Peter532:
Hello all,
My dad immediate elder brother who went to south africa in the 90s is back to drag their parents property claiming to be the first son.

I will like to know how this will go because my father is ready to fight this with his last strength and we the children are firmly behind him

Luke 12: 13-15
Someone in the crowd said to Him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.”
But Jesus replied, “Man, who appointed Me judge or executor between you?”
And He said to them, “Watch out! Guard yourselves against every form of greed, for one’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”

Selah~

Sassenach:


Who made this senseless law of “first son inherits everything”? So the other children are not regarded as legitimate? You see why folks cannot trust an Igbo man with ruling the country?

When a man dies in other cultures, especially in the Yoruba culture, the properties are shared equally amongst all the children. Even the married female child.

My Igbo peeps need to do a lot of learning and relearning. Not just on issues like these, but also on misogyny, homophobia and uncouthness.

Nobody said the first son should inherit everything and leave others empty-handed. It is only the main family house (where papa and mama lived before their demise) and the land on which it was built that unquestionably belongs to the first son. Other properties (if any) will usually be shared. Where the family house is the only inheritance, other sons usually know from the beginning that they need to save and buy/build somewhere else in the village.

In this case, OP's father and brothers do not want their uncle to have ANYTHING at all for the reasons he stated. Even other tribes have contributed on the thread, telling him that it's wrong by their culture. It's not just an Igbo thing.

olril17:

You mean the father should have looked the other way and left the property to rot while waiting for a brother they don’t know is coming back or not or was it the father’s fault the man went AWOL?
A lot of you on nairaland have no sense. Just yapping rubbish up and down.

Grow up boy. They have been living in the said house all the while rent free or probably rented it out! Either way, they must have gotten value for whatever they spent on renovating the house. Besides, their efforts are simply honorarium to their parents. Or, are you saying capable children should only support their parents in exchange for property

Better take your eyes off any first son's right in your family. And... go get some home training on public communication.

olril17:

You’re very stvpid. So it’s the fault of father that the uncle was no where to be found and the estate should have been left rotten?
And who told you if they take the case to court the court will strike their case out?
See mumu Dey talk of empathy but you saw where the guy said his father has spent money to renovate some part of the estate including building again from scratch.
So where is your empathy for the man too for the money he has spent so you mean he should just agree and leave the estate like that without considering the financial implications to him?
If you say the father and uncle should find ways to settle amicably that might have make sense but then kobo sense no Dey your empty head

I really pity you little child. Common English you cannot understand. Respect kuma, you no get. Only insult full your mouth. Oya, go and collect the inheritance of a first son and give OP na.

Maybe you're holding on to a first son's inheritance in your own family and you're seeking validation. Sorry, nothing for you. Allow the elders in your family decide who takes what. Don't go and fight to the last drop of your whatever oh.

I don't usually answer ill-mannered children like you but I'm in a good mood today. Run along now and go play in the sand my dear.

Na wa for you oh. How you come allow a hustler to dey run you street dey finish your small money like this? You for don buy land dey prepare to build your own house oh.

Better control yourself. You can do it. Stop giving her any money. Start a project or strict savings, the type you're not allowed to withdraw till a certain time. Once you stop giving her money, you'll see how fast she'll cut off from you. You're encouraging the illicit affair by funding her.

Money can really scatter family oh. Oghene bikoo.

OP my son, Nairalanders have told you the truth in one voice (surprisingly): the family house belongs to your uncle. Even if we told you anything different, it wouldn't change anything because we wouldn't be the ones to come handle the issue. We'd have only 'gingered' you wrongly to go on and fight dirty.

The elders in your family and community will handle this. Please, encourage your dad and siblings to cooperate with them in whatever formula they use for the sharing. You have no case. The customary court in your place will stand with your uncle and strike out any case you bring forward.

By the way, where is your empathy for a blood relation? How come your father does not care about what his blood brother must have passed through all these years? Even you who appears to be enlightened! Is there any normal human being that will just choose to cut off ties with his family if things were alright? Mbok be calming down.

Last strength ko, first blood ni..

Anyone who thinks Igbos hate Yorubas because of Obi vs Tinubu should please present Osinbajo vs Rochas in any future election let's check something. Mtchew!

Radarada sturvs...

thesilentman:
My wife has now completely changed for bad, a few days after our second child.

An erstwhile submissive woman...

I need candid advice,folks.

My son, madam is going through postpartum depression. She needs lots of love and support now to prevent it from deteriorating. I know a lady suffering from mental illness now as a result of poorly managed postpartum depression. Trust me, you don't want that at all.

She'll need physical assistance with chores and emotional support in form of encouraging words, gifts, etc. especially from you. Please try to be around her as much as your job can allow while you also find a way to unwind yourself. Get paid help for chores if there's no capable relation around. It's a tough time for you both (more so for her) but it usually passes quickly; tops one month if you both cooperate in the healing process.

Her strength and joy will return and she will always remember those who stood by her in her time of distress. Be one of those she will remember for good.

Peace!

NaijaRealtor:
I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

My son, the mistake many people make is to bring an underage child who needs training to take care of other children without first training him/her. You can still retain her if you're ready to train her for at least one year with much love. During that period, carry on with ALL major duties while she watches/learns. Take care of her needs. From the second year, gradually introduce simple duties while she assists you as you run major duties. It looks like she just landed and so much was heaped on her which overwhelmed her tender frame. Does she even go to school?

If you get it right, within few years, your wife will have a wonderful assistant who can even assist you both raise her younger cousins.

Train her first. Enroll her in a good school if you've not done so. Gently teach her how things are done in your house. Correct lovingly when she makes mistakes. As time goes on, you'll all be happy.

Discuss this with your wife and if you both decide that you can't make this initial sacrifice, quietly take her back to her parents.

Peace!

This Maiden FEC meeting must favour some people and their families. Why hold it in the absence of Governors on retreat na?

Last year's flood was massive despite the fact that the Cameroonians claimed the damn dam was not opened. How this year own go be as them don open mouth warn us ahead?

E be things!

Congratulations akwa nwa. Idi go di pure!

If you can see this, please change your course from that Chemical Engineering; oma putaro na Naija. Pour your God-given intelligence into a Tech course or any better petroleum related course of your choice.

More wins my baby!

This is a good idea my child, if your family can be disciplined to let the meat stay in the freezer in peace. The usual challenge is that you start using higher quantity of meat than you'd have used if you were buying in kilos because "there's meat". Watch out for that and be disciplined.

One move: simply curve the front of the first number 1 to make it 9.

You're welcome.

Westerhoffe:
Stop these pointless -athons- of: crying, snail-genocide, kissing etc and pick new reasonable ones listed here:

For those with musical talent:

• Longest marathon playing guitar – David Browne (Ireland) – 114 hr 6 min 30 sec

• Longest marathon playing sitar - Radhakrishnan Manoharan (India) – 29 hr 8 min 35 sec

• Longest marathon cello playing – Carel Henn (South Africa) – 26 hr



• Longest marathon playing the tuba – Rodney Kenny (UK) – 24 hr 8 min

• Longest marathon playing flute – Katherine Brookes (UK) – 27 hr 32 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon playing bagpipes – Rikki Evans (UK) – 26 hr 5 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon harp playing – Kateryna Oliinyk (Ukraine) – 31 hr 1 min 54 sec



• Longest marathon drumming by a team – J.D.T Music Academy, Janel Spalding, Aaron Houseago, Holly Jones, Ryan Murray and Lorraine Dorrington (all UK) – 3 days 8 hr 2 min

For sports and fitness fans:

• Longest marathon playing dodgeball – Right to Play at Castleton (USA) – 41 hr 3 min 17 sec

• Longest marathon playing netball - Generation Netball Club (Australia) – 72 hr 5 min

• Longest marathon tenpin bowling – Stephen Shanabrook (USA) – 134 hr 57 min



• Longest marathon breakdancing by a team - Arulanantham Suresh Joachim, Troy Feldman, Jesse Catabog, Donald F Geraghty, Lance Johnson, Eva Nikitova, Damian Dobrowolski, Dan Rossignoli, Darren Bryan, Karl Alba and Joseph Hersco (all Canada) – 24 hr

• Longest marathon parasailing – Berne Persson (Sweden) – 24 hr 10 min

• Longest marathon skipping – Joey Motsay (USA) – 33 hr 20 min

• Longest marathon hula hooping – Jenny Doan (Australia) – 100 hr

• Longest marathon playing basketball – The Revelas Family (USA) – 120 hr 2 min



For foodies or crafty people:

• Longest marathon slicing meat - Noé Bonillo Ramos (Spain) – 72 hr 13 min 8 sec

• Longest marathon baking (individual) – Wendy Sandner (USA) – 31 hr 16 min

• Longest marathon crocheting - Alessandra Hayden (USA) – 34 hr 7 min

• Longest painting marathon - Roland Palmaerts (Belgium/Canada) – 60 hr

• Longest barbecue marathon (team) - Panther City BBQ, Travel Texas, and Texas Monthly (all USA) – 40 hr 49 min 17 sec

• Longest cooking marathon (individual) – Hilda Baci (Nigeria) – 93 hr 11 min



• Longest knitting marathon – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

And a few covering random categories:

• Longest marathon hugging - Benjamin Kannenberg and Benjamin Thompson (both USA) – 32 hr 32 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon reading aloud - Rysbai Isakov (Kyrgyzstan) – 124 hr



• Longest marathon ironing – Gareth Sanders (UK) – 100 hr

• Longest marathon bartending – Ruth Brands (Belgium) – 111 hr

• Longest marathon on a bouncy castle – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

• Longest marathon playing quidditch – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

• Longest marathon being tattooed by multiple artists – No current record holder – minimum 61 hr

Now, if you fancy attempting one of our longest marathon records, you can find out more and apply right here.

Exactly. So many other options.

Hilda Baci’s epic record for the longest cooking marathon has sparked a worldwide flurry of applications.

Social media has been flooded with people taking on all sorts of marathon attempts ever since she first burst on to the scene with a record of 93 hr 11 min.

Unfortunately, many of the attempts won’t count as there isn’t actually a record for the thing people are attempting to do.

And while some are existing record titles, the people taking them on haven’t gone through the motions of sending in an application and being sent the guidelines.

Every Guinness World Records title must be measurable and standardisable, meaning there are many guidelines to follow in order to ensure everyone is on an equal playing field.

Sadly, people who are setting off on their days-long record attempts unofficially are unlikely to meet all the criteria, despite all their enthusiasm and effort.

We want everyone to stand a fair chance, so with that in mind, we’re giving you a few quick tips on what you need to do.

A representative from our records team explained: “We advise anybody interested in achieving a record to submit an application and wait for our Records Management Team to approve your application BEFORE attempting the record.

“Once the application is approved, you will receive the full guidelines which list all of the specific rules and evidence requirements for the record. If you do a record attempt without first reading the guidelines, you might do it wrong, or not capture all of the evidence we need, meaning we cannot recognize your efforts with a Guinness World Records title.

“If your proposal is not something we can monitor as a record, our Records Team will explain why and may suggest alternative options for you where possible.”

We’re also going to have a look at the longest marathon records that are available for people to attempt… but given that there are literally hundreds of them, we won’t be covering them all.

But here are a few examples for you, as well as the current record that you’d have to beat…

For those with musical talent:

• Longest marathon playing guitar – David Browne (Ireland) – 114 hr 6 min 30 sec

• Longest marathon playing sitar - Radhakrishnan Manoharan (India) – 29 hr 8 min 35 sec

• Longest marathon cello playing – Carel Henn (South Africa) – 26 hr

• Longest marathon playing the tuba – Rodney Kenny (UK) – 24 hr 8 min

• Longest marathon playing flute – Katherine Brookes (UK) – 27 hr 32 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon playing bagpipes – Rikki Evans (UK) – 26 hr 5 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon harp playing – Kateryna Oliinyk (Ukraine) – 31 hr 1 min 54 sec

• Longest marathon drumming by a team – J.D.T Music Academy, Janel Spalding, Aaron Houseago, Holly Jones, Ryan Murray and Lorraine Dorrington (all UK) – 3 days 8 hr 2 min

For sports and fitness fans:

• Longest marathon playing dodgeball – Right to Play at Castleton (USA) – 41 hr 3 min 17 sec

• Longest marathon playing netball - Generation Netball Club (Australia) – 72 hr 5 min

• Longest marathon tenpin bowling – Stephen Shanabrook (USA) – 134 hr 57 min

• Longest marathon breakdancing by a team - Arulanantham Suresh Joachim, Troy Feldman, Jesse Catabog, Donald F Geraghty, Lance Johnson, Eva Nikitova, Damian Dobrowolski, Dan Rossignoli, Darren Bryan, Karl Alba and Joseph Hersco (all Canada) – 24 hr

• Longest marathon parasailing – Berne Persson (Sweden) – 24 hr 10 min

• Longest marathon skipping – Joey Motsay (USA) – 33 hr 20 min

• Longest marathon hula hooping – Jenny Doan (Australia) – 100 hr

• Longest marathon playing basketball – The Revelas Family (USA) – 120 hr 2 min

For foodies or crafty people:

• Longest marathon slicing meat - Noé Bonillo Ramos (Spain) – 72 hr 13 min 8 sec

• Longest marathon baking (individual) – Wendy Sandner (USA) – 31 hr 16 min

• Longest marathon crocheting - Alessandra Hayden (USA) – 34 hr 7 min

• Longest painting marathon - Roland Palmaerts (Belgium/Canada) – 60 hr

• Longest barbecue marathon (team) - Panther City BBQ, Travel Texas, and Texas Monthly (all USA) – 40 hr 49 min 17 sec

• Longest cooking marathon (individual) – Hilda Baci (Nigeria) – 93 hr 11 min

• Longest knitting marathon – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

And a few covering random categories:

• Longest marathon hugging - Benjamin Kannenberg and Benjamin Thompson (both USA) – 32 hr 32 min 32 sec

• Longest marathon reading aloud - Rysbai Isakov (Kyrgyzstan) – 124 hr

• Longest marathon ironing – Gareth Sanders (UK) – 100 hr

• Longest marathon bartending – Ruth Brands (Belgium) – 111 hr

• Longest marathon on a bouncy castle – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

• Longest marathon playing quidditch – No current record holder – minimum 24 hr

• Longest marathon being tattooed by multiple artists – No current record holder – minimum 61 hr

Now, if you fancy attempting one of our longest marathon records, you can find out more and apply right here.

https://www.guinnessworldrecords.com/news/2023/7/longest-marathon-records-you-could-attempt-and-what-you-need-to-know-first-755566

Longest knitting marathon has no current record holder and so does longest marathon on a bouncy castle. Leave cooking and attempt other areas if you must break a record.

It depends..
On the financial strength of your spouse. Can s/he carry the family responsibilities while you try to find your feet again?
On the nature of the job. Is it transferable? If yes, don't reject it rather, go through whatever process is required to apply for a transfer.

Las las, think am well oh. After the initial excitement, when bills start rising, na then pressure ti wa.

Samantha124:
Wait, I've never given birth before and I'm not pregnant, but I'm planning on trying for another baby immediately after 4 to 6 months after giving birth when the time comes, so that I can raise my kids as twins and kill two birds with one stone.

I really wish for twins, but that's my body's decision to make.

So far a know a lot about pregnancy and labor, but I don't know all the details because some things you have to experience them first in order to know all the details.

Are you telling me that a whole fully grown healthy new born baby can pass down there without causing any injuries?

Yes my daughter. Most women who were not circumcised themselves will have safe vaginal delivery of their babies without any tears. It's the women that were circumcised as babies that will need the tear you described because the structure naturally put in place to expand was cut off during circumcision. I wish you a happy marriage soon and safe delivery of your twins.

Op: Regular s£x especially in the third trimester will help your wife have an easier delivery but it's not really by stretching the v@ginal walls. There's a hormone in the semen that helps ripen the cervix, prostaglandin or so. Her org@sm is also a kind of exercise that prepares her body for uterine contractions and all that. However, where it's not possible for you both to be together, she can still give birth. Others have done it. Let her be up and doing, exercising moderately. I wish her safe delivery.

My son, marriage is a life-long commitment and matured minds consider who will give them peace of mind all the way. It seems this lady is the one you have made up your mind to get down with; go ahead.

In seeking your own peace of mind, don't birth children who will be in pains because their sorrow will reduce your own peace. Knowing what is at stake, save MONEY for two or three PGD procedures and live happily ever after with your family. Don't listen to negative people who'll tell you it will keep failing? How na? In Canada fa? Mtchew!

Both of you should never forget how you started. Keep the fire of love burning with a touch of understanding and you'll be fine.

Tufiakwa! Children of nowadays can sell you and use the change to buy tom-tom for you to lick. Her innocent looking face and boldness reminds me of Chidimma's lovely face- the one who stabbed Ataga to death.

Anyways, it's better for her that she has confessed to the offence unlike some people who will continue to plead "not guilty" no matter how glaring the evidence in the charges read out to them. No gains from a faulty foundation will ever last. May the law tamper justice with mercy.

These children wee not kee us. Oghene bikoo..

The joy and prayer of all parents is that their children will make them proud. God bless you my daughter for this great honour to your parents.

More power to your elbows sir.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with investigating the entire matter to eliminate any possibility of an innocent person being punished. If she's found to be guilty, by all means let her be punished to serve as a deterrent to others. The problem is if JAMB will allow full access to their servers for the level of thorough scrutiny this requires.

The question that has been on my mind is: why do most Nigerian CBT exams not display your score immediately you submit your test? What do they usually do between the submission and release of results? JAMB needs to ensure that from next year, candidates' results are displayed immediately they submit their test.

Gaskiya.

FunkyAlhaji2015:


No embassy will issue her visa now that her forgery has been brought to the fore. The developed countries carry out due diligence before offering visa. Forgery is a big crime that will not be ignored.

She will not be presenting the controversial UTME scores na. Her WASSCE or NECO-SSCE results will do and hopefully, there'll be no issues there. There'll only be a problem if the Nigerian Police accepts that she is guilty and do not clear her but why would they do that?

JAMB is not infallible. This could have been a network glitch that was later worked on. Would they accept such heavy indictment on their credibility? No. Why make the girl take the fall for it? JAMB that candidates always have loads of complaints against during/after their UTME. I deal with young people a lot.

As someone once said to me, "it is better to let 99 criminals go free than punish one innocent person". The way I see it, the girl should be let alone and let fate decide her case. If she forged the result, it's better she confesses now because she cannot truly go as far as she'd have gone in life; fake things don't last.

I think we should just wish her well and this is nothing about her being Igbo or not. The 'verified' best candidate is also Igbo.

Wahala everywhere..

lebron7:

Exactly
Why reward criminality because she's from your tribe.
I'm pretty sure he wouldn't give her this scholarship if she wasn't Igbo.

'Village people' have gone digital. See them even on Nairaland. Ndi oso chiegbu!

Everything was wrong with the media trial of this budding star. If she had committed suicide, the best you enemies of progress would have offered would be RIP.

God has helped her to rise above needing JAMB or UTME, let the matter alone na? What do you have against wishing someone well so that good things may come to you also? Let Mmesoma breeeef mbok!

Wow!

When your 'village people' think they have dealt you an uppercut but you serve a living God.

Congratulations gurl! The world is yours for the taking. Baby, biko rapu Pharmacy. I strongly recommend Medicine or Nursing in Canada. All the best!

God bless the giver for this thoughtfulness. May God deliver you whenever you need Divine assistance.
Psalm 41:1 "Blessed is he who considers the poor; The LORD will deliver him in time of trouble."

Only mature minds will understand that it's the establishment of that refinery that has shaken his finances. It's not moi-moi. Something that a whole Federal Government could not do for years! Once he begins to sell products, he'll overtake many rich persons in the world and of course reclaim his first position in Africa.

Much respects baba Dangote!

He who laughs last laughs longest.

Wakie wakie! This government, pay you N200,000 minimum wage... that was a nice dream. Better wake up and input N50,000 for your robot to process for you.

Human beings are supporting the government. I noticed that BMC were learners compared to the new TMC (Tinubu Media Crew). They must earn N500,000 per month for all their hard work and dedication.

E go soon red. We're just starting.

Children of nowadays... you blink, you lose them.

Even very strict parents are struggling to keep their children on a leash in the times we're in, how much more a home where there's as much condonement as I sense in OP's 'appreciation post'. That aunty appears to be the only strict one around.

Our princess is a treasure but needs some refining before bad friends waste her. Please, arrange for someone God-fearing outside her home to befriend and mentor her before she gets into the university. Like, an older responsible lady in her church or her previous school. First verify the person's values and then persuade her to get closer to your niece. Some churches have teen coaches on standby for such tasks.

We shall read great news next about that superstar.

Na wa oh! What kind of 'father' hires thugs to assault his own son for any reason You nko? Just looking ne Someone should call the police on you both already!!

When you return from the police cell, apologise to that poor boy. Get a counsellor to start having sessions with him because he's clearly on the path of suicide or a drastic action. Whatever the counsellor tells you to do, do it with immediate effect.

May God have mercy on you and your husband.

fashrola:


Nobody is against that..... But you complaining about doctors living for greener pastures while they were trained in Nigeria is unethical, because we are thriving to survive and to live a better life, you won't expect me to remain in a place where my salary is not paid on time or not enough to settle bills.

Sorry about calling you an hypocrite, but sometimes we have to face reality that this country Nigeria is retrogressing.

Salary not paid on time or not enough is even for those that have the jobs. You won't believe the number of graduates (across all professions) that have no jobs at all in this country.

How someone will think of raising even the slightest objection on any ground to people seeking a LIFE, is ridiculous. School fees ko, subsidy ni.