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AwkaetitiBabe:
Come give me Facebook account

Sorry, I don't have one.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Well, think outside the box

I was only joking.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Prof elujoba

Taa! I graduate before you sef. And you're gainfully employed before me. Inside life.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Studied psychology

Interesting. Who was the VC when you were an undergrad?

Guys I graduated 2016 and I need a job in... Well, anywhere, Lagos, Abuja...

Let God use you.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Never heard of her... May God give her family the fortitude to bear the loss.

Rip MA. Repping Great Ife! But The school dull sha

So you're a Great Ife Alumni? Wow.

Wetin you read and when you graduate?

AwkaetitiBabe:
Lol. It's just what it is. Didn't get d orientation about it early enough.

Good luck sis

AwkaetitiBabe:
My village people tie am for tree but yahweh go free am soon.

Abi you dey wine me ni? This must be village people at work.

I used to check out your profile once in a while and your pics... hmm... beautiful.

So yes, it is true sha, village people are responsible, but let me not attribute it to that just yet. The average woman fro the tie she first hits puberty to her 30s has had at least 15 admirers (could be more or less). No data to back up my claim but it is nonetheless true. Why is yours different? Are you brash? Out of so many guy's league (like I read your post and you could afford a 700k vehicle, chai)? That amount has never hit my account oo, and other things sha. What could go wrong sister? Suppose, a taxi driver proposes marriage now, would you scream at the top of your lungs?

AwkaetitiBabe:
From my calculations, your wife's ovulation should be on d 10th of Nov. Save d date. You can whip up banana, milk, egg plus Lil baking soda smoothie for you guys to take before that period. No pressure

Awkaetiti's babe, how are you? When is Awkaetiti going to get serious with the marriage proposal?? Why is it taking this long nah?

vicsongreat:
I graduated from a state uni in Nigeria in 2014, served 2015, searched for job from 2015-2017, yet non came except teaching job of 12k per month, I decided to borrow to travel to Dubai, I landed in Dubai on July 2017, got job after 3days of my arrival, I work at an ice factory with 1500aed which is 150k per month. My company did my 2yrs visa for free, gave me accommodation, electricity, water and medical. I only spend on feeding. They were with my passport, Jan this year was my 1yr 6mnths, they booked my vacation flight to Nigeria to and fro, plus 100k pocket money, I spent 2mnths in Nigeria. I returned march, I cancelled from my work place around June, I runned a course called Sira for 5days were I obtained my security and safety certificate and I got a security job that pays me 250k per month now. UAE favoured me abeg. Am greatful to God.

I have some questions for you sir.

1) How much did you leave Nigeria with (including visa and flight ticket)? You can give a rough estimate if you're not comfortable, you know.

2) Okay so you left Nigeria with which visa? I am not getting it right: did you apply for the job online and the employer did the processing for you or you left the shores of this country first? If it's the latter, it doesn't look like visas gets processed when passengers arrive at destination country, that would only apply to ECOWAS countries. I don't understand, honestly.

Ryan03:
but it makes sense to send your wife packing if she cheats on you? Why didn't you consider the children and the nonsense broken home ish?

Not so fast, no, it goes both ways too.

midnighter:
No but it confers resistance to malaria which is why the gene is so popular around this area

When malaria goes, sickle cell will go

How was service?

wrongnumber:
Honestly I can't argue with you regarding how you comprehend his write up but it is all about perspective.

Ladies get emotional anytime they read about men cheating but it is so unfortunate that it is the reality of life and only a realist will understand this which I guess is who toks is.

My sister, talk from now till tomorrow, vex all the vex in the world and infact write and preach against unfaithfullness and you will be amazed that it will be effort in futility.

Who fights nature? Same way you can't win this battle so learn to cope. This is a bitter pill to swallow but please start learning how to cope with the bitterness cos it will help you in this wicked world of men.

This matter don tire me to discuss abeg.

Lol. Wicked world of men?

otherway:
[b]I think it is the level of maturity of the ladies. The ones who read toks write up and nod in agreement don't bother to comment [/b]but only the ones who miscontrue his threads come online to attack him and not even the thread Lol!

Laslas they go dey alright.

Makes sense. Lol.

otherway:
This is perfectly my understand of the OP write up but I'm so amazed to see ladies bashing and even attacking his personal life and it only goes to show that ladies hate the truth and they prefer to read things that align with their reasoning.

I think his threads is not meant for nairaland cos the forum is dominated by very young ladies who are still in their fantasy stage.

My advice to toks is to stop bothering himself writing on nairaland and should create a career as a down to earth relationship expert. The guy go blow.

@bolded. Fantasy Land indeed lmao. They are just delusional to say the least. How many more men will you breakup with because of infidelity? You marry this one and find out he's cheating and then it crashes, and then that one, then you turn to that woman Jesus spoke about with five husbands. Good life. It's not her fault after all. Some of her exes just had terrible attitudes. Before any one jumps on me with a rebuttal, you realize men run things?

It takes a certain mindset to rest the brain. Like it wasn't until very recently that monogamy was even a thing. In virtually all cultures down through the ages, polygamy was the norm. You don't see woman killing themselves, blowing up, creating a scene than is necessary for this. Men should be faithful in monogamous marriages, excuse me, but what happens if they are not.

I think Toks is just being true to the events that happens around us, but most Nairalanders here just want to argue.

Toks2008:
Ok I have heard you.

Now let me ask...

If you find yourself married to a man that cheats on you and you have kids for him already please what will you do?

A. Leave him and stay single for the rest of your life leaving your kids with a broken home?

B. Leave him.and start trying your luck with different men with no guaranty of meeting a faithful one?

C. Stay in the marriage and Focus on your life and that of your children whilst ignoring him with his philandering.

All my threads are actually in support of the women...to prepare and protect them from predators in the name of bad men but because many ladies lack the mental maturity to grasp the message or many are just too young to understand, they think I am against them.

We live in a very wicked,selfish and uncaring world of men and any lady who tries to fight this fact will certainly end up a loser.

You're a realist, to be honest. This is the question I have always had to ask American FEMALE Redditors (reddit.com) who would often say "My husband heated on me and I got to know through blablabla...." and all its different variants, you get. It blows my mind that every single time the kind of comments I read is basically this: He doesn't deserve you. You deserve better. Breakup.

Any woman who is not mentally ill should go for option C. There were ladies, Toks, who kinda reiterated your position while I served in a local government as a Corp member. If you get fidelity from your man, fine, but if you don't, just focus on your children. I think it makes sense. It makes no sense to me to breakup with your husband because he's cheating. That your B funny sha.

OkongwuTochukwu:
Choose who you love. That is because god is the one who chooses the target of your love for you.

Just as we choose because he first chose us.

Deep.

Toks2008:
Do you know that 99% of ladies who are still single at marriageable ages have no business with singlehood?

Many ladies pray to GOD every now and then for a spouse but unknown to them, GOD has blocked his ears to their prayers...WHY? Because God has already given them a spouse but they rejected his choice for them due to the preconceived unrealistic standards they have already created in their minds of what a good husband should be. The average woman does not really want a good man or a good husband in the real sense but what she wants is her own fantasy idea of what a good husband is supposed to be, in order words, she already has her MIND MADE HUSBAND...

Whilst men may get away with this mind-made choice because they are at a vantage position due to their ability to walk up to any lady of their choice, a lady may find It very difficult to do the same...maybe things would have been easier if ladies can walk up to the man that has their standards to decisively woo them and make them fall for them, propose to them and stay married to them

Whilst I totally agree that it is perfectly ok to set a standard as regards the type of husband you want, it is sacrosanct that you do not cross that line from realistic standards to fantasy and you can't pray to GOD to give you a good husband and at the same time give him conditions...if you want GOD to lead a good husband to find you then allow him to do just that.

*Work on yourself to be independent financially and you won't care if your man is jobless, broke or earns 30k per month at the moment cos the state of being broke or poor is relative and temporary.
*Sixpack or a good body frame does not equate to a good husband.
*A big dck is not a guaranty that he will be a good husband.
*That he is rich does not mean you are also rich.
*You will hardly find a rich man that will be there for you whenever you need him.
*It is very unrealistic to expect a good husband to act or look like the super romantic sexy F boys you have met in the past and hoping to turn a F boy into a husband is lame.
*A man is not supposed to be cute like ladies who are regarded as the fairer sex or must be tall to be considered a good husband...what a man needs to have is a genuine desire for you.
*You can never date a pastor, a divorcee, can't marry a man with kids, you can't date a workaholic and you want a rich man, you can't be with a guy who is not fluent, who talks too much, he has to belong to a certain tribe, religion or even church denomination, must have a certain skin color, must have good dress sense, must be based abroad or from a certain country, he must not be too young or too old as if age gap is a prerequisite for a good marriage...
*He texts you or calls you too much or so into you and you feel he is not your type!...would you rather prefer he cares less?
*You want a good guy or husband but you have bad manners, you act and dress indecently and your nude or semi-nude pics and videos are all over social media and you dare crave for a good man
*Your feelings for a man as important as it is can not guaranty that he will have the same feelings for you and if you marry a man you have feelings for but does not have true feelings for, sister you are finished maritally.
*You Have friend-zoned and you keep friend-zoning the good guys and running after bad boys like a jinxed lady and you still talk about how difficult it is to find good men...
*You don't want to build a life with him cos you feel he will leave or cheat on you if he is made...strange!... I can go and on highlighting a series of unrealistic standards many ladies look for in a prospective good husband.

No matter how you pray and no matter the number of the singles summit you attend, If you are not ready to forget your false standards and make a serious compromise, you may remain single for a very very long time. l believe that the most paramount desire of an unmarried lady is to have a GOOD husband who will love and care for her and any other thing should be secondary and when you pray to GOD FOR a husband, blank your mind from any Imaginary standard you have created for yourself and allow GOD HAVE HIS WAY or simply develop the balls to approach any guy that matches your imagination and stop bothering GOD.

Stop bothering God? LMAO!!!!

Haha, thank you.

midnighter:
Partly, but she didn't argue that he should date the girl, just that he shouldn't have made it so obvious that he was disappointed in her looks.

But obviously if you use deception to get somebody, you shouldn't be surprised if they are disappointed.

She was just saying that he could have been more polite about it. But as far as he didn't insult her it's not too major since its the girl's own fault for lying to him in the first place

I would say that both of you are correct

@bolded. That's right. Thank you. We agree.

annford:
"Most" good women aren't easy to get. I never got tired of chasing after her and wooing her cos I already knew what stuff she was made of and what I wanted in a woman. I am a businessman and if you're into business, you'd know that there are deals or sales take time and patience to get through. You don't expect a Woman to immediately say yes to daring you. Do you say yes to all the requests made to you? Bro, a woman who knows her worth would want you to know and understand that she places a high value on herself. Women aren't "Properties" that we can acquire easily. Women are meant to be loved, respected, nurtured and encouraged.

So because you're a good woman, you shouldn't be easy to get? Forming hard to get and then you fall into the wrong hands. Coughs, sighs. just live a simple life.

So you chased your wife down that rabbit hole, good for you bro, but not everyone would do that. I don't place much worth on myself, so why should I place so much worth on someone else? More still, I don't see people who place much worth on themselves as people of great worth, lol. Am I a bad guy? Are you going to make that assumption?

annford:
Women aren't "Properties" that we can acquire easily. Women are meant to be loved, respected, nurtured and encouraged.

No one is saying they are, however, they (women) were made for men, so what's the point you're trying to make?

annford:
You don't expect a Lady to immediately agree to dating you even if she was already madly in love with you. Mine did "Shakara" for 5 weeks and 3 days before saying yes to me. [b]It is the nature of Women to do "shakara" before agreeing to date a man. [/b]Women want to be sure the man isn't being led by his feelings or her body or even her money. The two are already good friends and it should be easy for him to make his intentions known to her.

"Shakara" has never helped any woman if we are being honest. A good woman studies a good man and would agree to his advances on the fly.

If she's trying to use "shakara" to gauge interest, I see that as nothing but feminine naivety lol.

Bad men/ people with ulterior motives could pursue you for 100 years and when they have what they want, they bail. It's pretty common nah. Don't people learn from other people's sad experience? There should be other ways to check seriousness in admirers and unfortunately "shakara" is just a useless band aid.

FortuneDeGreat:
Accra Ghana

Wow, beautiful city.

midnighter:
Okay good luck, more mud and dirt to your elbow

Ebora Oru, do you agree with my recent quote to Fountainofyouth's comment?

Fountainofyouth:
You only said you noticed she has bow legs, is that her fault? Fine she lied, that should tell you she isn't proud of how she looks, you could have at least boost her esteem a little by making her feel wanted even if it's for a minute.

No, I disagree. I shouldn't be the one to fix your life if I don't know what i'm in for.

The internet is all blind dating and men (and women obviously) need to size up fellows they may be interested in. The metrics is based on many factors but looks plays a big role.

Based on his wordings, it seems he would not even give her a second thought in real life so why should he do so when she didn't come out clean in the first place? She got everything going for her. It is all her fault. That Nairalander shouldn't share any of the blame. When you play shitty game, you win shitty prize.

FortuneDeGreat:
I stay in Lagos, traveled down to see my sister in law who put to bed, while staying a couple of days I met this innocent looking and beautiful damsel and one thing led to another we got talking and before I knew it she was all over me.
Long story short, I decided to go to Enugu to see my parents and from there I'd get back to base, I related that to her and she asked me for how long will I be staying at Enugu I said for a week, she started pleading with me to come over in the weekend to spend time with me, after long pleading I agreed.
When she came over she acted so glaring that her purpose was to come and be laid, I obliged and treated her very well, lo and behold, when she was about to go she started pleading with me to forgive her, haa, forgive you for what? She then told me that she was already married and was on the process of getting divorce cos of incompatibility between them, I shouted! So what about your husband I asked, she told me that he's a transporter, always traveling and barely stays at home, what about your kids, she said that the worst aspect is that the man seems to be impotent and doesn't perform well also, I fainted, so this is how I slept with a married woman without knowing.
I simply blocked and deleted her number then went for penance before I resumed business.

Such is life.

The location of the pics you uploaded on your profile?

AstroG1:
She told me "No sex b4 marriage" ,why won't I have a taste of the commodity I want to buy

What if you taste what you buy and did not enjoy it? Part ways?

chriskosherbal:
so after singing it will it put food on the table for them or reduce the price of rice ..these are misplaced priorities at a time were the nation is facing hunger and starvation, all effort should be geared towards food sufficiency for the citizenry not issue of singing whatever ...nu be who don eat get power to sing .

Funny meme! Eini gbenu mi soun.

No one is asking where these bloggers get these pre-wedding photos.

Some of these pre-wedding photos look stage-manged to me.

midnighter:
Lol thank you but its not too rare if you just look in the right places

If I hear

midnighter:
Thank you

You are a very intelligent woman.

I find your type extremely rare.

genq:
Dude are you okay?

You attribute the HAVOC that your colonial slave masters have wrecked in other peoples countries to mere 'migration'? I'm baffled at the level of your idiocy my guy. Wtf!

You don't realize that he who pays the piper dictates the tune, I guess you don't.

Like midnighter has rightly said: "The thing is that civilization and humanity itself are based on the principle of "hunt or be hunted." How did our colonial master get in here, in the first place? DIdn't they live in the 12, 13, 14 15, 16th century like our ancestors? Couldn't blacks pick up the initiate to travel thousands of miles in that century, too? Nope! Do they have the machinery, the technical-know-how and the all to make any substantial progress across the world's oceans? They probably thought the earth is flat and could care less in their own little hut, lol, if there is anything on the other side of the continent OR HOW TO GET THERE.

And if blacks were innocent and oblivious to the realities of hunt or be hunted, you'd have a recourse, but you don't. From time immemorial, men have always waged war and the captured played by the captors' rule (that's if they were even allowed to live). Blacks are no exceptions. They have waged war against each other too. Blacks have made the lives of other blacks whom they waged war against, a mess, an inglorious nothingness and history should tell you better. If you cannot hold an organized society, you cannot bring up fancy inventions to make life better for you and everyone else, you cannot devise means of survival when attacked, then you can only blame yourself. Why weren't our colonial masters unsuccessful like they weren't in Ethiopia? They traveled to other places and continents and they never succeeded EVERYWHERE, so why is ours different? Whether you want to say they infiltrated our ranks and got the sides of a select few, who were powerful at the time, or sheer strength, or whatever reasons, it's still part of the game bro. Strength. Wisdom. Shrewdness. Common sense and intelligence. All these and more could pave the way for you. Eve in the 21st century.

genq:
What race is responsible for:

1. 400+ years of the enslavement and mass brutality of YOUR OWN PEOPLE.

You seem to be confusing whites (as a whole) with European settlers who lived in the US. I hope you're aware Northern Africans are also Caucasians. Whites are not a monolith. The question we should ask in the first instance is: why allow yourself to be enslaved?

Again, before we talk about the act, let's talk about how they carried out the act. How were they able to successfully enslave able-bodied men and women? Regardless of how they did it, it only shows weakness on the race we would called Negroes. If you lose in battle, do you call your captors "wicked"?

genq:
2. The mass extermination of native Americans & Australian aborigines - taking over their countries and then years later, having the nerve to enforce strict immigration policies, restricting others, labeling foreigners

In acts of war I guess? Well, if you don't like it, wage war and get your land back. If I conquer a territory, I get to make the rules.

And again, questioning your argument morally, if my father is Jeff Bezos, does it give me unlimited rights to all that is his? Are you going to say Israel is a wicked nation for conquering Palestine and fighting tooth-and-nail to safeguard its conquered territory, right now?

genq:
as "aliens" and blocking people seeking greener pastures from entering these same countries that they forcefully took from the real natives (America, Australia, SA).

You should be ashamed of yourself. Greener pastures you say? Stay at home and develop your own country. Stop running to other people's country for your livelihood haha. Genq, don't you realize that corruption is not just a moral failure but a chief fabric in weakness? Corrupt people always need help and I am not obligated to help you.

genq:
3. The horrors of Holocaust.

4. Meddling into the political affairs of other nations and invading those countries in the art of war. i.e. Vietnam, Iraq.

5. Going to others people's countries to kill/execute their leaders & presidents i.e. Gaddafi, Saddam.

6. The mass incarceration of black men in America & Lying on black folks to get them lynched, mutilated and/or murdered i.e Emmett Till.

7. Mass police shootings of blacks in America. Then when these oppressed folks coin the phrase 'black lives matter" these devils undermine their struggle with the "all lives matter" slogan.

8. Separating little children from their parents at the Mexican-US border and holding these children captive in fema-like camps.

Stop confusing the actions of one country which is predominately Caucasians (to Caucasians as a whole).
9. The British windrush scandal - very heartbreaking.

10. Even to this day, forever meddling into the affairs of other nations - telling others what and what not to do - Looting the mineral resources of African and Asian nations who lack the intellectual capacity and military power to fight back.

Not we say we blacks don't have our own issues - we sure do - BUT I'm yet to see any other race who has been able or capable of the level of despoliation that WHITE folks have meted out to the lives of billions! It's so sad that I had to take time out to reply a dunce like you - get educated bro![/quote]The fittest would always win.

genq:
1. I believe Nigeria was never meant to be and must be divided into at least TWO different countries for it to work (North and South) ... Just like Korea and South Korea. Hausa/Fulanis are NOT one of us. They are more similar in culture and lifestyle to Chadians and Somalians.

2. I believe the girl child is sweeter to raise than the male child. I believe the girl child brings wealth (as most wealthy men have more female children than male).

3. I believe women have shot themselves in the foot with the feminist movement they want equal BENEFITS but not equal RESPONSIBILITY but unfortunately, it doesn't work that way sweethearts

4. I believe that society treats members of the LGBTQ community wrongly. Third world countries condemn them while the western countries celebrates them - these are both wrong. LGBTQ folks are MENTALLY deranged and DEMONICALLY possessed. They need deliverance and/or psychological treatment. Not condemnation or encouragement - they need HELP.

5. I believe the black race is cursed with the spirit of lack, disorganization, backwardness, and hatred as these things are evident wherever black folks are gathered.

6. I believe that if satan was a race he would be WHITE - very advanced a civilised people but extremely calculative and wicked - always going to and fro to other peoples countries, seeking whom to devour.

You nailed it in No 5 but pissed me off in 6.

This is probably one of the stupidest of stupid reasons to label the devil a white: "always going to and fro to other peoples countries, seeking whom to devour."

Migration is a part of life and it is never a bad thing. If anything, always going to and fro to other peoples countries and dominating them seems to be attributes we all should imbibe. Better put, always going to and fro to other peoples countries and helping them to develop.