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edwife: Chai Beeevan,girl you bad.

Stillfire: Hypocrisy?
A woman who cheats in a society that witch-hunts and is capable exhibiting mob-like violence on her is not a hypocrite but a victorious survivor. God must be on the side of the Naija woman.

edwife: lol@mad people

But,in life one needs to know when it is enough.Very very important

bodashee: I'm just 22, so a lot of people still think I'm joking........but I honestly don't think I want to ever get married. It doesn't seem like child's play to me....and the Obligations to othere people (in-laws, hubby's associates....) I don't think I can cope with that....I'm not a people pleaser.
Its just very scary when you look around.

edwife: As for me,i always ask myself questions,when the society ask women to bear all the pain of a cheating husband and disregard anything that has to do with his philandery,and only focus on taking care of the kids then there is something wrong.One thing they all forgot is that all of us were created by God for a purpose,if all i did as a woman is to be unhappy and miserable from the 1st to 15 years of marriage then I have fail my purpose in this life.

How can a woman tells another woman to support a philandering husband,that when the kids grow i will enjoy,going to omugwo and all that,like seriously?Is it when i am 50 years that i am suppose to enjoy my life whereas he started enjoying and having all the goods of this world almost all through his life?

I refuse to live a life of slavery,nobody go follow me go answer God when judgement day comes.It is unfair to yourself and to the husband because you will live a life of repugnance and misery.

Fear of becoming a has been(a failure) keeps some people from becoming anything.

I do not and never will i advocate divorce but sometimes in life one need to take the bull by the horns.Respect is reciprocal,how you present yourself is very crucial,because no spouse will dare any rubbish if they know your stand and what you can do.

Don't misrepresent yourself while dating and after marriage, you want to form a no nonsense person.It will not work,because there will be constant troubles.

From the get go,he knows i check his phone,so in marriage i will continue to do so.

Women need to know their values and act on them.

It is well with us

Givemejoy: Please I need you to tell me why men are
allowed to get away with everything and we the
women are always the victim. In my 4 years of
marriage with my husband I never used to go
through his phone, but out of curiosity I
checked his phone on the 6th of this month
and I saw text messages between him and
another woman. From what I read in the
messages he is clearly having an affair and
sleeping with this woman. I confronted him and
he denied it, he has deleted the messages but
from then till now we have not been on
speaking terms. My anger is that we have taken
the matter to his parents and my parents and
they are all blaming me for going through his
phone and asking me to apologise to him. I am
so angry and hurt. Why is nobody blaming him
for having an affair. Please what should I do,
did I do anything wrong, why is everybody
supporting him.

EfemenaXY: Lol @munching straight away!

Morning Beev. How are you & the soldiers?

EfemenaXY: Chillisauce? Edwife? Cococandy? Beeevan? LyndaRoyce?

Help a sister out, Biko (preferably with pics) ...

coogar: beeevan the wise one, would you leave your bouncy baby boy with that friend of yours if she happens to be working in your boy's crèche?

Chillisauce: Chineke eh. Babe you no serious . Na dis guy you give upper cut like this.

* faints *

coogar: you are too intelligent for my liking.

coogar: i hope you know the one i am talking about. - the one with her son.

coogar: good luck, beeevie
lest i forget, how's your friend?

coogar: except that women are the chief abusers of children & that includes sëxual abuse! so while you are running awaybfrom the male care-giver, you might be putting your innocent female child in the hands of a sex offender.

Bigsteveg: See who is talking.
(1)Not all men is like your husband who cheats alot cos it's obvious.
(2)Now all women is like you who doesn't think abt the future

EfemenaXY: At that (nursery) level, I'd rather not see even one male teacher there.

Chillisauce: you and beeevan, leave the woman alone, she is married. Gadammit!

dont you have small small 200naira chikalas to pursue. ah ah.
This your stalking style, na so e dey take start, before you know na, you go send pm.

Bigsteveg: Funnu enough, I didn't really know I was quoting the same person. Thank God thou cos i can't imagine women thinking downwardly like that, but since it's just one person then no cause for alarm.

Enjoy ur pain filled life dear.

Bigsteveg: After ur dad and ur husband must have gone to tell the devil i won't be joining them for dinner.

Bigsteveg: Swear uve never cheated or double dated before!!!
Swear on ur life, dat uve any had two guys since u started dating.
Swear on d blood that came thru ur mother when u were born.

Throwing stones but neva check demselves.

cococandy: Are you sure it's not rejected pm that's worrying him so?
That's what some guys here do. If I ignore their PMs,they'll start following me up and down threads insulting me

Bigsteveg: Another dumb fellow. Someone u don't know sef, when u hear abt deir demise, u'll feel somehow not to talk of some ure married to (cheating or not)!
Chai, may I neva meet dis kind of woman o cos ure capable of doing somethings that I can't say.

Even friends that u fought with and not on talking terms, when u hear their death, u'll feel bad not to talk of father/mother of ur children.
Oga o

Bigsteveg: And how old are u? If ure married as dey said, dem marriage must have dealt u in a very bad way. It's not d end of the world dear.

Kanwulia: Thank you.

*i think i am more beautiful on the inside tho. . . .my daddy told me so and I believe him. . . .because i really am*