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There is a time to be born and a time to die.

In villa or not people die daily, some who don't loose relatives.

It's happening every where every day

Court attention at all cost. Law 6.
From the book "48 laws of power"

DeadRat:



It Is Not To Gather Members... It Just Love As Family

Ok

DeadRat:
yes Dear! I Went To Church... They Promised Us Jollof Rice but They Disappointed. Can You Imagine

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Kayode Opadokun

Is the only thing I am reading here

See clean car mehn...

But this ur own pass.

I console u bro. Take heart.

Kip ur head up!

Life goes on.

[quote]vandalized it and were about zooming off with valuable equipment[quote]Be straightforward, Just write
"Police nabs 3 for robbing Telecom mast" which one be vandalize when they zoom off with valuable equipment.

Euouae:
Where was his God when he was attacked?

Ask google

BanevsJoker:
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Buhahahaha
U wicked die

For real?
Is that our ambassador to U.S?

Let's just sell this country to Britain we need re-colonization.

Is it me or they all truly look like dolphins

shaybebaby:
1.Err.. What you have written isn't unique to single mums. It is common to mothers (whether married or unmarried) as the burden of providing primary care for children often falls on women.

As time is a limited resource, there is only so much you can do to physically care for kids and still find time for a career. Something usually gives and that's the career.

2)For every woman out there going it alone with raising kids physically and financially, there is a deadbeat dad (barring situations when the man late). Relationships end all the time but are we really going to take to task, the person who remains shouldering all responsibilities when two people were involved their creation? Talk about reasoning from the culo!

3) Ever heard the saying "it takes a village to raise a child?" Bear in mind the saying doesn't say a child born to a single parent, it's all children. Support networks are crucial to raising them bubbas, Heck when peeps talk about grandmums going to do omugwo, pray tell how that is different to providing assistance in the case of single parents.

4)Why would any sane man want to come before a child, any child? If the kids were yours biologically, would you still expect to come first? Actually thinking about it, I suppose the answer is yes which explains why men abandon their kids leaving the mothers to raise them alone. Even with their biological kids, THEY (them deadbeat dads) come first. Selfish pricks!

5)Raising kids does not come with a manual, you figure it out as you go along hence every parent, married or unmarried makes mistakes. And kids are forgiving, whilst very perceptive. They figure out whether they are truly loved and accepted or not. So if a step kid hates your guts, it's because they can tell you don't really want them.

6) You peeps will be shouting money money, giver, provide home upandan. Who says only men have a monopoly on acquiring these things? You need to change your social circle because whilst some of your points are applicable in some instances, there are just as many other instances where these single parents have their shit on lock down, raising their kids, providing stability and bringing home juicy bacon all at the same time.

You r entitled to your opinion
I don't have issue with with that
I like dt mine was clearly & coldly stated though.

7. You will never really be accepted. I have observed time and time again the heartbreak of a step parent as the child gets older. After putting them through school, providing a place to live, food, getting the child all kinds of gifts and honestly really caring about the child. The time comes for a grad or a wedding, the child invites mom and dad to the party; and thanks them for all their love and work. Usually there is not even an acknowledgment of effort.

8. You will have no time for errors. A lot of single men get involved with the single mom and her kids when the child is a bit older. Being inexperienced with children becomes a huge burden as the single man has no time to learn parenting skills; and mistakes are not readily forgiven nor forgotten when a kid is 4 compared to 14.

9. You may think it ends, but it never does. I know many men whose single mom wife promised them a completely different life after junior turned 18 or so. At the beginning of the relationship it looked like just a few years and then total privacy and freedom. but it never does.

10. You will have nothing to show for it. In the end when most men have their own children the work and effort is well worth it. The men did their best and raised a family, continued a line, get grandchildren etc. As a step-parent you have contributed as much but you have nothing. Nobody carries on your name and most men realize they are not even ever thanked for their sacrifice.

11. The legalities can kill you. There have been numerous cases where a man has divorced or left a single mom and then found himself liable financially for her child. Although not the father he will be responsible for child payments, extra fees and most certainly university far after they are 18 check the laws out, it´s a raw deal. Couple that with some alimony and child abuse claims you get the whole effect of being a divorced and homeless dad with not one child of your own.

12. In the end women have asked for their freedom to make their own choices now for decades. I would advise all single men to let single moms make their choice of having a child by themselves and then live with it. Don´t involve yourself with these women under any circumstances. It can be in many ways, the death of a man.

My very cold hard fact... My opinion.

Here is a short list of problems you may encounter but not limited to these

1. Being a "partner" means you get to pay for half- if not more: I have seen men putting money away for college for a kid that´s not his. Buying ridiculous amounts of brand name clothes, expensive homes etc all in an effort to be in a so-called "family".

2. The Family you just got into is by invitation only: In being a step- parent you are not the basic unit. The mother and child together are the basic unit. No matter what is said or mentioned before marriage, you will never come before her child. You will always be in a family and relationship where you come second, maybe third.

3. No matter what you think her ex is going to be there forever: In just about every case the child´s father does not seem to be in the picture during the dating and courtship stage but seems to suddenly show up after. Just about every time you will be dragged into the endless bickering and fights they have and you will not be liked by him "its only natural remember"

4. Her kid will most likely not like you very much. Let´s face it you´re sleeping with their mom and most of the time the child will see you as a roadblock to his parents getting back together. Most likely the mom has made you the giver of discipline in the relationship, being the man and all which results in the kid hating you.

5. All that time you had together with your new love will end after marriage. The number one job of a single mom is simply to be a mom. She is not a party girl, hiker, camper, biker, clubber etc. Just be prepared for a frontal assault on your time and money after marriage. You will find your weekdays taken up with homework, PTA meetings, suppers at home, and early bed times. Weekends will be the time for the child´s extra-curricular activities and other activities

6. You will wonder what happened to all your money. Most men involved with a single mom report that their money seems to dry up. Children are expensive and expensive like most men have no idea. Between school supplies, clothing, vast amounts of food, babysitters if you ever want to go out, medications, fees, sports, supplies, toys and such; well, there will be little left.

For me, it's a NO! (Remember you r not me and we both entitled to our varying opinions)

I'm going 2 give the cold hard facts to you comprehensively.

Contrary to popular media-myth I have yet to meet a single mom who was career driven, carefree, balanced, happy; doing it all type gal as often portrayed in most media outlets. The reality I have seen over the years is usually a stressed out, overworked, debt stricken woman who really had no idea children cost so much in time, effort and money. Their careers are on hold as they need to balance their child with sickness, school activities etc versus moving up whatever career ladder they are on. Most single moms are raising their children with help of an extended family member (usually their mom), a bevy of friends and other single moms they find in support groups. It is usually not a pretty picture at all.

Somewhere along the way, usually quite quickly they come up with the idea that they need a "partner" to help them in their new enterprise of having a child and the sooner they can get one the better. Realizing they have a bit of a disadvantage with having a child and being in the dating scene they resort to several well known strategies to get a partner.

One trait that seems to come to the forefront with most men who are dating single moms is just how wonderful a woman they really are. Most men cannot for the life of them figure out why another man would abandon a woman like her. It has been stated that single moms are more caring, compassionate, great lovers, excellent cooks, laugh at all your jokes etc they seem to be ideal mates.

No matter what you see as a man there is something else going on do not forget that. Her plan is to eventually get a partner one way or another. You are the prize and she is going to earn it.

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So what is new about this...

I now know anything is possible after Senator Dino Melaye public harassment n disgrace.

Even Wizkid and Tiwa fit dey Sinzu.

Anything is possible. Forget age. They both have the needed tools.

OKorowanta:
Maybe she's also finding it difficult to buy N20 pen and paper to write new songs.
See as talent dey waste.

Person get housing problem you say make she write song, Na inside song she wan dey live.

No wonder she's been low key... Rent probs can so humble u

Let him dt is without sin cast the first stone

Explorers:
Na so the trouser be o

Yes o
When you isolate yourself from developed countries
You leave in the past.
We r past wearing baggy.

Drugs

modextus:
It's got to be masturbation. I get really pissed at myself anytime i indulge in masturbation. Lord see me through.

Amen in Jesus name.

No be small thing... it's an addiction that has become a bondage when u get pissed at your self after it but still repeat it.

You can't break it on your own man, you ain't got that power, it will always be rinse and repeat, accept the salvation that Jesus gives and you'll stop effortlessly.

If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. John 8.36.

A victim writes from experience

Yahoo girls nko?

Abeg, Create their thread .

When your village people are on your case and your mother's prayer is not strong enough......
Really?

Shioooooooor...
Ogbeni park well,
Abeg make all of una park well
The CEO
The Manager
The HR personnel
The Interviewers and you yourself.
... make all of una park well.

Lack of job in Naija has turned you to determinants of destiny ba? This could happen to anyone regardless.

God will do another one for the guy. Him fit be ur future interviewer sef. Aimasiko lon damu eda o, oro wa lowo Oluwa lo wa.

Needless, you had to bring it to Nairaland, You no get work for your table?

With your nonsense closing remarks of an advice Abeg I wan ask...

Who you epp?

He reminds me of that man in the movie 'The gods must be crazy.

Wow
Clean Photoshops

This Na can drinks na

Sexual energy is good but it should not be our master. Funny how Masturbation and Master has 'Mastr'. Masturbation is a Master and you are the slave.

However, the reason behind it, the purpose why it's done the frequency and consequences are different from people to people.

It's basically spiritual but it could also be psychological or a mixture of both. But sir, Life in general is basically spiritual.

Some don't see it has a problem, some does.
I noticed you believe it's a problem.

The process

1. Acknowledge and admit it's a BIG problem for you.
2. Admit you can't save your self from this monster Master. This is why the next point is important.
3. Accept the sacrifice of Christ for you. He already paid for your freedom from masturbation. He gives grace and power over it wether its spiritual or psychological. Christ is a Master to all masters.
4. Prayer- This is very important inorder not to relapse/go back to it.
5. Study the Word- Also important, it just does wonders. I don't know how but It renews your mind.
6. You might relapse/go back to d act, pls don't give up. Go back to doing 4 and 5 again and again.

Same goes for pornography, fornication, just sexual issues generally.

Been in both worlds, No b beans

Surulere

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