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gotnel:
A woman who expected her man to be faithful to her alone is not stupid. A man who is not faithful to one woman is also not missing the line, he is only been natural.

Thank you, that's the point.

This post is a direct response to this "Any Lady That Expects Her Husband To Be With Only Her Is Plain Stupid" here https://www.nairaland.com/3811073/lady-expects-husband-only-plain

I don't understand why a Virtuous woman who does everything to make sure her man is comfortable in all aspects of marital life should be called stupid for expecting her man to be with only her forever.

I think some men needs to be flogged every morning when they wake from bed and also before they go to bed in the night, the writer of the above post is one of them.

To cheat now is not even a secret anymore, and it is something every man should do and be proud of according to what the writer.

Well, ladies! the good thing is this, any man who cheat should be treated like a toddler not even a boy.

One thing i don't even understand is the reason why men should think they are the only one free to seek sexual pleasure outside their marriage, forgetting that what is good for one goose is good for another goose.

You ain't stupid for desiring a good future free of war for yourself and your children as you know the effect of marital rivalry which may ensue when a stupid man mis-use the rod behind his legs.

If you can say she is stupid for demanding that her man should be for only her, what then should we call you who supports that a man should waste all the energy that should be used to satisfy the woman sexually?

If after you have wondered about with the antenna and there is no energy left for erection you will now be shouting foul when she seeks pleasure outside.

Oh! You think she should keep fasting and praying that it should come up?

You should be ashamed as a man if your woman can be completely faithful to only you, yet, you feel the only way to pay her for being loyal is to share the true bond which she enjoys secretly and legally for that matter with another woman who might even be carrier of STD?

As a man, what will go through your mind when you catch your woman moaning under another man?

The experience is unthinkable right? Why not just put yourself in her shoes before calling her stupid.

They know you cheat but pretends that all is well because you have never been caught.

Despite the fact that you are unfaithful she still trust you and accept that the TV is white and black because you said that is what it is when it is obvious to the blind it is coloured.

She turned deaf ears to the rumor and experiences of others, yet, all you can call her is stupid?

That antenna should be crucified the day you are caught in the act.

Respect is one thing that shouldn't be thrown to the gutter in an ideal marriage, the moment you can relate your sex escapades to your wife without fear you don't deserve any respect anymore from such woman as you have disrespected her woefully.

Please, it is important that if a woman can be respectful and faithful, every man should learn to at least accord her the necessary respect she deserves even if you cannot try to be as loyal as she is.

To all the good and loyal women out there; you are extremely wonderful and a blessing to a man who knows your worth. May the day you cried out of the womb to the world be blessed.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/re-any-lady-that-expects-her-husband-to.html

This is a very sensitive issue as it requires exceptional tolerance from both sides as the parties involved knew from the start that they are religiously not on the same ground.

Men are by nature Supreme among the two sexes and when it comes to decision making their opinion is the conclusion, especially in Africa, so, it is expected that the woman must submit even her religion.

Some men will convince a woman before marriage that she can continue with her religion, but it will be different story after marriage.

Even inside same religion we have different doctrines and there is still issue when it comes to submission of one doctrine for another let alone complete submission of one's
religion for another.

When it come to love we believe in oneness, therefore, i believe it should be agreement between the couple, it shouldn't be a one-man decision if indeed love exist.

Man should allow the woman make her decision as it was through her consent the marriage was sealed.

If she chooses to continue with her own religion or doctrine let her be and good for you if she submits to your own religion or doctrine as there is no crime if you as a man submit yours for her own completely too as it all boils down to understanding between the two.

What is your take on the issue, will you allow your woman to continue with her religion after marriage?


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/bamisepeter.com-will-you-allow-your-spouse-to-practice.html

Even though we think we want to be ourselves, one way or the other we care about what people say.

We dress to impress, drive the latest cars to show we are there, use the best cream to look good outside with other great makeups.

Do you realise that we are sometimes being pushed by others?

Why is it that you look after some people? Don't you think that our sense of morality is because of what others might say about us?

We really care about what others say or feel about us and this is why we are trying all we can to be good. If we don't care about what people say then we will be able to judge many through their appearance.

Even those who involve themselves in robbery, prostitution, corruption etc are doing it for the sake of looking good and for others around them to say they are there too.

Why is it that you have a terrible secret you keep, why are you not saying it out for all to see or hear, isn't it because you care about what they say or feel about you?

Or have you forgotten that at times we use what we have to push what we want others to think or say about us into them? Our politicians do this often which works for them despite the fact that they still do otherwise when they are elected.

Life wouldn't be what it is if it is just only one person that is in it. I do think we even need to care about what others say about us as it makes us to achieve more.

Only a lazy being will not care about what others think about them.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/dont-you-really-care-about-what-other.html

Just like tribalism, religious segregation is another issue we need to deal with in relationship.

Now-a-days, some parents will state it clearly to their children the religion their spouse must belong to before any consideration whatsoever.

Some individuals also draw religious restrictions when they want to date as they claim they cannot cope with other religions.

Personally, I think religion should have nothing to do with relationship as they are two different issues and it shouldn't be used as yardstick to determine success or failure of any relationship.

No one can undo the blindness of love as it doesn't choose.

It is very obvious that religion is one of the greatest causes of war among nations of the world, yet we claim to preach almost the same doctrine.

Religious intolerance is one big factor against love which is not suppose to be so.

At this age, we shouldn't be bias religiously, people should be free to make their choice from any religion outside their own.

You shouldn't condemn nor force any religion on someone as relationship is even more enjoyed when the two people involved are from different religious groups just as the families involved are two unrelated families in all spheres.

This is my personal opinion, kindly share your opinion on this issue.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/a-christian-or-muslim-spouse-which.html

"Why am I struck with sadness three months after my break up?"

The above is the question that prompted this post.

It is normal to be unhappy and emotionally weak after a break up, don't forget; break-up is for relationship, allowing or disallowing it in your relationship is another issue entirely.

There is no generally acceptable nor legal commandment as regards how long you should get over a break-up as it is individual dependant.

If you are the victim here, you need to think or be moody as result of the break-up especially when you gave your all to make the relationship work.

Relationship is a 50-50 chances, that is, the success of any relationship ending in marriage cannot be ascertain till after the wedding celebration, so, break-up shouldn't be something you cannot do without.

If you are married, then you can throw away break-up to the gutter as it has been sealed till death.

You shouldn't allow break-up take the whole of you for too long.

I am human, and even if i haven't experienced it i have read and heard about it and i have also seen and counselled some people in that condition, so, i know how it feels.

You really need to do everything in your capability to forget about him/her as they have already moved on and not even your dead body can make them come back to you, so why are you disturbing your emotion.

You are thinking about all you did, the money you spent to make sure he/she is comfortable, those you have ignored because of him/her, the time you have spent together and the beautiful moments you have shared together.

Well, it is normal, and you really have done so much, however, accept him/her to be an orphan who you needed to help which you did perfectly.

The fact is that we are at times bound to meet some people who will teach us the way to go about things, take this issue to be that they came into your path for you to learn in order to be better.

Learn from what you think they have done wrong and that they think you also did wrong so as to be better.

The thought about them will always come to your memory, you need to clear it off immediately it comes by getting busy or thinking of something else.

You can also meet with your friends, spend some time and moments with them, share your feelings and everything with them to clear bad memories of your ex.

When you are lonely, let the positive things you have learnt, what you have achieved and what you hope to achieve to fill your your thought.

Don't allow it to affect the way you deal with people of opposite sex so as not to send away your potential lover. Don't assume everyone are the same, if everyone are the same then, there is possibility you are also a wrong choice of partner for a good man/lady.

If you did your part the way it should be done be rest assured they will regret it one day, they will not tell you, only few go back to seek forgiveness which in most cases will be too late as the victim will have moved on successfully, they will pretend till death take them.

It is human to fall, the rise is what makes a man what and who he/she is.

Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/how-to-get-over-break-up.html

Love can be so funny at dealing with some people. You see someone who is highly educated settling down with a complete illiterate. A damsel choosing a complete definition of ugliness at the expense of handsome men.

This can also be linked to women or girls that steak with a man who beat them morning, afternoon and night , yet they will tell you they cannot just leave him, “I love him and I know he will change one day”, perhaps in your grave.

A man who claims to love you shouldn’t be bold to raise his hands to hit you. His goal should be to make you happy and not to inflict pains on you.

Yes, women can be annoying sometimes; this is the first thing every man must understand before proposing to her and you should have learnt how to control yourself when they want to act like what they are (woman).

Some of their actions and conclusions may be deadly; this does not call for infliction of pains on them.

Some women will say “I am staying because of my children”, very funny, like those children will not live their lives if you are not alive.

Your life is very important; don’t allow a beast to kill you in his own house all because he paid the necessary dues for you to be legally taken by him and his family unless your family gave him the certificate of your death which they signed when they handed you over to him.

You can keep other issues private, but that of battery, so far he is inflicting pains on the outside part of you it is good to let his family and your people know as fast as possible, don’t wait till he has damaged half of your body before you will expose his barbaric act.

Please be informed that battery is not part of the “for better, for worse” you signed, it is even against the law that tied you in the first place.

Some men will beat you in the morning, beg you in the afternoon and you will conclude it is a mistake.

The day he starts it and you keep quiet you have added another laurel to his cabinet, he will do it another day and you will rub it with your hands again and will still get beaten in the bed (you understand) later that day.

Please run for your life, don’t let him kill you in the name of love. He might have once loved you, the day he start raising his hands to hit you he has started hating you, because one of the important characteristics of love is tolerance, the day it turns to intolerance, then, world war III is imminent, please run away from brutality.

source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2017/05/if-he-hits-youheis-not-amanhe-is.html

Don’t be afraid, it is not how this topic sounds it is in reality completely but partially in Russia. In Russia domestic violence was decriminalized, thereby supporting it to some extent.

You will be made to pay fine and do some environmental sanitation or domestic works as punishment for a fixed period of time if you are caught.

They believe this will reduce the interference of government in marriages.

Fine or domestic punishment to me isn’t enough for domestic violent as we have seen how bad some men are at controlling their temper and the brutal effect is an eye-saw.

I think they should be made to face the law. Possibly, the woman that moved such bill into law has not seen the kind of domestic violence we see here in Nigeria. Ranging from that of father to child and of husband to their wife.

Now, what that law says is that for those kind of men that did these to those women should just pay fine and clear the gutter for just a fixed period of time and not be called criminal and thrown into the prison?

Let me say this will not work in Nigeria, many men will be so glad and throw caution to the gutters. Those thieves called politicians will not even border keeping our money inside the grave yard or an empty building anymore, instead, they will prefer to physically abuse women since they have the money in abundance with no where to keep them.

Women should then run from the rich guys since it is just the money they will pay for that outrageous plastering and negative re-shaping.

Just like religion has successfully curbed immoralities in our society to a large extent, same also has the law to criminalize the perpetrators of domestic violence in Nigeria and other countries around the world.

Someone who can cause extreme pain on others is liable to kill which makes such person dangerous to the society and they should be made to face the full wrath of law so as to be a deterrent for would-be offenders.

source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/05/if-he-beats-you-it-means-he-loves-you.html

This a an answer to a question a follower on another social network platform asked.

If she is still without a lover you are lucky. Notwithstanding, you have a lot to do.

If she also loves you there is large possibility she will accept you back because when woman loves they do it completely.

Don't expect that she will agree so fast or immediately, because even if she will say YES again she will make you work harder for it, so you must be ready to be as patient as possible as you are the one that have realized you made a mistake to have left her.

You must make her understand you now know what it takes to care for her, to cherish her and to always put smiles on her face.

You must prove to her you are no more into other ladies that life has thought you to be contented which you are set to show to her.

You need to also convince those you know she cannot do without so as to assist you to plead to her for second chance, even if you will need to pretend to be sorry you just have to.

You must also be ready to be as transparent as possible to her in case she finally agrees.

If she does, the second chance will not be as easy as you think it will be. She will be on the watch for so long before she can trust you again, remember, you caused it, and now you must try all best possible to to fulfil your promises as failure to do so will cost you more than your expectations.


You can also add you own advise, a tree cannot make a forest you know.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/05/how-to-get-lady-you-have-cheated-on-to.html

Arsenalholic1:
I don't understand...

OP asked a question, and only him still answered it.

Woh.. lemme coman be going, because if I start talking about bobbie now, the talk will not end today

Lol

My answer to this question "My boyfriend is obsessed with my breasts. Every morning he would kiss me and then grope me. Is it normal?"

Tell him about it and possibly make him see reasons why he must reduce the obsession, let him know the effect of is obsession to the way you think about him and your relationship for a possible adjustment because for you to have asked this question it means you are indifferent about it.

But have it at the back of your mind that he might also convince you to believe his obsession is necessary and if you must stop him be ready to make sure he isn't being obsessed about someone else's breast outside.

If not, i will advise you learn to enjoy it as the cause of infidelity for men most times is because we need to get what we are denied at home someone where else.

On a general note, most men are not contented with their woman, denying them of what they are used to can make their reason for lack of contentment genuine.

Some are contented and ready to abide by what you want, however, temptation will make them fall, we all want to be like Jesus, it is a wish, reality is what we are dealing with here as humans and not some sort of spirit in human flesh.

Women that allows there husband to do all sorts with their body still complain of the infidelity of their men let alone you who is complaining of just breast obsession, he will feel embarrased and stop, but stopping him from doing it with other woman might be a third world war if not handled properly.

So many people deal with different things in their relationship/marriage, enjoy yours too and accept as fate.

Make sure you treat your breast the best way so that he will keep being obsessed about it forever, even if that will be what will make him to be loyal when you are completely married.

On a lighter mood, i hope your breast does not depreciate before wedding and child birth, the good thing is that proper care of it can do more magic.

Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/he-is-so-obsessed-with-my-breast-and-i.html

While in the university i used to think there are some girls that merely looking at their appearance they are big for guys to approach.

To me, they are hot that their dress, make-up, steps, group are more than something i can imagine.

I used to say within myself men cannot approach this girls because i feel they belong to another world.

Even without make up they are exceptionally hot, the figures are more than appealing to human senses that i used to think ordinary men cannot even face them without black magic.

Later when i moved along i got to know that no matter how hot a lady can be she will be approached by men because as we have the hot ladies we also have super hot men.

I have also been made to realise that even these so called hot girls go for not so hot men that you will be amazed at their choice of man, not because there are no handsome guys that will go along with their hotness but because they also have other things they watch out for in a man.

I have seen many of them go for men with no attractive looks, but to them the man has got something unique in him that cannot be seen outside.

No matter how hot you are, men will always approach you except if you have metaphysical issues.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2017/05/are-there-any-hot-girls-that-dont-get.html

youngest85:
Firebaby, ere kini aja nba ekun she?

bad dude lol.

The question is extremely funny but sure, there are still some men who don't involve in extra marital affairs.

We have seen so many instances where women do all best possible to make sure their man is as loyal as anything but all proved abortive at the end.

She cooks the best food, wears the latest outfit, use the best of best make-ups, do everything humanly possible to be attractive everyday, yet, all seeds still fell on rocky ground.

We have heard of even servants of God who get involved in extra marital affairs.

*These* are people we trust with our understanding and we believe in what comes out of their mouth, but they also failed.

Notable actors and singers who we consider as icon that we suppose to learn from them also failed.

The list is endless and we might even get convinced and confused if we continue mentioning the list.

With all this, it doesn't mean that there are no completely loyal men out there and at least we can all point out at one around us.

Don't be deceived, it is not easy to be loyal but determination, prayer and contentment can make any man overcome the temptation.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/05/is-there-still-man-with-no-extra.html

Having an opposite sex as a best friend isn't an issue worth fighting over. This doesn't mean that they must have romantic affection towards each other if they know how to draw the lines.

The major reason some of such relationship ends in romantic affair is because the two lacks emotional control.

Many times, spouse of those two get bothered of the closeness between their man/woman and their opposite sex close friend due to what they probably have heard of the cause of some broken relationships which they will not want to experience.

When you cannot control your emotion you cannot and should not choose an opposite sex as a best friend.

At times, even those that are very strong emotionally fall victim let alone someone who is very weak.

If you must choose an opposite sex as a best friend, you must be able to draw the boundaries between that friendship so as not to make your spouse get jealous or be suspicious as a result of the fear of the unknown.

Having an opposite sex as best friend is not an issue, managing it is the issue which requires great caution as some circumstances can make you fall victim.

Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/do-you-have-best-friend-of-opposite-sex.html

Side-chick as mentioned in this topic is not just referring to the female gender but but sexes.

I was baffled when a lady said that she will definitely have another man outside her marriage as her fiance cannot go more than one round or two at most when they make love.

If you have managed to be faithful during courtship which is the time to know each other before making the oath which seals the relationship, then, you should have accepted your fate as you cannot get all of it in your partner.

This is not just a woman thing, it is so surprising and extremely funny that men that struggle to even go a second round fornicates, what then do you have left to satisfy your woman who is trying all best possible to cope with your little fault?

To have settled with a man/woman means he/she is perfect for you among the rest.

To spark up the relationship all you need to do is to try something new with your partner and look for solutions together to make some of the imperfection to turn perfect just for you.

When you fornicate as a man you spend more, you expose yourself to series of infections thereby putting the rest of the family in danger.

As a woman, you risk loosing the home you have built for years and the negative effect of your children living without you is enormous.

It is never easy to be with a partner for so long, however, we must try to learn to do to others what we can accept.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/side-chick-is-not-just-distraction-but.html

This is a question one of my blog readers asked me and i was speechless at the sound of it. This is one of those anxieties jealousy can cause.

Jealousy is one thing anyone cannot run from in a relationship, the level only differs and one must try to guide against its negative effect.

Knowing a best friend, an opposite gender's number off hand isn't a problem at all as it is very possible and nothing special.

That doesn't imply that they are dating or something more than friendship is between them.

Though many are always afraid when it comes to opposite sex being a best friend to their spouse, but the truth is that not all the times what you think comes to reality.

Accepted, you need to be so cautious, however, you shouldn't allow that to be so obvious which will make your spouse to begin to doubt your trust towards him/her because the other person might not even be aware that the first person knows his/her number off hand.

Some people are good with numbers and some are good at cramming that seeing a number just once is enough for that number to steak let alone a best friend's number.

Concentrate at doing all you can to be the best your spouse ever had, this can go a longer way than you ever imagined.

If anything will happen against your relationship try not to be the cause but the victim so as to be proud when it is time to give account.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/05/can-someone-know-opposite-sex-best.html

OP, if you know how much it topk me to get to this level in my blogging career you will not term it lazy, it's your opinion though.

Relationship is not for two perfect beings, in fact, no relationship will last if any of the parties involved is claiming to be perfect.

In a relationship, no matter how hard you try, you can never attain perfection for your spouse, there will be a flaw and neither can your spouse be perfect, just that only the two of you knows and tolerate the flaw of each other which is unknown to those outside.

You are only perfect if you want to marry yourself.

No matter how hard you make yourself look perfect either your emotion or mood or thought or action etc will fail you and render you completely imperfect, you can only be honest to your partner.

Honesty is one thing that is common and attainable even when it is been tampered with.

It is still this same honesty you can expect and get from your spouse as that is one of the attributes needed to hold a relationship and not perfection.

The moment you try to be perfect is when your errors become obvious and gradually you destroy what you have laboured to build as you will expect the same from your spouse which you will never get.

Remember, for you to enjoy a long lasting relationship you need to shun perfection.

Understanding, tolerance and honesty will go farther than acting or seeking perfection.


Source: http://bamisepeters..in/2017/04/in-relationship-don-try-to-be-perfect.html

Foget O, i Have tried Some Of Them When I Was Begging Adsense, none Of Them should Even Be Compared With Adsense. Those Ones Are The Group 2 While Adsense Is One And Only.

Life is beautiful they say when you have all going well for you. The bitter truth is that everything cannot always go the way we want or plan it to go.

No relationship is 100% certain to be successful at first until we see its success or failure at the end despite the rigorous promises to turn garbage to palace.

Some do fulfil their promises while some others fall apart while working to make their promise come alive, not because they are not serious or something but because things that needs to be equal never surface despite serious attempts and the two honorably dissolve the relationship.

Those who fall in the categories of those above are not the bone of contention here, but those sharp and tricky.

They know their plans already and they executed the plan perfectly forgetting the other person is a human being who can be disturbed emotionally as result of their own plans.

Some even came with plans to do things right but at the long run they fall to temptation as they cannot keep having an affair with just one person, so you catch them in the act.

You don't need any revenge against them, all you need do is to recover as fast as possible as there are many good guys/ladies who really worth you and are seriously waiting to meet you.

There is no generally acceptable nor legal revenge against any bad ex if you don't want to end up where you shouldn't be.

The truth is that no matter how smart or tricky someone might think they are they will definitely meet someone who will outsmart them. They will keep enjoying the success of their bad plans or actions till nature deals with them.

Though not all of them are been dealt with by nature nor fall in the hands of smarter ones.

However, all you need do is to forget them as quick as possible and do all you can so as never to fall into wrong hands again.

Also, try to look good that when they see you after a long while they will want to come back after realizing the huge mistake they have made, but your appearance will make them beat them self to comma as you are in the hands of someone who knows your worth.

The look on their face when such happens will bring the needed satisfaction to you. Some will hide the reaction when they see that their action never affected you but strengthened you instead.

Your tough quick and positive response after the breakup is a great weapon that can beat any smart man or tricky woman to their toes.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/04/the-best-revenge-against-traumatic-ex.html

As we know that men always want to dominate every aspect of their family leaving the kitchen and other home chores to the woman.

Some or all of these will not work when you wish to settle down with women in the following professions:

1. Teacher:

If she is a teacher or lecturer, it is expected she is up-to-date in her field. To marry this kind of woman requires that you are also updated to save yourself from being downgraded by her.

She will always be ready to prove to you that she knows what she is saying and any attempt to belittle her knowledge will be put to test through though argument.

2. A lawyer:

She knows the law, if you are not one it is better you are careful with your dealings with such woman.

When you buy properties or when something is binding you together, you must be wise at drawing the lines and always be at alert so as not to loose all at the twinkling of an eye.

3. Force:

This kind of women as law enforcement agent will not allow you to manipulate with her rights and freedom for anything sake.

I prefer this kind of women for men who love battering other women. You dare not raise up your hand at her as she will have given you 2 or more slaps before you land even if your intention was to kill mosquito on her head.

If you don't watch your argument with them i pray it doesn't end nasty.

4. Nurse:

Due to what women in this profession have seen at work, they are emotionless.

Some things you consider to be emotional are of little or no importance to them.

With what i have read about them, one similar thing i learnt is that most of them are cold in bed because of the series of things they have seen at work.

5. Banker:

Women who belong to this category goes to work early and comes back late at night.

Most times when they get back they are tired, especially when they are placed in a busy environment.

Days you expect that they should be with their family, it is possible they get emergency call to duty. In short, they are restless as they are in charge of the legal tender.

6. Actress:

With all sorts they do on the screen, it takes an extremely patient man to love them forever.

Findings shows that actress are wealthier that their male counterpart and they get so much intoxicated by the wealth even over their husband.

You hear of their marriage today and before the following year they will be crying for divorce.

One common thing among women in all those mentioned profession except teacher, not lecturer this time is that, they don't have time for their family, so don't expect 50% home attention from them let alone 70%.

Most times, you will enjoy them when you have a helper, not necessarily a maid or when your money can pay other people to render the services they suppose to perform excluding the duty in the inner room.

Don't forget, women are not housemaid and shouldn't be treated as one, they need to be helped, it is good for the man and the woman to generate income, so also it is fine to help each other in all spheres.

Before you start the relationship with anyone in those fields, make sure you are ready for the great task ahead so as not to start crying foul, because, woman that owns their own business are not being enjoyed by their family let alone those in this sensitive professions.


Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/04/some-professions-you-should-be-wary-of.html

This write-up is a response to the post I prefer my man beating me than cheating on me by Somtoo.

There might be large difference between cheating and beating. I know for a lady to have made that statement that she prefer to be beaten than cheated on means such lady does not understand what it means to be battered.

Yes, through cheating you might contact STD from your man which might also be incurable, however only a beast will prefer that option.
You can only choose that option if you are a good boxer.

Non of the two is good, in fact battery is worst as it can easily send you to the other world, instead, why not go for a divorce because most men who beats also cheat.

The truth is that someone who claims to love you will not think of raising his hand to harm you, but he can still love you and cheat on you as some men cheat to cover the errors of the one they claim to love, while some others do it as pressure demands and for pleasure. I am not supporting it but just saying the reality.

Before you can call it cheating it means he is doing it without your knowledge and he is afraid to let you know which is a sign of respect needed for any relationship to be healthy.

Never settle for battery as the result is over harmful. I think it is better for him to cheat.

Like i usually tell those women who seek advice from me, it is not good for any woman to be idle, full house wife should never be an option, not just because of the economic situation, you will only give yourself hypertension when you find out your man is cheating when you don't have something fetching you your own money.

Respect your man, honor him, however you must make sure you can be financially responsible for yourself and at least two children in case of the unknown future as men can unknowingly make that mistake.

If at the end of it all he legalizes the cheating, by then, financial support, emotional attachment will all be shared and no one will query his decision.

When you are financially independent you care less about him cheating because non-engagement can lead a woman to start investigating what shouldn't be investigated just to keep busy.
I am not advocating for cheating, it is a no no for me too but it is much more better than battery as many men involve in it with their senses open in order for you to be safe while they enjoy.

Cheating doesn't mean he doesn't love you, the day you catch him is when you know how much he loves you.

Cheating is better than battery, however, a man should learn to be faithful to just her just like you want her to be faithful to you alone.


Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/01/most-men-that-beat-also-cheat.html

There is time for everything even when you are married to him. Time to laugh, time to scream, time to whine and dine with each other and also time to stay quite quiet.

A man is likely to hit you when he is under the influence of alcohol no matter the quantity of what he has taken.

Alcohol can turn a responsible man to a beast if taken wrongly. If this is the case, why must a responsible man take alcohol?

The above is a question begging for answers. It is for relaxation and to pass time, possibly with friends according to the consumers. Not that it is for non-responsible men alone, it is for all, but when not taken responsibly it becomes against one.

This period when he has taken it, he is prone to get angry at things he will not be mad at on a normal circumstances, however, a woman needs to thread with caution at this moment in time.

And at the point you get him angry when he is under the influence of alcohol just know that whatever you say at this junction will be used against you.

"Cars are parked at owners risk", if you are not careful at this point, you are definitely on your own.

Let's forget that you can sue him, you can report him, what about the deed that has already been done?

When he is tipsy just allow him rest after you have given him a good meal; for a responsible man though, and that is if he will eat the food. Don't castigate him for taking it, give him what he wants at that point in time.

However, if it is something you are unable to give to him that moment you need to be polite at rejecting his desire.

Even if you want to scold him, just do that after he has woken up, when he is relieved, and when you can hold him responsible for his actions.

This is also applicable to women who drinks, the men should also do the above when she is in such situation.

Some cases of battery can be avoided.


Source: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/04/he-is-likely-to-hit-you-when-he-is.html

Trying to get information from people in marriage as a blogger and counselor in the field and i got this shocker, maybe not a surprise to many though, but i will like us to talk about this...

A lady said that no man is not guilty of having secret lover(s) outside his marriage/relationship on less he is a broke dude.

This statement made me realize why some women do all in their capability to make their man as broke as church rat, thinking if he has the money he will not concentrate as many ladies will run after him even if he is not going after them, and, he might fall into temptation one day, forgetting that they will bear the brunt together.

I think this is the greatest fallacy i have heard in relationship in recent times or am I just being bias on this issue?


Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2017/04/in-relationship-guys-is-this-true.html

Franchise21:
U life in Ibadan?

can't someone use one's ascent to type in peace again?

We can now wear native to interviews provided it is on monday or Wednesday, it is official no be so?

Don't get it alltwisted, sex is one major element in any relationship, however, choice and timing of sex in a relationship can make you hate/cherish the actual sense of relationship.

Though, there are many relationships whereby within one week they have gone through rivers and valleys with each other, yet, they are still much stronger than those who studied themselves for several months or years before experiencing se x with each other.

READ ALSO: REASONS WHY S*X ISN'T LOVE

That is to say, duration of the relationship before se x does not determine the intention or future of the relationship.
However, if all he clamours about is sex, it is a sign of warning as he is already telling you what he wants.

Run from this kind of man as even in a decent relationship the sex comes naturally and not by you saying it day after day and not by just one party's consent but the two.

His interest is in the se x, just start packing your emotional loads from him and don't allow him give your heart a hole if you know you are not ready and you know it is not time, let him find his type.

Truth must be told, a man who genuinely loves you can still hold himself for more than two months, and will not keep ringing the se x bell to your hears just within two months like you are a se x machine.

If you are not the type that demand for material things from him which may be the cause of some guys who believes when you show women the colors of money they lie down flat to keep shouting se x as that is the only thing such guys can get in return from you, then, you need to run.

SHE SHOULD JUST RUN.


SOURCE: http://bamisepeters..nl/2017/04/re-moment-when-what-he-only-ask-for-is.html

kanayogod:
I beg to differ, sir. They ship to wrong address even wrong countries!

this is laughable

All of you saying customer service is bad here in the country, you are right sha because the job owners don't value those customer service representatives. The salary is nothing to write home about, welfare is zero so i agree it is nothing here in Nigeria.

obi123:
you are welcome,, i was a bit hasty with my first response , my apologies

joyfully accepted.

drkhenny:
The truth must be told. For any woman to think of sharing chores with her husband is a classical example of a misplaced priority. A responsible and loving husband knows his duty and definetly will know when to help. Its not a duty of a wife to instruct or give orders to her husband. From generation to generations it has been the duty of a woman to take care of the house and a man to provide the needs of the family. For those that think that my wife is working and also making money, then we should share the chores accordingly are just making fool of themselves because for any amount your wife makes it still doesnt belong to you and she wont share it with you. As a woman, if you are an advocate of gender equality, you are gradually destroying your own marriage. Even God said you should respect your husband

you raise a valid point many ignored. Thank you for the light you brought to this topic.