₦airaland Forum

peeparty:
Read excerpts below:
“To all my fellow NYSC corp members around Nigeria, today, I witnessed how one of my colleagues, Adeyera Olubunmi (State code: NS/15A/0134)(Call-up no.: NYSC/NIJ/2015/061287) almost died due to maltreatment in Nasarawa state NYSC camp by security officials.

What happened this morning was that Bunmi Adeyera who is also Platoon 4 leader and was obviously sick went to the Camp clinic to collect some drugs to combat his ailment and was approaching the camp market to get food (since food was no longer available in the camp kitchen) in order to use his drugs when he was stopped by security operatives (Nigerian Police force and Man’O War) and was asked to go back into the camp hall for lectures.
How NYSC Corp Member Almost Lost His Life To Torture At Camp
He tried explaining to them that he was sick and needed to take his drugs but they did not listen to him, rather he was told to start ‘frog-jumping’.Bunmi quietly explained to them that he might not be able to ‘frog-jump’ because of his health status.

The next thing I saw was that the security operatives (who were obviously Hausas, because they communicated fluently in Hausa language) told asked him if he was Hausa or Yoruba. When he told them he was Yoruba and he hails from Lagos state, they seized his NYSC identification tag and marched him straight to the ‘Guard room’ allegations of ‘being stubborn’ without giving him any chance of speaking in his own defense.


This place called Guard room is a bathroom located at the entrance gate of the Nasarawa Camp where soldiers urinate at all time and with no cross-ventilation.

We all watched them take the poor sick Corp member to the Guard Room, and was detained there going to three hours. The next thing I saw was people from the camp medical unit running towards the gate with stretcher in their hands.

Behold Bunmi had collapsed and fainted in the so-called guard room.
Even while the Red Cross team was trying to rescue the situation, the soldiers sent them back saying that all was pretence and that when he wakes up, he will return to the guard room.
The doctors battled for his life for about an hour before Bunmi Adeyera became conscious again and was later stabilized.

Every Corp member on Camp including NYSC officials know Bunmi to be easy-going, obedient and friend to all which is more reason he emerged the leader of Platoon 4.
The population of those who went to the clinic to check on him is one that I have never seen on camp although they wouldn’t allow us take pictures of this ugly incident

But my question is this why is it that we Corp members who have in good faith and humility come to serve our father land are being maltreated even to the extent of someone fainting. This should not continue. All these security agents should be careful in performing their duties and should remember that the pen is powerful than the sword…”

Bunmi Adeyera is a graduate of mass communication from The Nigerian Institute of Journalism, Ogba, Lagos state. All attempts to reach the Nasarawa state co-ordinator, Mrs. C.I Uba, proved abortive.

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lalasticlala

So ordinary man o war and police una no fit change am for dem. Ure mates in Egypt combated a national army and won.

princemol:
for the genius!

actually a question for olodo and okponu
my lil niece solves puzzles from quantitative reasoning book 4 far tougher than this

married man and single gehl on an escapade. hmmn

the girl neva jam bad boy dat na y she dey brag.
read the news of acid attack everyday you'll know why you are the bigger fool in this story.
when ur eye don blind na ear phone 7 dem go buy for you.

kaima1984:
if am d wife, I wunt leave my home for any reason,wat Nonso did ws annoying n betraying BT d deed has been done and forgiveness will b d right thing t do instead of leaving home

make e no gey pikin abi

Bugatie:
Someone please let the female trekker know the guy is happily married

she obviously doesn't know! and his wife is sitting there watching. what will happen at night when they retire for the day? I dunno oh!

searching for fortune and fame.

wonda26:
Bros, you fall my hand.
Did you do maths at all?
Unfortunately, you my friend, seems to be the dullard

I tried hard to understand what he was saying. everytime I wanted to give up I remembered that so many people liked what he posted I wanted to like it too untill I saw your post. moral lesson: never follow the crowd. thanks broda for bailing mathematics from the depths it would have fallen.

efilefun:
This is called simplicity of the highest order so far from Nigeria President elect we hope he will keep it up and fulfill all our promise nice one my president.
Something keep telling me that GMB would be the true change Nigerians required....i'm impressed

that shuttle simply takes people to the plane. I doubt there is an option to it.

Mariecakes:
Sooo cute

Ofcourse

Cute Lil bastaad

Neyoor:
Yes, it happens today. I witnessed it with my Korokoro eyes and those guys still paid 50naira each.

The kind suffer wey unilorin students dey suffer for this fuel scarcity period no get part 2.

I just hope F.G do something about this ontime, exam is fast approaching fah.

happens lolz

qbd2:
I see two things here
Fuel scarcity: that led to hoarding
Overcrowded buses: dat lead to d heat dat ignited d fire

the fuel must have been kept at the sit close to the engine. the heat emanating from the engine ignited it.

Mbkite:
I want to keep the question simple, don't wanna bore us with much write ups.

I really want to know the best place a man can meet a good life partner. A lot of scary stories have been told about meeting a partner in the church. So where can one depend on for a good wife? Please no insults, it's a serious matter.
Thanks.

under a cashew tree. very nice place.

meimoks:
I'll just give that kid a good beating

il give you the beating of your life!
you want turn that fine boy to gay abi?
abi you want to make him a queer monk?
abeg oh! even if na he class teacher you be. just turn ur face away.

LasoulMacuby:
A slap can reset the brain to factory mode, never underestimate what a hard slap can do to a woman's face

#myopinion.
I'll make use of force. if shes tired let her leave. she get her freedom, I get my peace.

bukatyne:
I can sense power play here

Some kids certainly like to be ajepako and Some ajebutter Lol! and as the husband pointed out, she should have fed him with What he was comfortable with aslong as it was healthy.

Besides, There seems to be a lot of communication issues. What changed the wife from a sweet fiancee to the stubborn wife?

And also, There is nothing wrong with consulting with Google. You tend to get a lot of expert advice (If you can sift) online.

this is one of them.

netsurf:
Okay, for instance, when the baby came, she breast feeded him exclusively for six months and then the stage to introduce some food came..the baby wouldn't accept those frisogold, cerelac etc but accepts Ogi well but she continually force him to take those friso/cerel and each time, the baby cries endlesslly and later vomits everything. Then at about 10 months old, the baby would accept amala, and indomie on his own without been forced...then she brought in golden morn which the baby spits out the moment it touches his mouth...despite this, she started forcing him again...so the husband said don't give it to him any more...give what he is okay with. Rather than explain why she want to continue forcing him, she went and bought a bigger bag of the golden morn...then the husband threw it away...this happenned last Thursday and since then she has stopped greeting her husband and even prepare food when she like since then.

shes a witch. many of these ladies actually are.

nairalife2013:
My wife turned bad two years after marriage. She was a perfect companion when we were dating.in the early times, I put her through rigorous tests like starving her of money, complaining a lot, keeping another girl and generally misbehaving once in a while. She was still religiously accomodating, forgiving, loving and highly respectful. I wasnt satisfied. I craved to see the worst in her, so I had to one day feign anger over a little kitchen error she committed. I had to gritt my teeth and do something venom-inspiring. Am a goodman no amount of punishment over and error am guilty of can turn me against my wife or any1 else, no matter the weight. If she is a wrong lady, she will display it today in her full glory. I wanted a wife I can trust. I dindt want to repeat the errors my parents made. That day I battered and pushed her out of my house into the rain and locked my door. The nite was just begining to inherit the earth. Time was 6.30pm

exactly what I fear most about girls I just trust none. I no fit for wahala. I kinda hatte them even. I never really liked a lady enough to consider getting married. maybe there are modern ways out. contract marriage. just to have a kid whose not a baastad.

Dera25:
My wife says I should be greeting her each time I finish eating, if not for anything but for the sake that she take her time prepare the food and serve me. She says that she deserves a greeting from me.

I said okay, just that it is not part of our culture and I don't think I will be keep up greeting her each time she gives me food.

It is not that greeting her will reduce anything from me but the issue is that I don't usually remember this greeting after eating because it is not part of me, although I do greet sometimes for peace to reign, but the way she reminds me of this greeting of a thing gets me angry, as if it is mandatory or something to the extent that sometimes we've had issues because of it.

So daddies and mummies in the house, do you greet your wife after she has given you food? Or do your husband greet you after eating? If yes is it a mandate or just for fun?

Please let me remind you that this is not the issue of been a breadwinner or not. I beg you to forgive my long story and wrong grammer for I am not a grammerian.

Thanks in advance.

thats where it starts oh. all hen-pecked men started from little considerations like this.

TheInkheart:
Reasons Why You Should Not Get Married To A Nigerian Man

It is no doubt that Nigerian men make wonderful lovers; they are sweet, kind, thoughtful, maybe not very romantic but romantic still and good in bed too. It is also no doubt that these men are very rare to come by in Nigeria. Maybe by default or societal conditioning, most Nigerian men are so not it; they are egoistic, chauvinistic and make terrible husband materials. You wonder why I think Nigerian men; at least most of them, won't make good husbands, read the reasons listed below:

-They Are Chauvinists: pardon the strong word "chauvinists" but Nigerian men prefer to stick to their bias opinion about women and their responsibilities in the home. The take the "head" duty way too serious and often push the women aside expecting them to follow their will and do as they say. If you marry a Nigerian man, you will probably end up as the less important voice in the home or wherever the man rather than as a partner you are to him.

- They Are Polygamous In Nature: In Nigeria, some men believe men are entitled to as many women as they can handle and so, they are free to marry more than one wife or have affairs with other women. With a Nigerian man, it is never certain that you will be the only woman in his life. To save yourself the heartbreaks of discovering condoms and hotel receipts in his pocket or worse, finding out he has secret children, please do not marry a Nigerian man.

- They Are Not Romantic: you want flowers, a guy to follow you to the salon, exotic lunches, dinners, vacations, chocolates and breakfast in bed? Then, a Nigerian man is not the man you should marry. They often consider these things as cheesy and unneccesary. Maybe they will try on your birthdays and valentine's day (that's if they don't come up with excuses to forget). The most romantic thing some Nigerian men will ever get for you is packs of food from an eatery or drinks and few back/foot rubs just right before sex.

- You Will Be A Nanny To A Grown Man: if God blesses you with a Nigerian man and a somehow scattered one, you are in soup. You've just graduated to being a nanny to a full grown man. You will pick his socks, shirts and what not after him when he gets back from work, even flush the toilet when he's done. Be ready to face a sulking man if the food is not ready on time or you try to get him to do something for you when his favourite game or tv show is on. You will have to pet and stroke his ego almost all the time to make him happy.

- They Have The Wife Beating Syndrome: either by societal conditioning or home training, some Nigerian men believe it is very normal to hit a woman; that is the only way to put them back on track when they are wrong. It is no secret that some Nigerian men will beat their wives and feel no regret about it; it is somehow the woman's fault the man is so angry to the extent he has to hit her. If you're not ready to lose your fine skin to the itchy palms of a man, please steer clear of Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are also good liars. They smoke and drink heavily and blame it on the society's deteriorating condition; they have to "keep body and soul together". Many Nigerian men have money problem; it is either they are misers or heavy spenders. Some prefer to show off the wealth they do not possess by living way beyond their standards. And the most annoying part is that many Nigerian men are Mr nice guy in public and Mr stingy in their homes which you will agree is not a very attractive trait especially in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

I know by now, some guys are already hissing and cursing me probably but it is undeniable that many Nigerian guys have terrible attitudes that make them really undesirable husband materials. I mean, it is tough enough we have to cope with the many issues in the country, men problems should not be added to our weighty wahala. We deserve men who understand us (at least to a reasonable extent), shower us with the affection we need, pamper us and make us feel very special and loved but how many Nigerian men can beat their chests that they can be the man of our dreams or at least, part of the dreams?!!


more articles n www.theinkheartblog.com and www.360nobs.com/author/alice-temitope-dako/

I go marry oyibo I go marry oyibo na so aunty folake take reach 40 years. now na so she dey use juju take pursue married men as okoro for village take dey pursue their fowl on watchnight day. nonsense and ingredient!

Orijin101:
And parents from that kinda house will start complaining that their children are dull! please, why won't the children be dull

I met the children of a billionaire in lekki who builds and sells houses. a girl of 9 was the oldest. they know all the countries, their capitals, continents, historical events. they spelt virtually every thing we challenged them with, they are so aware of the world around them, I heard them talking about Vladimir putin and the land tussle in Ukraine. they are leaders in their school, I was so ashamed of my self because they knew so many things I did not know. and you know what else? you guessed right! their mum didnt school and they have samsung galaxies and DSTV.

Godisnear:
Baba never enter Aso Rock, jail term don enter UNLIMITED. Lol

ahahahahahahaha......

Fairgodwin:
CLASSIC!!! I thought I was the ONLY one who's always reasoned in that line. And to think she ALWAYS revels in it, beats me.

exactly.

rokiatu:
this is a serious matter, there is a time and and place for comedy not this.

if you want to be the person checking people in line: maybe you should be prim and proper enough to change that dp of yours. much emphasis is laid on your as.s. put up a decent dp and then correct people as you please.

Sweetguy25:
He who has ears. Irate Nigerians that are calling for the closure of MTN should understand the consequences. MTN is a law abiding company doing in business in Nigeria, the events occurring in their originating country shouldn't be used as an excuse to promote further divisions between the countries. They're a major stakeholder in the Nigerian economy and we should give them the respect they deserve. We should boycott Shell and other IOCs that degrade our environments with their business operations. Besides, its hypocrisy that a country like ours with a rich history of human rights abuses would seek revenge over acts human rights abuses in another country.

if there was a nigerian telecommunication company in s.a; by now it would have been reduced to its trellises. im not supporting that any violent action be taken? but it takes someone who did not see any picture or video of the killings and maiming that the so called xenophobia brought in its wake; to take such a firm standing against boycott as a form of protest. this is a struggle to force the s.a government into taking an action that can at east pacify the people who lost their loved ones in the attack.
besides, the statement of this Goodluck of a person sounds more of a threat than a solidarity speech to me. he only forgot to add that our darling mtn; employer of 2 million nigerians; saver of the Nigerian economy from crashing, can be nationalised and made to function in the same capacity without anybody necessarily been thrown on the streets.

soe:
No o

You will only be risking the lives of the players.

There is nothing like xenophobia here...xenophobia is discrimination... What we see here is daylight murder and terrorism.

Until you bring the perpetrators to book for all the deaths of our people...you guys will forever never know development

exactly.
punish those baastads with whom we soldiered against apartheid.

emusmith:
It will be incomplete if I neglect to add this:

But there are times the best option is to let go. This is not usually easy especially if you have been in such relationship for long. However, it is usually better to acknowledge that it is not working and do the needful – walk away. You will be glad you did in the long run.
But just before you put all the blame on your partner, remember that it takes two to tango. Relationships need the contribution of the two people involved to work. You need to look away from your partner and check in with yourself too.

not all times does it take two to tango.
some women are so bad that they can single handedly steer the boat a relationship to the rocks.
there are very many bad women on this planet. especially in this generation. and in nigeria.

1dafullymade:
yes dear, I do agree with u, buh at first, u don't think,feel nor see that "happy ending"....all u think,feel & see is d PAIN(disappointment)...like I already said, u can't bgin to imagine(especially wen u don't know d "STORY"..."unless u ar in someone's shoe, don't ever think u kno exactly wia it pinches"......sure wt time, u bgin to heal & see d "happy ending"...............

Well,I contemplated, buh ddn't go thru wt it, so itz all gud now dear... thanx!

uwc.
listen to lucky dube's song "we feel eeirry."

Lala247:
Im telling guys .. Cant cope .. They think they are coping but the hurt is real
Got ex wey still dey cry 6 years now still moaning .

why make a blanket statement because of your experience with your lily-livered wall flower of an ex. a real man knows not to enter anything he cant walk away from in 3 minutes. its as simple as saying; " never no more will you see me, this is the end."
btw. you said moaning?

mindhunter:
Hmmm!! Fellow Nigerians
Whether the news is stale or not, the deed is still on-going and more of our people over there will still die if we continue to condone this evil.
WHAT DO WE DO?
This is a question that goes on in our sacred minds. Here are a few suggestions;
1. Shut down or close up the operations of south africans here in Nigeria.
2. Round all the the south africans up and kill the number that has been killed in their country not minding their status.
3. Declare war against them and seize their country after victory. (They cannot beat us rara) when we have warring Generals like OBJ.
4. Be diplomatic by sending all the south africans home to settle the whole issue and they should never return until their president calls ours
5. Imply any of the above.

what bothers me to obsession is the fact that we are stronger. if we descend on those baastads they'll go into extinction in one week.

mitchyy:
Like seriously, you need to practice the art of reading before thinking. I specified that "unserious ones refuse to marry BECAUSE (in other words, with the excuse that) they don't have money to raise a child. Whatever happened to marrying and saving towards having a child?

money is agreeably a big factor.
but if you can view life from where we stand: you will realise that money is a not the most important harbinger to the idea of getting married.
there is so much about it that cannot be explained away in one solid article.
women I must tell you: are very difficult to please. and any man who determines to please them should at least fear the prospects of getting hen-pecked and emasculated. our fathers didnt experience the kind of women we have today. These ones are so artificial, unrealistic, rude, ungrateful, materialistic, (that is when they are under you economically) or arrogant, competitive, distrustful, nagging, unbending, unsubmissive and many other characteristics that will foever put the man in a position to 'bear patience' in order to hold the family together. today's woman is not the ideal choice of an average peace loving easy going friendly man who likes a simple and uncomplicated life, void of malice and cold war. my colleagues in the diaspora have confirmed my worries about african women and their dirty pride and nagging. put in a world where the choice abounds, then white women may even make better partners than women from my own clime just as id pick a yoruba woman anyday above a woman from my state; edo. staying outside marriage in the overall view is a lot easier for an african man under 35 years of age. I know its not the best. if all these my assertion about women are false; then been single after 25 years for a man would be very bad. but because of the realities of this world(in the sense that an average 25 year old man may not yet have started 'living' and experienced enough as it is that experience furnishes maturity) and the fact that only few women are not bad as described above; then it takes prudence to stay where you feel firm and happy untill you can see and think clearly enough for the next move.

mitchyy:
AccelerateTV


Recently I came to the conclusion that a lot of our men are no longer eager to get married. I believe they have their reasons and like most of them say, they never have enough money for the wedding day and maybe afterwards.

That makes me realize that we may not have prepared our men enough for marriage, to help them understand what measure of blessings are poured down on the man who chooses to take the bull by the horn and trust God enough to go into this institution that has been ordained by God himself.

I am yet to see anyone who consulted God before getting married, and didn’t pull through despite all the lessons that we learn on the way which give us room to grow up.

I can understand some of the reasons why men don’t want to marry these days, but one I find strange is when I discover that some men don’t actually want to get married because they are ashamed and very uncomfortable about the size of their penis.

One of the many texts I have been bombarded with lately says :“Dear sir, can a small Penis satisfy a woman with big buttocks? How many inches is long, and what do you consider as short. You may flash me and I will call you so you can tell me”.

I later found out he has not thought of getting married, because he thinks he will be ridiculed for the rest of his life. What do you make of that? Meanwhile I will like to take you through some of the other reasons why some men don’t get married.


1. MEN DON’T HAVE TO GET MARRIED TO HAVE SEX TODAY

A lot of men have realized that it is easier to get sex than in times past, when women insisted on getting married before sex. I am a man and I can tell you that a lot of women have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

I am not so sure who is more promiscuous these days, because it seems women offer sex like its going out of fashion these days . There are women, who are sleeping with about 4 men at the same time and would probably accommodate more if they can.

When women come to me to tell me how their husband was caught in Adultery, and seek my opinion on if they should leave him, I always reassure them that most men who commit adultery these days, don’t go out looking for these ladies, but that the ladies seem to be everywhere making themselves available and have removed the fun we men used to have chasing them.

When men realize that they can have all the sex they want without getting married, they just don’t see the point of GETTING MARRIED.


2. WOMEN ARE READY TO CO-HABIT WITH MEN THEY ARE NOT MARRIED TO

I believe it must have come to your attention now that a lot of men and women are living together now without being married to each other. It came to my attention through my counseling sessions.

By the time I ask the lady or man where the husband or wife will be right now, they go like “actually Jerome, I think there is one more thing you need to know and that is we are not legally married, but are just living together”.

Now that blows my mind, because you are not legally married, you are living together and also have a child or two, in Africa, yes in Africa!

I know some of these starts on Campus where a lot of girls are just not staying in their hostels, but have moved in with their boyfriends who probably have a room at the BQ of the lecturer’s Quarters on Campus or in their rented apartment in town, and most of their school mates consider it acceptable.

Please note that this is also happening amongst those who profess to be religious on Campus as well. So continuing in that way of life isn’t a problem later. How do you expect these men to consider getting married when they have found a short cut to it?


3. MEN BELIEVE THE POSSIBILITY OF DIVORCE IS HIGH THESE DAYS, SO WHY SPEND ON MARRIAGE, AND LATER ON DIVORCE

The rate of divorce is on the increase and it carries a lot of financial implications with it. So the guys figure out why marry if it can cost you more than having a family and catering for them at the end.


4. MOST MEN DON’T LIKE THE CHILD BEARING PART

Most men today don’t express “burning desire” for children, saying they are not ready yet. Another factor may be at play, “They know they will have to be there equally with a wife and provide hands-on child care.”

young men playing video games

5. SOME MEN DON’T LIKE THE CHANGE THAT COMES WITH MARRIAGE

Most of the time you will realize that a man just wants a wife “to look good, provide great sex, join in his recreational activities and tell him he is wonderful, while the Women’s requirements are much broader.” They want affection.

They want to feel loved. They want a great conversationalist, a man who is funny, a good father for their kids, someone who is attractive, a good sexual partner, a man who is ambitious and successful and God fearing.

And most men are simply not” all these things. For them to do this, a lot of changes may be required which some men are not just ready for.


6. SOME MEN KEEP LOOKING FOR THAT PERFECT WOMAN TO MARRY

Let me describe a SOUL MATE using what D.H. Lawrence said; “You are the Call and I am the Answer. You are the Wish, and I the Fulfillment. You are the Night, and I the Day.

What else? It is perfect enough. It is complete. You and I.” What I realize here is that you may never find a compliment until you are capable of complimenting. Most of the time, we are looking for someone who will compliment us without the intention of complimenting anyone.

I guess we may wait for a perfect soul mate forever until we change our attitude and go out to look for someone to compliment.


7. NO ONE IS REALLY PUTTING HIM UNDER PRESSURE TO MARRY

Men face little social pressure to marry, compared to what the females have to face. So at the end of the day, they don’t think it’s a big deal after all. One reason young men balk at marriage is “they don’t yet get it”, the problem is they just don’t realize what is in it for them.

We have not done a good job of selling marriage to men. They don’t know all the good things that will change in their lives. Married men are healthier than single men, wealthier, they live longer and happier lives, they have more sex, they have somebody who knows them, and tolerates them anyway.


8. MEN DON’T REALLY WANT TO BE WITH A SINGLE MOTHER IN MARRIAGE.

Most of the time single men are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children for a lot of reasons and one of them being that his family will object to it, the other reason could be that he begins to wonder how many men she has been with and abortions she has had before being forced to have the child with her now, and yet another reason can be that, he is not sure he will be comfortable with her having any form of contact with the father or fathers of the child/children when he is married to her.

Men feel this way forgetting that they can be worse when we talk in terms of morality. It’s more of the case of the pot calling the kettle black. Unfortunately they get away with it, because no one is holding them to ransom.


9. SOME MEN DON’T LIKE RESPONSIBILITIES.

So some men say, but it’s just another way to avoid becoming a responsible person. What a lot of men may not realize is that marriage is a vision that is bigger than who they are and all they have to do is give themselves to it with the Almighty God as a witness and then begin building together with their wives as they obtain favor from the Lord.

Men have to realize that when we are children age 0-11 we have privileges, then from age 12-21 we retain our privileges through responsibilities e.g. if you want to take your father’s car out, be ready to refill the tank after using up the fuel in it otherwise, don’t ask for it the next day since you are not ready to be responsible.

Then from age 21- what we have left is responsibilities, and a lot of us fear that, I mean being responsible. So you find a lot of irresponsible men out there, who can change if we start to prepare our younger generation for the real life out there.

10. SO MANY MEN DON’T WANT TO MISS OUT ON THE SINGLE LIFE, WHICH IS WHY EVEN SOME WHO ARE MARRIED, STILL LIVE LIKE THEY ARE SINGLE.

Well, some people just don’t want to grow up, do they?

SOURCE: http://www.acceleratetv.com/2015/04/why-your-boyfriend-may-not-be-in-a-hurry-to-become-your-husband/

nice write up.
infact the best article ive read today apart from machiavelli's discourses in the first decade of livy.
number 5 and 7 appear most interesting and real. and even peculiar.
im scared of marriage for reasons I dont even know.