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alfarouq:
Thank God for Islam. Polygamy is allowed. Getting a second wife would have saved you from the act of forcefully raping her and because she would come to her senses as she will realize she can no longer use sex as a weapon against you.

100 likes for "polygamy is allowed".... I also believe polygamy is allowed in Christianity because Solomon had 1000 wives and 750 concubines....

faoogoke:
My brother you need to realise that marriage just like life is mostly unfair. Good men endnup marry terrible women and vice versa. Marriage just like life is no bed of roses.
Go back home, engross yourself with your work, draw close to your God and pretend you don't have a wife.
Hopefully she will come to her senses and if not please move on with your life. Its not worth stressing yourself about.
I feel for your daughter but it shall be well.

And above all he should get himself 5 wives and 10 Christian gfs he can learn more about God from and hv sex too (as committed partners).... this way no more issues of "deny me sex" (I hate that term - are you a weakling?)

4kizo:
All thees single evening newspapers criticising you for your actions like you kill someone mtchewww....I did not support what you did but how can someone I paid her pride price and do all stuffs as tradition demands starve me sex for months without good reason....if you have cheat on her then, these same evening newspapers will still call you dog...abeg if you do all you can as a man and she still no forgive you...biko move on with your life, focus on your job.....no go lose both of them same time...naija too hard to loose your job abeg.....

Why did a man rape the wife?? Because of religion. This same man could have easily gotten himself a born again christian second wife or born again christian girl friend so when the wife denies him sex he can see his born again 2ndwife or gf. But religion and fear won't let men think.

Ufuka:
You both are wrong, but your wife get the greater blame, the Bible says wife shouldn't refuse the husband and likewise the husband. You've to be a real man and take proper control of your family, no woman respect a weak man. Don't beg her again, don't even call her or any of her family member, wait for like a month or two if she fail to return, then am afraid the marriage may not work. Also did you hurt her in anyway before she start denying you sex and also do you satisfy her doing sex?

Leave the bible out of it and do what makes sense. Did Solomon not hv 1000 wives? Did ppl not lie with other women in the old testament? Keep caging your souls with a false interpretation of the Bible.

sageer1706:
Hanty/broda jenny, the man is asking for solutions and not to keep blaming him (he has apologize and admitted he did wrong do u want him to kill himself) you should also find out why the wife will starve her husband of sex for 2month... Some women are responsible for the bad behavior of their husbands

Its weak men that are "starved of sex"...why not get a gf, side chick or gf to give you sex when ur wife "denies you sex"

kingthreat:
Imagine her parents dictating the school for your child?
Man, they must take you for a weakling. The papa go tell me if na him fucck him daughter born the pikin.
To hell with your wife, she hates your guts. Fight for your daughter.

I advice men to never rely on one woman but to have plenty born again Christian wives as a matter of risk management....

bishop264:
You know the best thing to do,

Women hate competition, put her into one by getting a second wife. By the time she makes up her mind to come back they are now 2 believe me the will be the ones competing for your attention.

You are too young to die, you will say my daughter what about her, if you die life goes on and it will be worst for her. Man up and do the needful.

Exactly....a second wife or a serious girlfriend... which one is "deny her husband sex" while men beg for sex. Are women God? Last time I checked, there is only one true God Jesus Christ not women or sex.

The guy should get as many wives as he wants and the woman would start begging.

Iyaebe:
Only a foolish woman denies her husband sex for no conc and genuine reasons, you should have ignored her and also refuse her when she starts showing interest, I so much hate it when a woman messes up a good man for no reasons especially if he takes care of her needs. Why are you even begging? Stop those nonsense apologies and act like a man,sometimes I like some of the teachings of the redpill, I hate weak men and they can never attract me.You've already apologized to her,stop going to her parents house to act like a simplyton,please read some of the redpill nuggets and apply it but don't add bitterness to it,it will help you act and reason like a real man.Moderator lalasticlala move to front page let nairalanders see my comment and know that I'm not biased and I have wisdom and very sensible too,let them also know that I'm just entertaining them with most of my comments.

Which one is "deny her husband sex"..... na wetin religion dey cause. If the man had had several wives, its the girl that will be keen to give him sex sef so the other wives don't take over.

Prayfortheworld:
To be honest with you to leave that marriage dey your woman mind since

Because i don't see any Reason why she will deny you sex for months without any tangible reason. It's either she's seeing someone else or tired of the marriage tell her you're tired that you've tried if she wants a divorce let her tell you that you will gladly give her that rather than all this her hide and seek game.

Text her this night or call her! Mehn Man up tell her this and focus on your job. Find better woman wey go Dy quench your conji. Life is too short for someone to start giving himself unnecessary headache about who don't give a f**k about you.
That's wickedness from her own side to deny her husband sex for two months. i can't take that!! Let it be known that i cheat than forcing her.

I hate that phrase "deny sex".... I believe a man should keep several wives and girlfriends that are God fearing so in case one wants to "deny me sex"... the other members of my holy concubine will give me the desired sex

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Some girls really don't want marriage....they go into marriage with an agenda to hv children and then break off with the man afterwards....

Jman06:
Don't just mind them and their "mature lady" nonsense!

Take a look at most marriages having problems today. A great majority of them involve the so called "matured ladies". Same matured ladies are the ones cheating on their husbands with their exes. They're the ones who challenge their husbands and nag them like babies because, of course they consider themselves " matured ".

If people want men to pity the old ladies and marry them, they should come out clean and beg on their behalves. Not telling loads of lies and trying to trick people into settling for less based on some non existent maturity!

I know one "matured lady" in the US. She never does what her husband wants....she wants to relocate to the city she wants not to the city her husband wants..... and she lives on her terms....she already told her husband that she will do her best for kids but if kids don't come that it's not her fault (translated: she fit don do abortion with an ex-boyfriend).

topiiiiiiii:
haha bros, what if you married her at 20 wont still she get to 32, please stop age-shaming her, if she tick your boxes propose to her you might be lucky (for her to accept) or let her go and then you see pepper with younger girls were their eye don tear commot for body, may God guide you right!

at 32 its her that should be "proposing" to the guy...

iamL:
Did u see me paint younger ladies as bad? For your information am quite young in age but older in experience.

Is unfortunate to see broken-Nigerian-boys on NL who couldn't get anyone to love them spilling their bitterness all over the place. At the same time flooding our dms.

There are more qualified men out there who find loved among the matured ladies. Some of their comments are on this thread and their homes are happy their spec is the matured ones, some even married older ones.

If u can't deal with the fact that men do settle with evening newspapers and they loved it that way, Last I checked snipper is still #50 because your bitterness is quite alarming.

Bye bye sir...

Men marry evening newspapers as wife but he will be seeing other girls. And the sex will just be family sex (just for kids) not hot erotic sex (young gals give guys very strong erections)

quentin06:
Be factual, its the other way round

Its not the other way round blacks are superior - its what the colonial administration taught you to think less about yourself that you believe.

quentin06:
Why are you apologizing, do blacks reason better than whites? Do you know that despite their education and professional qualification most black women have a slimmer chance to get married than their white counterparts?

Why did OP not marry over there? Ask him, the truth is that a black woman over there is a huge liability to marry.

She has incurred student loan, diseases , abortions and all the toxic emotional baggage OP can never deal with.

Its always better to marry at home.

Blacks reason far better than whites that's why the western European savages are always coming to Africa (especially the British Island savages and the French savages) instead of the other way round.

NGpatriot:
The need to deport the dumb and idiotic ipob sef... These clowns have some twisted and bankrupt sense of entitlement, but Canada is not the ZOO where they are allowed to get away with their crude, crass and antisocial activities.

Deport that ipob clown back to his Nnewi village, ESN and UGM are looking for miscreants to hire..

Stop calling ur country a zoo..... its not cool. Western Europeans countries many are poorly run including Italy and with so many social problems..... even in Turkey there were protests recently over inflation yet they don't call their country a zoo. Stop the self denigration and self hating....

Glycolite:
Hello bro,please I will love if you had used women that are 18 years old and above in your age range sample.
The truth is that " the law" is going to employ every means possible to send you behind bars if you're caught having a sexual dealing with a lady below 18 years old, whether the relationship was conceptual or not .
Have a great day.

There are countries such as Canada where 16 is an age of consent. Again u hv given into fear....

Personally sha I only do 18 & above but that's not to say there are countries where 16 isn't legal....

So dem don use law to pit fear in ur souls that men no longer go for wat they want. Fear fear.

Glycolite:
Smiles,the reality is that a man that knows his worth is not going to settle for older woman a.ka "mature ladies" when there are younger women out there.
Your father settled for your younger mother for a reason .
Your grand father settled for your grand mother when she was younger for a reason.
And it goes on and on and on.
No matter how hard you guys try to paint younger women as "bad and not good for long tern commitment plans],because you perceive them as big threat to your long term commitment plans,most men will always go for younger women.
Most of us are not ready to deal with older women a.k.a "mature ladies" past baggages .
Deal with it.

They think they can argue out nature with logic.
Let me also say another truth pocahontas cococandy cocolady iyabe make all of u a hear:

50 year old men truly desire 16-22 year olds just that they have been shamed out of it. Even 51 year senators in the North still go for 19 year olds. They are happy to deal with the so called "immaturity". Who no like better thing?

quentin06:
Let me tell you a secret, men are polygamous by nature.
One woman can never satisfy a real man.
Forget those stories of couples being married for 32 years, the only way the man can stay that long with that woman is by browsing other women.

There is God oh! And obviously sleeping with prostitutes and every Tom dick and Harry is a sin... and brings emptiness.

However the only incentive for monogamy which is youth has been taken away from husbands

What I practice is holy polygamy I.e. I make sure all my girlfriends and concubines hv a basic profession of faith in God, no sleeping with married women, praying for the women I sleep with, no sleeping with prostitutes etc..

But the current marriage deal for husbands is a bad deal....

remsonik:
What goes around, comes around. Look for the younger ones and when you grow old that you're down she starts flirting around and you face a lot of dramas that you can't fight. No one to cleanse you, no one to keep your company, help take care of you, feed you or even fulfill your sexual urges that will only come once in a month. Your balls are weak and can't produce good sperm for a child and she brings in children from another man into your home which you cater for unknowingly

Not really true. With a 10 yr age gap when he 46 she's 36. 36 yo woman don expire.

Babaken:
sorry sir please accept my apology.

Africans are among the smartest people on earth and are at least just as smart as others; western media knows this and tried to subdue the Blackman psychologically thru colonial brainwashing.... the continent is underdeveloped due to the interference of the so called "G7" who are in actual fact poor states and thieves....

Stargurl20:
It's well. Truth is bitter. Like I stated up there, I'm not convincing the OP. And if u do not know me, u have no right to say that trash of a comment u typed up there.

If u are among those guys who use women, and still be the first to badmouth and say evill things about them. Karma is awaiting u. That's all I've to say. Take care.

I don't use any women so I'm not afraid of "karma"... I'm against women using men.... if ur not a d*ck taster of various d*cks then fine.... ur one of us.... but if ur looking for a retirement package then karma will make sure u don't end up with a great man....

Enough of bad girls trying to eat dia cake and having it....

Stargurl20:
But what's with guys always saying single ladies in their 30s and above have done nasty things during their youths? This notion is so wrong. Majority of these guys saying naasty thing about ladies are evil. These same guys will say they cannot marry a lady without testing her, and the innocent and naive ones fall for this trick even for those guys with evil intentions.

Most guys body counts is nothing to write home about yet they criticize ladies as if being morally upright is gendered based. As if religion only preaches morality and emphasizes that only ladies is meant to be morally upright. I'm not commenting to convince u OP to marry the lady. U probably might be doing her a huge favor if u let her go coz this your mindset ehn .... However, a being single at that age doesn't mean she has rejected a lot of suitors or she has useless herself.

Nairaland's men, make una dey think before bashing women. U have sisters. If u don't have sisters, some of u will give birth to baby girl(s). What goes around comes around. Would u say the same for you girl child? Or will u happy if same is said about your girl child?

You are one of those evil women looking to use naive men as retirement package. Men now know that game so too bad for you!

Nezzjnr:
Hmmmmm OP

I won't impose anything for you.

But you see this going for Younger Girls when you want to marry??.... Definitely not going to be my thing!!!!!!!!

Majority of them aren't matured....They still flirt around... Let me give you 2 scenarios

1. One of my course mate while in school got married late last year....The way she chats with me is seriously worrisome.. Even forcing me to visit her at all cost...while her husband is in Ivory Coast working his ass out.... Had to warn her in a rude manner and deleted her number

2. My cousin got married this month and I happened to be the best man... So he begged me to take his wife to the Market to get some items.. Aunty was asking me questions I wasn't comfortable with... Holding my hands while I was driving... I had to park so we could use bike to the market.. She insisted on using the same bike with me... I told her NO and that was it.... I even thought she was older than me... Only for someone to tell me that I'm older than her.

I have other stories but I'll stop here abeg.

Marriage is all about peace of mind oo.

Leave all these small boys saying that her body will start folding when she's almost 40...it depends on how she maintains her body.

Why not hv 2 wives?? One old and one young?

Misterone:
learn from your own words! a lady that is not promiscuous at 32 will never be promiscuous. from your own words, at this age, she is already a leopard that can never change its spots. so the guy is going for a genuine, confirm peaceful lady. but the younger lady is fake. also, everyone will sow their wild oats secretly or openly. that's nature for you. when those hormones start, they cannot be stopped.

Ur right... if she doesn't have a history of promiscuity she's likely the better deal while the younger girl is better as a mistress....

Babaken:
Even with your oyibo man brain and schooling abroad you are still reasoning like this what if you didn't travel at all it would have been worse.

Pls what's this supposed to mean?? Blacks reason far better than oyinbos... pls don't try this nonsense again!

pocohantas:
Lol. Trust me, there is no part of me that has envied men or craved to be a man.

I rather be a teacup. I don’t even mean this as an insult.

Alright baby/internet girlfriend.... buy me a tea cup of coffee....(we are on a date).....

pocohantas:
No my dear, you lie. When you are young, your youthfulness can easily get you ladies. That is why 500L engineering boys and corpers can have a field day. As you get older, you have to bring more to the table, that is where money comes in.

I am glad we are in agreement that the attraction is your financial stability. Then you should quit the talk of “looking good”. Nobody send your looks as a 50yrs old man. You can’t look better than the younglings. You sure do not have abs and I am sure you dress like men of your generation.

In the marriage market 50 yr old rich men hv the upper hand. In the dating market younger guys have the upper hand than the 50 yr old. But still if the 50yr old searches well is famous or popular or rich he can still get a 24- 28 year old girl to date and even marry.

Stop being envious of guys it won't help u....

Emaprince:
You quoted me wrongly. Did you see BROKE in my post?

Whether young or old, a broke man is irrelevant. Even if he is young and cute, his woman will cheat on him with rich old man. Every man desires and should strive to get money..or atleast be financially okay to take care of his needs and families. Money is the number one thing that makes a man stand out....same way beauty makes a woman stand out.

But you and I know that in Naija...chances are a 30 plus man is likely more richer than those in their 20s. Even you ladies advices yourself not marry a man below 33. I have seen several threads like that. Abi I lie.

So an older man still stand more chances of picking what he likes..as far as his pocket is right.

All my female friends tell me "it depends on the financial capability of who is coming" when I talk to them about marriage... many of my female friends don't mind a guys age as long as he is confident and has money.... some gals mind age sha....

The girl is just jealous. As I've told her girls have their power too... it comes early and many misuse it.... so she should stop hating on guys or arguing with nature....

Kmf0:
Go for the 32years

I repeat do not marry a young girl

Most of these girls from 28 years downward are not ready for marriage . They are immature and believe everything is glitter and want a man to do everything for them. They can’t think clear. Their life is based on Netflix hollywood nollywood Instagram tiktok clubhouse abs others



You will have peace marrying that 32years old and forget about those that says older may not get preg on time , it’s all false. Most of the old ones and even getting pregnant faster than those young nasty things out there

I agree... get married to the oldie then have a youngie as a mistress....

pocohantas:
How is your reality an insult? Didn’t your fathers cheat on your mothers?



Lol. If you look that good, they won’t be hiding your pictures. They won’t be posting only pictures of themselves and the food/gifts you bought for them. Ain’t no youngie drooling over an old broke man, because he would look stressed and dusty. Money stops nonsense, maybe aging too.

My gf finish them oh!! Send me ur number let's chat on whatsapp. I don't mind 44 yr Olds il make an exception for u. Kisses.

quentin06:
The only problem is that in the next 5 years that 32 your old girl will look like a 50 year old granny, especially after child birth.

She will add weight have fat arms and wide torso like a rhinoceros or hippo.

If that is not an issue for you proceed.

And if the guy is the religious type he will become a fornicator adulterer, sexually immoral and all sorts of religious names that he will be called.... why don't men just embrace holy polygamy??