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[quote author=neonly post=117361475][/quote]Lol.

VULCAN:
One of the monikers that is well known on Nairaland for saying supremely stupid stuff

Not me, but you.

You are known for your deathly stupidity coated in bible verses.

naijainstinct:
Wow, so some people's brain still function upside down

Pele o feminist isonu

You don't want him begging on his knees to God in his prayers or is your own brain so upside down that you don't want God to save his marriage, masochist?

paulolee:
We would still enjoy him in club football in the coming seasons bt when he finally decides to hang his boot, the world would miss this talented genius
Messi have done soo much for football, av left the bar too high that whatever any footballer does, it would be taken as nothing
Haaland is doing insane numbers currently bt nobody is talking bcoz a certain leo Messi had already spoilt us with more insane numbers
Football would hardly forget leo wen he is gone
He is simply the S.I unit of football

This Haaland guy looks 100% fairy.

blaise26abj:
I agree that 7 years away from home is not yams . But the rest of your statement is not fair . Based on his narrative he is still in active communication with her and her family . Besides he said he had the same attitude from her when they were together physically . Maybe baba use style run away from her wahala , we may never know . There may be reasons they have not shared that keeps them in two different countries .

Their case is actually much deeper than their back and forth here, and it's the reason it's hard to believe his terribly long epistle.

@last paragraph, could it be another woman has began warming him up in the freezing Canadian tundra? Because there is a lot going on that neither are revealing. He could be running, but that's awfully cowardly for two people who don't want to listen to what the other has to say, going by his account.

alphabbey1:
He's no longer asserting. He has made peace with the woman by freeing her to search for another man that will tolerate her. He has moved on, am certain that will be his last statement on the issue. The woman too should move on, no need for her to bring the issue to Nairaland in first place....
All things being equal, you can now rest before you sound feminist....

Everywhere's good....

Wouldn't be surprising if he's been cheating. That's how men usually claim they're letting the woman go, but really it's just another woman that has their attention.

Feminist is the most abused word on this forum.

oladipuposadeeq:
oooooh k I get you now but you know I went thru the woman's epistle also when it made frontpage then so I use both epistles as my basis for conclusion. Yeah I ought to have based it on the couple not just the woman.

Cool.

blaise26abj:
I stated my perspective based on my preference in a similar personal experience. It is not a competition between men and women . It’s a personal choice. Same way I don’t blame a woman that wants to marry a rich dude or a man that wants a woman with big yansh . It’s a matter of personal choice .

I turned her down because she was not the kind of woman I wanted . She tried to reestablish communication but I was already committed to someone else .
She is also married now to someone who obviously wants her .

Thanks for adding the last line. We need more balanced views.

oladipuposadeeq:
na true we no know wetin we want. But na this particular woman we dey talk about abeg no generalise matter. They dey almost the same age bracket abi you no read him write up. Always supporting what you ought not to. Read and understand his write up. I was talking based on the woman and you came here generalising the context.

You should've specified the context of this couple, not the woman alone. Or just "women".

Angelfrost:
Even churches and parents insisted on chastity prior to marriage!

Many will call this woke... But, how many marriages are standing today?!!

We pay too much attention to the order of life milestones. The end justifies the means. It's okay if you have children before marriage. The end will still be marriage. And if it's not, people who divorce are still in the same shoes.

Some bishops began like this, yet today they're preaching the opposite. There's no correct way to go about life, we all have different conditions that drive our decisions.

phemmyfour:
So disappointing
Celebrating pregnancy out of wedlock.. today's women have lost it

She's celebrating it alone, right? Or today's man isn't the one announcing it to the world.

And so what? That's how everyone gets married — one way or the other. There's no correct way to do anything. And if they don't get married, at least they have a child. It's all that propriety that keeps people looking for children for 20 years.

She should wear something that doesn't leave all but the fingers of the fetus on display, that's all.

pokilo:
Una fornicate com dey proud to show the evidence of your sin

So what? Not as if God cares.

Never was a fan of people carrying in tight clothing. The only person who probably wants to see that is your husband. Everyone else is a tad grossed/irritated/rolling their eyes at the sight of it. Especially with a protruding umbilical cord that looks like a tennis ball... Well, at least she's still got something like clothes on.

LilMissFavvy:
This post is a fake post, meaning the first one was also fake.

FAKE FAKE FAKE

It's a talkative man who is miles away from his home and trying to assert his importance over that if his wife.

The two of them are similar in tactics. At least they're both sticking to the same story line.

i926:
I never believed her story anyway.

And next time, you dont have to explain yourself like you did now. I don't like it.

Long posts from men is a sign that they're difficult and nags.

alphabbey1:
Clown at its crescendo level

It must be referring to itself in the above quoted post.

fatboyslym007:
The whole story including that of his wife sounds like super story...

But if true, the two of you deserve each other...

All d best mate...

Lol.

They deserve each other. They're both the same.

blaise26abj:
Wonderful.
I blame you the husband if you saw these signs before getting married and went ahead regardless .

When I was single , I met a lady I wanted to date who gave me these ridiculous terms of calling within a particular time. The way I tear for am ehn and cut her off totally no be today . She later called me after a couple of months but man don already dey date the lady who became my wife .

You should have cut off from her when you had the opportunity . But now that you are married , you both have to seek counseling. She seems to have narcissistic traits . May God heal your home .

She's also better off without you, it's not as if you're a saint.

You guys always want it to seem like you're the only ones who turned down women and are married. Many women who turned down men are married, too. Ask around.

oladipuposadeeq:
As for me, i would avoid the woman like a plague and find someone else to marry that's after divorce and would cater for my kids because even if this is resolved she would do more even worse self abegiiiiiiiiii this woman go finally kill her husband with her attitude if they continue this union. Make man go enjoy him life no be to dey bondage inside marriage for marriage sake. GOD forbid bad thing

How can women kill their husbands always in you people's book? A man will be 60 and looking for a flexible 20 year old virgin and make her his wife. Later on, when he logically dies first, and all the Nigerian men go,

"She killed him, she took away his peace of mind, men are suffering so much in marriage"

You people don't know what you want.

mbasharon:
That's why it's always good to listen to both sides of a story before concluding.
I believe your own side of the story, and it is very obvious from what you just said that your wife has too much ego in her.
If you don't want to die early, ghost your wife and concentrate on your children, because it seems she's not ready to change soon.

His wife didn't say anything much different from what he did.

You'd be surprised their problem is that both of them believe they're each doing too much in the marriage. And both of them don't want to believe it's true for the other.

Both of them are prideful.

More claims of innocence from a man miles away from his wife. She needs to come back and expose him some more. And then he can play his innocent trope again.

All we have here is simply him claiming he's so maltreated and he's doing so much, meanwhile he's all but abandoned her with toddlers half way across the globe from himself.

He needs to get on his knees and pray for his marriage. The strange woman that's making him resent his wife isn't good for him. He needs to invite the Lord to restore his marriage, because marriage is all about forgiveness, not the revenge he's showing us.

donbenie:
Don't use your own proclivities to judge others..
Being an Introvert for instance,doesn't mean that what an Extrovert would do to keep happy is nonsensical..
You can't put a price on happiness..
Those apps are flourishing because there are demands for them..
Whatever they do there,makes them happy and that is reason enough..

Tictoc, Snapchat? Where's the judgement?

Demand doesn't signify happiness. People aren't happy to eat bread, they just have to. But nobody has to use those apps.

But yes, let's all follow happiness. Do what makes you happy.

BATified2023:
I don’t believe in that shit n I never tell any girl that shit before

Let me hustle n make money on my own so u won’t start blackmailing me with I suffered with u shit

Same reason I don’t do virgins again

Finally.

Wait. So Nigerian men marry only virgins under 30 with no history with another man, let alone child? What happened to 30+ women?

Connected1:
The young ones are watching and they will start treating good men badly because of her unfortunate incident.

It's a one sided story, one person can't be all wrong, we haven't heard the side of the boyfriend.

You don't suppose, the young ones are watching other such threads that generalize about women, do you?

The more we keep looking for two sides to the story, rather than pointing out evil once a man is behind the evil, the more the young will learn to tolerate evil and the more people will say there's something wrong with all men.

The ball is in men's court. May we all learn to be impartial to listening to things we can already see, things that cannot change what evil has been perpetrated.

What do you want to hear from the boyfriend that will justify what happened? Such listening is pointless.

Clearly there's something wrong with men if they need to hear the other side of the story.

wolebest:
Get a Lawyer and sue him to court for damages.

Go to the Women Lawyers or Social Welfare.

They frown at this type of assualt on businesses by spouse.

The guy go humble.

He isn't her spouse. Just a common boyfriend.

Innobee99:
The "Why are men like this" caught my attention.
It should be, "why is this man like this"?
Thank you

Re-read my post.

Also, you cannot pretend that that isn't how most of the men are. There was a married woman with a husband like that projdint or someone like that. Bjdint. Can't really remember. So it's a trait of men. How many men have the trait, that is the part that she needs to fine tune.

Thank you.

BATified2023:
sorry how do u people meet mad people in relationships?
I have read a lot of stories about shits like this,it’s like u present yourself kinda needy of a guy to him cos as a guy I don’t even know a supposed lover will want to do stupid things to me?

Is the guy even independent?

I can’t even tell d person I am dating to give me money not alone telling her I don’t have t fare,the guy no carry him phone?
He no fit do transfer?
Person slap u n u still give him tfare?
Sorry u no get siblings wey get craze?

How?

If a woman says she doesn't want a poor man, what do you think the poor men will rise up in arms and say? Haven't you seen them talk about building with a man who has nothing? Isn't that what the considerate woman was trying to do?

That's exactly how it happens.

Ayinke93:
Very terrible and dangerous o. I’ve experienced one before and the fu_cktard won’t stop creating threads upon threads about breakup that happened over four years ago. I’ll forever preach against women being with losers like that.

@bolded If we say they're embittered incels they will skip the comment. Lol. Let that F word shine through, because that's what the lot of them are.

Chidi2022:
He did not meet a dummy, he met a quiet woman.... make he meet me .... If i don't destroy his scrotum, i wan know wetin cause am... The only place i would target on his body with my pestle is either his head or scrotum depending on his height.... As am reading this story all my body dey vibrate....i am disorganized makachi...

LMAO.

This forum has some characters. Why a pestle? Or do you mean pistol?

Innobee99:
Point of correction, "What's wrong with ur man friend to be"
Stop generalizing

Go to the first page of the forum and open any male authored thread. Then come back and explain what "stop generalizing" means.

Ayinke93:
It’s always the broke , jobless ones. They have nothing going on for them, and require their partners to worship them to fuel their delusion and faux masculinity. Sorry you went through this sis. Avoid bottom rung men like a disease. They have nothing but stress to offer.

Preach.

I can't even understand a woman paying an Uber for a man, let alone housing him and he's talking about her emasculating him then exerting said emasculation by battering her.

If she didn't "build" with him, the same men here would abuse her and talk hypergamy nonsense. Men who don't have money are terrible and dangerous. They're unsteady and vengeful.