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shizzle11: A your behest, nothing can be too much for a woman who says the truth as it is.

The liqour will follow in jiffe

You are too generous .

shizzle11: beevan, when last did you have a taste of a very sumptious 'okwa' of nkwobi? i wanna offer you one on my bill.

Do you mind if I take two 'okwas'+ smirnoff ice?

Asking the aim of a relationship from first date even get as e be, i assumed people should get into a relationship because they liked the person a lot. Sometimes relationship can start off as unserious but end up becoming quite intense.

Hotstepper: I have no fats. Unfortunately, I can't put my pic here.

I believe you because after my first, it was gone before two weeks n I love food too. After my 3rd, it took 6weeks but back to flat with no stretchmarks or extra skin. I did no exercise but i don't eat omugwo yams. I do the hot compress too. Nature treats some women well..

Who is counting years, if I can't see the future in 6months max, wetin i still dey wait? Time conservation is very important.



I don't think you even have to tell the dude anything, just bounce and if he asks why, tell him "No time" .

Some are born losers, throw rugs to be beaten when dirty .

I seriously think something is wrong with a woman that can't cook, whether is really worth opening a thread for is what am not sure of.

hoynlorlar: I dnt get u?d question u asked is wat av been asking my sef..I av been asking im for d allowance before dt day..buh he wont ansa despite d fact dt I know he has been paid.

My sister timing is important in marriage, you don't go asking an upset spouse about allowance when there are issues that should be sorted, enough have already been said by other sisters here on why you need to stop reporting him. Truth be told, there is nothing the people you are reporting to can do about it, they too can barely help themselves. May God give you the wisdom to guide your home.

Mondisweets: if it makes you sleep at night keep preaching all manner of nonsense u can think of, if thats what nurses you little ego. If you are a head of the house and u want to be treated with respect, you lead by example.
Whatever chaos you create after that can only be blamed on your irresponsiblity. Its the man's duty to protect his marriage and family, if he fails consequences follow.

A reasonable man would know that there is something wrong with not wearing his wedding ring and he would know such behaviour would affect his wife.

If it was a so called beautiful relationship, why in the hell would she remove the ring too? Lets use common sense here. Yes let the younger ones read this, they should never for a second become slaves of misery all in the name of marriage. You came into this world alone and you will leave alone, you should under no circumstances leave a lonely and misery life in private, simply because you want society to think you are in a happy marriage. Life is too short for that.

If a man loves you and he is committed to you he would do the right thing! He wont have to wait to be asked to do so. Biko, i was raised by man who is loyal and committed to his wife, through the good and bad times. I grew up seeing what is expected of a loving and caring husband.

People like you just try to make women feel like marriage is a prison, once you are in there is no way out, you take it whatever is thrown at you, whether it make u miserable or not. If you weren't raised by a man who knows and performs his role in his marriage, then i would understand very well why you reason the way you do.

If you know 2 wrongs never make a right, then try avoid being wrong at all costs if u want to protect your marriage. Its a simple as that. You cannot call yourself a good captain when you cause your own shipwreck.

Please be a preacher .

Mondisweets: if he knew what his marriage meant he would try to protect it, its better it bursts if its just one person trying to save it and the other simply isnt bothered

God bless you for this post .

Why should I bother watching football when NL is a click away ? you can have both the match and the TV .

Too drunk in love to do otherwise, i would have eloped with him if anyone dared suggest we wait .


Marriage shouldn't be prepared for like one gauging for war, once the two are willingly to walk together, they will. Submitting to each others brilliant suggestions won't be an issue as ego doesn't get to over ride common sense. Once you see each other as one and not opponents, every other thing runs smoothly. Compatibility is very important, if you are not compatible with your spouse, it will be a rough ride.


Most importantly, marriage is never a do or die affair, so I took the plunge with the mind that if it ain't working out, i beat it, no fraction of my life can be wasted on anything that isn't progressive
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No 1 marriage killer is following protocols, the " that's how it's done " mentality. The fact that your parents did it that way doesn't make it right or profitable. People must unlearn all stereotypical ideals before they stand a chance at seeing the light.

hoynlorlar: @op,u ar doing a great job here.I read frm page1-5 buh I nid to write moi story too.Am frm a nuclear family and d only girl.I got married just last year december.lemme cut the long story short.my inlaws ar great..dey ar gud to do call.Even my mil is d best 4 now cos changes is d most constant tin in life.
My husband on d oda side is moi problem...wen we were dating,he was d best buh just four month after our marriage he started dis temper tin which I dont undastd...any small tin he flares up..to the point dt he beat me up just four month afta d wedding(I was 7 month pregnant wen I married)I called his mother n my mother and told dem abt wat appened..dey adviced us and talk to him..I hate wat he dd to me buh I ddnt av choice dan to forgive(marriage is far diff frm relationshp).To wat happened.
Just last week,he was off duty...in d nite i cooked beans..d beans was done buh I wanted it to b more thick buh he insisted dt I serve him like dt...so I dd n took d food to him witout putting tray so immediately I saw dt nepa av brought lite plus d beans is still on fire and I av to off d gen too.i was stretching d food to him(d dish was hot too..it was burning moi hand)he ddnt collect it said I shud put tray..i was so pissed so I shouted take den put it on d floor..immediately(moi cousin which is wit us just for visiting o) she ran to take d tray n I went to switch off d gen n change to nepa..afta all dis moi wahala he ddnt eat d food dt nite o..i was so embarrased in frnt of moi cousin.Days afta,it was in d evening,i sent moi cousin to buy tinx 4 me..I was asking im abt our money allowance n he flared up..i flared up too den he said I shud shut up n nt talk..den I talked..he just came near me n started hitting me.i now said I wee call his mother n report him.immediately he collected moi BlackBerry forcefully n said he wee smash it on d floor..i begged n den he took my small nokia and smashed it on d floor..immediately I arranged d scattered fone n on it but d fone ddnt on..den I kept quiet.The next day,i gave im d fone to repair..he was still moody,he ddnt collect it n ddnt repair...to cut moi long story short..i cooked dt same day he ddnt eat.
I know dt all dis is nt normal...wat do u tink I shud do?wu do u tink I shud report to?am so tired of everytin amd I dnt want dis to continue.Candid advice frm nt only married buh matured pple pls.

Not excusing your husband but it seems you have an attitude problem, lacks manner of approach. Please I do not mean this in an insulting way but just trying to figure out what irritates him so much about you.


Ponder on this, will be back to comment fully as my desks are full.

DBestDoc: It's really pathetic

My sister the matter tire mouth

Bigsteveg: One time that I will agree with you, hope to see more comments like this from that side of the brain where it came from.

I don't do 'feminazi'/ 'manist' sentiments and I don't comment to pleasure you . If you see the one you don't like you can simply move on to the next post.

Lynda is that you ?

Godmystrength: Abeg commot make i see road jare.........

@house - I pray that this week and the remaining weeks in this year will be exciting/wonderful/fulfilling beyond our expectation and imagination in Jesus' name.. Amen

Meanwhile, today is my wedding anniversary officially. cake and ice cream in my office. you are all invited

I wish you many more years of marital fulfillment, happy anniversary.

The man is right on this one, the husband's suggestion to attend a church closer to home was very reasonable, yet she chose to be stiff headed. Now the unexpected has happened, the man should play it any way he deems fit.

Elantracey: what happened to being submissive?

Oh that? ***scratches head Profusely***, erhhmmm...errrhmmmm..a minute please , let me check my manual .

I don't care who is lesser or greater, as long as my life is rolling by fine the way I want it, it's non of my business .

I must apply make up or he calls off the wedding, his choice, shuuuu!!

Good riddance to bad rubbish, if they are dropping dead here and there like rats that ate otapiapia, the world would have been a safe haven for the faithful.

iykedare: Did I call you that? I m sorry If I did. Btw,you seem to let what people say on nl affect you. I never meant any of those harsh words you claim I said. I might have been throwing some harsh words around and one of my missiles hit you. Anyway,I m calling a truce.


I dont expect you to accept it(the truce) tho.

I have no problem with you Iykedare and No words doesn't affect me on or offline neither do I take anything here to heart, its pure entertainment + some learning . It will really be shocking if you don't know that you drop the word' liability ' on every thread.

I really do not have a problem with you, not now or ever, i just dish as i get and life rolls by beautifully .

iykedare: seriously,I cant be digging another man `s wife. She has attacked me several times for no damn reason . And she is always hard on men.Jeez!!! it looks like no man has ever made her smile in her life or she is going thru a lot. Haba,see the likes of chaircover,bebe2 and louretta.....from their posts u can sense their respect for the men in their lives.

If hatred for men is all you could sense in my posts then your comprehension is at all time low. You lash out and throw the word liability at every woman, has any one accused you of women hating? You are hiding behind" beevan is a man hater and therefore should be attacked " to camouflage your obsession with me.


The truth is, i don't mind the attacks, its usually very entertaining . There are men haters no doubt, but only a head screwed on to an usual angle will deem me fit for your title . You are spinning the man hating angle to look good and buy sympathy/ supporters but you still don't because your claims are unfounded.


You resorted to lying, how low can one to make a point that doesn't need to be made? any proof that I attacked you first for no just cause? The fact that you see yourself as the object in my posts doesn't mean it's about you, am not that caring.


I have always advocated steep penalty for infidelity irrespective of who committed it and that will never gonna change. You either get used to it or keep stalking me as usual, both kinda works for me .

cococandy: You'll pay a fine for spelling my name in that abominable manner.

Meanwhile leave beeevan be. If she attacked you before that means you'll attack her on every thread you see her?

I attacked him in his dreams, dude is obsessed but find it hard to admit.

bodashee: @beevan.....I want kids of my own o. I luv children.

You might be lucky with marriage, you wont know if you don't try .

My kids

Most female gynos talks much which I don't like, my doctor is economical with words and that kinda works for me. Straight to the point and we are done, if I have questions, i do the research. Once had a consulting female gyno and she talks damn too much, explaining unnecessary details . I prefer very elderly male gyno anytime, anyday.

Icherishu: Beevan that is it o. Pray from a distance. Cos one can die from physical or emotional abuse if you want to pray from inside.

People seems to worry a lot about what people will say, some are downright too weak to even try. It's only one life mehn...nothing is really worth dying over. The thought of ones kids being given out to relatives to care for is enough to make any woman love herself passionately.

Icherishu that your last paragraph is erect like a pinnacle , pray from a distance .

Icherishu: Beevan thank you. The same thing I told my hubby when he raised the issue. I told him am following his leadership and that leaders lead by example. He gave the crap that he came to marry me and that he used his money to buy the ring. So I must wear it. That i can't force him to wear it by removing mine. That there are better ways to win the fight. Na so I look myself smile. Say thank God I wasn't hungry in my house if not he can wake up one day and say I can't talk in my home cos he feeds me. Things women face in marriage.

My dear me must submit reach ground ooo, i follow my leader exclusively, any way the leader wants it is how we gonna roll it.


No be only 'nah me carry money come marry you", the ring will constrict me if my lawfully wedded husband rids his and I still wear my mine. I might just wake up to see both finger and ring detached from my person by my subconscious .

cococandy: You and this your shovel 'TEETHS'

That victorious survivor part really 'titilated' me in all the right places .