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1dafullymade:
I hv bn in her shoes, u wil never bgin to imagine hw painful dat is, especially wen ds guy pays u a visit few to days to his wedding, tells u he loves u & all other sweet nonsense...only for u to find out few days after (from another person ooo)dat he just wedded....oh dear, yeah, I too contemplated suicide, buh I giv God d glory dat He never let me go through wt it...e no easy,I tell ya...

R.I.P young lady,just wish u had d strength to carry on wt life......

why did you even contemplate suicide? most disappointments have happy ending.

Lilimax:
What for ?
Why should you kill yourself cos a man did not marry you ?.
The best thing to do is to pick up yourself and continue with your life. You may not know what God
has averted for you in the future by that singular act.

No man is worth dying for

exactly.

luvinhubby:
Wondering the Lagos to Abuja route that will pass through Minna.
SMH.

same here.

mooremedia:
1. People who are with you because nobody else love's them.

2. People who are with you because of how you look.

3. People who are with you solely for the benefits. Connection, contracts,Papers (Valid visa) e.t.c

4. People who leave somebody to be with you.
They might seem cool at first until the stunt is repeated, but this time on you.

5. People who are very tempramental.Easily angrered and hurt.

6. People with insatiable appetite
They believe there's a world out there to explore, and are held down by the relationship. Most cheaters sterm from this category.

7. Liers
They love you but a leopard cannot get rid of its spot overnight.So they lie even when not necessary.

8. Mummys boy and Daddy's girl
They hardly can take independent decisions in their relationships......
They leave all decision making to thier parents.


9. The insecure
They know what it took took to get you,hence cannot afford to let you mingle with others for fear that you might snatched or stolen.

10. The Clingy
They love you and might not be necessarily insecure. But donot understand the term "personal space".
They always want to be around or be in touch.Although arguable, most premarital relationship can wind up for this reason.

11. The boring
They hardly can hold conversations morethan a minute and have a very boring routined lifestyle.Some in this category know and try to spice up thier life.While others scream "Take me for who I am" and usually end up sad and lonely.

(C) BoiledPlantain 2015

number 11 is soo typical of one nairaland girl with the pseudonym FOLIKS. hope she doesnt see this though. if you know her, please dont tell.

RedBenson:
Chairman, needless to ask. You're saying this typically from experience. Funny though. This is why i love this site. Keep up the good work.

yes boss. thanks.

Ishilove:
Right from infancy, kids are indoctrinated to view 'svelte' as the ideal body type. Little wonder they grow up with a warped view of their own body image, and as such experience insecurities that can make them go to any length to conform to the society's view of what beauty should look like.

These dolls look like black, Ankara attired barbies: long limbs, long neck, large eyes and graceful poses. The chubby, naturally shortlegged child will grow up viewing herself as less than beautiful than the slim girl who looks a little like these barbie dolls.

Growing up, my dolls were those stiff, wooly haired plastic dolls that look like 'sigidi' (idols), so I never had that problem

sigidi is not idol oh!
I read the story.

ignis:
This is what happens when one becomes pics freak.
What is he taking the pics of the soldiers for? Because he probably got a chinco phone?
A lesson for him and others like him.

so his sense didnt even tell him not to snap soldiers.

ControlX:
Cc Seun Lalastica
ikenna351 afam4eva
Pls do the needful.



***modified***
Hahaha... at last i made fp just 6days to my birthday. [jumps and punches the air with my right hand]
Oooh.. Thank you, Jesus.

I dedicate this fp and ftc to my sweetest mum for all her efforts towards my personal success. Cheers mum.
Meanwhile special thanks to lalastica, seun, ikenna351 and afam4eva and all nairalanders...
Better things are coming.

Now to the topic....
I think what binds many tribes in Nigeria is a common hatred for the Igbos. This hatred i believe is hinged on the purported dominance of Igbos. What is it about Igbo dominance? Here is what a fellow nairalander has to say...

Great point. Fear of Igbo domination as my father
would say is a sign of weakness on the part of
the fearer and lack of confidence in their ability. In
other words, for someone to dominate you in a
non physical way whether economically, socially, educationally, in any way, shape and form as long
as they are not holding you hostage physically
from succeeding but solely by intelligence in a
level playing field, then the conclusion is that
person or group of people are smarter than
you...this has been scientifically proven. So any tribe that fears Igbo domination are less smarter
than the Igbos otherwise compete with them. The
reason why Igbos do better in everything that
they do, which is often mistaken as domination is
because they are smarter than the rest of other
ethnic groups in Nigeria. When I mean "smarter" I
don't mean individually as a Hausa man can be
smarter than a yoruba, yoruba smarter than an
ijaw man an ijaw may be smarter than an Igbo,
e.t.c., however as a whole in terms of an ethnic
group, the Igbos lead the pack in Nigeria and
some tribes see it as a domination but actually it
isn't...they are just more smarter and have more
drive than others. Dr. Thomas Sowell detailed this
in his book and actually mentions Igbos as the
most successful ethnic group in Nigeria despite
the civil war set back.

If Nigeria wants to be truly great, we should not trifle with any tribe, especially the Igbos.

very wrong assertion that the hatred for the industrous clan in nigeria (igbo) is a binding force for other tribes. yorubas, niger deltans, edos, calabars, and many others love igbo people. infact you will see the solidarity with the igbo clan from yorubas and other tribes from tge result of the oba saga. if pdp wins. know that yorubas and others hate the obas speech just as peole voted buhari because patience made wrong choices of speech.

foliks:
If running after after a guy nd begging him to date me makes me proud and boring, i'll rather remain boring and proud

just imagine your poor understanding of the topic or questions on ground. it says " do you sometimes wish!"
instead of getting all defensive in your response and trying to portray yourself as a stone, why did you not try to make a humorous reply like many interesting girls out there did. and now you are interpreting the topic as begging men for relationship: which gives testimony to my statement that you are proud and boring. plus you live in a fantasy garden. I hope youre so beautiful. cos a combination of pride and not- too beautiful features is horrible.
I tell you girl; I cant bear the perils of typing all I have to say. but I leave you with a simple illustration;
if you found your self in a village in Russia and there was only one man there who understood english; your proud principles may not apply especially if he failed to notice you. I guess you'll make yourself available. a human is a not a spider. if ure not social because you cannot 'chase' men*(thats if you'll get my message) you may end up tieing a man down with pregnancy who is not necessarily attracted to you. its human nature. you only have choices that's why you think ya strong. if I lived around you. I will NEVER talk to you.

Herzumpther:
Exactly.

I know of somebody who receives less than 80 thousand naira and they he is married with kids.

I believe putting heads together to make the family grow is the best. If a man receives 80k and his wife 50k with good planning, the marriage will sure work.

is his wife educated?
educated women don't usually agree for such men oh.
untill they reach 40 years.

NOBLEDANDY:
Pls i need somewhere I can go for IT training in Lagos or Abuja am a computer science student. Somebody help me out here.
thanks in anticipation.

oga! use this time to learn something that you can practice when ure serving and beyond. the money for IT students in most furm is chicken change and usually not worth the time. you start running errands, photocopying files here and there or buying rice and stew for pregnant women. at the end you get 30k maybe. learn a skill that you will apply in the near future.

NOBLEDANDY:
Pls i need somewhere I can go for IT training in Lagos or Abuja am a computer science student. Somebody help me out here.
thanks in anticipation.

oga! use this time to learn something that you can practice when ure serving and when beyond. the money for IT students in most furm is chicken change and usually not worth the time. you start running errands, photocopying files here and there or buying rice and stew for pregnant women. at the end you get 30k maybe. learn a skill that you will apply in the near future.

ayoayo911:
My husband is a very faithful man, no extra babes or stuff but only makes love to me like once a month,yes we sleep on same bed under same roof. He disvirgined me after we were married 6 yrs ago. i feel sex starved, and cant even think of cheating on him. how do i tell if its low libido and what can i do to improve our sex life. i need help pls. thanks

you changed!

lordmayor4:
Then don't quote me with questions you already know the answer or the google answer

oga sorry no mind me. e get y

lordmayor4:
Its the traffic lights along lekki expressway

who talk to you guy?

lordmayor4:
Emu... there are people you can't strike a convo with, especially males you don't know much about as a lady. All you can do is turn on the green light and hope he notices

please what is this green light in question?
I know its not a green torchlight.
neither is it a green coloured bulb.
describe the green light

foliks:
Wish for what na, who has the time to be running after a guy like guys do.....i dont av dat time, if a guy doesn't notice me, sumone better will kum along. besides d best way to get a guy's attention is to behave as if u don't even notice he's there....he will surely notice u especially wen all oda girls are behaving like he's sum kind of a prince of England

I know ur type. very proud as a stranger and boring as an acquaintance.

asdfjklhaha:
Yes but the highest I would do is 2 give him d green light. If u ask a nigerian guy out, he wuld see u as d desperate type and take u 4 granted, he would contribute very little to the relation and turn u to a sex object. No girl would want that for herself.

please whats the meaning of green light ive always read and heard about it.

Omexonomy:
thanks. Do you care to join me

the drug is still working oh
you need medical attention.
before you sell your father's house just to get 'liked'

jude33084:
Grow up dude.

dont mind him
hes looking for likes
maybe to eat with bread I dunno?

blessingee:
2. TOLU ONIRU (TOOLZ)

na her papa get oniru estate for lekki?

Omexonomy:
So Buhari wife is right afterall about edo people.
If you know that Buhari wife is right about edo people click like.

If you know that Buhari wife is wrong about edo people click share.

when you recover, stop doing drugs.

chika4realike:
I am a student of a state university I am in my third year now.
My first and second year grade were very low not that I don't study but I always seem to forget what I studied during exams.
When my first year result was out it was far below my expectations because I really took my time studying so as to make good grade but it was not so
I prayed about this.
Again in my second year same thing happened I don't know if its the way I study
I even get mocked by my friends whu don't even study as much as I do. I actually get depressed and sometime think of committing SUICIDE.
Sometimes I will leave my place of residence for the library for almost 6-8 hrs just for good grade but it will turnout the opposite.
I am in my third year and with exams fast approaching I will not like what has happened in the past happen again
Please I will like u to suggest ways IN WHICH I can read as well as retain as well as recall during exam

if you see the problems in the heads of many men and women smiling you will run to your room to thank God for what he has done for you.
suicide is not the black man's mentality.
there are many uneducated millionaires out there who have graduates doing shoddy jobs for them
what do you want out of school? good grades only? because good grades does not guarantee financial sucess. even if you are granted the best result now, with the attitude and mindset you have; you will still tell people you want to commit suicide tomorrow at the slightest change in fortune or challange. With suicide, you are not exactly threatening anybody. no body mourns another for too long. you are the greatest stakeholder of your life. if its good; you in a position to help others. otherwise; you are in a position to demonstrate a strong will power, resilience, and a mindset that recognises the fact that theres no going back on this journey to sucess no matter how rough the road is. and tomorrow. yours can be the story of a hero who despite all the obstacles; did not give up in the condition where every body would understand if he did. give thanks to God. theres more to life than meet the eyes. life transcends beyond school, grades and many other challanges designed to help you develope a strong character.

Twaci:
So last week a friend of mine told me how a cute looking guy stepped up to her with a cocky smile and confidently told her, "Bae, I just received a call from an angel who told me that if I don't ask u out, I'll just die..."

With an emotionless face, she had replied, "Call him back and tell him to reserve a room for u in heaven".

Now that line was just plain ridiculous and funny too . I am sure you all must have heard sillier and crazier pick up lines. Do share let's have fun!

did you not say funny?
except you laugh to just anything I dont see ..........

whack

allowing know the unlock pattern in your phone and your atm pin.

missclasssy:
[color=#000050]Farano you are talking about cheating, I don't think anybody would even be _crazy enough to go into a relationship with this one.

Just imagine how the sex would be like.....
If she is the one on top, the guy is dead
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do you think a person like this will wait to be toasted?
she will only come to your compound one afternoon and announce to everyone that you are her new bf. and that all girls should beware for the interest of peace. She'll give you three days to come to terms with it. concede it within 3 days cos the relationship starts on Thursday. if you have any problem with it, park your jeans and run from that house.

pcguru1:
Actually this is the right move, its not in your job requirement to carry her bag. I would never carry my MD's Bag if instructed unless he'd asked me to help assist.

she can tell you she didnt sack you because of the bag. She'll name another offence that cant be argued.

eyeview:
You weren't wrong. It was never stated in the offer letter that you job description included carrying her hand bag. She has inferiority complex and she could only overcome it by seeing you do attend to her domestic needs. She wanted to cross the line and you didn't let her. That's the same way some people get to start doing uncomplimentary things to keep their jobs. You were a man.
Don't feel bad,other jobs will turn up.

while it holds that it is very bad to call a cow your father because you need a cup of milk from it. it also holds that it is far better to judge events by the way they are known and recognised in real life than by the way they are dreamed and hoped about.

klark3:
I was employed as an architect in a medium size architectural firm, my boss happens to be a lady.

I hitched a ride in her car after a meeting with a client on site, It's was even my first time of hitching a ride in her car, as I have always eschewed it, on getting to the office she asked me to carry her hand bag along, but I turned deaf ear to her request and swiftly went straight to the office, but she came to my office and gave me a sullen glare.

I thought the malice won't last long, but unfortunately for me, she fired me this morning for a no cogent reason.

I'm downcast and bewildered, she's just privilege to be the manager because it's her dad firm, she's my contemporary, and I was on the verge of supervising a gigantic project.

Was I wrong?

we always have situations in life where we are made to choose between ego and goal. some choose ego over targets but then they are always sure they have what it takes to weather whatver storm it is that their choice brings.
others; with diplomacy adapt policies to circumstances. especially where it is the case that a choice of ego may return them to a position where they become less entitled to the respect of a particular class of people whom they once looked upon as their inferiors. and because it is possible that your refusal would have earned you the respect of one boss in one company and at the same time; the wrath of another in some other company like your own. I say therefore that it is very difficult to declare that you were either right or wrong depending on how well you weighed between alternatives and what probable effect you expected of either options
but; another shrewed and cunning man may have carried the bag, seized that opportunity to become too informal with her in a way she would recognise that she earns better respect from you if she remains within the confines of what defines your relationship with her formally including refusing you a ride. anf in the case that iy doesnt work that way. then it is far better to be insulted by a boss who is actually superior to you by circumstance, than by idiots who will think they are superior in the event that you are jobless and poor. for in the first case, you still have an opportunity to go back home and laugh over it, or look for another job if you wish. in the second case, you will be forced to bear more trifling annoyances from people who are actually less in statue than you were while you were tolerating your boss who for no fault of yours, was unable to lay aside her haughtiness and become of a popular spirit with many other persons that you may not even be aware of.