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Oviebright:
Aswear leave him to enjoy while he can every good or bad thing has an end.

Exactly, just let him enjoy his life

Casalindal:
I am Casalinda, a happy independent woman. I have a life that I enjoy in my own way. But when I look back at the journey that landed me where I am now, it still gives me a sudden jerk. It has not been easy. I believe my story needs to be told because those who are struggling today need to know that hard times don't last forever. I was very young when I realised that my family had financial constraints. My father earned some money but it was not enough for my family to lead a very comfortable life. My mother suffered from bipolar disorder as well as other mental disorders, but diagnosis was not easy back then. Specially here in Nigeria. I was close to my paternal grandparents, but my grandfather passed away when I had barely entered my teens. I have some fond memories with him. We would eat cheese together and laugh at cartoons in the magazines. His death was a great shock to me. Growing up, I never knew what pocket money meant. Believe some of you could relate to this.
I had three friends I could confide in. They were my safe home. I ensured that my mother got proper treatment for their conditions, all thanks to the rich man I got married to. but on an emotional level, I did not know how to connect with them. I was young and inexperienced, and found it hard to handle such difficult situations all alone. My husband who I will forever love and appreciate walk me through this journey. I have never shared this side of me here because this is really deep for me. I had the most lovable husband who gave me everything. Money, love, security, and above all he carried my family all on his shoulder.

Marrying my husband was one of the worst decisions of my life. Months into my marriage, I realised I wasn't happy. My husband was a good human being but not a good husband. Before you sit there to judge me on what a good husband should be. Know this that I gave my all, I stay even after I found out some health related issues I gave myself I went through hell this past 24 months. The details of what went wrong in my marriage are those that I wish to keep to myself.

I was an extrovert but my husband made me become and introvert and I could not fight back. I was scared of his uncontrollable anger. He would go and stay abroad for months to set up a business, neglecting me and my needs when we got married.
From abroad, he would not not contact me for months. would go by, and I would find myself sitting at home with our two adopted dogs, lonely and miserable. I spent hours on my birthday waiting for his call, but it never came. I wanted better than this.

I had wanted a life of my own, I had dreamed of been a tv girl. Having my own show, yes call it the Kardashian. That was what I wanted, something I could connect to, and the very thought of my husband kicking against this was unbearable. But here, I felt disrespected and demeaned.

I learnt what a demon helplessness can be, and what giving up ones dreams could cause. Although I had my first child (outside Nigeria) I had always wanted my pregnancy journey to be documented, I was afraid to take the first step. Coming out of the life I had settled for was harder than it sounds. I felt like I had nowhere to go. I did not know what the way out of this maze was. That is when I decided that I had to be happy. I had to live. If being happy at that moment meant living alone and living my dreams, I would do that. It took me months to wrap my head around the fact that I wanted a divorce, because I was afraid of the stigma. My Mom was separated. If I too went back home, how would people treat my family?
I want more and I feel it’s not too much to ask. I want all the glams. I’m don’t just want to be a tv girl.

You need a very good fùck to calm you down

porthouse7:
Na married woman stabilize me when I was down financially.... d moment I gallant I japa

Why are you using female if you're a male?

adedehinbo:
ok sir,but where re u pls,I could give you my line,I wan to use u for experiment

I'm ready to do experiment with your wife whenever you're ready

jacobnel:
You think the bride price wey men dey pay naa for joke? Bleep another man wife and see how young guys go dey useless your wife ,if you even get lucky be alive self.

If that's the case then it means this woman's husband must have also fùcked a married woman before

adedehinbo:
the thing just killed a notable person In my street recently, unfortunately I don't think it has cure

It's just superstition!

Omooba77:
Your younger brother is dead, only that he has not been buried; Proverb 6:24-35, unless he repent and ask God for mercy.

Must you people being religion into everything?

topoftheworld:
U want to give it a trial abi?

I would also like to give it a trial

JamesSabastine:
You should do well tell you mother. His is family not friend. Telling your mother will help straighten him. Sleeping arround with old woman is a big distraction for him. Living the woman will help him focus and face reality.

Your cousin was very careless

Emmyjahzy341:
Your brother need to leave that ungodly relationship before he meet his destruction..

What is so ungodly about a relationship between two adults who want to be together?

medropoly:
Twalle for your brother.. He is a legend

Yes o

SimplyFacts:
And he may never have a happy home because he would find it hard to trust even his wife.

Not true

topoftheworld:

I hear sir, but just thrend with caution as life no get duplicate.

Something must kill a man

when2:
OP inform your mum, if that would make him to stop the act.

Bad idea!

Chi133:
Hmmmm.

Say what's on your mind don't be scared

weslay:
It will end in tears.

It does not have to

topoftheworld:
Just come to my place in Benue and try sleep with married woman or try give ur girlfriend just #10 to add to money for abortion then U will know there is African repercussions for cheating.
Don't just jump to conclusion sir

Oga nothing dey happen

Antoeni:
Just start counting his days because they are numbered already

Who numbered his days?

FLYFIRE:
@OP, your brother or yourself Whatever, it must be stopped immediately.

What will happen if it's not stopped?

jacobnel:
He end is near cos those people carry bad luck oo

Which people?

Themainboy22:
Karma does not exist. @OP, collect the said woman's number and warn her to stay fvck away from your brother. Otherwise, threaten her with blackmail. If you care so much about breaching of trust, do it anonymously.

What type of advice is this?

What is his business with his brother's girlfriend?

Fahdiga1:
It is a choice. Any other question?

What's the name of your town in Anambra State?

Doja2000:
it is bullsh!t.....!
Take it or leave it, niggar......

The truth is bitter!

What else is remaining to do after you don fùck the babe finish?

Fahdiga1:
Yes. Any other question?

Why is an Igbo guy using a Muslim name as his moniker?

Dem never even start sef kasala Don burst!

Fahdiga1:
How does it not concern me?

Are you from that state?

WeNoGoDie:
Kemi Olunyolo said she's a prostitute that saw opportunity. This angle should be thoroughly investigated

Who is Kemi Olunloyo to judge?

Just continue doing your job and pretend she's not there

Fahdiga1:
Fake news. Even before now Anambra people have agreed on a consensus to reject APGA having squandered the chances given to them on a platter. The PDP is on a rescue mission in Anambra

Leave those people to decide who will be their governor, it does not concern you

Casalindal:
All you doubting Thomas I’m at the park championing a campaign photo shoot for a Nairaland brand here come and see me for yourself. But in the main time my prison are on fire. I think the Mod should change this Nairaland name to Hot (sex starved men forum lol

Can I see your pic please?