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secondwife:
Thanks dear, a very good response,the problem between husband and wife,it’s only God that can judge. I got married some years back,my husband didn’t tell me he was married with three children until later,we married traditionally,religiously and legally. He introduced my co-wife to me after I had a baby for him as a Muslim I accepted my faith because I had a child from my previous relationship. I was a working class woman with a good job when we met,he relocated from the North to West because of North problem and my friend help him to secured a job,his family were happy because he is staying very close to the village though we were in different cities that time. The first wife is in his village. I always tell him to be visiting his family all the time. All those times I was the one paying the house rent,paying school fees and buying foods stuff and footing many things in the house,he will come and drop a little or complained of lack of money. I didn’t complain because I was okay and believed him. His company had problems in paying salaries that year,I paid house rent in his village so that the landlord will not send the wife and children away from the house,he will collect money from me and send it to his family. I tried to make friend with the wife and children by buying things for them without his knowledge, buying clothes together,phone when she complained she didn’t have he later lost his job and move to where I am staying. I started taking responsibilities on his behalf for some months before he got another job,my neighbor advised us to buy land,I told him he said no problem,he didn’t drop any money to support me but people told to build, i taught he will drop money later because our names are on the receipt. Since he didn’t drop anything I was the one doing everything because my Imam told me that if A man refused to do his responsibilities God will raise the woman up.We move in to the house without completing it because of Landlord’s problem. I later completed the house up to 90% after some years. I later did the documents in my children’ s name with his support. I lost my job and this man showed me pepper,they started sending my children out of school,hunger,frustration and depression set in. I later learnt from a reliable source that my husband is building house in his village without my knowledge and he is leaving in my house that I built with my sweat. I asked him he denied, it was his family member that told me. anytime I travel to his village for occasions,his wife will be abusing me,calling my child from previous relationships a bastard though I always ignore her,his brothers and wife will be disrespecting me.Though others are good to me including his mum and dad. I have a good mind with them but they are paying me with evil. So now I asked for divorce from him but he refused,I told him to leave my house and moved to his wife and children ,the family said I want to remove him where he is working, rent a house for me like my co-wife is a big problem for him he told his wife that my house belongs to him. But I started shouting to his family and people around me ,they said I’m disgracing and victimizing him. I really thank my God for not letting me down and my family and friends. Though he is still with because he brought out the monster in me. I told him I will not pay school fees again. Thank God I got another work this year. Sorry for the long post and my grammar,I went to an evening school.

I always tell my sisters, if you want to buy a house ,never ever put your husband's name, nor mumu or love reach there.


Worse come to worse ,put your child's name .

Get a lawyer to work out modalities on how you can get full ownership and control of your property.

DKM123:
Your uncle should manage. He is the HEAD of the house. The CAPTAIN of the ship. HE IS THE ALPHA MALE. THE ONE WHO MUST BE SUBMITTED TO. The LION of the tribe of Judah. The one with the PHALLUS.

She is a mere woman and should focus on the Kitchen. Next thing now, she will say her husband should help her go to the market and cook ofe nsala for them to eat before she comes back from work. Tufiakwa!!!!
THAT WILL BE A SACRILEGE THAT THE GODS OF THE LAND FORBIDS. THAT WILL BE AN ABOMINATION. We alpha males will never take that. Who needs her money to care for the family. Nigerian women are all useless and do not have money! Who needs her money!

Lol.

I see what you did there. All the alpha males should be happy with this development. An alpha male is being left to do his alpha work

Foreigna2:
70k is enough for a man with a SUPPORTIVE woman, not a parasite.
What is paining that man is not that she didn't give him, it is the obvious betrayal.
He suppose pay am back in the same coin.

You think such a woman will care though? The man will only be incurring more responsibilities while the person he wants to spite become less financially burdened.

Worse she go cry then face her house wey she dey build while Mr man starts buying pampers all over again from new wife in addition to the responsibility of this two older children. Let's not forget his retirement is closer than 16 years ago when he married the other lady. You think having kids is joke in this era for a man who is likely above 40 already.


That's like cutting your nose to spite your face.,wrong advice bro.

Foreigna2:
He should secretly divorce her. File divorce in a far place and she won't get wind of it. Or he can even divorce her without going there. Non appearance.
After divorcing her, he can keep living with her till he finds another lady and starts raising another family on the side. You can then port and let this stingy fool go and hustle for herself.

She is planning for life without him, he should also plan for life without her.

lol person nor fit pay house rent ,you say make he go marry join the responsibility wey dey e neck. Una funny for this forum sha

People just don't wake up and change.

Let your Uncle dig what he has done to warrant a change of behavior five years into the marriage. If I may say ,I am suspecting your uncle was cheating hence his wife decided he has enough money to take care of the house after all if you have money to carry woman it means you have more than enough to spare. .


Or like someone said, if he wants to be head of the house with no input from his wife in how the finances of the family is run, then he should carry his cross.


Her indifference to the plight of her husband and subsequently children ( should they be thrown out) is too uncanny even for a woman who believes her money is only her money.


Tell your uncle to find out what he has done to her.

She is dumb, I am tempted to ask if she saw the four walls of a secondary school not to talk of tertiary institution.


If you wan run game , atleast be smart about it, what is semen analysis, she nor get sense abeg. If for any reason dump her for being an olodo .

White Supremacist follower , purposely drove to a predominantly black neighborhood and shot people , despite walking out of the store with a gun in his hand the white cops didn't gun him down and he was taken into custody unscathed and now he is pleading not guilty.


Wow America.

Islam is a blood sucking religion. If they are not cutting of hands ,they are cutting off heads or bombing people to oblivion.


I still don't understand what is peaceful Islam. Can someone please tell me what is peaceful in honor killings, bombing and forceful child marriage? .


I came here thinking it was sane law ,the one meant for humans with brains ,you know the laws of the federal republic of Nigeria. Only to see nonsense archaic one made for brainwashed brainless people as far back as a thousand years ago by people who didn't even know any better.



Abeg can sensible people come forward and tell us the position of the laws of the federal republic on this issue.

Can someone please tell me what is peaceful about islam that we are all seeing their followers display the teachings they have been receiving.


What is peaceful about honour killing ? What is peaceful about suicide bombing ,what is peaceful about terrorism?


Maybe it's me, let someone explain to me what is peaceful about islam that I am not seeing.

thorpido:
So unfortunate!
The so-called educated and elite are not spared the irrationality.

This is a fact that people need to be aware of.

Even the elite and educated all share the same views and sentiments just because they are not on the streets killing non Muslims doesn't make them less dangerous or your friend as a non Muslim.

Terrorist head slammers

dboY1123:
I have been on/off from my work(shop) for 2weeks now, I have this new worker who is a Muslim and I am a Christian, of course, I am not against her religion or anything, I still grant her the permission to attend mosque every Friday afternoon and I always try to be at shop by 2pm, or get someone to replace her..

Today I came to shop and the first thing I noticed was that she allowed one Alfa that I know very well, into the shop(she knows it is not allowed), my mind told me they were both reciting the Quran before I came in.

Secondly, she told me that she needs to pray (in the shop) that I should excuse her while I had to leave there and go outside..This has never been happening for 3 months she's been here..

Even myself being a Christian, I pray before coming to shop/work.

I wanted to tell her to stop praying in the shop because it is not a praying ground or mosque, should I go ahead?

I am not against her religion whatsoever, even she reads the Quran quietly in the shop and there's no issue about that.

sack her
Sack her

Seems you didn't hear me, I say sack her.

You are still not listening , I say sack her.

Seems you need a brain reset , sack her

Should I shout louder?

SACK HER NOW!
SACK HER NOW!
SACK HER NOW!
SACK HER NOW!
SACK HER NOW!

THIS HANDSHAKE DON PASS ELBOW

SACK HER NOW!
SACK HER NOW!

. If after this you refuse to sack her, you will create a Lamentations thread.

Since most of you in that Nigeria glorify abuse and even murder ,you can't blame the lady for being on the lookout for any sign of being abusive.


It's on this same nairaland that a lady is murdered and you despicable Nigerians blame the victim ,rape unkor? Same thing.


Na so you go joke one day land her slap. Mteeeew.

Sayishalom:
I am aware of a married man who is clearly cheating on his wife with a lady I know well. It disturbs me a lot cause I have feelings for the lady in question. Should I report to his wife or keep mute? I don't like women to be disrespected like this. The same lady doesn't care whether I am aware or not. Help a man with answers.

please do.

Don't mind those guys that are here telling you to mind your business,they too are guilty of cheating,they are all birds of a feather. Bunch of disloyal hegoats who want faithful and loyal wives.

Nigerians are the most wicked and despicable set of Humans you will come across in the world. Imagine people supporting a cheating husband not knowing the implication it is having on the innocent wife at home.

For the sake of humanity and decency, let that woman know , which ever way you can. And God will bless you richly for it.

Engagement for over a year, lord of the rings.


A better negotiator got married to her. Why will you relax and wait for that long ? If he had insisted he didn't want to wait the parents would not have refused. He only showed how unserious he was by not putting his foot down.

Men have always had the upper hand when to comes to cheating , now the women are just trying to catch up.

Stop wailing and crying guys ,it doesn't suite masculinity,man up!.

There is a balance now ,you cheat ,your woman cheats no big deal , equation balanced.

Ladies be warned not all men should be dated some are m0rons by default ,don't risk your present and future with these kinds of boys.

FatherBona:
Mynd44 lalasticlala Dominique
Will you allow him get away with this one?

thought i was the only one who saw that ,this guy has been insulting people since seems the mods don't want to do anything about him.
No wonder this forum is so toxic and a breeding ground for his kind. Or are the mods on sunday flexing?

Onlyonebuhari:
Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.
1 Corinthians:14:34

But Christians of today are mocking the scriptures while they claim they believe in Christ.

is that the issue here now? Or your prayer mat Muslim women

Onlyonebuhari:
It is the law of the Mosques and churches that all women keep quiet in both and if they have anything to ask they should do so at home. That to you seems no voice.

lol leave churches out of this you miserable liar, there are female preachers and evangelists even traditonal worshipers have high pristesses and not one single female imam in the entire world ,so shut up !

rolams:
Don't talk like a fool. Are these people fighting for themselves or for everyone. Has any Christian or Muslim group put up this act before (forbidding people to move freely within community for specified period)? Are these Muslims stopping them from doing their festival? No. Think beyond the hatred you have for their religion.

your are the foolish terrorist here. This has been a tradition for years, so what gave these second class Muslim women who cant even worship in the same mosque with their men feel they have a voice when they dont even have a whisper in their mosques? Useless intorlerable terrorists. Muslim women are lower than praying mats in the eyes of islam ,they should stay in their place. And by the way i am supposed to love daggerers and bombers?

So what about the attacks that has been going on for years,who instigated those ones?

Bellotelli:
In Article 5, titled “Compensation for Losses”, the conditions are even more instructive.
It states: “Investors of one party whose investments in the territory of the other party suffer losses owing to war or other armed conflict, revolution, a state of national emergency, revolt, insurrection or riot in the territory of the latter party shall be accorded by the latter party treatment, as regards restitution,
indemnification, compensation or other settlement, not less favourable than that which the latter party accords to its own investors or to investors of any third state.

From the above, all Nigerians affected in South Africa also deserve compensation. If South African govt refused to effect this, it also means that the Nigerian govt can also violate the agreement.

Exactly, the terms and conditons of that agreement is very clear.

Miluslim men treat their praying mats better than their wives,but i am yet to see these Muslim women protest against it . These terrorists always want to be accomodated whereas they are the most intolerable of them all. Places where Muslims have majority is a walking egg shell for every other person from traditionalists,to atheist to Christians.

These are the army they are raising to take over the country,i hope the entire south is ready .

VirginSearcher:
If Buhari is sacked as Nigerian president which I know is not possible I will randomly give 10 Nairalanders N15,000 each even if you voted him I will pay all, no tribalism we all Nigerians

me too,i will give 5 niaralanders 20k each if buhari is sacked lol

afroniger:
So sad. The first five years of marriage are usually the most critical. If a couple can scale it, their chances of survival will be much higher.

very true

Esseite:
Just imagine the way he even involved himself just to buttress the lie and demonize Nigeria.

"I was in the operation, video was taken by me, i spoke to him, he is a Nigerian"... the heart of man.

you saw that part ,omo the thing weak me,smh ,they have special hatred for Nigerians i swear