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Nwogeh:
God just gave you a decent girl as a wife and you are waiting for a good younger girl that does not exist anymore.....young girls that yahoo boys have spoilt. Ladies at 30s understand what marriage is all about more than younger ones. As far as there is mutual love and respect, that is all you need and not age. Again, your age difference is perfect because both of you are the same generation and will likely see life the same way and not young girls that you will be talking today and they are talking tomorrow.

Men are moved by looks. By 32 the sex appeal is declining exponentially.

The op can marry her as wife sha then get a younger side chick with the sex appeal....

Sex with the 32 yo wife would just be "kids sex" I.e. just for having kids.

pocohantas:
Even your mothers that married at 17 got cheated on. So save your energy abeg.

No they were not cheated on.... then the society frowned upon men that did such. The whole point of youthful marriage for both guys and girls was to encourage monogamy.

But in the world today, monogamy can no longer be guaranteed...

oldienavie:
So I am 36 years and looking to settle down.
I have a lady friend who I have know for a while and is a really decent lady.
She is the type of person I would like to marry (I like conservative ladies and she is the conservative type no makeup which is what I want).
She is 32 years old.

A part of me feels it is better to wait for a while and try and get a younger "god fearing" lady.

To the men, what would you advise ?

I am kinda traditional and feel like a man should avoid marrying a lady in her 30s and also have a gap of atleast 7 years with the wife but I think I love her, I have been thinking about her lately.

Edited: A lot of people asking why I am not married at 36 years old, I was studying abroad, I just got back to naija to try and marry.

Be unapologetic about what you want which is youth. Unfortunately young girls no longer want to get married until they are 30+

Hence opt for Holy polygamy- this is the rational response to current market conditions.

15ssDRIVE:
Most time 32 will be real better than younger. She knows her markets is closing down. Back up with the little said.

But how can the man be with the 32 yr old all his life?? That's the problem... expecting monogamy at 32 isn't fair to men....

okwadatigbogal:
Hope you know that the standard age gap between a husband and wife should not be more than 5 years. The higher the age gap, the higher the likelihood of divorce and the more unbalanced a relationship would be. This is not illiterate's argument, go and see the study its everywhere.

It's a lie. Feminist lies to prevent men from going for what they truly want. 15 years age gap is fine but no more dan dat.

Jman06:
Chances are high that the 32yo woman is just pretending and forming good girl just to trap a niggar, knowing that age is not on her side.

Op, go for a younger girl! It is better to marry a younger girl and stand higher chances of birthing healthy children than marrying an older woman only to start doing TTC. Even if the younger girl turns out bad, provided you're able to sire your offsprings through her. Church dismissed!

You have spoken the truth.... also op should opt for holy polygamy.... that's a rational response to current dating market conditions....

InTheCloudySky:
Firstly, as a man, you have a shorter life expectancy than her. Just a lil' fyi.

Secondly, the idea that she will age faster than you is ludicrous and you being delusional, because YOU ARE 4-YEARS OLDER THAN HER.

Finally, if we were to put your photos side by side, we can most definitely tell who's older: YOU. I wouldn't be surprised if you're already spotting some greys either.

Finally finally, you don't love her, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this absurd question.

I mean, if she's too old for you to marry at 32, then she ought to think twice about marrying your ancient 36-year old behind.

Get this thru ur thick skull: a 36 yr old man that's rich can marry a 23 yr old girl but a 32 yr old girl sleeping around and pridefully dismissing guys in her prime can't get married (bitter truth). And those 32 year old gals that get married will be cheated on with younger girls..

Wat we are experiencing today is a skew of nature in men's favor since gals no longer want to get married on time....

CHoccolaTE:
Another thread for males to whine and nag as usual.

I can also create a thread about how I have been scammed by males or disrespected by males for no reason other than because I am female and conclude that men are scammers and rude/mannerless people.
I can decide that all men are thieves and armed robbers and kidnappers and just because 90% of these crimes are committed by males.

Na men dey cause problem for this world pass women but they are the ones endlessly complaining of women.

Men cause more of violent problems. But women create equivalently dangerous problems that are oven not violent but have the end effects of violence e.g.

Screwing men in divorce courts.
Becoming baby mamas
Telling men I do/ I want when they don't really mean it
Jumping from man to man in search of the best man (men are guilty of this too)

gidgiddy:
BBC Igbo has reported a 100% compliance of IPOB's directive in the 5 States of the South East that there should be a lockdown today January 18th, the day IPOB leader, Nnamdi Kanu goes to court

Enugu, Imo, Abia, Anambra and Ebonyi, which Governor Umahi said was not part of Biafra, all shut down completely

Pictures below.



https://www.bbc.com/igbo/afirika-60020577

British State media - please leave Nigeria and Africa alone na.... bbc is already banned in Rwanda and many African countries....

efficiencie:
Yea...they will remain legitimate in 40 years time after they hold on to power for that long.

Military rule is always fine - trust me. theres nothing wrong with military rule. if they remain in power for 40 years so what? As long as Mali becomes a great country in those 40 years, why does the length matter?

samsard:
Democracy has not failed in Libya. If Gaddafi had respected himself, Libya would be intact. Regardless, Libya is on the path of recovery right now.

Lybia was invaded because Ghadaffi tried to create a new gold backed currency independent of USD. And also because he refused western influence....

efficiencie:
Foolish Malians protesting in favor of the military junta that will remain in power for another 40 years. Most Africans are so easy to use. Apes they say obey. The so called junta wants to be accepted as being legitimate so that they can continue the looting from where the previous administration stopped. This is the same Mali, that was home to Mansa Musa but it has become a shadow of a shadow like most African countries.

The junta is legitimate because after the coup, they announced the change of power on state television.

olusola200:
Arrange crowds, 5 years is too much truth must be told,, I am with ECOWAS.

5 years to remove French grip from mali isn't too much....

neuf:
Putin keeps amending the constitution to keep him in power. Have you not heard of the protest that took place because of that and people were arrested and locked up?

How economically sound is Cuba atm?

what about Gambia and other African countries were there long time leaders were forced out by the people to go on exile?
why aren't you bringing those ones up as evidence that one person staying in power for too long it's a good system??

Merkel ruled Germany for 16 years. We need militarised democracy in Africa not western style democracy which really is a tool by the West to put in their leaders in power in Africa.

Orissodiq:
Seriously i don't like people forcing a particular system of government on people. The people said they don't want democracy nothing more. American system of government cannot work everywhere. I c the issues in mali as struggling for power and influence between France and Russia(if u know u know)

Russia is an anti-colonization and fights colonialism in Africa and helps African States to be independent while also looking out for its own interests on the continent.

Fiscus105:
Go back and read reason why ECOWAS imposed sactions

Ecowas imposed sanctions for "failing to hold elections in February as promised".

This is an asymmetric war between mali and Russia against France.

The reason ecowas wants elections in February 2022 as a do or die affair is do that they can put in a pro France president.

Goita survived an assassination attempt (allegedly plotted by France) last year.

Elections can't hold because much of the country is facing insecurity and war. I even think elections should be post poned in Nigeria too cos ppl are scared of voting due to insecurity.

Fiscus105:
Did u need to reply stupid Nigerian? Few People that junta paid for protest that he is saying they are patriots

1. France conquered Mali in the 1800s and up till today still believes Mali is its territory. Did you know that Malian military aircraft cannot overfly Mali without permission from France.

2. Colonel Assimi Goita's junta is pro Mali and plans to end French colonialism of the country which is why France is fighting Mali directly and through ecowas.

Xilsbridalhouse:
Yes!!!! She is working, same reason you can’t do the same. Wives are helpmates not slaves.

Who thinks about breakfast by 7:30am? You never ready to go work be that.

I had this thread conversation with someone recently...

Look in summary if a woman wants to wake up whenever she likes to cook whenever she's hungry then she cannot be in a husband's house. She should go and rent her own flat of house where she can do as she pleases and her and her husband can visit themselves. Shekina.

LotaTee:
She leaves for work by 7.30am and you still want her to cook for you and do house chores?Are you a slave master?You want to kill somebody's child because she agreed to date you?Abeg abeg, if you can't cook for yourself then hire a help.This shouldn't even be a problem talk more of bringing it to nairaland.

This is a weak argument. Assuming she doesn't work she should do all that.... and if she does work she's should do 50% of the chores.

Nonexisting:
Mumu girl. Your pains never start, you go soon report him to man-o war as well. Useless gender people full of evil manipulations.

The female gender are almost always the gender to end things based on "feelings have changed"... crap

Kutunban:
Did he maltreat you or abuse you? If reverse was the case would you have been cool with it too? He has emotions for damn sake, you claim to be 17 when you did that just to get sympathy. I'll advise you talk to him and make him understand that you have no feelings for him again. Hope the other guy you are crushing on won't jilt you too because karma doesn't forget and knows everyone's address. I hope you find the help you seek.

Dear kings, never go into Convenant whatsoever with any woman those are traits of weakness and low self esteem, women are emotionally unstable that's why they easily fall in and out of love. High value men keep women without fucking engaging in Convenant. Work on your body, career and finances and always be fucking intentional with your purpose.

They are not only emotionally unstable but also greedy....

Nemere2020:
http://saharareporters.com/2022/01/14/breaking-many-feared-dead-houses-fire-boko-haram-fighters-attack-chibok

USA, France, UK and Germany are allegedly behind BH.

No its not because he hates yorubas and hausas or igbos.... its because the northerners are more in tune with what's going on with Britain trying to take back their colony. Northern heads if institutions protects those institutions from foreign interference from the West.

In Central African Republic, the National Security/Defence Advisor to the President is Russian.... to protect the country from foreign interference from the West.


So Buhari isn't a nepotist. He is a smart leader!

Jeon:
how many times will you recycle this topic?

As many times as I want.

Godada:

Truth hurts??

People are born whether or not they are ready. People die whether or not they are ready. People get enrolled in nursery and primary whether ready or not. Men (traditionally speaking) get jobs whether ready or not.

Na only women that believe "I have to be ready", "I am not ready".... and in fairness men also chat this rubbish too....

The earlier folks understand time waits for no one the earlier folks realize that once its time to do something, they do what it's time has reached.

shine12:
I use to think America was an hypocrite around 2008 ish until I understood world order to a small extent. America's strong influence in building military infrastructure around the world has some benefit. It manintains peace to some extent. Do you know that now is the most peaceful period in modern human history with all this small small war.
Imagine world where every country minds his own business. It'll take only one rogue nation to do very bad things. Nazi Germany rings a Bell? Why do you think Genghis Khan, The Huns and other empires ruled over vast land, because no one can touch them. Imagine a world where China is not contained or Russia is allowed to do what it wants. The Western led coalition is still the best. You don't certainly want to try a world we're Islam leads world order. Imagine if Al Qaeda is the most powerful entity in the world.

Few days ago a French military airplane breached Malian airspace illegally... the neocolonizers are still eyeing the African sahel.

The western led coalition colonised North America with genocides of aborigines, Red Indians.

Or the British attempted colonisation of Zimbabwe and South Africa.

Colonisation means waging of war to kill civilians and using military to forcefulkytake over a country, drive out natives (blacks, aborigines) bring in their own people and take over countries.

Africa has never been independent oh.

Africa as we speak is still fighting off western colonisation.

DEMZEE:
Then get ready to raise degenerate children

How exactly will the children become degenerate??

DropsMic:
Ramblings from a typical black man.. If i may ask, which of the God are you talking about? The one forced on us by thr
The Europeans or the one forced on us by the Arabs?

The Europeans love taking credit for where they didn't sow. Christianity was brought to us by muddle easterners not Europeans.

justscorchone:
I dated a slay queen that was a model,she can cook native and foreign dishes the best part is that she uses her own money to go to the market,her sex was amazing,you know the kind she brings your d1ck out from mid straff suck it and put it back in? On God everything was rosy AF until she burnt me,I had to take injections and pills to get cleared up. All things considered she will make a great wife if only she make up her mind to leave kurukere movement. Whenever I hear "I'm a model" omo japa

Burnt you how??
And pls what is kukere movement??