₦airaland Forum

austino677:
lol seriously its not hot like lagos?

This is our "winter", the cold season in Kenya, very rainy and cold.

fuckboys:
thanks, but I'm sorry if I'm bugging you. Can you recommend a site to me?

You ain't bugging me.On Facebook, we have a group for Kenyans from all over called Group Kenya.There's also Kenyan singles and will update you if I learn of more.Sorry am not in Kenya some am a bit behind on current news

fuckboys:
WTF?, you should be glad a Nigerian just quoted you and has a sexual appeal towards your girls

LOL, on a lighter note the F word I find a bit uncomfortable.But,get on Kenyan websites and find a girl for keeps not just to pass time.You won't regret, our girls are well-cultured.

BedLam:
Next is the "Mambi Village"

Mamba which is the Swahili word for crocodile.

fuckboys:
I want to fück a curved Kenyan girl, please how do I go about it?

Get off my scope.Mtcheeeew.

BedLam:
Evisa is 50 dollars and you just have to go to ecitizen.co.ke and follow the process. But immigration had to collect 50 dollars at the airport just because...corruption. Police collected 14$ from me as well and both of them threatened to send me back.

Eiish, my people will not stop embarrassing us.Sorry for your ordeal.Greed at its best.

BedLam:
some tours tomorrow. Hold your breath.

I see you are enjoying my hometown.Can't wait to be back in a couple of months.Take time to visit the Sarit center or other places in westlands as well as The Village Market.Lots of fun places, I know they have Naija night at the carnivore.

deleSayo:
Since I married my wife, we noticed signs subtle signs that my family dont like her.

From day one of introducing her to the family, my elder brother's wife treated her with so much disrespect and everyone else followed suit. We ignored this and proceeded to marry.

For trad wedding, I gave money to my parents to help purchase the items for her bride price but on the day,  I was pained to see that the items were significantly incomplete (my wife noticed this too and kept it in her heart). She later told me that she saw my parents looking bored at the church wedding;as if they couldnt wait to leave. I was surprised because I saw that too but thought my wife hadn't noticed.

When we fell pregnant, they failed to acknowledge my wife's pregnancy throughout until the birth of the baby. Furthermore, my mother failed to show up for omugwo, leaving us alone to care for the newborn child.

All these things have built up resentment in my wife. She takes out the frustration on me. Things are so bad that my wife has completely isolated herself from all members of my family. She refuses to communicate with them or attend any functions.

Recently, I got wind that she is making secret plans to abscond with our baby and go live with her mother who is based abroad. Please I dont want to lose my wife. She's the best thing that ever happened to me but I can see clearly that she now despises both me and my family.

The marriage is in shambles. She believes that I failed to defend and protect her. not that I didnt feel the pain. Its just that I didnt know how to handle the situation. Please how can I resolve this?

With all due respect, is your wife married to you
Or she's married to your whole family clan? You need to ask yourself that question.I feel a woman who's in pain and is feeling betrayed by the one she loves.When you marry, you have a duty to protect your spouse from external forces including your own family.Taking a neutral position when your spouse is being attacked and playing all good, has never been of help.It exposes your spouse to attacks.So if she leaves today, know that you've played a major role in this.The biggest issue here is trust.She's lost faith in you.You need to get her to a point of trusting you again.Apologize to her and acknowledge the wrongs you've committed against her and apologize even to her mother if you have to.Make a decision whether to move away from your family if you live close, then start life in a different town.You also need to stand up and be the man in your household.Let your family know their limits & figure out how to deal with them if they cannot respect your wife.Quit remaining neutral when there are issues that need to be tackled.

jordanriverz:
Advice Me Please,my Relationship Has Hit The Rock


Please I need your honest advice.....

I've been dating this man going to 2 years now and I don't know his house, well he's way older than I am and my problem is that...ok let me start.

On Wednesday last week, my twin sister and I told our mum we would be going somewhere but we wanted to spend time with the men in our lives.. So I packed my things and went to stay at my friends place, my sisters plans didn't work out as her bf hadn't arrived Lagos yet until next week..so I didn't know..

I waited on Thursday my man didn't call, so on Friday he called me but didn't say anything about us meeting later...so I was sad...on Saturday I made a video of my activities and my dance steps..I sent it to him...later he asked me where I was and I said my friends place, he bagan to ask me questions, where is the location, I should send him an address... I knew he was thinking I'm with a man but NO I wasn't..

My friend said I shouldn't give anyone her house address that if he wants to believe let him believe and if he doesn't then its his problem...he came to my house and met my sis and thought I lied to him because I had told him my sis wasn't around which I didn't know until I got home on Sunday...

Please what can I do as he doesn't want to pick my calls and even blocked me on WhatsApp

Sweetheart, am a girl like you.I understand the pain of having to part ways with someone after dating for close to 2 years.Emotional attachment is so strong & you are worried about starting dating someone new all over again.But there comes a time when sweet words won't work, there comes a time when all the gifts don't matter.What you want is an honest man who will love you, respect you and treat you like his queen.Frim every indication, this guy has some skeletons in the cupboard that he's hiding from you.How can it be that you've dated a man close to 2 years and you don't know where he lives!Have you met his friends or family? For the survival of any relationship, trust is of paramount importance & it seems non-existent in your relationship.So my advise for you is this, put on your big girl pants & leave that man.You deserve better than that.As long as you are with him, you close the door of opportunity to meet somebody better.Take a step of faith, get yourself busy, talk to friends , block every line of communication with him and in the end you'll be just fine.You'll be so glad you moved on , but you gotta speak to yourself first and convince yourself that you deserve better.Only then, will you have the strength to move on.

bjims:
Sent a request...once u respond I'd be able to a msg

ok

[quote author=bjims post=55646786][/quote]ok, just inbox me.

The Presbyterian Church has so many hymns also.

NotOfThis:
I'm thinking at least 4 hours. At least meaning it's very likely it took more than 4 for the entire head, especially b/c the back is very long.

Beautiful but 4 hours would probably get my braids done & head out.Beautiful but I ain't got that patience.

NotOfThis:
I like her cornrows.

Nigeria has the best hairbraiders in the world, hands down.

Congratulations and happy married life.

The exact thing I was thinking.So beautiful, but I can only imagine how long it took to get those done.

amiablesystems:
funny enough the views on Nairaland doesn't represent how Nigerians view Kenyans trust me.If there's any country near Nigeria in terms of atittude, intelligence and stuvs it's Kenya, dont take social media too seriously, many of us like an appreciate Kenyan women and men alike... i dnt stop short of seeing yu guys as intelligent and have that same spark Nigeria has, so ignore social media posts pls..

LOL, I have said it before that the reasons Nigerians post so much about Kenya, is because they secretly admire us.But, I recently issued an apology.You can check it from my recent post.

ebosie11:
Stephanie Peters was attacked by her husband last night after an argument ensued between them. The man wanted to assert his authority. He beat his wife so hard that blood came out of her eyes. The woman was so upset, she ran downstairs and used a stick to smash the windscreen of the man's car. The pictures confirm this.

The woman admitted that she wondered if she should stab him with a knife in self defence.


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2017/04/lady-smashes-her-husband-car-windscreen.html

She didn't do well at all.She should have smashed the whole car, otherwise the wind shield is very easy to replace.Nonsense, I'd teach him a lesson that he wouldn't forget easily.

rosalieene:
Your Opinion Is Needed Please Help


My aunt(mum's last sibling) has been having issues with her husband since she got married. She has two kids, a girl(2 yrs old) and a boy(1 yr old). The girl looks like her husband, the boy looks like her husband's brother.

Apart from the other issues they have been having, there is a particular issue that tore them apart. When the boy was born, the husband has been accusing her of sleeping with a man who stays in the same house with them (a room was leased to him), he said the man is the real father of the son.

My aunt asked for a DNA test to be ran but then he shouted and was saying will she provide the money for the test. Least I forget, my aunt isn't doing anything since she got married to him. He didn't want her to work but to depend on him. Most times he doesn't give her money for feeding and upkeep..she usually run to my uncles(her brothers) they give her money. It was also because of him my granny died( she developed high bp when she came for omugwo because of the way she was treated, everyday she comes to my house and my mum gives her food).

Due to the accusations and other issues, last month instead of a DNA test, the hubby ran a genotype and blood group test and his matched with the little baby's own. later on, the man kept on insisting that the little boy is not his son as he calls him "Dada" instead of "daddy".

This time around he started accusing my aunt of sleeping with his brother and an Uncle of his. He even beats the children at any slight provocation.

On wednesday around midnight, 2:30am to be precise according to her, he came to her room and started dragging her, beating her up, strangling her, threatening to kill her even said he doesn't mind going to jail if he kills her. He was beating her and asking who was the father of the boy. He seized her phone too. Her eyes were swollen plus other injuries on her body.The next day when my uncles got to know what happened, they sent my sis to go help her pack up her stuffs and since then my aunt and her kids had been in my house. My uncles were looking for good divorce lawyers as my aunt has made up her mind not to go back to the hubby because she might die in his hands.

Last night the husband came to my house pleading, kneeling down, begging and crying. he refused to go home even till 10pm. he said he wanted his wife and kids back. he kept pleading for a second chance and kept saying he doesn't want to marry another wife... but my dad insisted he leaves the house. he was even denied access to his kids.I felt pity for the man.

Now, do you think he deserves a second chance? do you think he was really remorseful? or do you think she should go on with the divorce case? she is really at cross roads now and confused. Me for one, I don't support divorce but I don't expect someone to keep tolerating domestic violence and loose her life. Do you think she would remarry after the divorce? she had operation during the birth of her kids so she is not really in good shape so do you think any man will look at her? I am also confused on her behalf.

Please, let your Aunt leave that man A.S.A.P. That man has issues that he needs to deal with on his own.He has the signs of a control freak.He made sure that she is jobless, so that he could control her like a puppet.The poor woman has no say in her own house. He also has no trust in her as he accuses her of being adulterous and claims that his kids were sired by other men.He has no trust which is the bedrock of any relationship.You mentioned that the Man beats his wife and kids at the slightest provocation.He obviously seems to have no love for those kids as he holds the view that he is not their biological father.With that said, so many women have forgiven their way to their early grave.Your Aunt needs to leave that violent man and not look back.She cannot fix him.He needs thorough counseling & anger management.Otherwise, let her run when she still has breath!

francdec4:
My respect.

Thanks.

Benita27:
So you wash your bra after your second outing?. I wear bra more than twice and it doesn't smell as you're putting it.

Eeeeeeew

bjims:
hi just seeing this ...I'm good. U stay in abj I guess?

No I don't stay in Abuja.No this was in response to your attempt to get to connect via email sometime back.But trust all is well with you.

JamieNaijaTeam:
Oyo state Governor, Ajimobi's daughter, mother, wife and businesswoman, Abisola Kola-Daisi, showed off her expensive customized Hermes Birkin bag via social media Friday evening.

Chedck out her ysl slumps

SOURCE: http://www.jamienaija.com/2017/04/governor-ajimobis-daughter-shows-off.html

I've never understood the reason why rich people like to show off.We already know you are blessed, so please enjoy your blessings quietly and stop making a mockery out of many people who are not worried about exotic bags, but where their next meal will come from.

DDeliverer:
I don't really know where to post this, but since it all started here, I think i should post it here in this section.
It all started after the "9ja has finished me" https://www.nairaland.com/3210525/nigeria-finished-me thread, 8-9months ago. 8-9months ago, I had nothing but a phone, a fine face and a degree in Biochemistry. No concrete plan, no job, no nothing.

Due to my jobless state I started spending plenty more time in the internet especially on Nairaland. It was on one of those 'lightless' nights that I created that thread. On that thread some guy asked me to reply his PM. On the average I get like 3-4 pms everyday, requests I generally ignore. But in that fateful day, I don't know what happened. I just replied him. It was the reply that changed my life. I replied sucess without realizing it (ALL OF YOU THAT IGNORE PMS, I SORRY FOR UNA).

After I replied, the man sent me a message about how the thread really touched him, how he laughed and cried at the same time while perusing the thread. I thanked him and went to bed. The next morning I woke up to another message. He wanted to discuss something and he needed my phone number. I gave it to him.

He called that morning and introduced himeslf as (name withheld) and that he would like us to have lunch, if it was okay by me. (OKAY BY ME? which kind question be that?) He told me to wait at a particular bus stop that his driver would pick me.

To cut the long story, He was opening a new company and he needed a young person to play a supervisory role. He wanted me to be his new director. I swear, tears dropped from my eyes. He asked if I was interested , I couldn't even talk, I could only nod ( because tears gather for my eyes). He brought out his cheque book, asked for my official name, scribbled something's, tore out the leaf and gave it to me. He asked if the money could cover for my wardrobe, transport and 3months salary, I almost broke my neck nodding. The money was more than enough.

Look at me, broke and hungry the previous night, few hours later, I was rich and I had a job that would make me more money. My case is truly different.

I feel it is only apopriate to pay my tithe to nairaland because I am who I am today because of nairaland. So I'd be giving 20 nairalanders 5k each this night.

God bless seun
God bless lalasticla.la
God bless nairaland

I love you all. Thanks.

Cc 9ja has finished me crew

Congrats!Nairaland is really making impact.The jobless have found jobs via NL.The singles have found life partners & the list is endless.

soberdrunk:
Let us assume each of them 'chop' an average of "25 times" at an average of "3 rounds each" that is 25 multipled by 3 multiplied by 11=825!!

She is "Nigerian used/registered/high mileage.........

Hahaha, wonders will never end.

ZirdoRoray:
Apology accepted but honestly you didn't need to do this. Even our Nigerian ladies won't do this. Next time don't take any bashing online serious because generally Africans are verbally aggressive. It seems you some good morals.

Thanks

unclezuma:
On behalf of Buhari, I accept your apologies in good faith and would hold it until his fan-club members arrive to receive it.

Ubarikiwe!

Lalasticlala abeg help catapult this to the front page.

Thanks

femi4:
Woman! Your sins are forgiven....Apology accepted..... Go and sin no more!

Thanks.

Hi all, Trust the year 2017 has been kind to you.So this is in regards to a thread I posted sometime back "Avoid Nigerian Men Like A Plague! It's been brought to my attention that some people found the thread to be offensive.Being a Kenyan myself, I used to go crazy defending my country almost on a daily basis, as a thread that's meant to tarnish the image of my country, would be posted on Nairaland.It's quite annoying to see all the lies, stereotypes and just bad news meant to make we Kenyans look bad making front page on NL. With that said, am referring to my old thread that I previously mentioned.I feel that I am no better than those who post bad news about Kenya because I did the same.I generalized all Nigerian men and put them in one basket of "bad eggs". One francdec4 referred to that thread today and concluded that I have " a deep rooted hatred" , for Nigerian men which is not true.I have judged people prematurely and today I had to also walk in those very shoes and now I understand.I make no excuse because feelings were hurt, but ask anyone who might have felt offended to kindly forgive me.Sometimes, when you've not walked in someone's shoes, you cannot understand the ups and downs of their journey.Meaning you can't understand why they do the things they do.But also, some are meant for entertainment which ends up not going so well. I think that I've met some very nice guys here on Nairaland and they are indeed wonderful people and have made friends.I have no control over your response whether you choose to forgive or communicate or comment,but I am not too proud to ask for forgiveness from anyone that might have been offended by that particular post or any other thing I might have said even on a different thread. Please forgive me! Thanks.

linearity:
He should do three things:

1. File a petition with USCIS to withdraw his affidavit of support.
2. File another petition with USCIS Alleging fraud.
3. File a motion to annul the marriage.

The lady's status in the US will turn to undocumented illegal.

If he truly want to pay her, don't file the annulment and and don't file for divorce. She will still become undocumented but now also unable to remarry legally again.

Thank you.She must be very wicked.