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Gayatri:
I understand You, perfectly Sir.... When i told him that i'd walk, he said what did i mean by walk away.. I told him, i meant keeping him totally off from my life.. He said, not even being friends with him?- i said no because feelings are involved and he said well then he cannot let me walk away.. That he is so attached and addicted to me.. Hmm

But since he is confused and they are not engaging any time soon, is it possible for me to make him see that she might not be real and she is the one who is to get him focused and if he cant be content with her then he is making the wrong choice of being with her.. Is it possible Sir??.. Jusy asking because i fell for him not for money or his been nice or whatever but his rare kindness, honesty with me, and appreciating the very little things i do, aside the coincidental connections we have... Im sorry if im asking too much questions... I want to be sure ad make my decision and not regret it whatsoever...

Gayatri:
I do not know how to start this but i will write as it comes... I was in a 2 year relationship that ended in march this year.. I was so commited in it like naturally when im dating, i DO NOT notice other guys and i DO NOT ask my boyfriend for financial assistance because i feel im not his responsibility,, what i do appreciate mostly were little things like, chatting, kindness, hugs, opening and closing of doors for me,, just little things, coz i adore them so much.. But anyway it ended.. And i vowed never to date again come what may.. During the break up process, all my friends (guys, hardly have a girlfriend) were there to help me pull through.. Calls and texts constantly because, according to them, they knew my type, thus the help.. Funny enough, i never got attracted to any of them (even the ones that initially asked me out when my friendship with them was fresh) and im not the sex sex type to just fall for any to satisfy my desire.. Though i got advice from neighbours to find someone else than staying alone, i said no especially as i am a loner but a happy loner.. I keep myself busy with work or any stuff that makes me happy.

Fine, two months later (june), some guy reached out to me even as he knew he's got a girlfriend, whixh according to him later, they were in an open relationship.. He stays in oshogbo, his girl stays in kaduna while im in sagamu..Before then, he reached out online by first stalking me on facebook (even though we did same online business), after a while he got talking with me.. At first, i was harsh, very harsh to him but he never minded.. At a point i stopped talking to him.. A month later he reached out again, asking if we were still friends.. I was like yeah, not nice to him at all but he was patient with me..

From mid-july we started talking well as friends, he was very open as i was to him. We flowed well that things were happening to us coincidentally.. Whenever he yawns, i do at my place, if im having a scratch, he does too.. There was just plenty of this connection that we never got tired of each other.. In the procesa of our been honest, he told me about his girl and how she was still keeping her ex and all whatnots... I didnt feel any iota of jealousy because i had not feelings for him yet.. I asked to talk things through with his girl and he says well if she gave the chance.. So laters, by august, september,october, feelings grew.. He got so fond of me... According to him, he has not seen my type before.. Fine! During my birthday, he wanted to do something for me, i said no, then two weeks to his birthday in nov, he asked that i visit him at their family house, that i did..

What struck me most was how the elder brother (married) took care of me... I was not allowed to do nothing.. The brother even cooked for me.. God, it made me fall more for the family.. The kind gestures i have never experienced in my life.. There are kindnesses but there is kindness, the real one.. I felt it.. Every thing that i want in a man, those little things, this guy has them all.. According to him, it baffles him that with the little he shows me, i do not take for granted even before he told me he's having a girl..

When i returned home, we continued our normal talks and he then said, that his girlfriend would be visiting during his birthday.. At that point i went silent.. (Meanwhile he met his girl this year but before me, also during her break up).. He was unhappy that i displayed this little jealousy.. So he says he has not broken up with his girl to start a new relationship and he is hurting that he is hurting me.. He's got feelings for me but he loves his girl.. So i said i was going walk, even though i never meant it, twas hard to even say that but i had to and he says no... That he's become so attached to me even his family thinks he's dating me.. That he controls his feelings for me, could i do same and i said no.. I could not be friends with him when i know that feelings are involved.. Finally, we came to terms to just flow with things since he was not engaged or married to her.. Even so, this guy just lost his job and he says unlike his girl, im the one pushing him to have something doing, he says i help him alot but i wouldnt know.. So we continued to let the whole feelings to flow until last week, when with my help, he was called for an interview in lagos..

As usual we talked and i wished him well.. I always pray for him.. In lagos, we talked well until the third day, our communication changed and before it did, my heart was literally aching, so i knew something was wrong.. I called to know why but he was telling me that he'd let me in when he got back to oshogbo, which he did.. He said his girlfriend who was having something to do with her ex, called him and wanted to settle things with him.. But the truth is, because this lady already had his facebook password when they were together in kadauna, she 3 days before her birthday on the 8th of this month wanted to know why her boyfriend was no longer perturbed over her behaviour, so she saw my chats with the guy and decided to do something,,, this now pushed to talk things out with the bf and apologise to him.. Then she asked him if anything was going on between is and he said no.. That we just friends,close friends.. He lied to her but opens up to me.. He says he doesnt want the girl to ask him to cut me off totally.. So the whole thing got him confused.. He says he's never double dated and he isnt happy that he's hurting me and im taking it... I asked him again if i should walk and he says no.. He does not want to lose me and i do not want to lose him either but i want to prove my love for him so that he one day sees that the girl, probably loves him but she's got no integrity.. And i purely love him.. But because i respect his relationship, i CAN NOT TELL HIM TO BREAK UP WITH HER but wanting him to see things himself but the question is for how long.. He says they are working things out now but he doesnt want to lose me esp as a friend... Difficult.. Out of God knows what, we agreed to let things flow since i will respect his relationship, like whenever his girl is around, i should make him believe that i will be fine.. Now, he isnt happy because he said if he hadnt met the gf, he'd have gone ahead to date me.. For me, i cannot sleep, ive been typing this since God knows when and this is 3:36am.. Since he is confused now, please people, friends, family, can i use love to make him see the difference between his girl and me.. He loves his girl, he is controlling his feelings for me and afraid to let it grow because he knows we'd bond, while my feelings toward him is real.. Money has not been involved in this.. We are 6months now.. I believe in true love and that it does not come easy.. Talk to me Y'll because i have no parents to talk to,, i would have talked to my mum now but she isnt here... I want to win with true love.. I turned 27 this past november and he turned 30 same november.. Thank You and God bless..

bsalawu:
You make the people poor... then you empowerment them... nice one.

This people need to understand that we don’t need empowerment, what you need is a conducive environment,
good infrastructure
and great leadership!


Who your empowerment help?

Second base jare!

Tajbol4splend:
Na so you mumu reach

BaddieFreak:
If he tries anything stupid, I will make sure I force my mom out of his house whether she likes it or not.

Bambambiglo:
As a man, I can't sustain an erection while fighting and struggling so I want to know how rapists manage to keep their dick erect while beating their victims?

VirginSearcher:
You see all these crazy guys this fooli.sh government brings on the road to disturb motorists.. I hate them eh!

Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

shantti:
u and who is sticking together as one, we will stick with women in this case abeg, humanity is the language we know

Boxer007:
She after all the men sir!

Zzor:
As soon as possible, you know how difficult it has been lately, don't delay in helping and reaching out to people. God bless you

SimplyFacts:
Tom & Jerry relationship could be referred to as a friendship or a romantic r/shp in which one keeps fighting the other but still can't live without that person.
I am currently entangled in one now. Don't get me wrong. I am not the one in such r/shp. My colleague and his fiancée are just too stubborn to calm whenever they have dispute & go physical. Their wedding, which is supposed to hold this Dec. 19, had already been postponed till further notice, all because of this regular fight.
They had another argument tonight which led to physical assaults. I don't know what would have become of the two if there was no one to separate them. Thank God I was able to avoid getting hit by a turning stick even though I couldn't help receiving some light blows & slaps . The most painful of all is leaving my room to get bitten by some angry mosquitoes in the living room. It is late now and the guy had just left for his friends' house; to spend the night. And I was still the one rubbing balm on the swollen part of the lady's head. The funny part is that, in few days, they would be back to lovey-dovey mood. I don't have a sound sleep anytime they start their trouble in the night. The fear of one injuring or killing the other by mistake wouldn't let me sleep early, being the only one with them in the flat. The two options I am left with is either I leave the apartment for them or I find a way to inform the company to stop the lady from staying with us in the house; all to avoid evil happening. The company pays for the accomodation. And this guy is a senior colleague, if not, I would have put it straight to him. I'm just confused.
Share your experience if you ever had one. And if you are in such a r/shp, I would advise you either quit or allow peace to reign. I am only saying this because I don't know you; as I have always been so careful here. It's not advisable coming between any partners in such a relationship. Shalom!

Zzor:
lefulefu come and read about your so called friend you were defending, the release of his nudes is imminent

RichDad1:
https://twitter.com/asiwajutinubu/status/1335936781280309249?s=21[/quote]It's a shame ... Have never seen oba of Benin or the Oni visiting politicians before. Northern emirs always selling their honors for a pot of porridge.

Marine54:
The killings going on in southern kaduna are what ?

JovialJune:
Why do men feel threatened when it comes to sharing properties? I mean, there was love between them before, the fact that they want to divorce doesn't mean they should hate each other, she was once part of his life, so it is fair for him to give her part of his properties, that doesnt mean she's a control freak or whatever.

BigSarah:
This is probably for special guests , Can you show us the gifts given to guests that belong to the general public umbrella....

Mtvbaseng:
You need prayers .I know u wish u were in my shoes but I will advise you like a big brother " Don't ever invest your time on sex "...

surgical:
He has just stated the reason buhari has left him on the job despite his glaring incompetence.
Despite the serious security challenge in the country,his top priority is regime protection

Corrlukaa:
Hope they are not innocent people forced to confess o

iamdrjosh:
Ace Nigerian musician David Adeleke aka Davido has announced that he will have the honor of being the bestman at his driver’s wedding.

David has taken to his twitter to excitedly share the news of his driver getting married very soon.

The artiste who was scheduled to marry the love of his life and mother of his son, Chioma Avril wasn’t able to make do on his plans due to the coronavirus amongst other upsets in 2020.


The delay has however not dampened David’s excitement for the joy of others as his tweet about his driver’s wedding seems to show.

OBO has gained a reputation for being generous and loving to those around him including his staff whom he has bought houses or car for.

David tweeted:

https://twitter.com/davido/status/1334424496384643072?s=19[/quote]So your driver no get name... That's condescending

Zzor:
You will like sex too much the way I'm seeing you, hml all the same

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright ...


Ogbeni the thing dey tire me o...wether the thing dey give them orgasm I don't know..
You need to see how my female siblings keep buying this stuff and littering the whole house with it..

Jaqenhghar:
Dem carry your money go chop but na ankle and wetin she wear you dey look.
SMH