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God i miss these. One of my staples in ilorin way back when. Fun fact for students, wara can deputise as meat when funds are inadequate . True Story.

Heartbrokengirl:
It happened. He also felt too good to be real.

Anyway, shit happens. You did nothing wrong. These are the experiences that build you up as a person. One thing that I have learnt over time is as long as you continue doing the right thing in whatever actions you take, good things will eventually happen to you. The problem is having the perseverance to continue doing the right without taking short cuts. Life is like a dice roll. You will never hit 7 every time but as long as you keep chucking that dice 7 will keep showing up at random. You just have to be prepared when it does show up so you don't waste the opportunity. You met a guy, you had fun, you found out he was married, you ended it. That's a great experience in my book. Just don't go back. No matter what he does or says. Even if he divorces his wife. Guess what risk you run into if you go into a relationship with a man who cheats on his wife and marries the person he left his wife for? Same shit will happen to you.

Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…

D' phuck? I actually enjoyed reading this shiit. Are you sure this happened? It's felt too good a read to be real.

morohunfola78008:
What does Nancy know about honor! Someone that was fighting a president for 4yrs. What's honorable in that? Aunty Nancy Clancy should goan siddon

One must always fight s.tupid and evil people.

Righteousness89:
My Brother, I Love the Fact that you admitted that you misbehaved!

I Love the Fact that you Have Privately and Publicly reached out to people..

I Love the Fact that you Have Submitted yourself to For Discipline and Repentance..
The Work of a Minister is an Employee of GOD Almighty, and we make errors it's good we Humble ourselves, Submit to Discipline,stay away from the Pulpit and sort out Matters with GOD.

You Have Done well my Brother! May GOD Almighty, the Merciful GOD, work on you, restore you and Use you Much more than before..

Ignore whatever people call u or insult you. Just Submit to our MAKER! What GOD thinks or knows about you is what Matters..

GOD BLESS U

You guys are no better than sheep and evil as phuck. You follow whatever and whoever makes you happy even the person you are following is phucked up. All because they support your inner bigotry/racism/tribalism/sexism etc......May your god help you.

Omihanifa:
He's most likely a Northern ( no disrespect)

Lol...he makes a tribalistic comment and says "no disrespect". Funny as phuck....

blinking001:
Nigeria isn't that bad. What's wrong with these lazy lots? We got to understand that there can never be another country you can call home besides Nigeria. We all must fight for the betterment of this country.

You are joking right?

prekumohtim:
Read the judgment again; they said Texas court lacks the jurisdiction to decide on how other states should conduct their election. It's not a matter whether there was fraud or not ...it didn't get to that

Continue to pick and choose what makes you happy and comfortable. In one case, trumps lawyers were asked to provide proof of fraud. Guess what the answer they gave the judge. "we are not here to pursue a fraud case" they said. The judge asked them what they were doing there then. They said they wanted the court to look into it for them. So basically they want the court to become investigators on behalf of trump because the judge was appointed by trump. In public they claim fraud, in front of judges they say something else. You mo.rons better wake the phuck up.

BigSarah:
I think all religious people who think Biden and the democrats are Antichrist should be extremely excited. This means the christ himself would be coming soon-er. SC

Wanna bet?

jomoh:
Nothing wrong if you’re not planning to be lackadaisical towards work.

This is to promote effectiveness at work.

Are you high?

mojekwu2:
Na joke na

Nigerians don't take human life seriously so why should i believe they will take a cat's life any serious?

SocialJustice:
The marriage should last, when there's money, you can afford whatever shit you want.

I hope you are not married with that mentality.

Jaqenhghar:
The problem here is in Nigeria,things like sharing and caring is seen as weaknesses. Its not unusual for the person you are sharing with tolook at you like a fool. Everything there is seen as a transaction.

And that's the right term. Nigeria has transformed for a democratic system of government (if it ever was) to a transactional system of government. I wonder how the country still dey exist.

Jaqenhghar:
Abeg nack me gist. How did you meet

Ol' the tin be like film. I be de wok for on one ad agency that time na im my friend come beg me say e get one babe wey im want make i look upon favorably for one interview wey we get the following week. We be de look for models for one B&H project wey we get. The day kon come na im she enter the interview room. My guy, I nearly faint. I never see pesin wey fine like dat before in real life except na for magazine. Tall, long legs, snow white teeth, flat tummy. With correct pointy nose. Ol boy, the full package. Dem no tell me twice. The interview no last more than two minutes before i recommend make we hire am.

Jaqenhghar:
LOL. For where. Na 2 of us O. Rhat was the first three. Made 3 more

Damn bro, I hope say you de work out ooo.

anochuko01:
God fearing has very little to do with how frequent you are in church, but more about the level of your moral standards.
And your wife is cool with you because she was "understanding" enough to compromise (meaning she wasnt selfish).

lemme tell you my recent experience.
i was dating a girl coz i saw that she was clearly the type that wouldn't cheat. But this same girl throughout the 6months i was without a job coz of the pandemic never deemed it fit to spare me 200 naira (she's an essential worker who was getting paid all through the while). I loved her and she knew it, but nothing would make me settle with such a selfish person.

That's weird. She probably did not love you. Love is sharing and if she ain't doing that then good riddance..

Zzor:
I will advise all ladies to do away with men who are too clingy to their mum, all those mummy's boy type, your home will be run by someone else and not you.

Always put a disclaimer when making general statements on issues where Nigerians usually act abnormally like "this only applies to countries like Nigeria where people are weird".

anochuko01:
marriage is beyond just "loving" a person.
There are certain attitudes i cant live with regardless of how much i "love" a person.


Remove ego and selfishness and see how many marriages would start working.
A person who is understanding, selfless, caring, genuinely loving and God fearing can hardly do any wrong.

That's my point. When you go into marriage with expectations get ready to be disappointed. What you care about may not necessarily be what your spouse cares about. For example, i care about all the expectations you listed except the bolded. I don't believe in god but my wife does. Never stepped in a church in 20 years but one time and that was when we got married. I only did that because of her. See? Compromise. She wasn't dumb enough to throw me away because i did not meet one of her expectations. Couples need to understand that they will always be flawed in each others eyes.

mojekwu2:
Put cat poison at the fence
Check my signature for sweet laptop deals

Imagine living with this kind of person. Jesus.

anochuko01:
this sentence is part of what has gotten people into marital debacle.
In the name of "there is no perfect marriage", people simply ignore some ugly traits during courtship or dating, thinking they can manage and cope with it, only for those devilish character to even grow bigger as time goes on.

I strongly believe there can be a perfect marriage, Yeah i do. and I dont care if i have to go through 20 breakups before i find that perfect one.
marriage is sweet when you find an understanding, selfless, Loving and God fearing human, and thats provided you arent the bad type yourself.

There is none. Trust me. It's just like saying there is a perfect best friend. Which your spouse is by the way. As much as i love my spouse we still go through ups and down.

icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days, than being married. and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option. if she sees that man, that's her everyday crush ..she wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own
I know some people won't like this.. the truth is always bitter though ..

You are probably 12 years old.

Not one single second of any day. In fact, if i had to pay my friend for introducing us a million dollars i would. It's been twenty years but it feels like 20 days ago.

Jaqenhghar:
Made wraps stuffed with chicken breasts and sausages. Very filling. It was hard staying awake at work after this.
Cc Banmee

Seriously bro? Only you finish the thing? Damn Gina?

Kosoco:
So American soldier no Dey die... is it because wey lay our own bare to d whole world... do you know how many soldiers dat are dying in Iraq war Yemen even our closeby CAR

It is not that American soldiers don't die. It is what happens after. For one, it is the number of deaths and 2, the compensation to the immediate family members. You can't compare

slimfit1:
No Nigerians are not that stupid.

Yes they are. That's why he is doing it. He knows they are re.tarded as phuck...

Bacteriologist:
Truly spoken like someone who has nothing inteligent to counter my submission with!

Every m.oron knows that there is always a calamity whenever a Republican is president. Its a fact. Look it up. From depressions to wars. And guess who always cleans it up?

Ladyhippolyta88:
Biden does not need you to like him.

Many Nigerians like him I like him supported him and happy he won.
You don't know what facts are in regards to this so sit down somewhere and observe.

The only fact that they considered is he is an American.

Bacteriologist:
Congratulations Wale!

The Democrats have a dark past but they seem to have learnt from it. They now are more inclusive and accommodating of other races than any other party in the US.

The white supremacist and nationalist undertone by the Republican party and Trump was their biggest downfall. There's no space in the world for tribalists, both in the local or global scale(so called nationalists).

We are one in humanity. The earth belongs to everybody. No one brought a skin colour or land from heaven.

Una go just de type rubbish

Watch. I know where this is going. Soon you'll hear that Davido is running for public office. You don't have to be a genius to figure out how Nigerians roll.

Jaqenhghar:
I am not into baking like that but I van appreciate the efforts. The onlytime I baked was when I did turkish bread. Na my madam go appreciate this one. She is the sweet tooth

Dude you need to try it. Whole process is like maybe 10 minutes. Trust me, baking is a piece of cake. Get it? Cake? I'm no a roll this week.. Hehehehehehehe......

Jones4190:
spear not a witch to leave

Why is it this only happens in Africa? Kinda explains why you people are still living in the stone age

Pidginwhisper:
She’ll be body-shame, but the truth is she’s living her life. Wulebantu

Truth is all she has to do is keep her body to herself and she won't be body shamed