Time is money.
If you spend it on things that don't profit.

You will end up poor and wretched all your life.

Meaning : If you use your time for the things of the flesh, you end up as nothing.

SalisuJasper:
I meet a girl not long and we became good friends. shes so free to discuss anything with me on what is going on in her life and most especially her love life and all. i dont want to bore u with epistles. we do normally go out to drink and have fun and she love spirit drinks allot.

There was a time we went out and we had a little romance. she sat down on my leg and with tight cuddling.

So fast forward to lask week and something really strange happened. It was on a sunday evening and we both request we both go have some drink, so we got to the store and bought big smirnoff spirit drink and some other energy drinks to mix it.

We went to an uncompleted building and we started drinking and gisting till we both got drunk. it was already getting dark and from no angle we started cuddling aggressively again and it was the first time she will kiss me and i also sucked her boobs real good. And also she gave me a Mouth Gig right there. But we didnt have sex because she just said she want to leave probably she remembered we are just friends.

Now the problem is, ever since that night she started avoiding me and don't even reply my chat. i always try to talk to her but she will say she want to be left alone, i really dont undetstand what is going on and i am just confused why she could act this way.

How can the second party be angry because of what we are both involved in, its just strange to me.

Please can someone share more light for better understanding.

A man to embrace feminity, and let go masculinity, is a disgrace and an abomination , , to both the earth and biosphere.

Mutant001:
you are the one that is lost completely
It is obvious you are the one that needs mental rehabilitation

I support the OP completely

You have allowed religious dogma to brainwash you and make you look stupid
There are certain things that need logic and critical thinking not bringing religion into this

Let's say you should be free from your masculinity with prayers and flogging for 1month maybe you will leave your masculinity and embrace feminity

Rubbish!!!

Actually, a person thinking he is a woman in man's body or a man in a woman's is lost.
And have serious mental correction to undergo.

Don't you think?

The Kingdom of Christ is the way.

And you know what?

Your getting freed from that error is just a text away.

So if you really want to be freed
Text me, and ama pray with you.
And you will see clearly.

Apexter0001:
you are a stupid idiotic slowpoke whose brain is less than that of a mosquito

You are so daft that you will forever remain a slave to ignorance and Stupidity

I think you should emancipate yourself from sterotypes and see the clearer picture with a clear eyes and a sound mind, numbskull

If you keep thredding in this lost path with no destination, you will burn to ashes and not even your ashes would be seen by anyone, mark my words

Op, what is bothering you is what is called debased mind, under the influence of the society energized by the spirit of the power of the air, the spirit that now works in the children that loves to rebel against God.


That path won't make you happy
. You are not the first, and you won't be the last. But the path leads to destruction.

You see how you are forcing yourself to act like who you aren't?

Apexter0001:
The biology of male and female humans is different and our bodies and strengths are mostly shaped by hormones. But the fact is there is too much black and white thinking... Male and female aren't that extreme. The human body aren't as different as you put it. And the hormone levels also aren't the same for everyone- some females have a lot of testeroene- some males have a lower level of testeroene- the problem here is how close-minded some people are. We shouldn't make a difference between male and female.
Nowadays there are so many ways to become stronger and there are aren't limited to males...and you can also take hormones to achieve that, if you really want to
The problem is how people don't see each other as other people but as male or female. Our expectations vary depending on the sex of a person. And that is the core problem here. Females don't exist to be protected male don't exist to protect

People are usually born male or female but not with gender roles. Sex and gender are not the same thing-- you cannot change what you are born with entirely and that's okay but it is LUDICROUS when society expects you to behave a certain way based on what you are born with

Your friend is better.


And please dey do video call with your daughter.

And know that your sister may not want to release her.
But let your friend get her with wisdom, and when gotten, call to confirm it was you.

And do not alllow you emotionally get you guilty.

Know that blood sef dey kill.

Chidiesta:
Good day nairalanders,

I have lived in Germany for 3 years now i have a 1 years old daughter and I also have a 8 years old daughter who lives with my elder sister in nigeria.

She is married with three kids , I provide everything for them and I pay one of her child school fee but my sister is never satisfied with the money she keep demanding me for more money.

She knows it very well that I am not stable yet in this country , life is hard just because she is taking care of my daughter and she want me to carry the responsibility of her three children.

I make sure that I send a big parcel for all of them once a year as I am typing the parcel is on the way but she want me to pay school fees for all her children too and I can't afford to pay for all four.

I am paying her son school fees is 87k per term and my daughter own is 67k . On the 2nd I sent her 300k for school fees and foodstuffs she called on monday demanding me for 154k for her son and my daughter school fee I asked her what about the money I sent on the 2nd she said she bought foodstuffs for 120k and use the 180k for her two oldest children school fee and she want me to send the 154k for the youngest 2 , I was angry with her and I cut the call.

I am angry my own sister is draining me financially and I have a lot of bills to pay too and a small child to cater for.

I have spoken to my friend she is happy to take care of my daughter for me until I am stable enough to bring her to Germany. I like the idea because my sister is not helping me to progress.

I hope my daughter living with my friend will be a good idea.

I haven't told my sister anything yet because we are not in good term but I want to hear from you first please let me know if I should allow my friend to take care of her or I should leave her with my elder sister.

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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Cravemore: 10:36pm On Aug 26
OP check ur self...are u sure??
I thought Maybe this gals ain't Nigeria.
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Sweetvie: 10:55pm On Aug 26
@op how old are you?
I don't see anything wrong with that... Why are so sure those girls are up to something? What are you actually trying to derived sef?Are you handsome?
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 11:19pm On Aug 26
Cravemore:
OP check ur self...are u sure??
I thought Maybe this gals ain't Nigeria.
yeah they are, I don't know if it's because of my timid nature, one day we were standing in line to get into the exam hall, a girl with her friends laughing loudly started whistling at me, you know that kind of whistling guys make when they are calling a girl they want toast ,I went to her only for her to tell me "I like your nails " this I know they wouldn't had dare tried with any other guy
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 11:25pm On Aug 26
Sweetvie:
@op how old are you?
I don't see anything wrong with that... Why are so sure those girls are up to something? What are you actually trying to derived sef?Are you handsome?
lol, I'm an adult at least plus I just don't know what they are up to, I'm just curious and I also don't like the what they do because to me it looks like bullying.... handsome? I don't know ooo, if you ask me I'll say as ugly as fuc..but the people around me says different
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Cravemore: 1:24am On Aug 27
Tekahashi:
yeah they are, I don't know if it's because of my timid nature, one day we were standing in line to get into the exam hall, a girl with her friends laughing loudly started whistling at me, you know that kind of whistling guys make when they are calling a girl they want toast ,I went to her only for her to tell me "I like your nails " this I know they wouldn't had dare tried with any other guy
you know one thing individual with there choice. girls d dey like opposite gender. no doubt, and they'll boldly approach the fellow. But this don't happen with 9ja girls. Hard babe everywhere. Our gals are fill up with pride but not all.

I have seen a couple of ladies stop me while on my way, in day but none haven't had dat kind of gist sha. Only about word of God! I was like kilode!!

funny thing is dey ain't dress holy. Just Normal wears and look beautiful. So from there I flow with them.
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 8:54am On Aug 27
Cravemore:
you know one thing individual with there choice. girls d dey like opposite gender. no doubt, and they'll boldly approach the fellow. But this don't happen with 9ja girls. Hard babe everywhere. Our gals are fill up with pride but not all.

I have seen a couple of ladies stop me while on my way, in day but none haven't had dat kind of gist sha. Only about word of God! I was like kilode!!

funny thing is dey ain't dress holy. Just Normal wears and look beautiful. So from there I flow with them.

slayer, easy with our girls ooh
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Dozie246: 9:41am On Aug 27
Tekahashi:
Hi everyone, I was just wondering about something, maybe girls in the house could help me answer this question.
OK, so I'm a student, I'm not fair infact people use to call me blackie, I'm not rich, I don't wear expensive clothes, mostly formal due to my course, just always neatly dressed. As you would know, the school environment is very populated, you may see someone inside campus only once till you graduate..
So this is what happens, numerous times. I I'll be walking to school, I'd be approached by a lady whose intention (from my perspective though )is to collect my phone number, they would use excuses like, "Hi I would like to know where you get your clothes from, gimme your number I'll call you later " various excuses that doesn't make sense, the one that happened today, the lady approached me and told me that he'll like me to vote for Peter obi, asked for my number so that she'll make sure I don't forget. I don't normally know what their end goal is as I usually give them a fake number so no calls come through.
I'm just curious on what could be the reason behind this...

Next time they ask for your number, give them you lodge/hostel address
Don't mention, you can thank me later
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 9:49pm On Aug 27
Dozie246:


Next time they ask for your number, give them you lodge/hostel address
Don't mention, you can thank me later
broooo, abeg gimme your address make I dey give them instead
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Sweetvie: 9:56pm On Aug 27
Tekahashi:
lol, I'm an adult at least plus I just don't know what they are up to, I'm just curious and I also don't like the what they do because to me it looks like bullying.... handsome? I don't know ooo, if you ask me I'll say as ugly as fuc..but the people around me says different
20 i guess. Hmm maybe u get some kind of charm that attract girls to you don't think too much they just like u
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 10:19pm On Aug 27
Sweetvie:
20 i guess. Hmm maybe u get some kind of charm that attract girls to you don't think too much they just like u
20...reallyyyy ? I'm in 3rd year.. question? have you seen a girl tell a guy that she likes him before?
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Slmgirldippussy: 12:24am
Simp

Simp
Simp
Simp
Simp
Simp
Simp
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Tekahashi: 12:18pm
Slmgirldippussy:
Simp
Simp Simp Simp Simp Simp Simp
me?
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Sweetvie: 12:38pm
Tekahashi:
20...reallyyyy ? I'm in 3rd year.. question? have you seen a girl tell a guy that she likes him before?
Lol, just guess 22-23 at most... Of course my brother
Those girls will even be bribing me with stuff sef
Actually it common nowadays not like b4 that girls are shy... Even if they don't tell you with mouth their body language say it all.
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Re: Most Girls Do This When They See Me. by Blue86(m): 12:46pm
I understand what the op is talking about.

People come with different destinies and pedestals.

Your's is women, as a pedestal.
You just have that aura.

Now what you will do is :
1. Follow Jesus
2. Do not mess any woman up, give them your real number. They will be of great help to you.
3. Avoid the ones who wants to have fun with you, they are there to steal your star.
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Tekahashi:
Hi everyone, I was just wondering about something, maybe girls in the house could help me answer this question.
OK, so I'm a student, I'm not fair infact people use to call me blackie, I'm not rich, I don't wear expensive clothes, mostly formal due to my course, just always neatly dressed. As you would know, the school environment is very populated, you may see someone inside campus only once till you graduate..
So this is what happens, numerous times. I I'll be walking to school, I'd be approached by a lady whose intention (from my perspective though )is to collect my phone number, they would use excuses like, "Hi I would like to know where you get your clothes from, gimme your number I'll call you later " various excuses that doesn't make sense, the one that happened today, the lady approached me and told me that he'll like me to vote for Peter obi, asked for my number so that she'll make sure I don't forget. I don't normally know what their end goal is as I usually give them a fake number so no calls come through.
I'm just curious on what could be the reason behind this...

I understand what the op is talking about.

People come with different destinies and pedestals.

Your's is women, as a pedestal.
You just have that aura.

Now what you will do is :
1. Follow Jesus
2. Do not mess any woman up, give them your real number. They will be of great help to you.
3. Avoid the ones who wants to have fun with you, they are there to steal your star.

You know you did wrong?

And abortion is not the way.

That's why Jesus says to avoid fornicating, it is for your benefit.

So bear it.
And repeat it no More.

ccjoe:



I haven't been able to sleep since yesterday. I'm a promising young guy and still in school and this girl is my bestie in school.
We do it regularly and without condom, I never knew it will end like this.
Pls i'm just an orphan and still very young.. I need advice on how to handle this situation now..

##Mature minds only and no insult pls.

The Angels given charge over you are different from the ones given charge me.

The Angels given charge a ministery are different from the ones given charge another.

You get the point.

And they are watching and keeping records.

Preciousgirl:

1 Timothy 5:21

I charge you before God and the Lord Jesus Christ and the elect angels that you observe these things without prejudice, doing nothing with partiality.

Who are the Elect Angels?

Never was it pointed in bible that He was born 25th of December.

If He was born 25th, the shepherds would have frozen to death, watching their flocks by night.

The bible has already made that clear.

Now the 25th is a day fixed to celebrate Him.
Not that He was born that day.

Plain simple.
Very reasonable for elites to get.

She is not slow. Her grammar is not just good. Let her watch English speaking movies often, with time she will improve.

Character surpasses by far diction and vocab, any day any time.

Come, English na your tongue.

Why una dey proud in perfect English speaking sef.

T.B Joshua, no fit speak grammar.
And people dey flock come meet am.
But with time He improved.

Please, don't follow environment influence, to grow old and regret that you placed what is trivial over what was really needed.
You know aged people regret the decisions they made in later years, when they look back.
Because of the environmental influences in their day.

Prolificdeman:
I'm a Crypto trader, and my lifestyle is more of a solitude type. I met her about 5 months ago, though the relationship start-off in more of a funny manner. She complements my lifestyle reason I choose to stick with her.

I must say, she's respectful and a very good listener and highly caring. But my only problem with her is her Use of English.

Somehow, I noticed its a foundational issue. She went to a bad primary and secondary school. And secondly she kept dull friends who doesn't help her improve herself. She's a very slow learner. I have tried my very best to avail her some resources to aid her growth, yet little or no improvement from her end.

I referred her to quora, some facebook groups and our own Nairaland, yet from one excuse to another.

I believe everyone can't be so smart but one should able to express themselves, and be intelligent to a functional capacity.

I'm from a background where people compete so much with educational and literary prowess, now imagine rolling with someone that can barely write few lines without an error.

To be honest, I'm not the womanising type and my profession barely gives me such privileged.

I personally love this lady due to her godly and caring nature(wife material) and won't want this stuff to set us apart.

I'm afraid of ending up with a slow partner that may likely affect the next generation. And I'm keen on helping her in a every way I could.

People that have had such experience, how did you help your partner grow.

PS: I have to rush here to type this stuff without proper proofreading after we had a heated argument this afternoon because of this same issue.

With all the threads on how not to simp, you are still simping.


Man, don't be desperate for a relationship.

Go back to all those threads that addresses simphood and take am advise yourself.

Zeezeal7:
Good evening everyone. I will make this as brief as possible. There's this lady I happen to be friends with for over two years now. When we first met, I shot my shot but she turned me down. Though we still became friends after all. Mind you, she never demanded anything from me all this while both monetary and otherwise and we were just friends, Nothing more or less. Recently, I have had this feeling to go into a relationship because I have been single since 2019. I made my intensions known to her again last week Sunday and since then or rather before then. It has been one billing to another. The one that really got me annoyed is the one that came in today with her mums account details, asking me to transfer some money to her, that she needed it urgently (not even asking how I was or if I had it or not). I politely turned her down even tho I have the money and I don't have any problems giving her. I have been giving into all her demands all this while cos honestly, I can never see my lady lack when I have. I feel she's taking advantage of me. That mentality of putting all her financial burden on me is a complete turn off for me especially asking me to send money to her mom when we've not even started dating. She's crossed the line.
Right now, i don't even want to date her again, I feel her insensitivity, mentality and sense of entitlement is not the woman I need in my life. tho we have this really great connection. Please am I being reasonable enough?

When konji hold am, he comes for you.

You are a konji killing tablet.

Advice: Abstain from all form of sexual immorality, and return to walking with Jesus, and prayer. He will table things aright.

TS2911:
Good afternoon everyone and how are you enjoying the weekend? I am a lady of 29 and I'm in a relationship with this guy. Our relationship is 7 months and I've done everything possible for the relationship to work out but it's like this guy isn't ready.
One of his attitudes is the art of communication. The relationship is a distance one but in the same state. He won't call or chat me and wen I call, he won't pick and neither does he call back. Though I the same age as him and I tot we could work things out but he doesn't appreciate all my efforts.
The only time he calls is whenever he needs sex and I sometimes regret succumbing to sex in the first place because I wanted to be abstain. He can stay for 2 weeks without communication and his excuse is that he is busy at work whereas I am also working but find time to make the communication flow but he is not ready for any changes.
This guy is also stingy and that is not my major concern because I also work and earn my money without depending on any man.

Pls advise me as you would advise a friend or sister because I am fed up and don't want to waste my precious time dating myself, thanks

Nigerians, this is not about regions.
But about competency,and who have Nigeria as a whole at heart for good.

If you are for IPOB, Oduduwa, Arewa, you are regional.
Go and be a state governor

But a president, you are for every one.

And any President that doesn't have that in him/her will never have a good report.

Las las , na 4 years.
You go finish am , come out and join your calamity if you do bad.

The little challenge he is having is that he is branded a fraudster for being generous out of his blessedness.

The challenge will come to pass.

Let him maintain the good work of supporting the ministry, once the ministry itself is legit and of the Lord.

Tell him to pray that the Lord should fight for him, and be patient while at it.
It is a tribulation, that will come to pass, and elevate him.
Tell him to be patient in that tribulation, beware of those people, and keep doing good

maxwelltony:
My elder brother is facing little challenges in church, about two years ago my brother was working in a private school and things are not going well for him, luckily enough for him he decided to establish a little business and God has really been helping him out.
Ever since his situation started changing he has been donating money to the church, there is no time the pastor will raise any issue about money that my brother will not partake..
We have been hearing a lot of rumours in church that he is into yahoo yahoo and it really got me annoyed.
Why would they say that to him? When he had nothing no one notice him but now that the table has turn to his side they keep saying thrash about him
I have told him to stop donating anything in church maybe they won't have anything to say about it.
What's your say on this house?

My advice for the man, " Don't Force a girl to love you. But God can make a girl gradually love you, even though the love wasn't there at the start. And two, don't force marriage, let God connect."

To you, woman," If you aren't attracted to him, don't jump into the ship. Because that man will not have peace if you force jump into the ship. No matter how kind and good he is, and fat his wallet is."

Above all, let the Lord Jesus lead.
The Lord is a shepherd, and if He is allowed to lead you shall not want.
You want because you ain't led.

Oh, my brother.

Improving where you are wanting is good.
And a good person will.

donbenie:
Lol..
I like your optimism..
Hope you have a strong heart,to bear the incoming disappointments..

There is always room for improvements.
And a good woman or man will improve on where they need improvements.

A man shouldn't labour to bring food to the table, and have just little to himself.

Where is the respect and honour?

I heard of a story of a man whose wife will give the best piece of chicken, that he bought, out to others, and he will be left with little piece.

So please, for him to voice out, it is because he can no longer bear it.

I prefer serve yourself from table , that you may pick to your satisfaction.

Anyone that says the kitchen is the woman's should use that terminology if she is the one supplying all the food via her money.
Or else, Honour your King.

Many yahoo guys are into human rituals. Does he want you to be a victim?

A companion of fools shall be destroyed.

Faithellafranci:
My brother insist that I follow a Yahoo guy. He was like trying to tell me some things and my kind of person I don't like it and I have a guy already who I love so much and that also loves me so much and wants to marry me at all costs.

The guy is gentle, caring, and I have this believe that he is going to be a nice person. Our meeting was just too sudden. It was God that brought him to my way.

At first I have been into a relationship that it will be going well at the beginning but later on it will lead to misunderstanding and then break up will follow.

Believe me guys, I have this feeling like something keeps on telling me that this guy is going to be a good man for me. I love him so much that living him will be like losing my own life and above all he is a Christian, a very strong one at that and though he is not that financially bouyant yet but he is trying just that Nigeria don't know the value of graduates in this country. He went to school, he is a graduate.

I don't want to follow my brother's advise. I love this guy so much since we started dating. I know of what I have not ever notice in my past relationships that am noticing now he doesn't shout at me he is just too different.

Please guys I need your advice. I have asked so many people for their opinion on this but now am asking you guys now please help me come out of this confusion I on my own I have said it and I have made up my mind that I am not going to follow my brother's advise and ready to struggle with this guy to make it am ready to build a future with him money is not everything in life and I so much believe that we are going to have so much money he really wants to marry me and I have already agreed to marry him guys please I need your advice because soon he is coming to see my family.

Please I need you guys advise please.

Only Jesus can save.

Follow Him

She is not a demon.
But she is demon influenced.

No sane person will do that to themselves.
Unless influenced by demons.

And yes, we the saints, are to judge the world.

Corinthians.

True, it is now a global epidemic in those who have low esteem, and copy cats, and those who wants to feel among.

Islandlady:
Well this African, where we tends to imitates the western world either good or bad.

And I can tell you that this new fashion trend is fast becoming the new norms among our African men even Asians men are worst! So it's a global pandemic not limited to the western world only!

That's the west.
The ones who linger after progressiveness, where rubbish and stuff stems out from.

The ones who are not buying those western ideologies don't dress like that.

And the west is not a standard for judging masculinity.

Many of them are happy being Queers,trans, and peddle multiple gender philosophy.

If people are still killing themselves over someone not wanting to have kids, let them go mind their business.

But you that do not want kids :
1. Be with someone such as yourself
2. Do not fertlize, so that you may not commit murder by aborting a baby in your womb.
That is, lock your womb ; let pregnancy not come up.

If your hand causes you to sin, cut it off.
Father, lead this man not into temptation in Jesus name.

yemite100:
Re: I'm Scared To Ask Her For Sex
Back to my previous thread about the lady I was scared to ask for sex...
I stand to be corrected it at all I make any mistake.
I have to say the reality about the story, this particular girl is not my girlfriend and I haven't ask her out before, she is my church member and I'm the youth coordinator in my church, the whole incident didn't happen in my house I must say the real fact, I told the girl if I could come pay her a visit in school and she agreed that I come pay her a visit in school,
she stays alone in school and I had to go visit her at Offa, I don't even know how to ask her out In the first instance, the first night I got to her place I didn't touch her , we just discuss about life and we slept, all through the night I couldn't sleep and was just looking at her , we use the same cover clothes to cover our body, I was very scared to talk to her..
On the second day I tried to make a move but she told me to stop, I don't want to force her because of the post I'm holding in church so she won't see me as a bad nigg, konji don dey hold me so I couldn't hold myself and I think the only thing to do is to seek advice on Nairaland on how to handle this babe..

My Experience the third night..
Typing..

For you think it is a terrible thing to strick your wife speaks a lot about your personality.

But where you messed up really is you didn't look before you leaped.

Trust me, she would have shown signs of being contentious in your dating stage by making sure she only has her way.

For one, you are not a woman beater.

And if you are a Christian, the only solution is to involve the Lord in your case now, and be a man, with patience, and not a woman.

For if you had listened to the Lord , you wouldn't have had it this bad.


But now bear with the results of your not seeking the Lord for guidance concerning marriage, and be patient, to let the Lord deal with her.
While at it, be a man, and stand your ground.

Troubledman:
So this night. I did a horrible thing. I stuck my wife thrice on her back. Yes, I know it's horrible and I should be burnt at the stake. And I am truly sorry for it but... There's always s back story.

I went through university without ever getting into a fight. I swore of physical violence since 2005. I havent raised my hands at anyone ever. Not to defend myself. Not to fight. In those years. I don't even let people fight aroujd me. I am known everywhere as the peace keeper. Which is why I feel very horrible about my action tonight.

Since we got married. I have noticed this trait of aggression in the person I married. Always quick to anger and insults everytime. In the last couple of days. We've had course to stay with my mum.

Earlier in the day. We were arguing about something (not so important to be honest) and my mum remarked that we should do better that were a new couple and we shouldn't be arguing like this all the time. She even joked that she was going to buy a cane for both of us.

Barely 2 mins later another discussion came up and this lady started raising her voice again. This time in full view of my mum. I just kept telling her please take it easy, take it easy. I even mentioned to her that this was what mummy was just telling us about. She would not bulge. Eventually my mum chipped in and said to me to keep quiet. So I did. When she finished shouting she stood up and left for the room.

After a while , my mother went into the room to talk to her. Even asked her not to be annoyed. Invited her to eat. She brought the food to me but I was too annoyed to eat. How is my wife shouting at me in front of my mum ? So I walked away, went out for a stroll. When I came back. She was in the room, she I stayed back in the living room. She came to me, started telling me that I should not let her be angry at me, changing the story that I was shouting at her earlier and she didn't say a word, I was livid but this didn't tip me. I just told her off and went back to do my work. She came back again started off another tirade in the middle of the night btw and ended it with saying "your mother is responsible for this"

Now, that's what made me mad. From the start I have warned my family not to interfere in mine. Not my dad or my mum have ever told me or directed me on how to do in my marriage to her. I imagine that because her display was in public today that's why my mum commented. Even on Wednesday she was talking to me harshly in the car and my mum was there and she never talked.

So anyway I stood up from where I was went to meet her and struck her about 3 times in the back warning her never to involve My mother in our talk again.

Then she shouted screaming at 2 am. Cursing me. Mt mum came out to even try to calm her down. She turned to my mum as well. Saying she knows what she'll say. That she supports me etc. Even when the poor woman didnt say anything. She's gone off now. Milking it. Saying I beat her. Should I add that she came back slapped me square on the face, hit my chest. Even dragged my mother to the floor

But everyone is on me. I'm the woman beater. Domestic violence.

Honestly, I'm just tired of this marriage. I married for peace this woman gives me trouble everyday. I chose to stay in the living room for peace tonight. She brought her madness to meet me.

I agree I messed up. I perhaps shouldn't have hit her. I regret it. It's going to go with me. But I was too pushed. She continues to do this knowing I wouldn't talk and st the time I believed that's the only thing she'd respond too. I know this could probably get me a lot of hate but I'm also hoping someone could see reason in what's happening

Im sorry it's so long. I didn't think about it. I just created this account and started writing. Apologies for likely typos too

TroubledMan

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Templee333:

CORRECTION
I'm telling a story of what happened in the past but since u r in a hurry to prove that u knw everything,u can't wait till the end b4 u give ur solution. Please if u r a good christian,i challenge u to copy out the words of Proverbs 18:13 & post them here. Pls endeavor to do that as soon as possible & don't make any other comment here until u do what i ask of u.

All I can say is, if all the stress you are going through is used in your privacy to call on Jesus to reveal Himself to you, and to direct you to your destiny, you would have had some feed back by now.

It is good to always read both stories. Madam go and reconcile with your husband and submit to his will.

I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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Editor's note: her husband responds here
https://www.nairaland.com/4629255/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home

Righteousness exalts a nation, and sin is a reproach to many.

Proverbs