₦airaland Forum

blackboy:
1. Remove them from current pension setup

2. Get an IG who is like Buba Marwa

3. Reform the police

4. Improve the pay

5. No police station should be an eye sore but decent like every other decent office

Thus is quite a good set of recommendations, I will work on it....

SIRTee15:
Pls no need for this...I'm very much Afrocentric but not stupid.
Modern civilisation was built by Europeans. Virtually all inventions and innovations in all fields of life at work today was built by the white man.
The only exception is Islam which was developed by arabs.
Other factors...medicine, education, banking and finance, modern international trade, philosophy, social rights, transport and aviation, space exploration, technology, even fashion came from them.
Nobody is denying the contribution of ancient africans but modern African man has a lot of work to do to catch up. Forget all this talk about recruiting from developing nations...its simply demand/supply factor due to abundance of jobs.
If Nigeria also becomes a developed nation, we will be recruiting from ghana and Togi to fill up vacant job slots.

African man has a lot of work to do to catch up because they have been oppressed for at least 400 years....

The natives of North America cannot catch up...they hv been made extinct by the western European savages.

SIRTee15:
I will like to correct this.. I'm very much Afrocentric not eurocentric. typo error.
I've done a lot of study on Timbuktu manuscript and university myself. check my previous post on the topic.
Definition of modern is what is relevant today. The Knowledge in Timbuktu era is no longer relevant. They taught cataract surgery without anaesthesia- who does that today. They wrote lots of books on incantation, necromancy and spells, how does that help is now?
Whatever they did is only for historical relevance and a proof that Africans did something with their lives in the past.

Africa is way too backward in today's science and technology. Holding on to some ancient knowledge is not going to help today's generation. Timbuktu university was relevant during it's time so what's happening to our modern university, can they compete. Or u want us to start studying physics and chemistry taught in Timbuktu era.
Africans are too emotional. We did this, we did that...how does that help. I get am before no be property, embrace modern science and technology, that's the only way out of our backwardness.
U can call it whatever u like, western technology is the way forward. just learn it and develop your country with it. Simple.
Britain gave the world industrial revolution, today China is the king.

Britain could not have given the world industrial revolution because gold had been mined for a long time before the British Island savages knew what gold was.... the issue is u just recite whatever they tell you. So someone in Vietnam or Panama or Korea or Bahrain didn't know how to invent an industrial machine. It must be from UK or France before u accept it. I'm telling u that there's lots of science outside 5 colonialists of western eurooe even look at Russia which is a slavic country... they sent a man ti the moon before the west would.

SIRTee15:
I will like to correct this.. I'm very much Afrocentric not eurocentric. typo error.
I've done a lot of study on Timbuktu manuscript and university myself. check my previous post on the topic.
Definition of modern is what is relevant today. The Knowledge in Timbuktu era is no longer relevant. They taught cataract surgery without anaesthesia- who does that today. They wrote lots of books on incantation, necromancy and spells, how does that help is now?
Whatever they did is only for historical relevance and a proof that Africans did something with their lives in the past.

Africa is way too backward in today's science and technology. Holding on to some ancient knowledge is not going to help today's generation. Timbuktu university was relevant during it's time so what's happening to our modern university, can they compete. Or u want us to start studying physics and chemistry taught in Timbuktu era.
Africans are too emotional. We did this, we did that...how does that help. I get am before no be property, embrace modern science and technology, that's the only way out of our backwardness.
U can call it whatever u like, western technology is the way forward. just learn it and develop your country with it. Simple.
Britain gave the world industrial revolution, today China is the king.

This guy or girl the issue is that you have not sat down to think. Sit down and think. There are 190 countries in the world.... it cannot be that only 5 in western europe who are also colonialists are the inventors of modern technology. Can't you see its not true?? Leave Africa out of it. There are just as many good scientist in Latin America that there are in western europe. Let's make it europe vs Latin America...

You are simply reciting wat u hv been told by western Europeans. And I'm telling u there's a scientific world outside western europe. There are 190 countries in the world. You are simply a victim of colonial education curriculum. Now that we have established that there's a scientific world outside western eirooe with great research institutions in Iran Iraq yemen etc let's come back to Africa...

Someone on this thread had shown Egypt had more science and still does than western eurooe.

The work of the Malians in mineral extraction geograohy chemistry etc is still as relevant today because science never changes hydrogen never changes. Oxygen remains oxygen.

There's a limit to how much I can help. If u hv already written off ur continent as a mental slave then I can't help you.

Issue is whites have told so many lies....

chieni:
loool@ male friends. what if na di male friend go even plan for person. You know how no one can be trusted. That's why one should hang out with people they are safe with or their spirit is in sync with.

You are right... find a guy friend dat is quite successful with girls... if a guy is already successful wiv babes his incentive to such will be low or "God fearing guys"... mostly loser guys dat hv no success with women dat do such....

SIRTee15:
Pls no need for this...I'm very much Eurocentric but not stupid.
Modern civilisation was built by Europeans. Virtually all inventions and innovations in all fields of life at work today was built by the white man.
The only exception is Islam which was developed by arabs.
Other factors...medicine, education, banking and finance, modern international trade, philosophy, social rights, transport and aviation, space exploration, technology, even fashion came from them.
Nobody is denying the contribution of ancient africans but modern African man has a lot of work to do to catch up. Forget all this talk about recruiting from developing nations...its simply demand/supply factor due to abundance of jobs.
If Nigeria also becomes a developed nation, we will be recruiting from ghana and Togi to fill up vacant job slots.

Africa had a history before the arrival of the Europeans in the 1800s. Google "timbuktu manuscripts" (this news broke out few days ago) and you will see CENTURIES of african knowledge in physics, chemistry etc that the Europeans probably stole.... its not by naming a law after yourself as in the case of Faraday or Einstein, thats just brainwashing - what is called Einsteins law today was probably already discovered in the middle east or africa or latin america centuries earlier. emancipate yourself from mental slavery before it is too late....

Your definition of "modern" is according to the white man. God did not give 5 countries in europe superior brain over 190 countries of the world.... get that thru ur head bro

chieni:
please how can we protect ourselves? This is becoming scary.

To be honest with u I don't know and I sef tire... I guess:

1. Don't go out alone at night.

2. Hang out with male friends

3. Have a pepper spray at all times...

4. Find safe spaces

NaijaCoverBlog:
Friends and family on Sunday, March 13, bid farewell to a 23-year-old woman, Kgomotso Karen Maropola, whose badly decomposed body was found buried in a shallow grave in Limpopo, South Africa.

From The Information Gathered By , Maropola, who was reported missing after she did not return home on Sunday, March 6, 2022 at Phagameng location, was found brutally murdered on Wednesday. She was working as an assistant teacher at Nylstroom Hoerskool.

When the victim was reported missing, the police commenced with a search operation, assisted by members of the community.

The search operation was intensified involving the Search and Rescue Unit, the K9, the local Police and community members.

The body of the deceased was later found buried in a shallow grave next to the railway line at Phagameng township, Modimolle.

The Acting Provincial Commissioner of Police in Limpopo Major General Jan Scheepers has called on community members to assist the Police in the investigations by providing valuable information that can lead to the arrest of the suspects.

"As we continue to fight the scourge of Gender Based Violence in all fronts, incidents of this nature call for collaborative efforts to ensure that the perpetrators are brought to book as speedily as possible,” said Major General Scheepers.

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Men at it again

BRATISLAVA:
Thread full of smelly male logic.

Truly dysfunctional males. On any topic about females they congregate like flies on defecation. Whataboutism. Barely concealed and blatant misogyny. Skew logic.

Pages of posts trying to trivialize the murder of women on a daily basis, even with fresh facts to look at.

The toxicland gutters are overflowing once again.

It's really unfortunate and thank you for ur great comment. Certainly men can be and are wonderful creatures but we must not okay the oppression of the female gender; there is clearly a pattern of female murders going on especially from rape or from disinterest in a particular guy....

Why don't men on nairaland want to address it??

This shows there's a deeper problem going on if all men do is trivialise this.

derecho:
Any wise woman should beware of some bitter souls who either are unmarriageable or dysfunctional.
Just be that asset every man wants in his life or want to be around.
Some of these toxic ladies are looking for those to queue behind them.Why would you want the opinion of a confused self styled "leader"?
You have a great mind use it.There is no competition anywhere.

Are men marriageable?? Is the brt driver marriageable?? Una go just open una mouth dey talk.... the era of unmoderated male privilege is over. Society now holds male to account...

derecho:
I would have ignored you but you are one of the reasons women are relegated. Imagine,how uncouth you are.This is why I usually say women must be wise.
As per your useless and empty curse, I pity you because you already cursed yourself. So if tomorrow you are raped and killed, some naive people won't know you were operating under a curse.

Let us now see whose curse will come to pass... since there is the divine order as you claim led by men, you shall surely be killed by a man since men are so wonderful... mumu

derecho:
Some comments here are laughable.

Imagine someone saying they want to take their matter in their hands.What baffles me is this thought that you can cow a man to do whatever you want.

Men may be simple but the weakest of men would resist anything that challenges his authority.All those delusions that make you think women would take over, na scam.Men don't even need to join in the fray.Women will handle their fellow women.

Areas where women seem to be holding sway are areas where men have supported them and conceded authority.Even America with all their civilization has not gotten a female president.

All these Aluta style won't take you far.Understand why you're a woman and enjoy it.Stop trying to be a man. Just as a man can't be a woman, a woman will NEVER be a man.

If the Op had been balanced in his reportage,prolly some men would have considered it.

This same empty textbook of an article would have made sense if only it was written by a wise woman...Just one witty inclusion would have made a difference.

A woman may be educated and still lack wisdom. It's not noise or sentiment.

Summary,
There's a Divine Order. There's a clearcut responsibility for both gender.You are not disadvantaged as a woman. Every wise woman would be celebrated by men.Men are not as hostile or highhanded as some would have us believe.

You are very stupid. May you be killed by a man in adherence to divine order.

kelvinjames01:
This agenda of trying to make women the victim will not work. Women are born with privilege to make choices and should be held accountable for their actions. On the other hand, Men fight their way to the top and are meant to provide for themselves. So OP, STFU and make the right choices. Men die too and have low longevity

Common will you shut up there you predatory paedophile

@Aish8, have you noticed how men have grown quiet on this thread?? If if was a female bashing thread, it would have reached 7 pages by now.... we have to take matters into our own hands and campaign for the results we want starting with Sex Offenders Register, Compulsory Sexual Harassment training for all new employees in public and private sector in lagos state.

Also the brt driver had access to seks workers....

2mercy:
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https://punchng.com/cheap-deaths-increasing-rape-ritual-killings-making-women-endangered-species/

For decades, we couldn't speak out... but now we can boldly say that men are the problem - always exhibiting their violent nature and inability to think beyond their libido.

We hv to resort to shaming men to end the menace.

Yes it's not all men but IT IS MEN NONETHELESS.

Let's not allow Nigeria to become like Canada where men are hated and dehumanised as sdxual predators for these reasons and for these crimes. Hope we don't start hearing "safe spaces" in Nigeria soon. When female conversations will be like "I'm looking for a safe space" safe from men....

Nigeria still has very good gender relations and men must now rise to the occasion to keep it that way.

Sanwo olu is not trying as well.... he should have terminated the contract of the Primera company as that would have been fair to all women in lagos but by not taking stringent action let's hope not to hear another story...

This post is inspired by the Bamise BRT incident. Even if the police were called, the police man would probably be asleep or off duty or went to buy bread...no amount of salary will cause them to stop this lackadaisical attitude and lack of commitment to duty.... so what can be done about the police and emergency services? This is the last remaining gap between nigeria and abroad to make nigeria = abroad....there is no seriousness across the board and people do not take their jobs seriously resulting in poor institutions.

pansophist:
Bigbashiru you sure say you need advice so? You're one smart nairalander, and should know the answer to your question. Having said that, the answer is simple. Don't go for women who haven't choosed you. If a girl likes you, observe her behaviour, and if it's obvious she is in for her selfish aim, plug off. No more negotiation whatsoever. Its over. Permanently.

Also, always doubt the love of a woman who is not on your level. As a rule, men should enter equal relationships. She must be able to afford whatever you can give to her. It's sweet when both of you go out and you pay today, while she pays the next day. Honestly this is the kind of relationship I was used to all my life, until I enter naija and saw that relationships was heavily monitized.

women dont want equal relationships na... they want one where the man has higher status...

A part of me just feels used, knowing the "love" ends the day the money finishes.... how do I overcome this feeling?

Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

Females always do what's convenient for them. There's nothing like love.... they stay only so long as it suits them....

BluntTheApostle:
For as long as you continue to fixate on physical abuse, domestic violence is going nowhere soon.

Domestic violence includes:

1. Physical (typically used by men)

2. Verbal (typically used by women)

3. Financial (both genders are capable)

4. Emotional (both genders are capable)

5. Psychological (both genders are capable).

You can't reduce domestic violence by fixating on reducing physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is even worse because it is subtle, and the victim may not know that they are being abused.

If you as a woman are a chronic nag who resorts to hurtful words to hurt her husband, if he hits you, do not think he is the only one guilty of domestic violence. You both are guilty.

I have tried to sanitize society the best I could, but seems like you people just want to play a gender blame game, instead of tackling the malaise head-on.

These are words on marble. You are truly BluntTheApostle

DeRay98:
Bless your soul.
This is how some women deliberately mislead other women and promote the perpetual victimhood narrative which most of the most toxic women revel in.

You make sense

Karleb:
In the Nigeria that you live, shebi its only men that abuse women.

Things are so bad for men that if the woman didn't seriously injure you or kill you, no one will believe she is abusing you.

U make sense bro

QuinModah:
Domestic Violence Is An Accepted Nigerian Epidemic
Domestic violence is a funny problem because everyone online fights against it and indoors dey practice it

Domestic violence is not an issue of today its something that is done regularly in our society and its often commonly overlooked , there is no Nigerian that hasn't seen a man beating his wife , from neighbors to friends even movies show it, its a common thing here, when kids or young boys see men beating their wives they accept that its the way to handle issues , the fact the social media has made it possible for people to reach out Doesn't mean that it will stop , its normal to nigerians so stop hoping for any change , instead be observant

The problem is the women not the men b4 u eat me raw hear me out

Antelope when know wetin lion be has no business staying in the same house with it - jude 2017

If a woman is dating a man , it only takes one incident for her to know that he is a violent person , maybe one day she annoys him and he insults her or slaps her a normal woman with brain in her head will run away from that relationship no matter how hard the guy begs but when this happens to most women they will stay because of love or they are desperate for marriage if he is rich , they will be hoping that he will change over time. When you marry a man that has slapped u b4 or is quick to insult u , expecting marriage to change him is desperation my sister

If u know that ur man is hot tempered and you're desperate or u love him them learn to handle him , dont talk back at him when he is angry , become a sheep after all you're the desperate person , if ur brain they work u learn to live with it

When u see news or stories of a man beating a woman , don't be deceived the man didn't just beat her for the first time that day , he has been doing it for a very very long time , na that day own u hear

Most women will talk bad about it but when it happens to them they are quiet , the common nigerian thing of no be my matter people go hear

Conclusion; Nigerian society encourages it , even our leaders beat their wives , ebonyi state governor , if a random man beats his wife and he is arrested , he wouldn’t be convicted because even if its a crime they dont see it as one , police will tell him to calm down and na woman she be , in short they will call the beaten wife and advice her to learn to respect her husband

This is us , its the way we are , when we now see threads about it , guys that beat women will be shouting no its wrong as if they are any better , all na internet holiness


its simple my sisters

From you're mad to a slap to push to punch to beating to knife to strangle to I will kill you till he eventually kills you

The domestic violence thing isn't an individual problem its a Nigerian problem

if a man slaps u, insults u or gets angry easily dont marry him run as fast as ur legs can carry u

Girls need to understand RESPONSIBILITY and CONSEQUENCES..and guys too...

If you take a guy that beats you that you love, you also have to take responsibility for all the beatings you will receive at his hands....

Bifwoli:
Okay cool,at least you didn't mean malice.

But over here in the south apartments go for $600 to $700 pm and renting a 3bedroom house with a private yard can go for $900. I've seen lots of single people stay together to cut costs even further and share the savings.

Makes sense. And I concur ppl shouldn't be discouraged from going.... if nothing else to try it out!

Bifwoli:
So you think you know me/my finances better than i know myself? That's very arrogant .Fyi i own my home outright with no mortgage ,got no car loans and my $$$income is way above average.

Even my very close friend who is of Ethiopian heritage makes way more and he employs several oyibo people who work for him .He drives a $300K Bentley and owns several properties.

Finally, that's a fatal attitude you have of "can't do" and "impossible" its a self made prison for yourself. I don't have such unhealthy attitude coz i believe in myself and what i can achieve.

So sorry for sounding that way.... and I don't know about u. What I'm referring to is that $400 per month for a renter is not possible....

For a home owner it could be possible but this thread does not address home owners.... it's addressed at ppl dat wanna jappa so rent is wat applies to them....

We must not mislead ppl.

ElonEmpire:
GoodMorning all ,

I will make this as short as possible.
Before marrying my wife she seems to be this very generous and accommodating fellow . I felt fall in Love with her because this is just the kind of partner I want,

I have not really stand very well financially, though comfortable and contented, but I have this great dream of, because of what I pass through to help as much people as I can.
While dating her, she told me all kinds of stories of her philanthropic and generous gestures to people.

But moving forward to today, she seems to be direct opposite of everything.
She detests people coming close or we offering any kind of help or assistance to family both hers and mine not to talk of friends.

What about suggesting to assist a relative that can't afford, with their child education na war
We have not born but I have more than enough space to bring one or two children to see them through school but my wife is not buying is at all at all.

I know who I am before I marry, this is the only thing that gives me joy, and my only reason for asking God everyday to bless me so that I can bless people.

But right now am seriously confused
it hurts me alot but I don't wanna force anything against her will.

I have tried discussing it over and over with her but she is still not buying it, with the excuse of that we have not stand enough to carry anybody .

What could be her reasons and
What should I do?

U don't need ur wife's permission to what u want because it's ur house

Bifwoli:
Yup that's 100% true . Over here in the southern states rent is far cheaper and southern states are now gaining population while the north declines.Bigger homes ,cheaper living and far less stress are factors attracting these "transplants" as they call them.

For me as a brown skinned immigrant am doing far better than these native born folks who can't make ends meet(my monthly expenses are like $400 pm for everything yet income is waaaay above) .Let no one discourage others you just have to be smart and work intelligently .

$400 pm all inclusive including accommodation is impossible. U guys just derive joy in lieing and deciet

Kobojunkie:
You are kidding, right?

Op told you here that his friend uses these gals for sex, and likely dumps them afterwards, but you want to pretend you can squeeze for yourself a fine line between supporting his friend and being the caring brother to your sister?

Nonsense!

I have 30 wives and 200 girlfriends and I love them all equally I.e. no use and dump.

Danisaint112:
18 yrs old is consent age but for me it's kind of awkward this is someone daughter and sister.

For those supporting this, you should imagine this was your sister. How will you feel exactly?

For the girls you all should learn how to close your legs wether he splashes money on your face or not. Your is better than that.

If you girls see yourselfs as a man and begin to think of positive ways to make a name for yourself no man irrespesposible man would see you and work up to you.

But sadly non reading this would hear because of gluetomy. May God bless every hardworking virgin guy or lady out there that fears God honestly. Amen.

If it was my sister I'd be fine with it so long as the guy genuinely loves and cares for her and adds her to his concubine and take care of her I.e. no use and dump....

This is better than some boyfriend that will use and dump.

Just because a guy is mid or late 30s so what?? There are even girls dat want guys in dat age bracket.

Amalekki:
Let me help him.
Fort Worth, TX (Lots of jobs!)
https://www.apartments.com/harmon-villas-fort-worth-tx/532jzwn/

$471
2 beds, 1.5 baths, 1,025 sq ft $350 deposit

Una can make person laugh. 1025 sq feet is a box. That's 1 room. So its not really an apartment. U can't find a 1 bedroom apartment in dallas-Fort Worth for that price...and if u do its prolly a bad neighbourhood with gun shots every night

Goshiii:
Point of correction. Gas is sold per gallon in US. Also while I agree say e not easy for diaspora cost of living varies from state to state. There are cities were you go pay $700-$800 for a 2 bedroom apartment.

I don't believe ur last sentence....those must be towns with fewer jobs... pls share proof

I don't even know why I'm promoting Nigeria sef...I think I should just keep quiet make all man japa so I can enjoy Nigeria by myself from enugu to calabar to lagos to abuja....

Insecurity remains a major challenge in Nigeria tho....that needs to be fixed ASAP