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kennybabs1980:
I started pastoring a small parish of a big Pentecostal church in Akure in 2012. We used to meet in a small location in a housing estate until 2015 when we relocated to our permanent site, a location that's about 10km farther than our former site.

Most of the worshippers in the former location refused to relocate when we moved because of the distance and associated stress. That means we have to start the parish all over again. So we have been having very low attendance which has been improving since about 4 months now.

The new site is a new community occupied mainly by people who have just moved to their personal houses. More than 60% of the plots remained undeveloped for now.

One major issue here is the rate at which most people that attend the parish sees the church as a place where their needs must be met. They keep coming up with one demand or the other every week. Their demands include food, money and now that school is about to resume, school fees and books. Parents will teach their little children to go and tell stories of how they can't resume at school since they don't have school fees and books, elderly people even come around to ask for money and food, this situation is becoming very disturbing and worrisome.

How can people see a very small church of less than 40 (90% children) in attendance as a source of supply of all their needs? Our parent church don't get involved in funding the small parish, we are the one who returns our tithes and offerings to the national headquarters every month. Offering in the church is small, adults come around to put N10 or N20 in offering bag and later send their children to go and ask for N10k assistance, I got pissed off this evening when a small girl who attends a public secondary school came around to ask for school fees of N10k and books of N10k for herself and same for her 2 siblings making a total of N30k. We bought exercise books and gave 4 to each pupil just last Sunday with pencils and biros and between then and now, they have bombarded the church with demands of well over N100k. Where do they really want the church to meet their demands? The church is operating under a temporary shed we put up in 2015, we've not been able to continue with serious building project due to paucity of funds. We (I, my wife, my assistant and his wife) have been trying in the areas of giving out food items, money, drugs, clothes etc to these people yet its one demand or the other on a daily basis.
I see these attitude as unwholesome, disturbing and unfair.

I need serious suggestions on how to really handle this situation as it is already dampening my morale. Matured and spiritual suggestions welcomed, thanks.

whywhyogun:
what i mean innocent is they look young, but how can any black teenage boys be innocent ? all black kids fvck from 5 years old, and when they are 15, they are good on bed , with their precociously large peniss.

when i say teenagers , i mean 18 or 19, i love fully grown peniss. thanks .

whywhyogun:
because i usually buy sex from unprofessional male whoreees(father of 2 kids, or innocent teenage boys). and they probably feel guilty when they are about to fvck me. and some of them did fail to fvck me , after i made their dicks solid by my mouth.

whywhyogun:
my lower hole is very tight . and few men could penetrate it without proper lubricant, which is applied on their rods.

anyway, I love sucking very much. and I find out, if I give a mouth job from beginning to the end, no man would demur.

but if I broach a further action, and let him try to come in my lower hole (which he of course would be very earnest to do), he will probably fail, out of my hole being tight, and the nervous situation, or something.

and then, I broach mouth job again, but he will abruptly refuse me.

so that is why , I always do the mouth job, without mentioning anything more.

why men would be so ungrateful ? is it my fault , if he fails to fvck me ? and why doesn't he accept my mouth job again after he fails to fvck me ?

MhizzAJ:
tnx BluntBoy

MhizzAJ:
okay

LadyGoddiva:
She may not necessarily be talking about sex( she might be getting this on a regular basis) but I think she means that emotional and intimate( non physical)connection between two individuals. Intimacy is more than sex guys. You could have sex with just anyone without being necessarily been attached or connected to them. It could be just for the pleasure.
In other words, she needs a man. Not just a sex mate but a man she can share her thoughts and moments with. Just like in the picture she shared, the couple seem to be in a deep conversation.

SirMichael1:
So he should be walking on slippers or sandals, sot? Why don't you go fūçkīñg open your church and see how far you go. You bunch of nonentities never knew how Jesus himself dressed. He was adorned with the best attires

The expensive oil used to rub Jesus' feet, do you know how much it costs. With your myopic mind and your unintelligence, do you think everything he gets he acquired it with his own money? Don't you know what they call gifts? Eww! Dumb bitch!

MhizzAJ:
Ve never fallen in love

MhizzAJ:
People will just be falling in love anyhow

Amarabae:
He looks so hot with a big cucumber!
Her shape is tempting with a hot watermelon!
The urge is stepping in and sexual feeling is building up in you!
You want him or her inside of you, you want it sloppy and harder,
you want a pounding,so that you can mourn,scream, and shed tears of joy,
#I deeply understand, yes premarital Sex can be sweet and fun-filled!
BUT have you thought about the negative impact premarital sex can have in your life?
Lets start with STDs!
Yes condom will be used but have you heard about condom break during the pounding?
With many fake condoms in markets now,Do you know that if condom break happens,you are now exposed to STDs both curable and incurable?
Dear sister, before you start sucking that his long hard pipe, have you heard about precums?
Though the rate of infection happening through precum is low,yet the possibility can not be written off,
mr headgiver, be careful,vaginal fluid can harbour microorganisms that can cause infection,
some STD carriers are on revenge mission,looking for who to infect,
why do you want to risk your future just for 10mins fun,
why not wait till you are married?

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The spiritual negative side of premarital sex!
Have you heard about spirit husband and wife?
Oh yes, they are REAL!
Many frusration,setback,limitation,hinderances etc that many unmarried folks are having came as a result of negative effect of sleeping around with multiple sex partners,
looking at it from a spiritual angle, premaritial sex is a sin before God and Man!
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What about the psychological trauma and stigmatisation you will go through if you contact an infection through premaritial sex,
or how disappointed your family will be if they find out,
I know that legally,if you are above 18yrs,you can have sex!
But dont let that deceive you,
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premarital sex is not worth the negative risk,
infact masturbation is a bit less risky than premarital sex,
thought both of them are bad though!
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save your future!
Be wise!
Zip up till marriage!
Thank you my sweethearts!

paiz:
I saw many thing. I wanted to grab my vaseline before i saw the dad kissing the baby

WomanofList:
Everytime a female thread is open you see them hating on us as if we are the cause of their problem. I open a thread about the hottest females on romance section last time and they all jump In and start insulting me because the girls probably rejected their pm. Guys, UP your game and we will reply your pm's. Stop being bitter and support us

MhizzAJ:
Am seeing things

sexybbstar:
Me, I'm seeing something else o.

GloriaNinja:
SHOULDN'T THE SO-CALLED ARMY BE IN SAMBISA FOREST?

psucc:
They better launch a counter dragon fight.Why should the army shy away from Boko Haram to to pursue armless people.

Nigeria is itself an irony.

MhizzAJ:
yes

MhizzAJ:
Okay So this El-Rufai isn't dat tall self

GloriaNinja:
WHO CARES?

MhizzAJ:
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Ericsdm55:
Such understanding is powerful. The Lord greatly increase you.

HarkymTheOracle:
No be mouth.. Na mental toughness.. "You must believe you are the best and then make sure that you are."

HarkymTheOracle:
i have registered.. Our oppositions go hear am.. Number 9.
#TeamNairaland

eyeon:
I just want to compare your thoughts with the one I've got here.
I know some people who do not go to Church but do live good Christian lives. But based on the way we're being compelled to go to Church almost all the time...
The question I have to ask is this:
Does Not Going To Church Make You A Bad Christian?
Your thoughts.
Cc. Lalasticlala.