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Frankrobbn1:
Indeed! It's a great news for Aspiring Nigerian students wishing to pursue a post secondary education in Canada.

My advise is that applicants should start utilizing this new pilot program before it gets exhausted.

It will end in praises.

Absolutely

Denov:
You can also go through the Province. PNP route. My CRS is 340, but I got ITA From SINP last year. Though I turned it down because my POF was not up to 3 months.
Just check and see if your NOC is in demand.
Good luck

This should be directed to the person.who asked the initial question.or you should have quoted her or tagged her.

It's hard to describe though..my first time abroad 8years ago was in Paris..i had to adjust to seeing the way things were done in a very organized and calm way.

Ogilinsaka:
I hope and pray this woman wasn't a victim of envy and jealousy from competitors cos it happens all the time...

This is pathetic

I smell lies...or who allows a random stranger to get into the mortuary to bath dead bodies...pure lies.

Wait what if it was a false fake lying alarm birthed by jealousy of her good banga soup and good patronage

NextD18:
You are unnecessarily bothered and looking for problems where there's none.

It takes the grace of God for a woman to be loyal and respectful to her husband after relocating to America. It's take the grace of God for that to happen, because it has been statistically proven that 99.591% of Nigerian women v'got high possibilities of changing to a disrespectful and wild dogs to their husband once they relocate to the West.

Kindly appreciate and encourage her.
Stop complaining!
She's a reserved type!
You should be thankful to God, because when she'll start being over expressive, and wild towards you, you'll know it's better to live in hell, than to live with a disrespectful and wild woman in America.

So true moreover I hear the statistics is 100% proven for Igbo girls.lol

Bervelyhillz:
This is a bit long but please bear with me.

I’ve been married to my amazingly beautiful wife for 3 years. The problem is she is very shy around me but at the same time seems to try to secretly please me constantly. It leaves me feeling guilty and I’m not sure of what to do next.

Backstory:

I met her through my mom. My MIL and my mom are childhood friends who grew up together. I never met her at the time since I lived in the US while She was in Nigeria. When I was 20 I saw her in a family friend’s wedding album. I was floored and my eyes were watering. She was the most attractive girl I had ever seen.

I figured out her FB and messaged her since I didn't want to initiate contact through our moms. I struck up a conversation. I soon realized that my mom fed info about me to my MIL which in turn got fed to her , so she already knew a fair bit about me. We chatted constantly, met up on my vacation to Nigeria , and hung out together every day. I learn she is still a virgin saving herself for marriage. I was still one too, mostly because A) I was chubby most of my life and didn't dare go near girls in that state and B) when I did start getting more fit, I already fell in love with her and it felt wrong dating at the same time. So yeah we had that in common.

Skipping ahead again to three years ago when I graduated from grad school. We met up a handful of times more, and things were awesome. She was outgoing with me, giggling over almost nothing and general silliness. We never did anything sexual, but we were intimate enough and honestly seeing her gave me goosebumps, so it wasn't on my mind. On one visit to Nigeria, she brought up the topic of marriage in a joking manner, something about how our mom's always planned it. I jokingly replied that I would be happy to marry her, then she got all serious and asked if I was for real. I said yes and, well, the rest is history.

The problem:

We had our wedding in Nigeria and, after the papers got sorted, she moved to the US to live with me. The first few months were interesting. She knows English pretty well and she majored in her native language, so she looked for translation jobs. She never got replies from employers, so I was getting a little suspicious, especially since she was an honors student at a pretty high ranking international university. I found out that she wasn't actually sending the applications out. I bring this up gently with her, and she starts tearing a bit telling me she wants to be a stay at home wife and that she didn't think I would be proud of her if she didn't get a real job. She says she was going to tell me soon, which I believe because I found a recent word document in our computer that was basically a draft of the speech she was going to give me. I don't mind her staying at home as I bring in enough money for the both of us and she is a really good cook.

This prompted me to sit down with her and figure out where our communication is breaking down. After a bunch of long discussions about this, I felt we were on the same page. She was still growing more timid around me and didn't start conversations easily with me, but she always seemed happy. I stepped up my displays of affection, showering her with compliments, hugs, and kisses. I would often catch her staring at me (usually while we ate), to which she would get red-faced and look away quickly. It’s been 3 years now and still does the smiling stare, except now she doesn’t look away when I catch her. The conversation starting has gotten a bit better, but nowhere near pre-marriage. While she always had this quiet peacefulness to her, I noticed she is intentionally not doing things that might get me worked up. Examples being: discussing politics (we have the same views), discussing my work problems, discussing anything philosophical in nature, etc. She will respond if I start, but she doesn’t take the initiative like before. I really miss that.

The sex is...interesting? As I said before, I didn't have any prior experience so I can't judge her, but she just lays on the bed and doesn’t move until I suggest to. She never initiates but never declines. I try to make it about her more often than not, but if I’m looking for feedback she quietly agrees with whatever I'm doing. After we finish, she lays in the same position looking at me, sometimes smiling, sometimes teary-eyed. I take it she likes it, but then again she never likes to talk about sex. From what I gather in our pre-marriage talks, she doesn't have any negative views on it and it wasn't shunned by her parents, it's just that she is shy. She doesn't like me seeing her naked even though I do (ha ha...:/ ). She is…shy very well proportioned…and I tell her how it is so she shouldn’t feel self-conscious. But she still covers up outside of sex.

Another issue is fitness: I work out constantly at home or in the park (calisthenics) and I invite her to join but she politely declines. She runs almost every morning so I thought maybe she gets enough from that. But I have noticed that my weight backpack at home is sometimes at a different weight than when I left it. I have also noticed She has made some serious butt/thigh gains which really stand out on her thin frame. When I ask if she is doing anything differently, she says “maybe it’s the running” then changes the subject. I don’t understand why she is working out in secret. This is most likely my fault though since I used to try and tease her into working out with me; I made a silly remark about how squatting/ham-raises will put more meat on her legs.

Conclusion:

Guys and gals, I need help. I love my wife dearly. She is funnier than any comedian, more disciplined than any soldier, and more beautiful than any celebrity. But she is making me feel weird by trying to secretly improve herself based on my preferences. Her shyness around me is awkward and I want a return to the easy-going pre-marriage . Has anyone had experience with this?

Also: she has made many friends here and still is in contact with a few back home. However she doesn't seem excited to be around them as much as when I offer to go out with her. She's always offers to cancel plans to stay in with me or go for a walk. I thought she might be depressed, but she is super cheerful even when she doesn't know I'm around.

I don't think you have any serious problem, but to make her easen up with you and be more free you have to communicate, communicate and communicate until she freely expresses stuff to you without reservation. You should initiate the communication and try to discuss things she likes from there she will come up to the level you want.

kingxsamz:
See this one, feeling like there's some sort of protection over his head.
If you really understand life, you wouldn't have typed the crap you wrote up there.
I can die tomorrow, that's life.
Rejecting it won't stop death from coming to your doorstep.
I'm still saying it, you might die tomorrow or next or even probably live to that 95 years old you so much crave for. That's life bro.

Back to sender.Thunder fire you there.I shall live to over 95 years.Bastard devil wee you shut up there.. Rifraf idiot..Untimely death fall on you there.Bastard fool

kingxsamz:
Lol, see this one.
You might die tomorrow....

I can't fit die till I am over 95yrs.Its impossicant
Rather its you and your family that are the ones that are cursed with untimely death who are permitted to expire in a hurry.Amen and so shall it be. Now wee you get out of my sight before i give you dirty slap, bastard devil.Idiot possessed nonentithy.

Not even my wife..i will love her but no way

As you say it so shall it be your portion..As for me.I shall live to a good old age and see my children's children children.

Makavelli25:
Yea thats it. I rear local dogs and I have a lot of them. I had a dog that gave birth to 5 pups and after 2 weeks they all died. I suspected poisoning but as a young wise man I moved on.

Not long after the mother dog died too. I was mad like wtf they killed it too. But no lele na local dog cheap. I got another one and like a miracle it gave me 7 pups. These new pups are dying again, left with 4 and they are not old yet I would have sold them.

My neighbors are killing my dogs and I don't know what to do. They even Sympathised with me sef (oju aye) but I know baba GOD DEY WATCH

Pack out.Nor everyone love dog

stanluiz:
Why is mount and Barkley starting this game
While Pedro and willian were sitting on the match

A big champions league match like Bayern that requires experience players. Lampard bench his two wingers and player immature and inexperience mount and Barkley. No wonder Chelsea did not push any attack on first half.

Lampard inexperience and sentiment toward non English players will kill Chelsea.

Lampard na idiot..i switch off the game after the 3rd goal.The guy no know wetin he dey do.

okokobiokoman:
How was Egypt Air. I am planning on using them. Any baggage issues or seizing of particular items?

I used Egypt air when coming 5 years ago.No issues

omoigboo:
Hello Guys, Pls i dont know where to ask this question so pls forgive me. I heard in Manitoba you can study for 1 year and still get pgwp because colleges like red river starts processing your PR after the first semester. I sounds too good to be true but hey guys can anyone help out?

Big fat lies, no one can process PR for you untill you graduate..except you qualify for the express entry skilled worker stream on your own independent of what you are doing in red river

sholay2011:
It is true but the 'scholarship' I believe is the IGSES which reduces your tuition fee by half. :PAlso, there is the University of Manitoba Graduate Fellowship in which the school pays about $500 into your Canadian Bank Account every 2 weeks.

Yes the IGSES reduces your fees as a graduate student..and if you get a UMGF scholarship..then you don't need to worry about money.

sontelme:
Dear Team,

please i need to find out if i can work and pay my fees of $8K per semester. the truth is am self sponsored and will coming to canada soon

i await your response.

regards

That's gonna be very hard..besides you can't work more than 20hr per week or risk been caught and deported.

Goodylicious74:
Hi, please does anyone have any info about job prospects and career development in Biotechnology..especially in British Columbia or any region at all. I want to know what my chances are in getting a good job, I'm looking at an Msc in Biotechnology.

Come to the UoM in Manitoba.Do an M.Sc in biosystems.There are jobs for you..nothing to worry about

emkz:
For her, relationship is transactionary; the highest payer monopolizes the pussy momentarily.

So, a public unlimited liability company would cause heavy losses to a private owner who deludes himself thinking that he can privatize it.

Oga, you are a shareholder; keep quiet, collect your dividends and reduce your investment. That way, you divert risk.

Please, I hope you have no intention of wifing that Plc?

What an analysis..he is a private premium shareholder for a public trading kpekus limited liability hoe. Lol

Many guys take shit this days I wonder why.

Driedfish:
Okafor's law

Hehehe

iCauseTrouble:
The truth most Nigerian ladies are still sexually and romantically attached to their ex. Thats why I discouraged guys from dating / marrying a lady with several past relationships. She is now a public asset and not a personal property

Noted..as such girls have a strong affinity to operate okafor law

Bankowner:
That is what i'll call a red flag meaning potential danger to the successful outcome of an event or process

I hope the guy is wise eneough to dump the hoe now that he has know ehat she has done abd will fo again.

When it comes to 9ja girls expect anything because like they say "these hoes ain't loyal"

72Morale:
It will be foolish of any sane person to believe this crap.

Once a woman start using "Because he asked me out and I refused" as a defensive line in any case, Just know that she's telling lies.

Hmmmm na real wa

72Morale:
No matter how stubborn and wise you think you are; Don't ever go against tradition and against your family wishes once it has to do with marriage.

Love isn't even one of the top 5 things to consider in marriage because it's just a self-deceptive word that does not contribute anything to a marriage.

I agree but if the wishes are birthed from the place of sentiment and not objective perspective..it can be contested and rejected..i have seen many such cases..for instance..my dad was telling my elder bro don't marry igbo girl..we don't trust them...but my elder bro stood his ground and went ahead..today my dad was proved wrong as she is a good person from all indication.

Mandem12:
I had to open a new account for this, pardon me for Punctuation errors. I have to go straight to the point so as not to bore you... My story goes thus

I'm a young man of 25. I met this very beautiful girl, aged 23 now, we've dated 4 years now. She's so humble, the love grew out of nowhere. She does everything a woman would do for a man and I do everything a man will do for a woman.

I found myself not doing anything without her and she cannot do anything without involving me, we actually love each other very much.

She started pestering me to have a blood oath with her because she was scared I would leave her. I laughed it off cos I knew I wouldn't cheat on her, she is everything I wanted in a woman.

Trouble started when I brought her home to meet my parents, I was actually happy that I had found my wife...

When she left, my father asked me where she was from, and I told him and my father told me I can't marry her because she was from the same village with me and thereby related by blood thereby marrying her is an abomination that she was my sister so to say and said our kinsmen would not be Involved if I insist on marrying her... I felt my world crumbling down like a pack of cards...

I told my girl and she was like, it's an old tradition and nobody will dictate to her who she would marry and she loves me and there was no going back...

As a man, I thought about it and wanted to let her go because I wouldn't want the stigma to be on us and my unborn kids... I showed her some attitude to make her hate me but she didn't, rather she would rather beg me not to leave her even when I'm at fault. I feel bad anytime I do anything to hurt her feelings...

Now, I actually want to get her pregnant and damn the consequences, do a court wedding if the need arises and relocate with her out from our state and start a new life elsewhere...

Another mind is telling me to let her go so we can move on with our lives, or even be a fugitive for her... I however know she will hurt herself if I leave her... I'm very confused about everything, I seriously need help... Why is Igbo tradition this way? I found love with this girl, now everything is about to be stripped away from me, just like that... I seriously need an advice please...

I love this girl so much and she make me happy


Please move this to front page so I can hear from others please...

It may be a good idea as if I am face with similar situation I will consider doing that..what kind of stupid tradition is that..how can someone coming from your village be your relation..i don't understand..is the village not made up of different clans and families.Honestly your dad is been ridiculous.Like is this how igbo people think?

Guy be a man and stand your ground. Dont leave her.Insist on marrying her and if your kinsmem dont want to be involved then so be it..What will determine the longevity and happiness in your marriage is tied to you and her decision.


The girl loves you indeed from what you have stated.To find this kind of genuine love again Is not easy and would be very difficult..Its mainly yeye nonsense girls out there.So better don't leave her.If you were a girl I would have said it might be hard..but you are the man and it's easier for you to stand your ground.

I miss the food...lol

Davash222:
Husband on a hustle to better his family while the wife eloped with her lover for reckless fucck. Nigerian women summarised.

No wonder 9ja women won the undisputed award as the number 1 hoes in the world.Such a shame.

victorychapel:
Canada is for hardworking individuals like some Nigerians, so when I say its flowing with milk and honey, i mean it for people who are ready to work. I lived in Newfoundland for more than a year but moved to Victoria, BC because of the weather and it's been amazing. I have spent almost 3 years in Victoria.

Suggesting it's a land flowing with milk and honey is ok..but tell them not really..you have to work your ass off sometimes doing 2 jobs to pay your bills for probably the first 6 months to 1 year upon arrival before you get a job that you would love in your field thats if it doesn't take longer with your no Canadian experience nor Canadian academic qualifications.

That's not a milk and honey situation..So don't paint an easy rosy situation for newcomers tell them the truth..it ain't really easy. Infact you work more in Canada than you did in 9ja sometimes you will have to pick up Saturday or Sunday shift.Then you will know how far..but it is well.