₦airaland Forum

Emaprince:
Women here are all riled up cos they put themselves in the 32 Yr old position. Thats women sha...always getting emotional and spitting garbage. Say one thing online ..but in real life, its the total opposite.

From a man's end, youthfulness is usually the point of attraction. But personally, I like mature women that takes good care of themselves and still look classy with a touch of sexyness. The problem is women above 30 upwards usually have slacked arm and other features that makes them look sexually not - so appealing. But like I said.. If she puts herself well together, she can still look nice.

Don't crucify a man for going after youngies... men are mostly interested in sex..not your money..and all the enjoyment that comes from sex lies in the youngies.


OP should make his choice..though I would advice he go for the 32 Yr old. The young ones has crazy body counts too. 32 is not even too old..so?

He should go for the 32yo and enjoy young side chicks.... but he should let his wife know sha so no one will blame him of "cheating"

BigDawsNet:
Research by Dr. Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist from Stanford University, shows that women are more likely to initiate a breakup or divorce.

The higher the rate of promiscuity and the younger a woman is, the higher her chances to initiate divorce.....

Juliearth:
Carry on with your beliefs. I am sure op and other peace-loving individuals here know better.

That there will be issues between the new wife and the old wife? Nah there won't be issues as he will assure them that he loves them equally. Or marry the 32yo and make it clear to her it won't won't be only her that he has side chicks.

It's not my beliefs men that don't say it explicitly as I'm saying it will later do what I'm saying. Nature cannot be cheated or overcome with logic.

Juliearth:
...Elixir for an explosive exothermic reaction.

Polygamy is what makes sense for a man in gjhs day and age....

Juliearth:
I can deduce from your writeup that she gives you peace, so go ahead and marry her. Marrying a youngster her its perks, but best believe that the baggages outweigh the benefits. All the best.

I agree he should marry the 32yo girl and then with time also marry a younger girl and so hv 2 wives

cococandy:
many women do in fact get married in their 30s. Millions of women
Whether they were promiscuous or not means nothing really. A happy or unhappy marriage usually will center around other things that are far from sexual history.

They get married but it won't be only her (he will hv younger side chicks). Research shows girls that have been around the block (slept around) tend to have marriages that don't last.

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

My opinion below:

Don't marry just one woman... pls marry several. Marry the 32 yo then later also marry a younger girl.... it doesn't hv to be just one given current market conditions.

pocohantas:
Lmao. I don’t know who keeps convincing this gender that they look that young. There are some people that generally look youthful, but it isn’t even the majority of them. I know an older man when I see one.

Pocahontas ur my girlfriend. U know dat right??

sammirano:
If you want to enjoy a woman, marry her before 25. Women changes for worse over time. They are best when young. Atleast you will enjoy for sometime before maddness and drama starts.

As it stands today only boyfriends have the best of the girls. Husbands are getting a very bad deal.....the boyfriends get the best of the girls 18-25 and the husbands only get when she's in decline with all the negative attributes you describe of women; which makes marriage a not so good deal for men.

pocohantas:
And you think women would desire a 40yrs old broke man?

Please get it into your head that everyone loves some balance. We just prioritize based on what is most important to us. For women it is provision, for men it is youthfulness.

So if you want to keep waiting until you are 50, please make sure you are rich.

Provision does not work abroad and even in Nigeria.... provision only works outside of Lagos.

Hence the woman is expected to work and use her moni to take care of herself.

The few rich men that can do 100% provision are scarce and have other deficiencies such as not God fearing etc lol

ShaneGuillory:
@op please which country where you coming from ?
Bros op I’m 28 and I’m currently married to a 34 years old naija girl despite being an American citizen. I have Nigeria passport too anyways but [b]to be honest most girls in their 30s are freaking loyal when they finally get married. [/b]I am speaking from experience. It’s not by being young oo. I notice most of you Nigeria guys are not too open minded. What y’all think when y’all wanna get married is always a small girl and y’all think that’s what will make you enjoy your marriage? That 32 years old babe you are talking about is going to be big blessing to you and to your family. At the end of the day it’s your choice.

That loyalty is only because they have now expired not because they are truly loyal..... loyalty with wrinkled body, sagging boobs, baggage from previous relationships and pu**y that has been around numerous bfs... is that one loyalty??

Simran94:
LOL. Incase you do not know, there are many women who were promiscuous in that 20s and are now happily married with children, Lol continue deceiving yourself if you think all men would think like you Nairaland boys

Ur right sha.....

Simran94:
This life ehn, just be you and you will be fine in the end.

Men feel they can be promiscuous in their 20s and settle down in their 30s but they come for ladies who do the same. Imagine a so-called 36 years old man asking if he can marry a lady that is 32 years old, truly age doesn’t define your intellectual capacity.

It's women that feel they can be promiscuous in their 20s and get married in their 30s....

Guys can but girls can't.

Acidosis:
That post ratifies the call for a holy Polyandry for women who married disastrous men.

Which is fine. Las las only the strongest genes both male and female will survive.

nenyewrites:
A woman's market never ends. She is still making her choice. Eventually, the weak ones may settle. The strong ones either stay single because they're not ready to accommodate low quality sperm that will breed low quality children, or eventually get married when they meet a man that clicks at least 96 percent of the box.

What females don't understand is that wen she meets the man that ticks 96% of the quality box, that man may not want her back then she has to start her search all over again and by then she go hit 45.

Many girls are over confident sha....

Acidosis:
So?

At some points in their lives, many of the young ones who married too early also wish they had waited for a better man. Ask 10 married women who got married in their early 20s, at least 8 will tell you they wish they had waited a little longer before getting married. So if you're the man feeling line a super star for getting married to a 21 year old girl, you just might turn out to be her life's greatest regret. This is a fact based on first hand knowledge.

Bottom line is to leave people with their choices. If you were good enough for them, they'll stay.

Your post ratifies the call to holy polygamy by men.... I've always known something is wrong with monogamy sha.... wen dat 21 yo wife walks away there are 49 more 22 you in the concubine simple.

naija4life247:
It's in our blood. We are bad people. You and I.

Na onli u d dey I'm blood oh..

nenyewrites:
You can see the wide range of options I put there. I hope you're not also partially blind. You guys only think one thing, she spent her younger years partying and jumping on d**ks.

95% of gals spent their younger days dismissing good guys cos they felt a better guy would come until one day they see market don dey end and that's wen they wanna get married...

We don't think they were necessarily sleeping around.....

Ladyhippolyta88:
Which stats

You make it seem like ladies in their 20's especially of this generation are in a rush to marry or planning or being reliant on men.

So if the men are not financially stable what other cogent reason is there to marry them?none then it can be said that such marriage is not of love but one of convenience, which is the point I have been making no young lady will easily be attracted to an older man without a convenient reason to which most times involves money

You are right that women in their 20s in this generation aren't in a rush to get married. This is good news for men because we can now practice holy polygamy in the fear of God....

I for one will not marry a 33yo as an only wife... its not happening. She may be the main wife but il still hv my concubines (girlfriends)..... this is male response to this generation of young gals not marrying in their20s (have variety). So nothing spoil.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Neither does the world revolve around you or men reasoning like the OP.

Not every young lady is interested in advanced bachelors

The number that are interested outweigh the number that aren't.....

pocohantas:
I am 44. Any other question?

Lol Old cargo and evening newspaper

No man looks the way of a 44 yo.

Eya kpele sorry ndo.

It is weh.

nenyewrites:
A 36 year old unmarried man has money? Lol. Let me write now that it's rarely, rarely the case. A young man of 26 that has enough to take care of himself and an extra person is already engaged and preparing to be married. There must be one chick telling him not to waste her time further or a mother on his neck to marry and it will spur him to consider marriage. So if you see an old man of 36 years unmarried, know that he is terribly broke, was unlucky in relationships, made wrong decisions, has an incurable STD, is impotent, is terribly broke and so on.

This one shows ur a stark illiterate.... the higher the age of a man the higher the probability that he has moni. 26 yo guys in Nigeria are just graduating or Just finishing nysc.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Not every lady likes it unless the man has money.

Men who carefully look for your girls I perceive them as perverts

Anyway for me though money or no money nothing more than 4 years the ideal age gap between a husband and wife is 5 years and not more anything more than that happened for whatever reason and their world view on issues is affected by age.

Age is an important factor for me so it cannot be just a number

The world doesn't revolve around u so live with it. Ur preferences are noted tho.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Exactly, he thinks it is every lady of today in her 20's that will happily want to marry a 36 year old man

Many 20s women will marry a 36 yo man that is financially stable with a good personality...

Ladyhippolyta88:
Same way a woman in her 30's to 40's has a higher chance of multiple births and when men also age too their sperm quality appreciates.

It is not just a woman thing, this OP is old as well he is 36 and shouldn't be giving the liberty of wanting to make demands he should settle for his age gap

Thats were you are missing it and the USA and Canada feminists are missing it.

Let's give you the benrfit of doubt for a second. A 36 Yr old man marries a 32 yo fine. Now the 32 year old woman can't be "asking her husband for money"... she's expected to hv her own moni.

Now the guy is still free to practice his holy polygamy with younger side chicks.

So yes ur postulation works on this basis.

But the reality is a 36 yo that has money can marry a 25 yo who is happy with the union.

Hence there is aarge number of 28 -40 yo unmarried women out there...

Ladyhippolyta88:
No offence to men who prefer way younger women but any age difference of more than 4 years is a no no for me.


The OP needs a woman he is more than 7 years older than because men like him believe that women will respect them and will not age faster than them. That one na bush man mentality yet OP say him study abroad still dey reason like bush man no enlightenment at all

That's u na...to other girls it's fine

pocohantas:
It is okay to console yourself. If the desirability of an older man is WISDOM, my uncle with classic nuggets would be married to the most premium woman. The 42yrs old vulcanizer would easily marry a graduate from a middle class home.

Please don’t slip into delusion. The desirability of an older man is financial stability. I understand that these young girls would tell you anything for iPhone, but remove that your money, then check how many stay.

So you think a young girl of 25 from a stable home would marry you at 47 because you are wise? Then start jumping Obalende bus with you? You can’t be this slow naw.

Your points are valid sha....What of increased ability to guide and protect??

pocohantas:
Good you know the desirability of an older man is his money. At least you are not delusional like your peers.

No it doesn’t take longer, not with the way you guys take drugs, smoke and consume alcohol these days. Maintaining youthfulness is dependent on gene and lifestyle. The latter is alien to Nigerians, irrespective of their gender.

Thd desirability of an older man is his wisdom, increased ability to guide and protect before money....

Don't be angry with nature. Girls hv their power too but it comes earlier and with full force (which deceives them into thinking it will last forever - hence many are misled until they 28).

Don't be a bitter feminist.

And yes I agree many guys that do drugs etc look much older and its dependent on lifestyle.

Look I want the female folks to succeed and the best advice I can give is for female folks to prayerfully consider all the guys in their prime if they expect monogamy.

If a woman is 30+ God will give her a good man but she shouldn't expect monogamy and she is expected to bring moni to run the house dassal.

pocohantas:
No it wasn’t to encourage monogamy. Men generally seek out youthfulness, it DOESN’T in any way stop the man from cheating or taking extra wives. No one would be young forever. Even you men lose your physical appeal as you age. So no come drop nonsense redpill theory here.

Yes men lose physical appeal as we age but it takes longer and its compensated for by money.

As they say: men age like fine wine and women age like milk - this is a generalisation of course

Jaqenhghar:
I know for a woman in her late 30s javing a child becomes riskier. My question would be why is she single at 36?

We need to start demanding accountability from the female gender for the dignity of marriage to be restored.

And also accountability from the male gender who try to pass on their financial responsibilities to their wife.

And also 30+ women who expect a man to bear their financial responsibilities 100% (not happening).

Nwogeh:
God just gave you a decent girl as a wife and you are waiting for a good younger girl that does not exist anymore.....young girls that yahoo boys have spoilt. Ladies at 30s understand what marriage is all about more than younger ones. As far as there is mutual love and respect, that is all you need and not age. Again, your age difference is perfect because both of you are the same generation and will likely see life the same way and not young girls that you will be talking today and they are talking tomorrow.

God doesn't give men women with exponentially decreasing sex appeal only to turn around and call them fornicators, sexually immoral, adulterers for going for what they truly want (young women)

nenyewrites:
You were studying abroad until 36 years age you're not ashamed of yourself. What your mates finish before 30. Yet you have the guts to age shame a woman. You should be happy she is even considering to marry an old man like you that won't even be able to satisfy her Do you even have money, this one you just finished schooling or is it I schooled abroad that you guys will be eating? Most women marry their age mates now if you don't know.

Wen a women states what she wants, "she knows what she wants". But wen a man does the same, he is "age shaming" the woman.

Look a 36 yo has moni and hopefully of good character- so he should be able to attract what he wants in thr market for marriage.