₦airaland Forum

Rozross:
lol

You're seeing it, right?

Rozross:
That's why i stay clear off agressive men

Broke, ugly, aggressive, red pill, future-is-bright, Builders FC, i-don't-tolerate-blah-blah men.

Struggle and Builders UFC, over to you.

These are the kind of men with a future that they (men here) will tell you to build with. Their kind of person.

Rotentik19:
Guy you do have a point truly...If a person doesn't get married on time...two things are involved; it's either your fault or not your fault...if for instance, a man is delayed in marriage, it is most likely his fault & men are not afraid to own up. However what other guys on this thread are trying to tell u is that more often than not, women are the architect of their own misfortune. We know that there are factors beyond our control as humans, but even @ that, there are certain things we can avoid. I've witnessed ladies on a wheelchair being proposed to(God is my witness) so my conclusion is that; no matter how a lady looks or how bad u think her character is, there will be someone who desires her ! so if a lady of 30 & above is unmarried, she probably had passed opportunities unknowingly. Peace !

Nice contribution, but on this same thread, we've seen how men break up with these women after years, or refuse to marry them because they are virgins, or because they clocked 30 while waiting for the relationship to progress, or whatever other picky reasons men have instituted for women. If they weren't faithful all those years, the same men would still blame and condemn them as unfaithful. But now that the men didn't marry them after their faithfulness, it is still her fault.

If a lady above 30 is unmarried it isn't because she passed opportunities, rather everybody has their own time for things, and her opportunity is still upcoming. Believe it or not, opportunity is not time. She may simply be a victim of a man who was never serious about her or men who believe in using women for fun. There's no law for marriage under 30 if you're a woman the way unmarried men on this thread are claiming.

Men are afraid to own up, and instead pick on women and come up with the usual excuse of money not being available for marriage, when the fault lies with them. Plus, a lot of old, unmarried men aren't berated as much, though they equally should be looked at with such condemnation if they aren't married at 30.

Why? It is only on Nigeria that men get as old as 30 and aren't married and console themselves that men don't get old. Boys of 18 are getting married and handling family responsibilities worldwide,but Nigerian men will give excuses. If men at 30 years of age aren't married in Nigeria, how can women of 30 be married? And if they aren't married, it is because they passed up opportunities, too.

LINTUNE:
just ignore that girl, she's just pretending not to see the truth in your comment.

Tell us more about that "girl".

Chummynoni:
well, you are not far from the truth. In my own opinion, most saying degrading things about ladies , it is either they don’t understand that there is no manual to life or they are young boys without life experience. You can’t see a mature man reasoning the way they do. I want to use an instance.When I was a corper, there was a lady that kept herself for her fiancé I.e she didn’t mess with anyone hoping that after service, she would get married to the guy but what happened? The foolish guy broke her heart, it’s been more than 4years now and she is still single but to some idiots on nairaland, they would assume she lived a reckless life while younger. My advise to you, when you see a thread where they bash women, just assume that the ones doing so are bitter boys.

N:B to the stupid ones that would want to quote calling me a simp or whatever names you call your irresponsible fathers, I gladly accept that i am a simp to my lovely wife for a decade, a feat your fathers couldn’t achieve due to irresponsibility on his part

Your contribution is another insightful one. Life happens. I came to realize that it's even the good ones who don't get married early, for both men and women. It's almost like child birth, the ones who desire children to love so greatly, who will make the best parents, are the ones who go through fertility issues. Life is so strange for honest people at times.

Truly, they must be children to know nothing about life.

GoodIsGod:
A Christian site owner would have had checks on people's comments.
This is why a forum like this owned by a Christian might not have such a huge crowd.
If I were the owner, there are lots of these guys I would create kindergarten section for. Silly trolls would find themselves there and won't be able to comment in the main section. I have seen people troll a very popular girl on Nairaland till she stopped using her moniker in the travel section. Although they claimed she was a troll herself.

Since Nairaland is owned by an atheist, any comment goes. Why should anyone mock anyone because they are yet to marry at 40 when they are supposed to rather sympathize with such.

I have seen people on Nairaland mock Banky West and wife for having no child many times in past. Why should that be?
Can a sane person do that?

It is well my sister, stay blessed.

I believe it is life's hardships that make these young people so callous and evil at heart.

And truly, it's because of the person who owns it that they get to post such things. From promotion of his proclivities via first page threads, to the refusal to clamp down on certain antisocial posts, it's definitely a top to bottom rot.

I guess they all need repentance.

Thanks for your input.

jimyjames:
I believe so , cause I heard even bee stings kill people who are allergic to it

Exactly.

jimyjames:
Empty shots made me sweat profusely? Scorpion venom is not snake venom ,

It actually can kill. Your body simply reacted well to the venom. For others it causes adverse, fatal reactions.

Thomthom:
When one insect bite me for bush very small insect.. it was like millipede, but hairy.. when this ant bite me for leg, that leg seize for like 15 minutes I no fit move that whole leg.. since then I fear that ant pass scorpion.

Lol. What kind of insect is this? Like a millipede? Yet hairy? But it's an ant?

This kinda paralysis insect should be studied.

Interestingly, scorpion stings can kill.

Blessedmercy8:
Leave the frustrated nonentity. Illiteracy has eaten deep into his thinking faculty, so he just goes about spewing trash without reasoning.

I don't understand all need to denigrate women.

I feel these guys have lives so miserable, like mpsdii who was killing snakes in the forest to eat, and that is why they're angry at anything female. Poverty is the greatest cause of his kind of posts.

GoodIsGod:
I have a Christian Lady who is a close friend. She is Forty and no marriage and no kids.
Her major reason of still being single is that she wants to stay a virgin till marriage but every man she meets want to have fun before being committed. Once she denies them, they Waka.
She has good shape and a good face. Not ugly at all and very hardworking.

I pray for her daily to get a man.
I am just glad for her that she remains a happy woman despite her challenges.

Wait for them to tell you how her private part is slackened, and she's greedy, and she's looking for a dark, handsome, 6ft man with a billion dollars (like there are any in Nigeria to begin with), how she rejected all her suitors and is arrogant, how she was 20 and running them in circles, how the problem lies with her at her age, how she's got a hellish behavior, how she's not actually a virgin.

It is never the fault of the men she met.

I seriously pity any woman above 35 who is unmarried. The mocking and pressure must be intense on her. Imagine this being a forum of over 1M people, supposedly international, and the garbage that daily spills fourth about women is still unchecked. This place is 50 years behind in reasoning.

Stargurl20:
What of ladies who aren't material driven, no loose, but just haven't found someone they love? Or according to you, all ladies are loose and material driven?

You will get very tired of the village mentality on the forum.

The men here are from the village where they give them a copy of the sheeps handbook for rams. All of them regurgitate the same rubbish day and night.

And the funny thing is that they all have that man/woman in their family that isn't married at 40. But there's nothing they won't say to denigrate women to feel good about being men.

Katcall:
will you get married and have kids

You're funny. Drop your assumptions.

Live and let women live.

What official role is "mimica"?

You people don't pronounce things well, and this sort of topic is the end result.

Rubbiish:
You are the one being sentimental here
Perhaps u should blame nature & biology & leave Nigeria men alone. U know what they have been saying is true, but u keep running in circles. Nigeria men are not responsible for a woman getting to a certain age & attain menopause, they are not the cause of a woman's beauty dwindling with age. Man's attractive point is basically money, which we saw in the Ned & Regina case. But a woman attractive point is her prime! U can argue all u want, but u know deep down it is the truth!

Usual rubbish.

kay29000:
You're taking this too personal. Is a woman's chances of having a healthy baby reduce at 40,yes or no? Compare that to men that can still father healthy children into their 70s. This is the angle I'm coming from. I'm not bashing women.

You are taking your sentiment too personal.

Are a man's chances of having a healthy baby at 40 high? Meanwhile a lot of older women birth healthy babies daily. But if it's not what you think, then it cannot be true.

kay29000:
Sinach and Kamala Harris are just a few lucky cases... And they are very high value women. The ordinary male at 40 has way more value than a female at 40. This is a fact.

Few lucky indeed.

On this thread 2 men have admitted to it. But if it's not what you think, then it cannot be true.

More grease to your mocking and "facts".

inoki247:
At 12 na so life run hard....


He still go therapy e no work....


When at 6 some kids here don dey learn Mechanic, hawk different things, some lose dere 2 parent and dey still didn't give up.....

The problem a lot of the world has is judgement and comparisons.

FYI, no two people are the same, no two circumstances are the same. Not even your fingers share a fingerprint among them.

PureFace1:
Thinking about the bills I will pay at the end of the month and at the end of the year always make me feel depressed as fvck, I'm always like "when is this gonna stop?" "is this how I'm going to live the rest of my life?"

Some people cause of depression is lack of money or poverty but some people cause of depression is more complicated and convoluted than that. To some people their cause of depression could be loneliness even though they are rich and there are also some that their cause of depression is life is no longer meaningful or enjoyable to them, these people are usually rich or well to do even with great achievement in life but life suddenly stop being enjoyable or meaningful to them even after doing all sort of things that could make life enjoyable and meaningful like having the best car, good house, Family, great career achievements etc.

My Point is Depression is more complicated than the Perspective most Nigerians use to see it.

Bless you for this. Majority of Nigerian people don't know what depression is.

Risingblue008:
Omo,
See curve
If I'm to calculate that a$$
Na sheet full'am


Well,
To all the obidient families
I wishing you all a
HAPPY WEEKEND

Farfalla

Lol!

FrancisDiote:
Ladies have one problem, when most of them are supposed to give relationship a chance, struggle together, build together and have a say in your home, they are busy selling their market to the highest bidder. This is the major problem of a Nigerian girl.

I have one solution, shoot your shot. Who knows you may get lucky

The romanticization of suffering on this forum is disturbing.

Is it that you believe a relationship is made only by struggling? If you were a woman, would you honestly be with half of you here? So if your significant other doesn't suffer with you, it means they can't have a say in your home? Every woman is poor and needs to struggle first?

The problem is much deeper.

I guess you all sold yourselves as men to the lowest bidder.

dazzlingd:
What he meant is that a man at 40 can still get married easily...a woman at 40 finds it difficult to find someone...
He actually meant that an older man will still find a woman of his choice much more easily than a woman at 40

Still sentiment.

Maybe in Nigeria where all the men are reading the same sheep manual that dictates to them what and what women can and cannot do because of this and that.

Live and let women live.

Some of you here have sisters older than 40 who are unmarried, yet come here to judge and mock women tirelessly.

nedekid:
Metcheew, my kid sis nko, a stunning beauty, UK trained professional, house in lekki, 2 nice automobiles, at 39 she never marry + no kids. You at just 30 de complain

Try and educate your brothers on this forum, because they seem to erroneously believe value lies in age.

kay29000:
Hello, I'm not mocking women... I have sisters. I'm just stating facts. Even Linda Ikeji insinuated the same theory I'm stating, so I don't understand why you feel I'm bashing women. A 40 year old male has more value than a 40 year old female when it comes to marriage matters. This is a fact.

You aren't stating facts, rather perpetuating your sentiment as facts. You are mocking, endlessly judging and creating unreal expectations.

There are countries where there is nothing wrong with a woman getting married at 40, but on this forum, you guys have so much analyses of what the woman did or didn't do to end up that way. Is it that every man she met was a great fit? It's almost as if a lot of old bachelors pass under the radar while they point at women in their shoes.

Men have as much value women do at 40, it is simply that in your society you've convinced yourselves as men that men have it all. A man at 40 who isn't married and doesn't have children is low value. If he had value he would've been married earlier.

Brassers:
Na their yanga still big pass o


My former bitch was just cruising in her 27... I told her she won't get any easier relationship if I dropped her with her annoying character, she thought I was joking... I left her, she thought I would miss her lol... She called me after one week to act as if nothing happened and started forming special adviser.. I just tell am say "what ur business with my life ?" Shame won kill d bascard... Na she hang up

Till now, she go call tire... I dey pray make she marry sha cos d guy wey go marry am ehn, I go clap for d guy.

D gal na all shades of ASHAWO AND ANY CHARACTER COMBINE

Okay, perfect saint. We've heard you. You were 100% the best guy, no flaws, just perfect.

It's a good thing that we know bitches move with dogs.

EMMNIG:
Swthrt be patient ok.
My immediate younger sister married last month at 41yrs.
It was something to behold, The man is a working class, handsome, young and had never married before. God is faithful to be trusted my dear. To a point i told my wife that we should give her our last daughter in form of adoption. But she asked me if I had given up on God, and I said no, she said ok let's continue to pray and trust God.
She meet this Guy, in less than 5months Marriage plan started. Today they are happily married. I pray for you today, that in the Name of Jesus who bless my sister with Husband will bless you too.
Congratulations in advance..

Please, tell all these little boys that life is beyond their mocking of women. They think they know everything and are quick to mock unmarried women.

emmanuelbrown26, Qwr123, kay29000 can you see?

emmanuelbrown26:
U can't compare life of a man with a woman. Women expires after 25 down to 29years. U see 30year old lady is so shattered both mentally and emotionally.
I was engaging one sometime ago, d way dis aunty dey fast and pray all bcs of a man I keep wondering if men dun finish for dis kantri.
When a woman start flexing muscle with a man,she tends to remain single for d rest of her life, if u think say na lie go and ask @Blessedmercy8

Why wouldn't she be praying and fasting when people like you are mocking her endlessly? Dictating what she did and didn't do? Brandishing unproven sentiment as fact?

All this nonsense about a woman flexing her muscles at men is infantile, prejudiced talk at best. You know nothing about women and what they did and didn't do.

Leave women to live their lives, because if men were subjected to just a half of what they put women through, a lot of you would have mental health issues.

There are a lot of single old bachelors, but nobody is constantly berating them.

bigpicture001:
Guy! u guys shod stop talking marriage down...

Marriage is important but maybe not necessary, we all need someone to love us and be with us...someone to spend time witg as we age,someone who wouldn't giv up on us...someone who will always be sure to be there.....now thats why we marry,

Procreation is another good reason.....we almost need partners, weather as gay,straight etc..everyone needs someone to love them


.

You can have all that without marriage, if marriage is what is used to determine happiness and having a family.

The mistake we make is trying to fit everyone into a mould. If these people have tried and they're getting to 40 and people are mocking them that they are not married and have no children, they should feel free to rubbish societal rules that can't help them or save them. People can love and partner outside of marriage. People can have children outside of marriage.

Too many rules are what have made many women spinsters and made them victims of callous judgemental men and women out there.

kay29000:
Exactly. I remember when Linda Ikeji got pregnant and when the guy didn't want the kid, she said she had to have him, cos she was 37 at the time, and said her chances of having another kid was very slim as she was getting closer to 40. So, even though her boyfriend at the time didn't want her to have the baby, she went ahead to have it. Females are only hotcake from 18-27...from 28, they start to lose value in the dating world.

There are women getting married over 40. Kamala Harris, Sinach.

I don't know how you people have concluded that men can marry at 50 and women can't. The good news is that you can't dictate these things, and if it's not your preference, there's another man comfortable with it.

It's not as if the value of a 40 year old man is high top the teenagers he's targeting, asides the money he might have to offer them.

garriAndsugar:
Nice.. sometimes people tend to care about what the society thinks than their own happiness. I don't see anything bad in having children without getting married as long as they can be catered for

Just what I posted and had a misinterpretation. This place harps on the order of life milestones as if that's what matters.

So what if you have a child before marriage? So what if you're living together before marriage? So what if you're not a virgin when you get married? There's no order to happiness.

There's a lot of judgement and pressure, but people who have tried and can't have it in the expected order shouldn't feel bad to do it in whatever order gives them joy and peace. The end justifies the means.

doggedfighter:
Is that Nairaland's gazzuzz ?




Other than car issues didn't know he helps ladies looking for husbands too.


On the issue, love finds everyone at different times.


While waiting keep busy , if you can and you desire a child so much , birth one or adopt.

It helps and can make one happy !

LMAO