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ClassicQueen:
Hello fam...i have an issue disturbing me that is why i am bringing it here since a problem shared is a problem half solved.
My Ex Boyfriend that i have not seen for more than four Years now have been calling me all of a sudden that we need to see........

Please, what made you guys become ex to each other in the first place?

Talk2Bella:
Can't do that dear, not everyone on nairaland reads my blog can't ask my readers to come here for answers na

No, that is not what i mean. Your reply will be in your blog for the blog readers, you just copy the issue alone and paste here so that some people will not feel you have already answered, let them participate too.

OP, you have really tried to have pointed out those points, kudos to you.

However...

In a real situation some men are just naturally like that and they are harmless, the list is not always true is all situations.

You said he comes home late, that got me confused, are you talking about married couple or fresh relationship?

Cutehector:
Girls, remember Cynthia Okusogu oooooooooooooooooooo

for you to have remembered, you try.


It is better you invite him over to avoid stories that touch the heart.

I just hope the guy will not write Talk2Bella tomorrow telling us to advice him too as regards him traveling to meet her.

It is not just horrible and no matter the adjective you use, it will not change the fact that what is not got is just simply not good. It can be fun but nasty when caught, the Beauty is to cheat and not to get caught. But, for the fact that you engage in something that you must not be caught doing is enough to prove the insensibility of of the act.

NOBODYY:
Talk2bella you give questions and you answer it yourself..
i dont see where we come in anymore
Or do you need my dïck

ok, if i can get you, you want it to be that she should post the issue alone here without her advice while we discuss it? Talk2Bella it might be a nice idea...

NOBODYY:
Talk2bella you give questions and you answer it yourself..
i dont see where we come in anymore
Or do you need my dïck
And she says...

and she says...

Talk2Bella:
No I don't

dollyjoy:
To be frank, i prefer masturbation to having sex with a partner i don't see a future with.

Thank God for your life op

i love it when ppl don't hide their feelings about things than to pretend. The only question i will ask is why are you seeing no future in a partner? Please dont be angry.

Damilolababy:
I just Join nairaland... and am loving it here...hope am welcome.. Tomorrow is also My birthday... Everybody......

you are here you are welcome... We offer relationship tips and advice here so let's know if you have any relationship questions tomorrow and you will surely get quality answers from brilliant romancelanders. Happy birthday in advance.

NevetsIbot:
For all I care... She should be financially okay and hard working... If my mum could be financially independent and my sisters could be financially independent and not lazy, i see no reason why the woman I will marry would not learn to make her own money herself. As in... Only girls depend on a man for all her financial need including petty things like airtime and clothes.

It doesn't mean I won't do stuffs for her, lil gifts will be there also.

just hold on for my post to comment now, i like your enthusiasm though.

NevetsIbot:
I'll do my part all right! As long as she isn't a liability

this is exactly what my next post is about...

Talk2Bella:
what if she accepts the proposal and he wants to wed ASAP?

all still boils down to carrying him along, they took the decision together from the start, he must be fully involved in all decision.

EmperorLee:
Which girl no dey touch herself?

this means all, not most as you now claim.

tukdi:
Na idol she beeee to deserve all those kind things? Mtcheeeeew!


Op, what u've stated above is too much sha!

but keeping your child in the womb for 9 months with the pain attached to delivery is not much right? I think you just feel like being a woman instead right now...

NevetsIbot:
I'm sorry.... I don't agree with this. Whoever will be unfaithful will be unfaithful... Whteher you climb mount kilimanjaro with only nairls for her.

at least you will not be blamed you didn't do your part, isn't it?

When you get a good woman you do not need a prophet to tell you, little wonder why they say he who finds a woman finds a good thing and favour from God.

 

You have gotten her already, i have just some few things you need to do to make her faithful to you for life. These are:


1. Show her money:


As your woman she knows when you are buoyant financially or otherwise.

It is not a matter of the woman loving you because of money here.


You need to shower her with unexpected gifts, shopping and take her out for either lunch, dinner or whichever you choose even if it is once in a while.


Even if you are not loved because of money doesn't mean you should not show it to her once in a while, don't take her understanding for granted.


2. Give her good sex


Yes i said so. But hey! Definition of good sex differs from one woman to another. 


To some it is short and sharp and to others it is long till climax is reached.

To some they need to be serviced often and to some probably like 4-10  times in a month meanwhile at times it is just to even satisfy you the man.


The quality of sex differs from one man to another that it is only those involved that knows how it is for them, so it is important that the man understand how qualitative the wife desires in their sex life.


3. Spent quality time with her


If you think you must make money 24/7 so that you can keep your woman, you might be right but just know that the money you make will go a long way to make her pay for what ever she desires in you that you are not available to give her.


Money is important but the time too with her is very essential. She needs to gist with you, play with you(some women are cat you know?) and express her feeling with you. There are decisions she wishes to take but needs you to share them with for advice.


She will be more than single if you are not giving her this opportunity to stretch her wings.


4. Appreciate her even when she is wrong


We are humans and bound to make errors, be appreciative when she goes wrong.


Her food is salty today, still say thank you that she was even able to cook it because it is not always like that, there are moment of errors, condemning her when she makes mistakes is like saying she is not human.


Appreciating her when she is is wrong makes her to always want to do it right to keep you.


5. Give her some free moment


You love her, we know you do, but it is necessary you let her go out to socialize with friends and family once in a while remember before you she had them and most of them will still be there after you are gone and whatever you allow her do with them when you are available will go a long way at smiling back at you in your absence.


Don't be selfish, let her feel the other love that is completely different from that of two coming together to become one.


Women deserves to be treated like baby, even if you go through hardship to secure quality living for her and all she do is to sit home all day long, she deserves to be treated like a queen.


Treat her well and see her glued to you like 21st century ladies glued to season films.



Source: http://bamisepeters..com/2016/09/men-5-steps-on-how-to-make-woman-to-be.html

Nice one. She just need to keep him informed on the issue as they both agreed from Inception, that should not stop her from accepting the proposal, if she reject the proposal that will be a huge blow and issues will start arising. He must be carried along on the issue at work without missing any bit no matter how tiny it is.

EmperorLee:
Which girl no dey touch herself?

you mean all women masturbates?

If you cant romance it is just a simple issue that solutions will come naturally if he is good at romance. If he is good, i mean a romance guru no one will teach you to romance him back as it will flow in you once you start feeling him. You are not in the mood, if he puts you in the mood you will not know when you will start responding to his romance and you will be shocked when he starts telling you how good you were at romance when the 2 of you wakes.

He does not need you to tell him you care, your response, reaction during that period matters, that will tell him if you really love him or not.

AFOLABISUG1:
I agree with u. Come to think of it, the parent of the girl will literarily killbthe boy if they find out

love has so many characteristics that we discover almost every day. This time, it is selfishness oon the part of the guy not thinking about the effect on the young girl. She will need to keep hiding this till she is mature enough to disclose it if pregnancy did not open the bottom of the foul untimely.

It might be real though, but at this age neither of them has made final decision, in fact, i can still say they don't know what they both want, good for them if it works out.

sleemoon:
The topic said 9 steps .. He dished out 6 only for us to read d remaining 3 on his blog... Moreover m not clicking d link.... I ll only die if i do... Naija loves u too

lol.

ItsQuinn:
I can't control what you see ....what I see is different from what you see. There are different definitions of the word called "Love", it depends on the individual. This is how I express my love....in a strange twisted weird way

Don't make me burst in laughter...

Op, you tried... Watch out for other phase.

sleemoon:
La click la die.. :p

you don't need to die, the OP has finished the post here already clicking it is just to see the full stop sign. Remain Alive, Nigeria needs you.

QueenofAfrica:
From what I understand ..... You guys are not meant for each other.

I have been there before and can boldly tell that you would just make a big fool of yourself.

Just be brave to move out of the relationship and be patient, your God-sent companion will definitely come.

that situation is just as if she has made up her mind to be a dustbin. Pregnancy will never make him stay so don't even lie about it. Don't allow a man to reduce your self-esteem, many men will treat you right if you do not limit yourself to garbage. Instead of lying just choose to be free and loved by the man that will stay with you no matter what.

RealJaneDoe:
there are some women that don't follow guys because of money

you are completely right but money makes the relationship more enjoyable, a good man knows he must make the money to take good care of his woman. It is not good to take her simplicity for granted.

ItsQuinn:
No you did not

i was afraid as your signature depict "Love" and i am seeing something else. stop causing trouble now.

Dfrenzy:
Noted ma, but there's also the possibility that she is a sexually unsatisfy woman craving for sexual satisfaction outside her matrimonial home.

hold on, did she just use the word or she has been using it before she asked the Op to help her change it? I had to read again, she has been using it. But do i need to attach any sentiment to this, i guess it is a no because posibility is 50/50 which is same as for everyone.

ItsQuinn:
Especially Nigerians ...that's why Nigeria will continue to fail and be poor. Rubbish country with rubbish set of people ....my prayer for Nigeria is for the country as a whole to go extinct and sees to exist in hundred years to come because Nigeria is not contributing anything to humanity or life itself so therefore God must destroy Nigeria like how he destroy Sodom

did i miss road?

Please read no meaning to it, that word is extremely short and makes it harder for anyone not even her husband(unless she disclose it) nor her kids let alone stranger who looks at her as a responsible wife that she is to stumble on while trying all possible combinations.

oshikoyaodemi:
ok

oshikoyaodemi, this is not a matter of ok o, or is it that you did not check the topic well or what? The right man makes it 11th ontop just one person? Or am i getting it wrong?