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whitelexi:
In other words, Guys u can oppress?

Abi O! U don get am!

I think u shd up n' leave.
Admit it u're emotionally thru with ds guy.
 Plan B:Take some time out to really analyse d whole thin without d guy in ur face.
            Y'know what I mean.

whitelexi:
The ultimate answer lies within u.

Word.

Happy birthday girl!. . .
Where's the party @?

The coast seems pretty clear to me.
Y'didn't mention who called off the relationship though;
cos if it wz ur girlfriend,it's likely d guy won't encourage ur friendship with her(that's only natural as emotional wounds heal pretty slowly).Ds' the only rough edge I forsee.
Be sure however that the feeling is mutual.

       
Death before dishonor!!!
I got a problem solver. .
  n' it's called a revolver. .
Wanna borrow it?
  End it like a man?
Mugu.

Saw this article and decided to share it with fellow Nairalanders.




Chastity

Q  How do you know if a guy loves you or if he wants to use you?


A If you ever want to know if a guy loves you, apply the love
test. Here's how it works. I know a young woman who applied
this love test on a first (and last) date with a particular guy.
He made certain suggestions as to his intentions for the
evening but she informed him that she practiced chastity. He
responded, "That's okay. We can do other stuff" (implying
everything short of intercourse). She proceeded to give him a
crash course in the definition of chastity, and he
responded, "So you mean that I'm not going to get anything?"

He sounded like an eight-year-old boy having a tantrum
because his mother wouldn't buy him a Lego set. His request
coupled with the childish reaction shows that he had no idea
what he was asking for. He assumed that buying her dinner
should more than suffice to gain him access to the priceless
treasure of her body. This is the blindness that comes with an
irreverent attitude towards sex.

What this young woman did wasn't easy, but it was much
easier than dating the guy for six months before realizing that
he loved pleasure more than he loved her. Because she
practiced the virtue of chastity, she saw through the
manipulation that some people use to get others in bed. She
knew that if a guy pressured her to give him her body, then
he didn't love her. Because of a woman's great dignity-she is
made in the image and likeness of God-she deserves
authentic love. She must never allow herself to be used or
treated as a thing. Her body is priceless in the sight of God,
and her heart is to be treasured.

Although this love test will weed out a lot of immature guys,
only time will reveal a man's intentions. One man said, "If I
sensed there was a moral dilemma in her mind, I would play
any role necessary to reach the point where sex became
inevitable."i There are many good guys out there but there
are also plenty of predators who will tell a girl whatever she
wants to hear. Therefore, a girl needs to proceed slowly,
develop the skill of listening to her heart, and have the
courage to follow it. Otherwise, a young woman may be left
feeling as this fifteen-year-old did: "I felt strange, and in a
sense, used. It was like we were both caring for the same
person-him. I felt left out of it."ii


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i McDowell, op. cit., p. 110.

ii As quoted in lovematters.com, p. 5. Taken from Boyfriends:
Getting Them, Keeping Them, Living Without Them by Joyce
L. Vedral, Ph.D. New York, Ballantine Books, 1990.

I say na continuing education class una no wan believe me.
Lectures run from 9pm till d break @dawn.
Requirements:
No long thing.
Only big big things required. .

Test results assured in 9months

segoye2:
@ Topic,

I still think IBB has done no wrong.

. Babangida cancelled june 12, 1993. is that his crime that will make him not qualified? Ok, He killed some innocent souls huummm? How many ? I

@segoye2
These contradictions in ur statement make me doubt the competence of ur mental faculties at the time u posted this.It's exactly 55 mins since then.Sure u don't want to modify ur post b4 well-meaning Nigerians on Nairaland descend on u?

Whatever dt billboard cost she cld've paid me half the amount n'I'd've delivered d same message. .
  . . . more powerfully. . .
  . . . n'with a personal touch.

Met her just once (when she came to UCH med schl).
Like someone said: "She's indeed beautiful in-and-out"
Said "is" because Bimbo Odukoya lives on.

Easssy on d guy now. . .
Na continuing education class d guy wan start. . .
Abi greatgeo no be so?

Sure he don't already gotta girl?
Oftentimes when it's gettin' hard to decode a guy it's because he's playin'.

LOL
@trendy
Dt's a really funny pix U got there.
But knowin Michael for his wacko tendencies he just might try it out

LOL
Love your sense of humor .
Pity sweetlove n' his phantoms don't exactly share my sentiments

@MyPeace
Girl U are such a darling!Pity I can't give U a hug over the internet.
I got this weakness for extremely sharp girls.
I thot I wz d only one seein through the entire farce n' duplicity.

  NAIRALAND ROCKS!!!

@Topic
Yeah,I believe u.
There's a brand new tomb in Aso Rock;freshly dug to specification for IBB.
Matter of fact,Nairalanders are hereby enjoined to come up with a befitting epitaph.

Bleeeeeh!!
Do I sense some smart ass job here?
Now they'd have us believe the other planes were blown up too.Gimme a break!
Nigerians should pls not fall for this huge joke.Anyone who's flown on Nigerian airlines immediately knows we have a lot of work to do. Instead of owning up to gross ineptitude and sanitize the aviation sector,they put some moronic clown up to an act.
It's Act1Scene1;stay tuned for Act1Scene2.

Oh well t'wasn't exactly what I expected.Y'know I kinda expected a lot more love,empathy,what have u.That Mother Theresa touch but damn!some of those women cld've been executioners. Not funny at all.
Like I said earlier, don't let dt discourage u pls.

@Viper Ace

   I think she likes you
My advice is dt u fashy her for a while.I mean no calls,no sms,avoid church n'all other forms of contact.Don't even pick her calls.
If she does like u,she'll prolly come running to find out what she did to warrant your avoiding her.
If she doesn't;weelllll she'll look for someone else to tease.

If d tin backfire no be me O

If breakin a hymen was his life ambition;well he should sack her with immediate effect(n'make a complete mockery of himself )There should be more to a relationship dn a claim to virginity. 
    If indeed d woman lied;she's broken faith.There's nothin like the pain of betrayal which what she did is tantamount to esp @ ds foundational stage of their marriage.What's more important to me now is if she's remorseful 'bout it.
     However there is NOTHING on earth as powerful as the force of[b] FORGIVENESS[/b].In fact if d guy is smart enough(now ds is beyond what most of we guys can handle) he can use this opportunity to actually solidify the union even more by forgiving (and sincerely too).By doin so he would have released her to be the greatest woman (and treasure) God can bestow on any man alive.
   Believe me she will literally live for him.

davidylan:
when you come from a home of just boys, you have to learn to cook. There's virtually nothing i can't cook if i really make up my mind to learn.
I can cook egusi as good as my mom does it, i actually taught a female cousin of mine (who is older than i am anyway) how to make moin-moin! Been ages i made that now

An aunt i lived with then wouldnt eat moin-moin unless i made it and there were 3 girls in the house!!!

A friend taught me to pound yam 2 years ago, and he's a guy!!! He made it much better than my mom ever did!

@davidylan
So good t'know someone had d same experience I did.We're boys only(5 in no) n' mama didn't take no nonsense.By d time each of us wz 10 we were synthesisng all kinds of soup like pros--ewedu ,okra,ugwu y'name it. As per poundin yam?How d'u think I got my biceps? .
Pity I did very lil cookin during my university days-started eating out from my first day in UI.
Besides fryin dodo n'preparin rice,noodles n'd likes I haven't done any real cookin in like 3yrs.
I think the ladies actually do a lot to enforce d stereotype of "guys don't cook"esp while dating.In the last 1yr for instance my fiancee insists on doin d major cookin n'comes at least once a week just to flaunt her culinary skills proceeds of which she then keeps in d freezer to last d comin week.
Since she insists,who am I 2resist?
She's a much better cook anyway;at least now dt I'm quite rusty in culinary matters.

Alright,be a good li'l girl like u promised;get off the computer,say ur prayers,give teddie a gd nite kiss n' go to bed.R.Kelly's still on the prowl here.

haywhy:
Lmfao OMG toyboy pelle ooo _{Nairaland users don finish u}

Abeg leave story.Fine bois are obviously in short supply on Nairaland.No be joke o.Dt na why we too dey beef guys wey say them fine.
I know some guys wey be say even at gunpoint them no go gree put them picture for profile.

  Make nobody point finga come my side O.

@iice

Y'bet I'm tellin her right away

@cuddle

Aaaaaaaaw!So touching.
Funny thing is I'm happy for u in a funny sortta way;reason being y'seem to know what u want(at least y'know what u don't want which is a very good start).
 Like other peeps've said keep yourself busy.Keep being on the look out for opportunities.
Find som'n u really love 2do n' u are good at.Y'see there're some things some people can do dt are not too popular/recognised yet but believe me if u've got a flair for it give it your best shot.Y'may just be the one to pioneer som'n great.Most pple simply follow trails others've blazed.
 Are u good at relating wth people?-then get involved in an NGO dt's people oriented.
The orphanage thing sounds like a good idea but be prepared for possible let-downs(I've tried it before but u may have a completely different experience especially if u're better prepared mentally)
Truth be told-Opportunities abound only in people so please don't just shut yourself in.Get involved-with d right kind of people.
 Wish u d very best.

Cee ya.

@ThiefOfHearts
Why u so worked up now?Try relax.
Some peeps don't think it's ok to have sex in courtship n' u get all worked up.If u bother to check my first post in this thread all I said wz "No it's not ok" only to come back n'find all u free sex advocates tongue-lashing others who dared to dissent from ur view.
Mind u it's a free world;everyone's free to back their stance with facts n' if these facts happen to be religious what d'u have against that?
What amuses me is the fact dt u keep shouting the words "hypocrites" to the high heavens.Girl take a chill pill.Are u 100% sure everyone's doin the exact opposite of what they say?U are not.Period.For anyone who's had even a cursory exposure to psychiatry courses in school it's easy to read btw ur lines.

@Radiant
   @mrmayor
   @ThiefofHearts
    et al

  I find it so amazing dt u guys in support of premarital sex always believe dt if one voices out against it,he/she's a hypocrite.
D'u actually believe everyone's doin' it? I think u guys have deliberately put a veil over your own eyes.
Even in Sodom(as perverse as it was),d'u recall Lot's daughters were virgins who were engaged? This presupposes some of u reckon with the Bible anyway.
  Truth is there will always be a remnant (no matter how few) who will not bow to the god of sexual compromise whether u advocates of free sex accept it or not.

NB: If anyone bothers to read the last few posts u'll discover  d pre-marital sex protagonists have been the irritable n' intolerant ones.

mrmayor:
This board is getting more irritating with self righteous members,what are these children of God doing reading about romance and sexuality?

.

@mrmayor
Romance is so godly n' beautiful dt God dedicated the whole of Songs Of Solomon to it

@osegwu
D'U really believe God will judge us based on our personal convictions?--or on His divine instructions?
Even when U're"old enough to do it" how does that do away with the consequences outlined in the article above?
Just curious.

Labans:
Can goodwill of both paties last?

U miss road?

@Topic
E fit be say d guy wan yarn some explicit yarns O.

iice:
Yes. Am 3yrs.

Your mummy's callin' U my friend