent to me.

Do u wanna debate?

bukatyne: Madam, MUST EVERYBODY WORK BECAUSE THEY NEED THE MONEY?? SORRY TO DISAPPOINT YOU, SOME WOMEN WILL NOT STOP WORKING EVEN IF THEY HAVE THE WHOLE WORK BECAUSE....... THEY WANT TO WORK!

coogar: it's so obvious the tool was a walter mitty!
didn't he say he got a birthday gift(car) from a female admirer and when it's time to show us the car, he showed us a cake made with eba instead? nigerians are gullible, it's clear enough odiaero is a swindler. how did people entrust him with millions of naira?

coogar: is this not the same odiaero that is a qualified pilot and has flown 300 airplanes in the last 3 yrs.

Tgirl4real: "Is it RIGHT or LEGAL for an adopted child and a child of the same parents to marry?"

debosky: And she has the effrontery to ask me about vitamins?

I should be asking her about her temazepam and ritalin pills.

ileobatojo: People! Please shut down this thread right now!

It has come to my attention that I am not a working mother but a stay at home mom. I will hazard a guess that JK, Greatgod, Efe and co also fall into the category of non working, stay at home moms under this new ground breaking definition. This means we are all in agreement essentially. That is unless you are a jet setting workaholic in which case, you are not part of our crew!

If you fall under this umbrella and come here to argue again, I go e-slap you!

MMotimo: Back to work. . . . . . my household's goals are not currently achievable on one income. THAT, my friends, is the reason why I work else I would be a volunteer at the library - yes, pure honesty!

ileobatojo: Lol!

You will not be happy until we are all forced to brag eh! Don't worry, I'm not yet willing to go down that route. But please, carry on if it makes you happy. Who am I to get in the way of your deluded pleasure.
Working mom = jetsetting, workaholic.
Stay at home mom = work 8-3, then pick up kids from school.

ileobatojo: Lol!

Working mom = jetsetting, workaholic.
Stay at home mom = work 8-3, then pick up kids from school.

debosky: It is a valid analogy - empty opinion can never trump real life experience. Never.

Now we're shifting goal posts - we're only talking about 'workaholics' not all working mums. Heck why don't we only talk about 'irresponsible housewives' who spend all their time shagging their neighbours' drivers instead of looking after their kids?

This was a general discussion comparing housewives with working mums and the merits/demerits therein, not some narrow subset you're (belatedly) trying to create.

debosky: Who denied you an opinion? Did you actually read what I said? All I've said is that your opinion is theory.

To use your analogy, I would have higher regard for the opinion of someone who has actually cooked and eaten filet mignon compared to someone who has only seen it in a cookery book.

debosky: I'm not trying to prove one is always better than the other - all I've shown is that it can be better dependent on all the factors involved. To generalise that one is better in all cases is quite foolish - that's the point here.

debosky: Again with the silly extremist view - working is not equivalent to not having 'enough time' for your kids, neither is being a housewife equivalent to having 'enough time'.

coogar: of course!
he's been everywhere - he's been through everything he's argued for/against on this forum. he's been in the white house too!

debosky: A theory is something you've not put into practice. Simple.

Do you have kids? Have you been a working mum or a stay at home mum? If you haven't, you're spouting theory and nothing else - when you've actually 'been there and done that', then your opinion may carry more weight.

debosky: But it isn't - one isn't better than the other. Denmark has 74% of mothers in work, not being housewives and it is producing better outcomes for children than other countries like the UK or the US with higher percentages of housewives.

debosky: The truth is that you cannot generalise what is better for any two cases - it depends on the individual circumstances, societal pressures and the views of those involved.

jennykadry: She's always worked before marriage and after marriage. Stayed home for 6 and half months after each child and returned to work.
That's why I put the IQ in quote

jennykadry: There is this well known politician whose wife is a working class lady. He once said that his wife is someone that cannot be idle and needs to face challenges everyday because it helps with her "IQ". The man is in support of it cos he reckons his wife staying at home can be damaging to her intelligence at this stage. 90% of her salary goes into charity. Tell me how much that woman makes that the husband should rely on? A man that can get 100,000 dollars in a day? What will he use her money for?

There are men out there that appreciate the fact their wives do not want to remain idle but busy one way or the other. Like Steve Harvey said, don't hate the player, change the game

debosky: It's quite interesting that many of the combatants on this thread do not have any parenting nor marriage experience, but deem it fit to make sweeping generalisations on either side of the divide.

Theory is one thing, reality is another.

The ones I respect are those that have seen/experienced both sides - being a working mum and staying home as they have the valid life experiences.

Don't get too hung up on your theories - if you do, you might just be unable to adapt if/when life throws you a curveball.

Ujujoan: You sound very bitter . . .
What's the matter? Are you a HW? It's ok, no need to get defensive. It's nothing to be ashamed of!

alakori: I went to their house to confront her about it and we started to exchange words. I called her a thief. Her mother ( my mother-in-law) asked her to deal with me and she slapped me twice. I did not retaliate.

MMotimo: Most of these Naija women work because they do not have a choice, period! Shouting career is just boju boju. No shame in saying your household cannot live on your husband's income alone. If there was a choice, how many of the menfolk sef would be working?

ileobatojo: It's easy to say when you already can/or are guaranteed to be able to provide the world for the kids isn't it?

coogar: this phrase is so fücking funny, we all know freedom is based off the money!
how does one give a child quality upbringing if one cannot afford it? you either not have that child till you can afford the quality you want for him or you forget giving him quality upbringing and settle for less. it's that simple!!!