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Scientists:
But she said she was a virgin.

That someone is a virgin doesn't automatically translate to tight/whatevadafok y'all call it.

Same way a guy might be a virgin but his deek is small? Same way a girl can be a virgin and her vagina isn't small. There's no girl with a loose vagina, your deek is the problem.
If a girl feels "loose", it means she's super turned on and your peen doesn't fit.

Most times sef, when a guy doesn't enjoy sex cos the babe "loose" she definitely didn't feel or enjoy shinshin herself.

And if you're going to have a fulfilling sexual life after marriage, you better research sex styles for men with smalller sized deeks. With time, her vagina would contract, to fit yours, after repeated love sessions.

Scientists:



Guys should I forgive her and go ahead with the Traditional wedding to avoid shame on family despite the fact that she cheated or should I move on?

What it means is that your deek is small, for her cookie that is... cos the same way we have different deek sizes is the same way cookies have different sizes determined by genetics.
Has nothing to do with her hymen, the only thing that stretches the cookie slightly is childbirth.

So find out positions that would work out for both of you, and invest in more four play.

A man is cute with nice eyebrows, beautiful lips, glowing skin and he's "gay"... I know most Nigerian men are ugly and care nothing for their skins, so seeing a man like them looking beautiful, they feel threatened and next accusation is they're gay. Dirty pigzzz... instead of you to humble yourselves and ask Seun for his skin routine, so you will stop looking like cement. Yeye people, some of you don't even run common vaseline. Ashy lots.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I'm sure there's plenty of naija babes into BDSM

Likeeee, just check social media, there are women with similar bdsm fetish.

And if he wants to be more dramatic, attend the wedding and embarrass himself. Lol

Akunatakasi:
1 year younger ..

Does she live with her two children under the same roof? And since it's a secret, do you have any relationship at all with your daughter?

@NerdyAboki more about Jubrin please. I'm so sorry he had to experience that, Nigerians are just wicked folks.

FuckHomophobes:
We don link up already fah .

ho ho ho! really? lmao, baddest

BadRadio:
drop your email

vickymickkk@icloud.com

FuckHomophobes:
Wahala be like bicycle fah

Nwannem see me see wahala ooo... lmao!

BadRadio:
we need to iron things out Badbitch !!!

Okay? Go on?

swiswiioo:
Hello Nairaland

I made an account just to ask this question. I know it sounds strange and people like to post things to catch cruise but I'm in actual need of guidance. I don't have anyone in real life I can consult.

Basically, I can't feel content in a relationship if my woman is not being fed well and adding weight. Not only does it turn me on, but it fills me with love and happiness. I feel like it is my responsibility to spoil and care for my woman, and adding weight is a major sign of being well cared for. If my woman is not growing or even reducing, I feel like I'm failing as a man. She musn't end up extremely too too big, but definitely become big gradually over time.

I have dated a few girls before and they always end up becoming fat. I took them out often. Plenty pizza, icecream, big meals with cake and other desserts. I don't stress them physically so they can just relax and grow. While their added weight droven me crazy, they were often displeased and unhappy with it, affecting the relationship. Guilt would not allow me to tell them I very much like it and infact sought it out.

I don't know why I'm like this. It's like things would be better if I was a normal man that gets disappointed when his woman adds. I've tried to change this about myself many times but just can't. It's been part of me since I went through puberty.

I'm looking for a wife to marry now and I'm worried. I'm told I am a caring guy who will make a good husband, but I don't want to make my future wife miserable.
How can I find a women I can feed and spoil without guilt? How can I end up in a marriage where my wife can accept the fact I love that she has become fat?

It's no use trying to "change" people's body weight, just date fat women already. It's like dating a fat person and trying to transform them to "lepa" o wrong... And fat women are not scarce, we are everywhere. Check social media... look around you. Wish you all the best.

BadRadio:
Badbitch is good. When I say "Good" I mean she's damn good.

I know, I know, you're welcome.

Leshurr:
We write threads and blogs about how men are this and that.. how "we are the prize" and are doing men a favour - yet, a few months into the average Nigerian relationship, women are already pressurizing their boyfriends to meet the family and propose to them.

First of all, we're still very much in a patriarchal society, where women are shamed and bullied for not being married before thirties, I mean, the males on nairaland, even have a term "evening newspaper" an insult reserved for "single women" that are older than 27... Parents join in the circus as well, and you're wondering why some women "pressure" for marriage in the Nigerian society? For peace of mind, security, going with the "norm" and all the other privileges that come with being a married woman in this country. Anyday I step out without a wedding ring, I see the difference in how men and women regard me. And as for praying and religion and whatnot, we pray for everything in this failed state. Pray for light, water, security, health, admissions, food, so why the heck won't people pray for husband, or wife or children??

Leshurr:
We claim our traditional duties of cooking and cleaning is a shared responsibility but refuse to share the 'traditional' duty of financial responsibility with our husbands.

We insult men under the guise of feminism but cry blue water when they start to injest 'redpills' and decide to go thier own way.

Many women are working their asses off, to make income to support the family. Many are even breadwinners, and you're here claiming women don't share financial roles? In Nigeria the poverty capital of the world? You must be kidding. Even the stay at home moms, still do business, and cover chores that would have cost a lot of money to get done if outsourced.
Catering, laundry and cleaning services are expensive services in saner climes. Not to talk of when children are now in the mix. Also the cost of them not pursuing their dreams and career goals, just to keep the home front in check.

And as for red pills or whatever the fok they call themselves, dem go dey alright. This is Nigeria, ignorance is the order of the day. Keep your pills within your borders tho'

Psych412:
Awon Feminist.


this Feminists movement is what destroyed my aunt's marriage.


she took it too high.

how please?

NwaAmaikpe:





I'd have been disappointed if she kept a baby for Kachi.

"Baby-mamaing" pays big time in Nigeria...but a Rosie can't be a babymama to a Kachi and expect to flourish.
It's like working for the Abia State civil service and expecting to be a billionaire from well and promptly paid salaries.

But we don't know the truth, it is all hear-say. We don't know if she truly aborted it or if her old weak uterus could not carry the foetus as she claims.

But we know one thing; that Kachi slotted his floppy disc into her P-drive without protection and transferred some files.
That's a win for him and a shame to her.

You are not as smart as you try to be. Why should an adult woman that is sexually active be ashamed? So stupid, well it's nairaland sha, it accommodates the likes of you. Fkn sexist

Realashbobby:
Dear Romancelander,

I need candid and mature advise, insult is not welcome please.

I am a lady of above 30 years old and recently separated from my husband of 4 years with just a kid. The man has been the only man in my life since when I was 17. We got Married 4 years ago and later got separated recently. He has petitioned me and filed for divorce.

It's been like a year now that I had sex last and konji is worrying me, like I am feeling like having sex but my problem is I don't want have sex with any other man. It's a problem for me. I can't imagine seeing another man touching me. But I spent the whole of my day thinking about it.

Recently, I thought of getting in touch with my old boyfriend that we got attracted each other to just have me and also I met an old man of about 55 years who has been asking me for sex but I am not pleased with the man having my body.
Or is there anything to calm my urge for sex?

Please advise.

Note: I just created this account for the purpose of this subject.

Learn how to pleasure yourself, your orgasms aren't dependent on any man, get intimacy gadgets too. A vibrator would be a good start. You're still hurting from your previous relationship, so don't be in a hurry to get involved with another man sexually.

Realashbobby:
Dear Nairalander,

How do you cope with your life after your spouse failed you and took the whole matter to the worse level by seeking for divorce?

I woke up everyday of my life in the past nine months thinking about this man. I heard he has moved on in Lagos, while I am still here bothering myself about him. This is the only man I have ever known in my life. He just left without looking back not even to check on his son.
What can I do to forget him totally?

I am down emotionally and it's affecting me.

Kindly advise.

I read what you posted about what led to the divorce. My very close friend recently experienced the same thing. Hers ended after 5 months of marriage. Her ex was physically and emotionally abusive, she didn't even want to leave until the man asked for a break and eventually called it quits. I was happy for her. A failed marriage is better than lifelong suffering and depression. Recovery is also not easy. I would be honest, nine years is a lot of time and memories. A man who would neglect his child and blood because he has fallen out with the child's mother, is worse than a beast.

Find a friend/friends, that can always talk to you, listen to your rants, and encourage when you start to remember the past. You need a support system right now. Engage in activities that make you happy, eat out, visit new places, make new friends, start a side hustle, find a community to support you most importantly.
Recovery won't happen overnight, it's going to take time, live every day as it comes. There's light at the end of this tunnel, Beloved.

Realashbobby:
I have done like you said o, I took some days leave at work and pack my baby and my bag, I don't know his home address but I know his work address in VI, I went to his office and I called but he didn't pick,. Not until when one of his colleagues called him that his wife is here. He csaid he is not on duty that day and not around that I should go back to where I am coming from.
I didn't get back to ibadan until 11pm that day. Till today he never ask how I got home with the baby.

I know how much you want this family to work, how much you want to keep your family together, but the truth is, your husband& in-laws are quite sexist and irrational people. If he can't be patient enough to let you defend your project and conclude your degree, then I'm sorry to tell you, that's not your husband. A true husband would support his wife's career to any length as progress for your wife is automatically progress for the whole family. And for him to be callous enough to not grant you audience with your baby, in a strange city, not bother about you& his child's welfare ? My sister, that divorce he's asking for, is your passport to freedom. You may choose not to sign it until you're done with your program, and attempt reconciliation again ( I see you still want the marriage). NB: don't quit your job or seek transfer yet, at best, you can change apartments if you can afford it. As for arresting his brother, you're quite justified, as a man that stole your things in your absence, leaving you with only the cloth on your back, is a criminal.

As a sister, I will advise you to channel all your energy into that degree, getting a better job, and caring for your child and sister. A man that is against your progress, is against your success o.

Carrying a pregnancy to term, and going through a vbac delivery without any medication for pain. 10/10 do not recommend.

Righteousness89:
Wow!
Sooo Beautiful!!
Looking at this lion what comes to my Mind is my Daddy!
THE LION OF THE TRIBE of JUDAH! The LION of lions!
My Fighter! My Defender! My Protecter!
Always looking out For those that Depend and trust in HIM..
I Love you My Daddy!
Blessed be the Name of the Lord !
HE is coming back again Folks!
There is no more time!

Religion is truly a disease. Lmao.

StonedLex:
And to think that she is a guy keeps me in awe.

She was... Never heard of transwomen?

ellalina:
In a secret weeding held in Abuja,Praise Nelson ties the knot with a strange woman after ditching is fiance for being Old enough to be his mother.

Bloggers and click bait sha. Nawa. This is his fiancée(the one he spoke about repeatedly while on the BBN show) and she's in her late thirties not 60.

Congratulations to the couple.

DrFunmisticGlow:
I have been noticing this trend for a while. I don't have a lot of examples to quote from but i have a few.

The first was at a get-together with some good female friends and we were talking. We talked about work, businesses, exams, then relationships and marriage. Then one of my friends, let's call her T says that's she is taking a break from relationships, because she has suddenly realized that she doesn't want children. And she proceeded to list reasons why. There was silence for a while. Then another of my friends let's call her H then says something that ticks me off. 'You probably feel like that now, but you will change your mind once you're older'. Another friend G chimes in and says that T only feels that way because she just finished paediatrics posting and it can be traumatising, that she'll get over it.

I reply and say that there's nothing wrong with a woman choosing to remain childless. This leads to an argument, but we settle it sha.

The other one was an older lady who came to my office for a consultation after diagnosing and giving drugs as she was my last patient. We got talking and I asked her if she was lonely being alone. She says that yes it is at times, but when she sees most of her married friends being in one form of misery or the other, she feels that she doesn't regret it. She said she couldn't sustain long term relationships due to her dysfunctional upbringing. I then ask her about adopting and she says she doesn't want children, she cannot stand them. She then tells me that not everyone is supposed to be a parent and i agree.

She then tells me that i am the first person who she talked to about this issue and didn't try to judge her, try to convince her to change her mind, dissmiss her or shame her

This got me thinking that some people, especially women due to choice or circumstances have no children. But nigerians in general seem to ostracize them.


This is a recurring theme that I keep seeing. One would think that men are the ones who judge, but no, women do it the most.


So my question is this, why do people feel uncomfortable with the fact that some people cannot or choose not to have children?

It doesn't make sense.

Please share your views on this topic. No bashing please. Happy Sunday.

We're in a society where people's choice of partners is considered the government's business, even with a jail term attached. People's religious ideologies and how they choose to live their lives generally, can end in a death sentence (rahama sadau et al).

So we're basically in a country where nobody minds their business, everybody feels they have a right to judge other adult's decisions. And women come at the very bottom of this ladder,(children, queer& disabled folks are on the last rungs anyway) so of course, a woman choosing to not put her body, through the rigours and harrowing experience of childbirth, is naturally everybody's business.

Heck, abortion is still illegal, child illiteracy, child trafficking, child poverty, child abuse, child negligence and every conceivable vice that can be perpetuated against children is rife here. But women choosing not to have kids are the "abomination".

This conversation is beyond most people here on nairaland, as it's a reflection of our society at large.

FuckHomophobes:
realleej Kindly check your mail

realleej I've messaged you twice as well, please do check your email.