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Celebrities / Re: Limpopo Crooner Kcee & Wife Publicly Shun Each Other (photos) by balaclava: 9:09pm On May 13, 2018 |
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Celebrities / Re: Beyonce Knowles Surprise Entrance At Met Gala 2018 by balaclava: 7:37pm On May 10, 2018 |
Vanity |
Politics / Re: THE VILLA CURSE: What You Don't Know About The Nigerian Presidential Villa by balaclava: 8:15pm On May 07, 2018 |
There is a time to be born and a time to die. In villa or not people die daily, some who don't loose relatives. It's happening every where every day |
Celebrities / Re: Tiwa Savage Expresses Her Feelings After Partying With Wizkid by balaclava: 9:21am On May 07, 2018 |
Court attention at all cost. Law 6. From the book "48 laws of power" 19 Likes |
Romance / Re: Look At The Picture There And Ur Comment by balaclava: 9:15am On May 07, 2018 |
DeadRat: Ok |
Romance / Re: Look At The Picture There And Ur Comment by balaclava: 8:26pm On May 06, 2018 |
DeadRat:.. |
Crime / Re: Real Possible Pictures Of Offa Armed Bank Robbery Suspects by balaclava: 5:12pm On May 05, 2018 |
Kayode Opadokun Is the only thing I am reading here |
Autos / Re: My Toyota Corolla Was Stolen Yesterday Morning In Surulere by balaclava: 10:24am On May 05, 2018 |
See clean car mehn... But this ur own pass. I console u bro. Take heart. Kip ur head up! Life goes on. 5 Likes |
Crime / Re: Police Nab Three For Vandalising Telecoms Mast - Pictures by balaclava: 11:12am On May 01, 2018 |
[quote]vandalized it and were about zooming off with valuable equipment[quote] Be straightforward, Just write "Police nabs 3 for robbing Telecom mast" which one be vandalize when they zoom off with valuable equipment. |
Religion / Re: Catholic Priest, Kevin Ugoamadi, Attacked During Mass In Imo State by balaclava: 11:03am On May 01, 2018 |
Euouae: Ask google 4 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Sad Pic: Buhari And Nigerian Ambassador To U.s by balaclava: 10:49am On May 01, 2018 |
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Politics / Re: Sad Pic: Buhari And Nigerian Ambassador To U.s by balaclava: 10:04am On May 01, 2018 |
For real? Is that our ambassador to U.S? Let's just sell this country to Britain we need re-colonization. |
Travel / Re: . by balaclava: 9:58am On May 01, 2018 |
Is it me or they all truly look like dolphins 1 Like |
Romance / Re: 12 Things You Need To Know About Dating A Single Mom by balaclava: 6:13pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
shaybebaby: You r entitled to your opinion I don't have issue with with that I like dt mine was clearly & coldly stated though. |
Romance / Re: 12 Things You Need To Know About Dating A Single Mom by balaclava: 4:03pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
7. You will never really be accepted. I have observed time and time again the heartbreak of a step parent as the child gets older. After putting them through school, providing a place to live, food, getting the child all kinds of gifts and honestly really caring about the child. The time comes for a grad or a wedding, the child invites mom and dad to the party; and thanks them for all their love and work. Usually there is not even an acknowledgment of effort. 8. You will have no time for errors. A lot of single men get involved with the single mom and her kids when the child is a bit older. Being inexperienced with children becomes a huge burden as the single man has no time to learn parenting skills; and mistakes are not readily forgiven nor forgotten when a kid is 4 compared to 14. 9. You may think it ends, but it never does. I know many men whose single mom wife promised them a completely different life after junior turned 18 or so. At the beginning of the relationship it looked like just a few years and then total privacy and freedom. but it never does. 10. You will have nothing to show for it. In the end when most men have their own children the work and effort is well worth it. The men did their best and raised a family, continued a line, get grandchildren etc. As a step-parent you have contributed as much but you have nothing. Nobody carries on your name and most men realize they are not even ever thanked for their sacrifice. 11. The legalities can kill you. There have been numerous cases where a man has divorced or left a single mom and then found himself liable financially for her child. Although not the father he will be responsible for child payments, extra fees and most certainly university far after they are 18 check the laws out, it´s a raw deal. Couple that with some alimony and child abuse claims you get the whole effect of being a divorced and homeless dad with not one child of your own. 12. In the end women have asked for their freedom to make their own choices now for decades. I would advise all single men to let single moms make their choice of having a child by themselves and then live with it. Don´t involve yourself with these women under any circumstances. It can be in many ways, the death of a man. My very cold hard fact... My opinion. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: 12 Things You Need To Know About Dating A Single Mom by balaclava: 4:02pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
Here is a short list of problems you may encounter but not limited to these 1. Being a "partner" means you get to pay for half- if not more: I have seen men putting money away for college for a kid that´s not his. Buying ridiculous amounts of brand name clothes, expensive homes etc all in an effort to be in a so-called "family". 2. The Family you just got into is by invitation only: In being a step- parent you are not the basic unit. The mother and child together are the basic unit. No matter what is said or mentioned before marriage, you will never come before her child. You will always be in a family and relationship where you come second, maybe third. 3. No matter what you think her ex is going to be there forever: In just about every case the child´s father does not seem to be in the picture during the dating and courtship stage but seems to suddenly show up after. Just about every time you will be dragged into the endless bickering and fights they have and you will not be liked by him "its only natural remember" 4. Her kid will most likely not like you very much. Let´s face it you´re sleeping with their mom and most of the time the child will see you as a roadblock to his parents getting back together. Most likely the mom has made you the giver of discipline in the relationship, being the man and all which results in the kid hating you. 5. All that time you had together with your new love will end after marriage. The number one job of a single mom is simply to be a mom. She is not a party girl, hiker, camper, biker, clubber etc. Just be prepared for a frontal assault on your time and money after marriage. You will find your weekdays taken up with homework, PTA meetings, suppers at home, and early bed times. Weekends will be the time for the child´s extra-curricular activities and other activities 6. You will wonder what happened to all your money. Most men involved with a single mom report that their money seems to dry up. Children are expensive and expensive like most men have no idea. Between school supplies, clothing, vast amounts of food, babysitters if you ever want to go out, medications, fees, sports, supplies, toys and such; well, there will be little left. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: 12 Things You Need To Know About Dating A Single Mom by balaclava: 4:00pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
For me, it's a NO! (Remember you r not me and we both entitled to our varying opinions) I'm going 2 give the cold hard facts to you comprehensively. Contrary to popular media-myth I have yet to meet a single mom who was career driven, carefree, balanced, happy; doing it all type gal as often portrayed in most media outlets. The reality I have seen over the years is usually a stressed out, overworked, debt stricken woman who really had no idea children cost so much in time, effort and money. Their careers are on hold as they need to balance their child with sickness, school activities etc versus moving up whatever career ladder they are on. Most single moms are raising their children with help of an extended family member (usually their mom), a bevy of friends and other single moms they find in support groups. It is usually not a pretty picture at all. Somewhere along the way, usually quite quickly they come up with the idea that they need a "partner" to help them in their new enterprise of having a child and the sooner they can get one the better. Realizing they have a bit of a disadvantage with having a child and being in the dating scene they resort to several well known strategies to get a partner. One trait that seems to come to the forefront with most men who are dating single moms is just how wonderful a woman they really are. Most men cannot for the life of them figure out why another man would abandon a woman like her. It has been stated that single moms are more caring, compassionate, great lovers, excellent cooks, laugh at all your jokes etc they seem to be ideal mates. No matter what you see as a man there is something else going on do not forget that. Her plan is to eventually get a partner one way or another. You are the prize and she is going to earn it. 4 Likes |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How Much Does Mtn Pay Their Call Center Agent? by balaclava: 3:48pm On Apr 30, 2018 |
[quote author=chrisbaxtian post=67149078] . 3 Likes |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Npowerng 2018 Applicants,here Is What Will Follow After Updating Your Profile by balaclava: 8:20pm On Apr 29, 2018 |
So what is new about this... |
Celebrities / Re: Wizkid And Tiwa Savage In The Same Private Plane by balaclava: 1:23pm On Apr 29, 2018 |
I now know anything is possible after Senator Dino Melaye public harassment n disgrace. Even Wizkid and Tiwa fit dey Sinzu. Anything is possible. Forget age. They both have the needed tools. |
Celebrities / Re: Landlord Takes Cynthia Morgan To Court Over Unpaid Rent, Tax Evasion by balaclava: 8:11am On Apr 28, 2018 |
OKorowanta: Person get housing problem you say make she write song, Na inside song she wan dey live. No wonder she's been low key... Rent probs can so humble u 128 Likes 5 Shares |
Celebrities / Re: See The Xplicit Page Daddy Freeze Follow On IG by balaclava: 8:05am On Apr 28, 2018 |
Let him dt is without sin cast the first stone |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Kim Jung-un Becomes First Leader To Cross Into The South After 65years(Photos by balaclava: 7:41am On Apr 27, 2018 |
Explorers: Yes o When you isolate yourself from developed countries You leave in the past. We r past wearing baggy. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Celebrities / Re: Seems Dbanj As Ran Out Of Clothes What's The Meaning Of This?? by balaclava: 2:21pm On Apr 22, 2018 |
Drugs |
Romance / Re: Sexual Irritable Things U Ve Done by balaclava: 3:26pm On Apr 20, 2018 |
modextus: Amen in Jesus name. No be small thing... it's an addiction that has become a bondage when u get pissed at your self after it but still repeat it. You can't break it on your own man, you ain't got that power, it will always be rinse and repeat, accept the salvation that Jesus gives and you'll stop effortlessly. If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed. John 8.36. A victim writes from experience 1 Like |
Crime / Re: Five Diabolic Things Yahoo Boys Do To Become Wealthy… No. 5 Is Very Dangerous by balaclava: 12:33pm On Apr 19, 2018 |
Yahoo girls nko? Abeg, Create their thread . |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How A Young Man Lost A Job Opportunity by balaclava: 12:20pm On Apr 19, 2018 |
When your village people are on your case and your mother's prayer is not strong enough...... Really? Shioooooooor... Ogbeni park well, Abeg make all of una park well The CEO The Manager The HR personnel The Interviewers and you yourself. ... make all of una park well. Lack of job in Naija has turned you to determinants of destiny ba? This could happen to anyone regardless. God will do another one for the guy. Him fit be ur future interviewer sef. Aimasiko lon damu eda o, oro wa lowo Oluwa lo wa. Needless, you had to bring it to Nairaland, You no get work for your table? With your nonsense closing remarks of an advice Abeg I wan ask... Who you epp? 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: Singer "Brymo" Pose Unclad As He Plays Piano In His New Music Video. by balaclava: 2:46am On Mar 28, 2018 |
He reminds me of that man in the movie 'The gods must be crazy. |
Romance / Re: Checkout These Wierd Combination Of Animals, What Would You Call Them by balaclava: 2:37am On Mar 28, 2018 |
Wow Clean Photoshops |
Business / Re: Bundles Of Money On The Road In Owerri As They Fall Out Of A Bullion Van by balaclava: 2:44pm On Mar 25, 2018 |
This Na can drinks na 52 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: I Am Suffering From Masturbation? Troubled Virgin! Please Help Me? by balaclava: 11:17am On Mar 23, 2018 |
Sexual energy is good but it should not be our master. Funny how Masturbation and Master has 'Mastr'. Masturbation is a Master and you are the slave. However, the reason behind it, the purpose why it's done the frequency and consequences are different from people to people. It's basically spiritual but it could also be psychological or a mixture of both. But sir, Life in general is basically spiritual. Some don't see it has a problem, some does. I noticed you believe it's a problem. The process 1. Acknowledge and admit it's a BIG problem for you. 2. Admit you can't save your self from this monster Master. This is why the next point is important. 3. Accept the sacrifice of Christ for you. He already paid for your freedom from masturbation. He gives grace and power over it wether its spiritual or psychological. Christ is a Master to all masters. 4. Prayer- This is very important inorder not to relapse/go back to it. 5. Study the Word- Also important, it just does wonders. I don't know how but It renews your mind. 6. You might relapse/go back to d act, pls don't give up. Go back to doing 4 and 5 again and again. Same goes for pornography, fornication, just sexual issues generally. Been in both worlds, No b beans 2 Likes |
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