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Celebrities › Re: Tee Billz Returns To Social Media Quietly by bamisepeters(m): 4:40pm On Oct 22, 2016

Quietly like this, abi we no know the meaning of quiet again ni?

Romance › REACTION: Can You Marry A Man Currently Earning #50,000 Monthly? by bamisepeters(op): 3:26pm On Oct 21, 2016

What a question pregnant with rigorous answers.

Those earning even below this who are happily married will be laughing at some response of Nairalanders while others earning that amount or below nursing to go into marriage any moment soon will be left thinking if it is really possible to cope with that amount of money in this period termed "Buhari period" by many.

That amount might be truly small but there are many woman who can turn that alone to millions for their man.
You think marriage all the time is about children? Many will marry, yet, they plan and rearrange things.

Love this response by ATK4Joy who said "What if a man lost the #500,000 monthly job after marriage! Will the wife opt out? Money can fly away".

This is the situation some women have left themselves after they thought money is love.

Do you know wisdom alone can make a man earning even #30,000 grow faster financially than someone earning above #100,000k? Only time will tell.

"Marriage is not a business venture" according to sanpipita.

alanposh, MattFreeman007, awakeuche, herbie27, rossi5, solasoulmusic, Acidosis, Johnsown1, Kelluckom, SIRJENTLE, pahars, tutusaint, olusd, YorubaStinks and some others gave great comments and experiences as regards this issue which i really find amazing.

It is so funny that many of the guys who said they cannot marry with that amount are those that impregnate ladies up and down without taking responsibility of even 1.

Most of the ladies saying they cannot marry such man are those that will later start going from one church to another praying for miracle man and at the end of the day they start praying for even a jobless man without ambition to at least impregnate them.

If you like condemn it, it will not even stop people not earning up to that from starting their family and getting better offers there after.

Apart from the fact that the country is the way it is, you have to just push yourself ahead, no one or the country owes you any obligation for those who are determined to succeed.

Many of those with that amount are even living better than those earning more considering the amount of debts they are into because the higher your money the higher the responsibility.

I am less concerned about how much a man earns before taking a woman to the altar so far the two involved believes in themselves to be able to make little to become greater no matter the condition.

Isn't it laughable that those earning below #70,000 are moving to their house while those earning higher than #100,000 are still struggling to pay house rent after 8years or more?

Waiting till a man earns huge salary before marriage is good, but at times, money might not come first for some, you cannot be wiser than your destiny.

#50,000 is still much to start a family with two great minds as nothing stops the wife from earning something also.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/reaction-can-you-marry-man-currently.html

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Webmasters › Re: Blogging With Intention. What Is Your Why? by bamisepeters(m): 11:03am On Oct 21, 2016

MaverickExcel1:
BLOGGING WITH INTENTION. WHAT IS YOUR WHY?

“He who has a why to live can bear almost any how” – Friedrich Nietzsche

Whenever someone signs up for my blog coaching program, the first question I always ask is: why do you want to start a blog?

This is where you'd get funny responses like:

"I have passion for blogging" really?

"I hear that blogging pays" Tell me about it!

"I want to be famous and known all over the world" Are you serious?

Those dreams are OK but they are too self centered.

Blogging should not just be about you.

We’re all working for something, and it’s perfectly fine to be working hard for your own success.

However, when other people are involved, and you get to the heart of your “why”, you start to see a bigger picture.

It is your why that will keep you longer than anybody else even when the money and fame are not forthcoming.

Before you venture into blogging, ask yourself what problem you'd be solving.

Don't say you want to start blogging because you like sharing information with others. Seriously? Everybody is doing the same thing.

Make sure there's a specific reason before ever going into blogging.

I started blogging because I wanted to mentor, inspire, support and empower young people to pursue entrepreneurship and build successful businesses.

That's what has been keeping me all these months in blogging.

There are months I don't make a dime but when I remember why I'm doing this, I just keep grinding.

Because I know my why, I don't struggle to get an audience or traffic. I don't even bother about traffic. If I can help just one person with my blog, then I'm fulfilled.

Knowing your why will keep you focused at one topic. My main focus is entrepreneurship and everything I do revolves around that topic. Hence I don't struggle with coming up with new ideas.

Ask yourself, is this something I want to do 5-10 years from now?

Will you still be blogging even when you're not making money and in tough competitions? Will you still speak even when no one is listening? Will you still write even when no one is reading?

Will you still keep a smiling face in times of zero like, zero comment and zero click?

I can't stress the importance of knowing your why enough.

My why can not be better than yours.

Whatever is your reason for starting a blog, let people be your number one focus.

Your blog should either be educative, informative, inspiring or entertaining. Make sure you're meeting people's needs.

People visit blogs to solve a particular problem. People are selfish and don't care about you until you start caring about them.

Companies blog to get more loyal customers or get more leads to their businesses.

Don't tell me you started an entertainment or music blog because you are passionate about sharing information... Lol...who passion EPP?

Wait until AdSense rejects your application five times then we'd know if it was passion or infatuation to money.

I'm now turning this into a blog post. Pardon me, there's so much in my heart to talk about but I'll stop here.

Search your heart: Why do you want to start blogging? Or why did you want to start a blog?

Challenge: In the comment box below, share with me why you started blogging or want to start blogging.

Until you know your why, being a successful blogger will be difficult and may take longer time.

My why: I started blogging to empower young people to pursue entrepreneurship and build successful businesses (online).

#MaverickBlogTips

Personally, i love counselling young lovers, i did and they all worked, even before i heard of linda ikeji i always wish i could get a platform where i can write just for relationships for people to learn not knowing it also pays even before i started.

Christianity Etc › Re: Oyedepo Dressed In Sudanese Traditional Outfit While In South Sudan (Photos) by bamisepeters(m): 8:27pm On Oct 20, 2016

martineinstein:
i guess u were there when God said so

your response is somehow but funny.

Romance › Re: I Have Been Wearing His Engagement Ring For Four Years. by bamisepeters(m): 6:21pm On Oct 18, 2016

AloyalNigerian:
ok

when your own too appear on NL they will still say it is per boiled.

Romance › Re: Relationship: Argument And Fight by bamisepeters(op): 7:22pm On Oct 17, 2016

amoduokoh:
I appreciate your good work Brother

thank you, i appreciate someone recognizes my little effort.

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Romance › Your EX: Bad For You, Yet, Best For Someone Else by bamisepeters(op): 6:12pm On Oct 17, 2016

Have you checked yourself? Have you made adjustment towards the noticeable error(s) of your last relationship which prompted your partner to conclude you are the wrong person he/she has ever met?

Despite the fact that the two parties may not want to accept the fall in the relationship, while one is claiming to be right at the expense of the other to anyone who cares to listen, you must have learnt one or two lessons which should help in your next relationship.

The obvious truth is that your partner might have been the worst you have met but they are the best to their current spouse.

Have you ever thought about the fact that not all the people you come across are meant for you even when you think or make them to be for you?

This however, is the worst thing to do because regret precedes it. No matter how you make somebody be for you when you are not meant to be associated with the person you will just run a race of no finish lane.

The first time you come across your partner, they are the best you ever met, you think you are destined to be together not until the unthinkable starts pushing itself to reality.

It's a must a man and a woman go into courtship before marriage for familiarity purpose.

After you try making it work and its not working out then the door is still wide open since its not been sealed, not in a childish manner, but maturely minds before it gets out of hand or when it will be problematic to be dotted(you know when i mean).

With this, the two parties have learnt something which will make each of them to be a better person in the future relationship rather than managing.

Though, tolerance is one important characteristic of a good relationship, but once the tolerance is taken for granted somebody isn't meant for the other, but trying to make it work when the seal is done is the biggest problem because the two parties knows that it will be difficult to desolve the union.

There is a man for every woman who will tolerate you in any circumstances you find yourself, but because you dont want to be a ball, you dont want to risk because may be you think you might not cope emotionally then you want to endure the pain forever which isn't meant for you anyways.

There is no rosy relationship. All relationships with its own ups and downs but the way you and your partner deal with it matters.

I know a great couple that had mutual misunderstanding when they were courting, the issue lasted for almost a year but later things came back into shape and they got over it.

The two were ready to depart but naturally they are meant for each other. This is to say that, when two people are meant for each other, no matter how hard they try to separate each other it will never work because they are meant for each other.

Risk taking is another characteristic that makes a unique family. Don't be afraid to take risk because once you are afraid to take the risk then you will face the danger associated with not taking the risk for the rest of your life.

Don't feel your partner will term you bad simply because you want the best for yourself, but the truth is that you want the best for him/her also since the two of you might not be happy being together in the boundage for the rest of your life..

Many man/woman have been termed bad by their ex, go to their matrimonial home now they are the apple of their spouse's eyes and the best mum/dad in the whole universe by their offspring.

Don't make the mistake that will ruin your life by not taking risk.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2014/10/your-ex-bad-for-you-yet-best-for.html

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 8:36pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
I answered your question before I saw bamisepeters telling you not to get angry, which I find very offensive, considering the fact that your question has no correlation with the topic, if you say I am secretive then you must be very temperamental to think you even have the right to get angry over my refusal to answer a personal question

2dugged don't be offended, it is completely ok.

Family › Re: Do You Think Married Women Should Tender Their Salaries To Their Husbands? by bamisepeters(m): 8:32pm On Oct 16, 2016

No issues with knowing the amount she makes but tendering is not manish enough na. I pray to always give her more, if she is ok i am fine.

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Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 8:02pm On Oct 16, 2016

WackyJ1:
Looking at your other comments.
You're so secretive. No one is asking you for an exact figure. That is why I asked you to specify the age range. Early twenties, mid-twenties and Late twenties.
If you cannot do that. Don't bother.

please don't be angry, please.

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 8:00pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
that is not subject to discussion here

ok, decision respected.

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 7:30pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
firstly is to let him know you are uncomfortable with his unusual closeness with his female friends than you,and observe, if there are no changes, end the relationship, a relationship between two people is complicated enough why add a third party, more like reserve bench potential bed mate

exactly what i am thinking... Trust me if nothing changes after calling is attention definitely something is not just fishing.

If i am not being so inquisitive, may we know how yours happened?

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 7:26pm On Oct 16, 2016

Nenum:
@op: in essence, strings must be attached regardless. Interesting ..............ohk

even if no string is attached it is you that truly knows, action speaks heavier than words.

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 7:23pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
are you seriously asking me how to remove yourself from the equation? or what?

yes because it might not be what i am thinking you are talking about.... So, how?

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 7:22pm On Oct 16, 2016

ItsQuinn:
What of if his woman refuse to go out, do you expect him to stay indoors when he really wants to go out?...men too are emotionally weak(in reference to the Zambia man that disgraced his cheating wife out of anger)....I understand your post and I like this piece, nice work

thanks... He is free to go out now, when you are devoted to one person even when you go out you caution yourself to fit completely into their plan.

Romance › Re: How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 7:17pm On Oct 16, 2016

2dugged:
infact I will advise women that if it seems like you are struggling for the attention of your lover simply because his attention is divided between you and his so called female friends, then respect your self and remove yourself from the equation,

How?

Romance › Re: I Tried To Teach Her But She Still Refuses To Learn by bamisepeters(m): 6:21pm On Oct 16, 2016

Newbeginnings:
Wow.. Seriously it looks like I am coming on too strong... when I thought using soft lines like I have taught and I have motivated could be like am pleading..

Sorry about that

lol

Romance › How Some Men Force Their Woman To Cheat by bamisepeters(op): 2:27pm On Oct 16, 2016

This is a response to a post by Talk2Bella on https://www.nairaland.com/3410702/boyfriend-two-years-just-broke#50246112

Cheating is extremely bad and can destroy any relationship no matter what has been committed into it nor the years.

Some relationship that has been devolved are caused by the man of the relationship.

It is very conspicuous you love her even to the blind and deaf but some actions you take with other women needs to be checked before you let your woman do the checking for you.

The closeness with other ladies must be checked, nothing like she is my very good friend once you are in a devoted relationship.

I am not saying you cannot have best female friends, all i am saying is that you must be considerate the way you deal with that best friend having at the back of your mind you have a woman you care so much for.

You call her your friend and you keep disturbing each other during the night via calls or social networks.

You say she is your friend and you prefer taking her to an event instead of your woman. Yet, you want her to believe what you say she is is what she really is.

Even if she is a business partner, there should be limitation.

You need to put yourself in her shoes and feel what she will be feeling. She trust me is not the basis for setting such grounds.

No matter the trust, her mind wouldn't be at rest, even when you know there is nothing else between you and that other lady which she is not aware of, she will not want to say it to you that she is suspicious so as not to doubt her trust.

Some will then try to do same thing you are doing since she also knows you trust her and you don't easily get jealous since you are doing same thing.

However, women are emotionally weak, they fall easily and then the shit happened, you now start blaming her.
Once you have your woman you need to know you have limitations to engagements with other women no matter how close they may be.

That woman disturbing you that ungodly hour or the one you take out with you to honor events cannot allow her man to be that close to another women, just that such women are selfish which makes them to be unreasonable most times, but you the man should be ready to set boundaries if you really love your woman.

Believe me, in relationship, it is not easy to see someone else perform your responsibility. Love is not only blind but mad also.

Cc: 2dugged, Cutehector

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/how-some-men-force-their-woman-to-cheat.html

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Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Of Two Years Just Broke Up With Me. by bamisepeters(m): 12:49pm On Oct 16, 2016

The two can play the game but only the wise will win. The man should just forgive her, for her to have come this far it means she cares, shit happens....

If the guy did not forgive her just watch, he is in relationship with that lady in the office already.

Romance › Re: I Tried To Teach Her But She Still Refuses To Learn by bamisepeters(m): 12:36pm On Oct 16, 2016

Newbeginnings:
Hahaha... This post is directed towards women and the way they think and not towards any girl I know...

Women have heard from many talk shows that they should be independent and they still refuse because it is hard work (and that is why I said I have written, motivated and she still refuses to change)

Happiness... bamisepeters what is happiness when only your family enjoys and 1 million other people get to suffer, what is happiness if you are working in shell and many villages get to suffer because oil spillages and land degradation is making them losing their occupations (fishing and farming)...

What is Happiness?

yes, we are still saying the same thing, everyone must be happy is the destination but at the end of it all the inventor is the happiest.

Romance › Re: I Tried To Teach Her But She Still Refuses To Learn by bamisepeters(m): 12:33pm On Oct 16, 2016

Newbeginnings:
Seriously advice posters....

Criticism...

You need to read that post again.... It is a motivational post, it is an eye opener... It is not an attack ....it is not an outcry from criticism....

It is a psychological post for women and not men actually

i am not talking about your post, i got everything perfectly but you are attacking your commentators which isn't good for the business, take it easy with us.

Romance › Re: I Only Date Married Men by bamisepeters(m): 7:39pm On Oct 15, 2016

Cutehector i swear i was shivering at that response, i swear the girl will change sharpaly.

Romance › Re: I Tried To Teach Her But She Still Refuses To Learn by bamisepeters(m): 7:33pm On Oct 15, 2016

I love the post, you are frank with your words but like someone said, all inventions are to your happiness first before the world enjoys from it but that is not to say we shouldn't try ours too, at least many happiness doesn't kill.

If she isn't listening you don't have choice than to keep telling her the same thing, remember it is for your own good and hers too.

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Romance › Re: I Tried To Teach Her But She Still Refuses To Learn by bamisepeters(m): 7:30pm On Oct 15, 2016

One thing i usually advice posters is that don't always expect positive response from your readers and don't be too fast to attack them, instead, let their criticism make you stronger, they have a point you know? When they dont understand make them understand because they can still drive many readers for you. What is the essence of writing without readers? You will only be successful at driving them away from your post.

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Romance › Reason Why S*x Isn't Love by bamisepeters(op): 3:54pm On Oct 15, 2016

A lot of times we erroneously equate sex to be love. Meanwhile, In most cases love truly can lead to s ex but in many cases se x may not be traced to love.

We all know the attributes of love in a relationship, se x is also one of it not minding its quality or quantity.

You have se x with someone does not mean you love that person. If this this is the case then men should have million wives while some women will follow suit.

At times, we choose to have se x with some people because we feel the person will satisfy us better than our real partner, this situation is even different from lust because it is beyond measurement.

You are in relationship with someone but you are not enjoying the s ex part of the relationship, probably the man reach climax every 30seconds and you as the woman desire a 5-minute man or thereabout.

Or the woman get tired easily or she is slow to react to romantic expressions. It might even be that when you feel you are giving it the best she is not feeling it a bit(very embarrassing).

Seeking s ex from a third party who is equal to the task sexually is not a show of love towards that person because you desire just s ex from that person at the expense of the one you truly love who you can share the little sex he/she can offer with plus every other things in a relationship.

Many men will patronize the prostitutes in exploration of more pleasure sexually due to the fact that they want their house wives to be "missionary" expert.

I don't know what it will cost them to try all styles with the one they love rather than exposing their home to communicable disease.

Patronizing the prostitutes or other young girls does not to any extent prove they love the lady, it is just for pleasure sake, no string attached because you are still going back to the one you love.

Sex is for a very few moment while love is forever.

Note* i am not saying it is good to seek romantic pleasure outside your relationship, just analyzing the enormous difference between love and se x.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/reason-why-sx-isnt-love.html

Romance › Re: How Long Should You Wait After Ending A Relationship To Date Someone Else? by bamisepeters(op): 1:42pm On Oct 15, 2016

Avalon316:
In Nigeria,most relationships are all about sex. If you disagree, tell your guy that you do not want sex in your relationship and see him get a replacement asap.

Relationships ought to be about getting to know ourselves,our interests and helping ourselves soar in what we do . But in Nigeria, it's all about spending money to impress the girl and sex,sex and sex.

I love sex so much but relationships would be worth it if we add other things aside sex

Just your own relationship, sex is good but better things to think, please all those for your own relationship don't generalize.

Romance › Re: How Long Should You Wait After Ending A Relationship To Date Someone Else? by bamisepeters(op): 1:40pm On Oct 15, 2016

LadyMercedes:
I'm guessing you mean "expatiate"
My point is, we always have/need a backup plan.
If you still don't get it, then I can't help you. The lord is your muscle.

HE should be wary of you already...

Romance › Re: How Long Should You Wait After Ending A Relationship To Date Someone Else? by bamisepeters(op): 1:17pm On Oct 15, 2016

KelvinC1:
even as you are going home
you can start dating..

your own even still far, someone said on my facebookpage that 2minutes is fine.... Lol., thanks for the comment anyways.

Romance › Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by bamisepeters(op): 6:00pm On Oct 14, 2016

Like some said, it is for mature minds... I only concentrate on comments that point out any errors in whatever i write because they make me improve. I am proud i write whatever i post and not copy and i am proud when what i write make frontpage on Nigeria biggest forum... Too long isn't an excuse because many of my keen readers home and abroad loves it that way, just pick the point and let us all move on. Thank you Mr seun, lalasticlala and all... God bless nairaland and God bless Nigeria.

Romance › Re: When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by bamisepeters(op): 5:45pm On Oct 14, 2016

Richiebill:
Yeah! Little wonder people say Nigerians don't just spend time to read for too long online.

Romance › Relationship: Argument And Fight by bamisepeters(op): 2:54pm On Oct 14, 2016

Like i always say, all relationships go through temptations and climb through thorns, though, each relationship with its own struggle.

Your partner is loving, caring, sweet, romantic and what have you cannot stop argument from surfacing in your relationship.

I remember some weddings i attended when the religious leader will warn rigorously that argument will occur but one of the two must succumb for the other, not because that person is weak but to allow peace.

In any responsible home argument must not culminate to fight no matter the circumstances. From the first day the relationship started was when you have signed the tolerance form.

Love doesn’t fight, in fact, fight is an enemy when we mention love, tolerance will allow argument but resist fight.

Argument makes you stronger as you learn from each other.
You know the kind of partner you have, you know what can get him/her mad and you know the extent you can get to which will provoke the anger in them, so, you must not be the one that will push them to the wall.

I read a story on Facebook some days back about a man who beat his woman mercilessly. I agree women can push someone to the tip but a responsible man should learn to control his anger.

Fight will cause many damage which at times cannot be repaired.

Love does not cause pains, sadness, regret, but joy, peace and other good things.

No one will say you shouldn't engage in argument, that you should tell your partner "please, i don't like that" but you must not let it linger for a long period.

Learn to give yourself a breather when it seems the other is going irate, it is normal as we are humans. Let him or her be alone for some minutes for his/her nerves to calm, if not, unwanted situation will arise which the luckiest will live to tell the story.

Do not allow relationship to see the end of you and your partner, instead, fight hard and try as much as possible to tolerate your partner no matter the provocation.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/10/relationship-argument-and-fight.html

Romance › When Being Loving Becomes Inevitable by bamisepeters(op): 12:30pm On Oct 14, 2016

"The general purpose of any romantic relationship is to bring with it emotional stability, love, caring and feeling of belonging".

This cannot be achieved without someone else who is expected to have feelings for one and vice versa.

To love and to show care to someone is extremely hard because it must be done at all times, and this is different from other chores or duty which we can start and complete withing some specific period.

In relationship, it is almost for all periods starting from when intention is declared to each other till death do you apart (if you want it to grow to that level though).

Those genuinely in love with each other will want to do all it takes so that the other person will not lack any of those qualities as it is essential to keep the fire of the relationship burning.

This is the reason relationship is not for children because of the deep concentration and determination involved.

It is for the matured at mind ready to give it their all as the qualities of a serious relationship needs a committed minds to make sure it comes to reality even as thorns will be stepped upon.

When you are in love with someone who reciprocate that love you will not want to go a moment without them.

Even when you have no choice than to move away from them for a period, you will want to do all it takes to return as soon as possible as the thoughts that will fill your mind is the moments you were with each other and what you did together including the special characters of your lover.

Love supercedes all, when you are blessed with someone who knows what it takes to love and be loved you will pray not to grow old let alone to die.

Source: http://bamisepeters..com.ng/2016/06/when-being-loving-becomes-inevitable.html

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