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coogar: i hate it more than i hate satan!

You lie!! You can't even say that with a straight face. You love it more than sèx!

coogar: i put it to you that you are lying......
the average nigerian woman spends 45 mins in the bathroom, 30 mins to get dressed and another 40 mins to make-up. my pet peeve is that horrible pencil they use to line the eyes. you people have turned to plastic surgeons in your bid to look good. men don't really pay attention to all these nonsense. they are only interested in the "other features". women, stop wasting "our" time!!!

You don't like eye pencil ?? Your pet peeve ?

Someone is supposed to be sleeping.

[quote author=sammy-young]I and my girl met around April 2011, right now, all is set to marry her coz we av done an introduction, and av even set the date for the marriage, but my only problem is that, she is too detailed....u may wonder wat detailed means. She never overlook anytin, any offence from me, I av to beg and beg, no matter how small and needless it might be, I love to make her happy all the time, but, her 'too detailed type of person' makes her scroll thru my fone, sees anyone I accidentally call 'dear' or 'ping first' who might happen to be a lady....den, war has started, I just av to beg and beg as she keeps recounting. sometimes, once an thru begging for like 3hours, anoda offence comes up again

So if we spend like 10hours 2geda, I approximatly beg for like 8 of the d hours!!!

Pls advice, coz I love her so much and she goes the extra-mile once she's happy wit me, can a man ever do witout offending a lady, and wats d amount of pleading dat shld be enuf to quench the hurt, plz help[/quote]A man wouldn't continually beg if he isn't truly guilty or lacks self confidence. No matter how much I try to make my man feel guilty over something he did, if he believes he isn't guilty, he won't utter any apologetic statement. Men are egotistical.

You're truly guilty (not telling us the whole story) or she's given you some love potion, or you're HALF-a-man.

If you're indeed half-a-man, then no matter how far you run, you're always gonna be taken for a ride, unless you fix yourself!!!

jjman2322: Ya because i've looked all over and i cant find people from the states/uk here i can relate with..

I came back from christmas holidays, told this girl i was jet lagged.. shes like whats a jet lag.. smh..

i've given up.. and ill be happy to add ANYONE to facebook first.... you'll see me, pics, friends, family, etc.. and see im normal.. nothing to hide.. just bored out of my mind and contemplating moving back to usa.

Hahaha! Create an email addy specifically for meeting people on NL, leave it on a/this thread, and watch your cup overflow!

They won't give you face on this thread. They don't want to appear like they're desperate (except for the OP, of course). You should be used to Nigerian girls.

jjman2322: Huh? im confused.. all im saying here is if anyone from the states that just got back wanna meet up, they should let me know.. guy or girl.. im in the east.. i just cant relate/trust people here, since i didnt grow up here... so im kinda just working and chilling at home.. looking for more friends..

You can't trust or relate with people you can see, but you can trust and relate with virtual people. Ok.

Drop your phone number and address. Mrkels will be happy to contact you.

Coogar, you're attracting a man, jjman2322. Are you really what you attract?

mrkels: Yes albacore i told you to stop calling people that because there was no online evidence to prove your claim

And where's the evidence to prove yours, rotten mackerel ?

mimifonwon: guy you are fool, i went home for vacation, not just to meet him, yes i was excited to have th opportunity to meet him, but that wasnt the main reason i went home, chale i wasnt that desperate.

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. . . but you were desperate.

mrkels: BTW op after all the insults you say i shouldnt judge you by your post (ONLINE IDENTITY)
This can only mean one thing.

YOU ARE A CATFISH TOO

*Dies*

Aren't you the mackerel that told me to stop calling people catfish?

coogar: that's daydreaming - not attraction
attract - is drawing/pulling to one's self. if you are well-dressed, no agbero or any meat seller would come near you. if you call them, they would run and hide. in this case, the op has exaggerated.....the boy does not sell meat, he was helping out his aunt. as a graduate, if i stay with my uncle who happens to be a farmer - does that make me a farmer?

Meaning, the fact that you stay with your farming uncle doesn't make you a farmer! Yes, I agree. The meatseller may not be a meatseller.

In freecocoa's case too, the fact that meatsellers are getting böners and wishing they were her man when they see her, doesn't mean she's on their level!

PS; for you to day-dream about someone, you have to be attracted to them.

mrkels: Simple, his webcam is not working..
Come stop callling people catfish na.

whats your problem self?

Will you pop off??! Abi you want to get baptized with insults?

coogar: i doubt 10 random meatsellers would even make a move for freecocoa unless she dresses in a way to attract them in the first place. you want to tell me freecocoa would go to a market dressed like those posh women on wall-street with her bulgari sunglasses, lexus jeep and meatsellers would ask her for a date? abeg, levels pass levels!!' when people lower than your status are asking you out then it must be because you have dressed down or lower yourself intellectually to their level. if you dress in a trashy way to the market then expect okada men to even touch your boöbs!

They don't have to ask her on a date to be attracted to her. I've told you people get attracted to what they can't have.
If one of the meatsellers said this when they saw freecocoa;

"CHei, chale, see that hot babe!! She fine o. Omo this one na hot cake!"

Then, Coogar, that's attraction! Who no like better thing? They are attarcted to her goods. Whatever happens after is another topic.

mimifonwon: no nothing is wrong with being a meat seller, just be honest about who you are, i liked the personality and the character i had gotten to know, but i hate being lied to, thats my number 1 petpeeve, he apologized, but the damage had been done. He not only lied about his appearance, he lied about his age, his 13years my senior (smh), but in all he apologized and all i could feel was sorry and pity for him. My brothers said the same thing you said about him having an honest living, but i would have rather i knew that beforehand.

Quit using the word "petpeeve" anyhow! Being lied to is your número uno petpeeve and a guy got away with such blatant lies for over 4 months? You're a catfish!
If being lied to is your petpeeve, you should be able to detect lies millions of miles away.

What were the excuses he was giving when you asked for a video chat? Someone stole his webcam? His Skype act. didn't come with video chatting?

coogar: tell me - is it possible for you to continue to attract a meat seller for 4 months? even if he posted the equivalent of chris brown's pic? you only need to ask him one question about heathrow airport and he would collapse.

One particular meatseller is different from 10 random meatsellers.

Spot the difference Coogar:

10 random meatsellers running after Freecocoa (she's smart and hot) means they're attracted to her. That doesn't mean she'd give them face or listen to their lame toast lines! She can't be attracted to them!

1 meatseller comes after the OP, and there's a mutual attraction.

The first example shows that you're not necessarily what you attract.

coogar: i don't even believe the story
for this to have happened, the op must have been incredibly daft. she could have been attracted in the first few days - but not 4 months unless something diabolical was involved.

She was in denial or she was too lonely; too desperate (that's how people get duped by 419s); she's waited for her dream guy all her life and Mr. Nairaland contest came along. She met the virtual guy that fitted her dream guy image and she fell in love with him.

While those lies and deceits were coming up, she was having second thoughts but she was just too stuck with the image the guy created on NL, so she didn't want to let go.

Or she's just daft!

coogar: how did that happen? the op only lied about his appearance and status - what about the quality of their conversation for 5 months nko? how was she so gullible to fall for his lies that he graduated from a uk university and went to nigeria for his nysc?.

She fell for his lies because she doesn't know wassup herself, or she was in denial. The person that'd make me for fall for such cheap lies hasn't been born yet!

Again, I'm not on about the OP's matter. They are both meatsellers.

coogar: attraction is going all the way.....
there's an impulsive attraction that jolts one - that can happen to anyone. i am sure many people on this site must have had that only to quickly check themselves and back out. the op had that impulsive attraction and she continued to be attracted by the wiles of a meat seller for 4 months till she went to naija. even when the meat seller was hiding, she still took the extra risk of going to oshodi to find him. i stayed in lagos for 14 yrs - i never stepped foot in oshodi in those years, i only pass by and i did when it's unavoidable!

Coogar, I'm not on about the OP. In fact, the OP was in love with the meatseller.

You've not seen situations where a driver is tripping for her oga madam's daughter? He's attracted to her, but they're not in the same class; they're never gonna happen.

If "impulsive attraction" is what you want to call it, sweet! The beautiful attracts the ugly. The rich attracts the poor.

You're not what you attract; impulsive attraction.

2legit2qwt: You're not helping your point by being contradictory.
The quote about attracting what you are doesn't necessarily have to be like for like on the surface, it could be physical, it could be emotion wise, it could be on any level

Uhn??

coogar: you are what you attract - stop arguing against logic
let's even assume op was fooled with appearance and lies - did the guy also fool him with his intellect? there's no way i would chat with a pepper seller for 4 months and not detect some scent of pepper background in her diction, behaviour or intellect. the op communicated with this guy for 4-5 months and she got attracted so much she bought a ticket to nigeria. let ekaette do the same for brad pitt first before concluding.

You're not what you attract! Stop arguing against the obvious. Some people are even attracted to things/humans they know they'd never get!

In OP's case, they were a perfect match. She's not so smart and his inferiority complex na die. So it's understandable that they'd be attracted to each other.

Attraction is different from going all the way! Attraction is superficial! 190 quoting me and toasting me doesn't mean I'm an îdîôt.. Onila quoting, toasting you, sending you PMs doesn't mean you're a tool.

coogar: agberos fall for beyonce? which agberos?

Don't they?
Ekaettes fantasize about Brad pitt on their TV screens.
You're not what you attract! Everyone wants a piece of the good!

mrkels: Im begining to suspect you. The way you are attacking people and their opinion is becoming suspicious .
Take a chill pill and respect their opinion towards this issue and stop insulting them by saying they are ""catifishes""

Shut up and fûck, you catfish!

poshdiva: I really don't think it was necessary for the OP to create this thread. It is very demeaning and embarrassing. For the guy to have come clean with you, it means he isn't a professional. He probably got carried away with the lies and couldn't continue.
He also probably never thought that it was going to get that serious to the point of meeting you.

NL is another world. To most people its a dream world. Away from reality. People create who they wanna be in here, most people come here to escape from the real world. A world with imaginary friends and no problems. Where you get to laugh at posts and forget the stress of searching for a job and the economic crisis. Most people come here when they have nothing to eat and all they have to their names are free megabytes. You can imagine the frustration of a guy who went through four or five years of university and is selling meat! He doesn't need this right now. He could have formed till the very end and gotten what he wanted from you but he chose to come clean before you go any further. Cut the guy some slack!

No one knows tomorrow babe.

Another emotional post. Poshdiva is a classic catfish name. You're a catfish?

coogar: it's very true.....
you are what you attract - i would be damned to see david beckham chasing after nkiru sylvanus.

Agberos fall for beyoncé. . . what does that say ?

mrkels: Nah...I am so not the meat seller...Ask around

A negative response and irrelevant statements to back it up. . . is an evidence that you're lying. You're hiding something. You're not "the" catfish, but you're a catfish.

mrkels: The OP is not neccesarily a 'take home to mama kind of girl'
she too has her flaws and shes here running her mouth.
Arrogant girl hoping to get laid with a cool nigerian guy
Going through her posts all i can say is shes a bloody insolent girl, very rude, arrogant and very disrespectful.

So emotional. You're from the catfish clan?

mimifonwon: So i was in naija recently, i have met some cool people here on nairaland, and some have emailed me, i just wanted friendship and someone to hang with when i got to nigeria.

So i met this guy ( will not name him cuz i really feel sorry for him, if he will go to such extent to be someone else, he was one of the contestant for mr.nairaland). Anyways i thought this guy was hot, ( na me be the mugu), it wasnt like i was trying to do him ( am a good girl, wasnt looking for that). Anyways this guy and i had been emailing and even skyped, but he always said he couldnt cam up, but always asked me to cam up.

In this day and age though? Why couldn't he cam up? That should have been a red flag!

Only îdîöts get cat-fished. You can know absolutely anything you want to know about anyone online before meeting them.

[quote author=A-40]That's for a woman that doesn't know her right oh! He would spend at least 2 months in the slammer and pay through his nose to get bail![/quote]2 months is equivalent to 5-10 yrs? 5-10yrs for beating a "common" woman in Nigeria? Right.