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SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

Who says you have to "divorce" the girl?

Nature took its natural course.

From you writeup, you tried to avoid it and its not something you do on a normal day.

Keep that relationship, but let her know her place.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Typing....
Sugarpapi wow just wow..so you really had to sugar coat and paint the occurence like it's some movie..what's this all about?
Well your problem is easy..tell your wife about what y've been doing.. apologise to her..call the same gal and tell her you no longer have interest in her and wouldn't want to have anything doin with her cos you are married..
After that cut her off your life and move on.. simple and easy or you can keep deceiving yourself..

This is bad advice.

Never admit anything to a woman. Just stop doing what you were doing and confess your sins to God.

Eriokanmi:
Life!

My candid piece of advice...if you like your family and loved ones, don't mistakenly take them to LASUTH. There's a lot of politics playing out there. Rather proceed to LUTH. Na Tinubu people full LASUTH, including his diagnostic centre which he hijacked from the hospital and named BT ( Bola Tinubu) Diagnostics. I wish humans could live forever. Smh!

I dont think LUTH is any better.

I should give all of you clay, so you can mold these descriptions yourselves

BoredBerry:
Wow! If you were to judge your gender... Nearly every man deserves death and slavery...

I hope to see you on threads report rape, fraud, rituals, kidnap cases, drugs, domestic violence, etc...

Well, Im on this topic now. So... :

BoredBerry:
You're extremely stupid...

You're supporting murder and slavery...

Women who do paternity fraud deserve worse.

We don't know the full story

Lightway:
I was earning 100k Andi saved 60% of it... You're spending money too much

Do you know what the person you quoted spends on? How do you know they are spending too much?

Michelle70:
single too but I spend around 70k monthly

Thats the basic average for most single people in Lagos, if you're not living above your means.

Michelle70:
seems u earn well, cos 100k salary won't do anything if u save 60%

Ofcourse its above that amount. I'm single, so I don't have much to throw money around on, hence the savings rate.

About 60%.

The other 40 is okay for monthly expenses.

Who cares about your degree in 2022? Lol.

The koko is for you to make good grades in wherever course you end up with.

I studied Botany and I'd say I'm doing great in media. So...

Simran94:
So she should wait for years till he decides to come back?

No.

Its the attitude. OPs body language looks like the type men will naturally run away from for peace of mind.

Amazingbaby:
No never,I am no fuul.
I told him that he must explain why a girl he deny talking with ever was sending him a message on when he is leaving the house at that time of the morning, if he likes he should stay away for a year.

No wonder he left.

Michael Jackson.

I cried.

Mom007:
Ha! In one sitting?

In one sitting, shamelessly.

Omo, I japa.

WBworldwide:
I have been dating this girl for more than a year and she has been nice to me. But things hasn't been fair to me. She's an orphan, same thing as me.

I am a street boy and we are both in our final year in school. I made some money before she came into my life and then I went broke ever since, i am not blaming her or something but there are some things i can't share here about her.

So she travelled for the holiday for like three months now. She has changed, she told me her cousins are doing well and that their boyfriends' bought cars for them and that she has tried for me.

I really feel for her. That was one of the reasons I didn't want her to go home at first, negative influence. So, she told me she needed space that i have not been trying financially.

I told my friend and he said i should forget the girl for now. The thing is, I don't even blame her, I wouldn't stay with myself if I was her.

I'm just heart broken not being able to do anything.

I'm not simping o... Things are going well for me this period without her being here, i just feel for her that's all.

I'm a full stack hustler... I believe myself die... Even area believe me too

You were doing well before she came into your life then you became broke ever since.

You started doing well immediately she left for home.

My brother, she's bad luck for you. RUN from her like your life depends on it.

It actually does.

GindoX:
Lolsss. My guy chill jaree.. that thing no plenty is just overpriced..

Bros, its nonsense. We were meeting for the first time. She was just a hungry girl.

She ate 8k Pizza all by herself.

I never spoke to her again.

Botking:
He should discuss with her about taking a second wife, Then see how she will change quickly

A woman who is not willing to satisfy her husband is a dangerous one. I would theead cautiously here.

Buy a car!!

Mobility will enable make more income, if managed properly, trust me

Julietekekwe1:
The smarter you are the more likely you will spend time I your parent house.

100%.

I know a babe like that. She's so smart, there's nothing you want to say to her or trip her. She has her own money, job and everything but she's single to stupor.

Judybash93:
A lot of men don't give a f about women's money because they won't spend it on him, her educational level or things like that aren't important to men. They just want to return to a peaceful home where they can be happy after all the hustle and bustle of the world. So, things that are important to men are probably the woman's youth, her health, her temperament (submissiveness), her homemaking skills, her ability to support her man when things go south and not be a nagging b**ch and her loyalty. If a woman has these qualities, she would get married within a short period.

You have given the answer. I totally agree!

pretteemee:
Ibadan

Are you single and searching?

Get into his head. Talk about his fantasies, be part of it. Let him open up his desires to you. Thats the best way to bring his attention to you. Be his partner in the crime.

Emperor88:
See mentality...those that hire drivers when they can drive are lazy? Its people like you that will say washing machines is for the lazy ones, that a good wife must always wash with there hands.

You have not made any sense.

How will a single guy bring another woman to the house when a woman is present in the same house? And you compare that to a washing machine?

MPESA:
80% of Nigerians don't eat breakfast....dan9ice 2022..

This is absolutely Nonsense

90% of percentages are made on the spot. You can't blame him �

uche08:
Report him to police, at 17 ur still a minor, why would he go into blood covenant with a mino?

Show me how that is a crime in the Nigerian constitution.

Justice4Toto:
One person must Bleep up and bear the consequences but if the other party forgive him/her then things will settle


A girl once lured me into it all-in the name of deliverance by an Alfa. I never know that they have planned everything.
The Alfa asked me three times if I will marry her I said yes but what will I say. The girl is there present and I only won Bleep.
The Alfa said the stuff is to deliver her from marine spirit
Little did I know that it was a convenat.
Long story ..

Give us the full story

Beebah2000:
you don dey ment, abi?
Shegiya

I'm not playing with you.

Beebah2000:
werey

Your elder brothers at home are the werey.

What you have described is not just Benue women but women in general.