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Siena:
It only makes sense, if your weight gain or loss, pleases your husband as well as yourself.

From what you posted previously, it's obvious you prefer to be slimmer, but your husband wants you to be a certain size.
It makes him appear so physical - does body change mean your personality alters too?
Regardless, you'll always be the same person he married, so what's the beef?

DeltaVAG^TM

i preferred to had remain the former size but he preferred the size i am now and i have began to like it bcoz it makes my clothing fit better than b4, Your body change does not mean your personality alters but it could on your marriage.

Maybe before the marriage, the man had seen it that you would add some weight after marriage and now that he is seeing that, you say you dont like it and he says if you dont want to give me what i want maybe the marriage may just have to be on hold for a while. In a situation like this what advice would you give to your blood sister.

Siena:
Never have I heard a more daft statement.

Every human being, male or female should be comfortable with their bodies, be it slim or fat.
You're saying she should make herself miserable, just to satisfy her scumbag of a husband?
Read between the lines here - he doesn't like her anymore, and it goes beyond the weight issue!!
If she gained weight, do you think he'll stop cheating?

You come from the deluded school ot thought, that if a woman likes to look and feel good, then she's looking for a new guy.
Has it ever occured to you that people like looking good, and it's not necessesarily to do with getting a partner?
If that's the way your mind works, then when people get married, they might as well stop taking care of themselves, afterall, "they've gotten their partners."

Your way of thinking is unhealthy - the emboldened text above proves that you don't like the way you look, but are staying bigger just to please your man. That doesn't show love, it merely shows "control" on the part of your husband.

DeltaVAG^TM

sorry that is where you are wrong looking the way my husband wants me to look show control on the part of my husband but because i love him.

not every man likes skinny bodies. some wants to feel the real flesh being size 16 doesnt mean you fat.

If she could stand b4 the whole world to say i do to this man means she should be able to do anything right in the sight of God to keep her marriage.

You guys are advising her to keep to her shape and be happy, what happens if her husband eventually ask her to pack?

What will be her advice to then? to get into another relationship or what?

If he doesnt like her anymore is bcoz she is doing something/s wrong somewhere. Come off it some of us too are married and i know what i am saying here.

Mind you, i dont come from the "delude school of thought". i believe the absolute obedience and submission to your husband. When your husband say he wants this and you say you want that then there are two masters in the house and there can never be peace in such a place.

if you ask the poster that is if what she posted is true, there is no peace in that house.

What peace could be there when your spouse is not happy with you?

JJYOU:
she is 29. you have tolerated for 18yrs just continue to ignore her.

i agree with you. Just ignore her and do ur part

Can you operate a joint account with your spouse?

Can you as a man allow your wife as the only signatory to the account?

Pls your contribution is needed.

The bible says anyone who is not able to provide for the family is worst than an infidel. This is either the man or the woman.

The woman is the help meet for the man. So the man needs not be ashamed when he is financially down. Afterall the scripture just has to be fullfiled. The woman just has to meet you in time of help and this is one of those times.

But just sit up and work harder dont relax on your wife's success if not, it will only take the grace of God coz we women are just too wonderful, you know what i mean.

All the same feel free.

Dear poster,

Is like you dont like your marriage. If your husband says he likes you fat then give to him. Are you looking for another man outside or who are you shedding the weight for? Habah! women be wise.

Before i got married, i was size 12, but now i am about 16 not because i like it but my husband. whenever i try to complain about my size he tells me he likes it like that.

If that is what will make your husband happy and take his eyes away from adultery then do it and save your marriage.

@ aisha2

My dear, in every impossibility there is alway a possibility.

Anyway there is no crime in trying.

It is better to try and fail than not try at all.

A help meet (mate) is someone that is given to you by God to be a help in time of need. This started when God saw that the work for Adam in the garden of Eden was too much so He decided to give him (Adam) a helper. Gen. 2:18

A help meet (mate) is your wife

She is a helper fit for him not a SLAVE (Gen. 2:18)

The characteristics of a help meet (mate) in Prov. 31:10-31

there are still wise women and i know i am.

you want to ask how?

Coz by the grace of God i have the characteristics of a virtuous woman the Bible talks about in proverb 31.

Dear poster,

I have a question for you. Do you love this you step daugther as if she were yours? If yes, then follow this my advice and with prayers.

I will advice you to probably bring her closer. Make her see reasons with you that you are not asking her to do house chores because you are seeing her as a maid or because you cannot do without her but you love her as a daughter/sister and wished the best for her in her marriage.

Make her understand that if she is used to house chores now it will do her a great favour in marriage coz no man no matter how loving he may be loves a lazy wife let alone his family most especially the mother (mother-inlaw).

I think when you speak to her in love she would certainly see reasons with you. Afterall if she were to be your daughter you wont leave her to her fate.

thank you.

Pls apply wisdom.

the lady should ask the guy in question if it is right for his daughter to get pregnant before marriage?

HELL IS REAL

Jesus is my all in all

it is capital WRONG IN THE SIGHT OF GOD

the only and right person that has the answer to this question is God Almighty Himself.

Ask of Him and He will gladly explain to you.

Don't speak blunders.

Cheers.

i don't think any pastor is better than the other because they all have different areas of calling and anointing.

I love my Daddy, Daddy G.O. (E.A. Adeboye), Pastor Paul Eneche of Dunamis is another powerful man of God. You guys need to be under his ministration.

MR brownJAY (m)
sometimes and most times, Jesus spoke in parable. When the Bible says marriage is honourable with the bed undefiled, it simply meant that the man and the woman involved should not have premarital sex before the wedding day.

And again, in 1 Cor. 7:1-2 "It is not good for a man not to have sexual relations with a man. But because of the temptation of sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband".

So my dear, premaritalsex is bad.

clothe to me means cover. when a lady dresses it is expected of her to cover up not necessary covery her head to toe. you can do all these and still not be right before God. The Bible says we should be moderate in everything we do. so whenever you as a lady dresses take a look at the mirror and be sincere to yourself if what you are wearing is good in the sight of your creator.

If you feel is good then go ahead. Afterall God will never force a man to go again his (the man's) wishes.

Anyway dressing like a muslim or otherwise is a way of dressing.

God will help us.

It is appointed unto man to die once after that judgement. once a man dies his spirit goes back to the owner imediately i.e God and his soul is also judged instantly. E.g the soul that sins shall die.

Heaven is real so is hell.

Adultery is not defined as premarital sex. It is defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said prohibiting sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, in Leviticus we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family. nowhere in the bible does it say that premarital sex is lust (describe in the bible as: after another mans wife as in the Law. Lev. 18:20) impure, immoral or debauchery.
case closed!
[quote][/quote]If u speak this what about the part that says, the marriage is honourable with the bed undefiled.

Pls be very careful not to accept lies from the pit of hell.

Both are very bad in the sight of God. The Bible says that these set of people will He wipe out from the face of the earth. As for the fornicators theirs is the lake of fire.

God doesnot hesitate to destroy any one who destroys the temple. Our body is the temple of the Lord.

my people pls let's be very careful of what we speak concerning men of God. God doesn't joke with that. Remember what happened to the children that moked Elijah in the Bible and He turned them to bears and God honoured that prayer bcoz He doesnt joke with people messing around with His servants. True men of God dont act unless they are instructed by God to do so.

NOTE: "Ours is to pray and God is to answer"

there is nothing like luck in the bible but favours. so i dont believe in luck but favours of God.

My dear poster, i really feel for you but, my only advice for you is to allow Jesus Christ to come into your home. Not by lips but by heart.
The mistake is already made and the only thing the Bible does not accept is divorce.
There are two types of marriages namely; THE PERMITTED MARRIAGE OF GOD and THE PERFECT WILL OF GOD FOR MARRIAGE. If you missed the perfect will of God for marriage you can also grab the permitted marriage of God by acknowledging your mistakes and inviting Him to come and take control of your marriage. This He will gladly do because He said He is A PRESENT HELP IN TROUBLE.

Please my brother, disregard every negative advice and look unto Christ, the Solid Rock to build you home.

Remain blessed.