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No, I think women working full time to support men in their duties caused it.

I doubt if she will spend any time anywhere, this is Naija. If you can't kill the rat, at least cut its tail and that's just what she did. I hope the ear went off with a chunk of her face .

bukatyne: It is called preference.

If God made an older man for me, the first thing He would have done is change who I am to fancy an older man. Asking me to marry an older man with my current mindset is martial sucide

I do not know God's plan for my kid and I am willing to accept in the end. But naturally, hell no!

A 30 yr old that comes to look for my 18yr old wants to be castrated.

I also know that age difference has nothing to do with martial success.

I just like them young

P.S.: If I married at 25 to a 37yr olf man (12yrs) our kid will be 2yrs when he ll be 40. The older the diff, imagine the age of hubby. @50, he will be going to PTA meeting in primary&jnr secondary when his mates are celebrating their children's matric/convocation.

If a man is to marry young and maintain such difference, them we are talking pedo.

Totally with you on this .

aisha2: Everyone in position of power has a tendency to abuse it just that for women mostly it hits closer to home, go and see the politics backbiting and scheming men do in a competitive work place especially if a position is open and 4 men are considered for it.

What I am saying is there are bad and good people regardless, as much as some women bring others down other women lift others up. Like the counseling thread am talking about 20 pages and counting women helping each other manage situations no judgement no insults, so if one lady comes and asks why some women don't wash other women's clothes I would hardly describe that as oppressive or mean or women hating on each other so far she has not been rude or insulting she just seems like she has seen something different from the norm she was raised with.

I still get your point but women are still their own major problems. Women segregate the unmarried ladies more than men do, they judge and rub their status on their faces, some become desperate and go with anything male available to meet up. Most TTcing women are more often judged by women than men, women without a particular gender of offsprings ( male especially) are often judged by fellow women not men. When my department was contemplating whom to honor as the best graduating student because two people had same aggregate, a male and a female. The ladies were all rooting for the boy with no clear reasons, have you ever come across where women that had normal delivery berate those that had CS? like it's their fault. No doubt women are share holders in their own problems.


Life will get much better if women loved themselves more, some only live to gain male approval, thus all they do is condemn those who doesn't fit into their stereotype. Have you ever noticed how ladies react to threads that features the pic of a beautiful woman? Come see beefing and criticisms....

20 years difference is like marrying your daddy's age mate, do you know why he is divorced?

aisha2: She may have been raised to believe women should wash their husbands clothes hence she is surprised to see women who don't do that, nothing really oppressive in her statement in my view.
I know a woman who hand washes jeans even while pregnant yet the same woman can stay for days without light If oga is not around to buy neva units as she doesn't believe she should use her money for house running she believes that's his job.
Orientation matters, she may not mean any spite or harm

Well, let's hope she doesn't mean to spite anyone. Most of these threads are usually opened by single folks who hardly know what it takes to competently run a home.



The lady that waits for her husband to come home and buy units is really a special case.

aisha2: I disagree that women are their worst enemies. For every cloth washing thread there are 5 support group threads see the marriage counseling and divorce threads are they not opened by women?

If a woman opens a post based on her orientation it doesn't mean she hates other women it may just mean she has a different view of life and see is seeing what is different from how she was raised. At least her own thread was not as condescending as the pounded yam one. It's even good for a healthy debate.

One young girl came from a very remote village and in her shock seeing mature women unmarried made an almostvrude comment lol. Years later she is very focused on school and when reminded of her " so women in the city just stay and remain old without marrying" statement she laughs as the standard in her village was to marry as young as 14, a 16 year old was considered too old.

Women oppress themselves much more than men do. You know there is no comparison between the support groups and these random threads but i do get where you are heading at. Women judge themselves worse than men do, on and off line. There must be a reason people whine more about MIL's than FIL'S, husband sisters than husband ' s brothers, why we hear 'husband snatcher 'more often than 'wife snatcher', women get issues i tell ya.

When girls are not opening threads about women not pounding yams for their husbands , they are opening about them not washing their husbands clothes, women are really their own enemies.

SAMBARRY: Matilda abi kiloporuko e.i am the mr right waiting for you

I just like this pic

10 years isn't that bad but I prefer someone closer to my age, 5 years difference is perfect for me.


This women age faster than men talk doesn't hold water anymore, it's been long I saw a woman that looks older than her husband, some men even looks so old that you wonder how that pretty young thing accepted to marry them,oh..the pocket I guess.

If your friend actually told you this about her husband, them she has a problem and it isn't her bed wetting hubby. They should seek medical help, swimming in urine once in 3weeks doesn't seem that bad enough to affect them this much, separate rooms really? .

You aren't married to him, why are you bearing this cross? Why fasting and praying for a problem you can get rid off? I have no doubt that some people are jinxed, come in contact with them and life spirals downwards.

moca: ^^dont go there o!
Many r like her.
U see some ladies who suffered to go to school and on marrying while at school will just abandon everything.

Some may hv paper work to sort or failed exam, but will be shifting it till thy kingdom come.
Giving one excuse or the other like this lady.

Unserious modafkers

Hunger never kpai her. She will do the needful.
She never pass d serving age sef(abi football age)

That's unfortunate, marriage is no excuse abeg.

aisha2: Let not be quick to blame the husband he simply said she didnt plan well, married women who served from their husbands house help me out do you just get up and go to camp? Aint there documentations you are meant to prepare and sumbit so you could be posted close to your family?

Yes there are documentations you submit earlier in school, then send 2 copies to the NYSC office, Finito.

I don't see how a woman who worked hard to earn her degree will be giving this as an excuse for not serving. To serve never hungry am....did she really graduate?

coolguyone: ehyah so shameful

Shameful that a child is so responsible that the parent didn't think further advise was necessary? Your definition of Shame is an assault on a normal psyche.

chibabe3: for how long will he keep his family away considering the fact that ebola may still be around till the end of the year.

Keeping his family away till he is done with his martyr duties, away from himself.

Nashville: But when he is making effort without much progress, he may be doing it wrong but at what point does a lady now say - I can't give this guy a chance with my life.

Bolded is very interesting to note.

When she can't see the future from where she is standing.

When a man lacks the necessary steam and drive for success, i will say he has no potential. These group of people usually hold on to bogus dreams that they make little or no effort to achieve.


In a situation that I have the potential and the man in question is not stiff in his ways + the fact that I love him, i doubt if his lack of potential will be a barrier.

gidjah: YOU mean like ignoring her,stop attendin to her,keepin her out of my mind?

Yes, can you do that? You don't have to keep her out of your mind but you have to pretend you did, it might force her to buckle up.

Lying is a sin, so is abortion, envy, disobedience, adultery, fornication and others. Don't bring a child here to suffer....

gidjah: PLS MARRIED PEEPS,how do u cope wit a never apologising wife and a talking down wife,after many appeals?

Speak to her about it, if she doesn't change, try the silent treatment till she comes to her senses.

Any reasonable man should have moved his family before trying to be a martyr. If the man is not ok with them moving, then let her stick around, we will all eventually die someday .

alutacontinua: and now, beevan sounds like my mother when I was growing up
I love my parents but when I remember how much I went through in the name of 'correction'

really, african parents need to tone it down. Pepper on a lil boy's di*k, WTF

Lol, the pepper thing really get as e be but I really hope it stops this di*ck tugging youngster in his track. This woman needs to look around her and know what's going on with this child.

cococandy: Not the same as pepper and koboko. Those are extreme so I get gboyegad's annoyance.



I think she should have even been more concerned about finding out why he's doing it.
Maybe things they see or watch when no one is looking or more dangerously if someone somewhere is touching him.

Most times someone somewhere is touching or masturbates in his presence . Most parents are extremely careless, as far as kids are concerned everyone is a suspect. Stuffs like this is why am extremely paranoid about live ins of any sort. When kids go outside, they reflect what they are taught at home. My 4yrs old reported a girl for opening her pants in class today and that was the first thing he told me when I came to pick him, i told him that he did well. Kids are sensitive and an irresponsible adult around them is pure disaster.

A 3 years old child understands very well and knows why he was punished, if pepper will stop that obscene behavior, then so be it. Kids can touch their stuff but usually when they are absent minded, this child seems to be paying so much attention to his thing and that's unusual. An adult may be abusing this child, this woman should keep her eyes on the ground .


Places where kids aren't spanked or punished, are they any better? If tough love is what it takes to set my child straight, i won't hesitate. Nah so rape they take start and if this rubbish doesn't stop, his lil sis go collect.


The pepper thing seems extreme but if it is effective, why not?

ennon92: its either u lack understanding or can't comprehend.. I and majority of the ppl learnt from d so called "epistle".

Your comprehension is non existent if that epistle was actually ignited by the question OP asked in this thread, a lot of people you say? Nigerians are suckers for emotional balderdash, a million likes at least should be expected. You should have still written your epistle without quoting me,I still maintain that your 'out of point 'epistle is of no use to me, get over it.



Oh!!! I just realized you aren't even the dude that quoted me, if you needed that post to be obedient to your parents then you should go for a brain transplant.

juliebest: Lovina, great job u r doing here. God bless u and urs.
Lydna, i can't stop laffing
jibola, so na catargh dey cause big nose , i no know o. Don't worry, God will see u thru dis pregnancy.
chiejik, congrats. May God bless ur boy. That's a big baby o, kai.
Beeevan how r u and ur soldiers.

julieni, how u dey?
september mums, pack ur bags and kip for door. God will make it easy for u.
All- have a blessed month.

Sister I deyooo, how ur side?

SAMBARRY: for where






meanwhile

Happy new month to you too babe.

alexasomba: I've got a friend, we were in Secondary School when he lost his mom, being the only son she really did a lot to make him happy. He told me then that one phrase his mom used after shouting his name to call his attention especially when he is "busy" with his video games was "shey I'm calling you now and you're there playing your video game, okay o. Carry on." and those were the first set of words that got to him, when she passed on. He regretted not giving her enough of his time and attention, back then he told me "Alex, if my mom was alive now and called my name once I will answer and run to her a thousand times."

He asked me to pay attention to mine. I'm asking you to pay attention to yours.

If all these epistle was just for me, sorry but you are talking nyanyampu. I actually read this thrice to figure out what it has got to do with OP's post and is still all blabs and no substance that is of any use to me.

SAMBARRY: me too

i think sey nah only meoo.

I will call him Nna anyi and he will call me Mama Nkolika .



Seriously, how do women make love to men they call Sir? Whatever rocks their boat sha.