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franchasofficia:
For any marriage to work, the woman must love the man more than the man loves her.



Any man that marries a woman he loves more than she loves him is on a very long thing.



Na women de uphold marriage not man

Boldly stated untruths.

How can the head of the home depend on mere women to uphold the marriage for him? This is how men have traded their destinies for scraps.

The problem is that many men cannot love, so in turn are not loved.

efelicity:
I noticed a drastic change in my wife's behaviours lately. She doesn't cook, doesn't prepare our two kids for school, always citing body pains. I took the responsibility of cooking and preparing our kids. That is just by the way, she stopped having sex with me always saying she doesn't have the feelings to have sex. I suspect her of cheating because few weeks ago i heard her listening to WhatsApp voice note, a chat between her and another man. I demanded to have the phone but she refused. My wife answers calls at odd hours of the night but if i query her she would claim it's a friend or her boss at her work place. It's morethan a month when last i had sex with my wife.


I'm not harsh and I provide for my family. But my wife's behaviour ir burning me deep in my heart. I sometimes cry when alone in office or at home. Please advse me on what to do as iam pained and confused.

You've gotten fat and don't care for yourself like you did when you were trying to attract her. Go to the gym, eat right, take a shower and be her sugar daddy. Look good and sexy for her. Otherwise she will get a side piece. And we can't blame her, because women are visual creatures.

dfrost:
And Puyol's account was hacked too?

Lol. Two men can't fool around, huh

Why? Was expecting Pique to come out next.

kacglobal:
Baba stop this nonsense talk. Go n check well. Why did the fruit seller marry the man at first?
I'm sure she wasn't a fruit seller to begin with.
And am very certain that the jobless man wasn't jobless when they married.

N the only reason she doesn't leave is the kids.

N if u analyse deeply you would find out what the man has gone through in the hands of the woman for losing his source of living.

Then for him to now give up totally means the woman has over done something for him to just throw everything away n give up.

No respect anymore and more things. That follow suit after losing his source of lively hood.

So no lady ever in this world lower their standards for a man. Unless they are evening newspaper..

Go to the FP and stop your nonsense permutations.

He suddenly lost his livelihood, because it's impossible for men to never have had a livelihood. One-sided narrative always. There are many young women marrying jobless, useless men everyday. There are many men with useless standards, and many others who are gigolos and kpokogris of the world who leech on women.

It's only on this forum that there is the delusion that women are lazy and men do so much. After all, your sisters and mothers are all jobless and should have no standards.

Maybe we should talk about what women are going through in the hands of men, because men aren't the only ones going through anything.

O..kay

lhordspy:
Lol. Keep fooling yourself.

Is that an hausa/fulani man to you?

E be like say na the yiibo OP be that self. The big belle and the head gave you up.

Have you heard of the Christians in the North of Hausa and Fulani extraction? It seems people live in a country and don't take trips around. If at all for no other reason, join a foreign body and experience these places.

NOwazobia:
The lady has a very low IQ all rounds.

I wonder how her husband found taste in her...

Maybe is the usual big yansh and big breast marriage with hollow brain, which is common these days.

Says another polygamous and sexual being like the man who married her.

Those are the specs you desire. What do you people gain from condemning the only traits you find attractive in women? The men who condemn women's physical appearances are the ones most obsessed with them.

SamOchuko:
Not me my dear, you can share any such comment I’ve made if you’ve any, there’re evil men as there’re bad women, that I know, I’ll never accuse all women cause of one devilish woman, it will be unwise of me.

Hopefully.

But that is left to history.

Ebenman:
Firstly, I typed with a tiny phone.
Secondly, I typed the content very late.
Thirdly, I never claimed to be a native speaker, so English is not my first language.

I don't mind if you can sponsor me to Oxford University, where you learn English as a native language.

Aren't you a rich man able sponsor himself anymore? Or did students at Oxford tell you that you only have a Nigerian NCE, are too short, not able to learn, ugly and from a populous nation and can't go there?

[quote author=Terror48 post=117393006][/quote]lol that guy is posting some high grade tosh

kacglobal:
If tables were turned will a lady lower her standard for the guy. If he is the NCE holder from a poor family, n. Hard working?

I just want to know. Let's all keep the same energy.

Do women marry men, or men marry women? And is a woman marrying a substandard man anything new? Even fruit selling women are catering to able bodied jobless men they look forward to marrying.

lereinter:
How?

Lol.

When he doesn't marry her, the next guy will say she's a prostitute.

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Rich Jason Hot-Body Mamoa, stop stringing her along. Go and find your kind.

We know she's an illiterate, short, poor and ugly virgin with tons of siblings you can't cater for despite your riches. She's not your standard woman. Why keep up with her then?

You don't want to build with her, you don't want to work with her from the ground up, you want a ready made woman without passing through any stress. You don't want to know that her future is bright.

Wonder how the forum would react if you were a she.

Skyview01:
You are not helping by giving money. Teach them how to make money instead.

Isn't that the point of giving them capital? So that they can make money for themselves?

Touchy subject, but most people are geared to thinking they have some change in their pockets as a result of being feisty, hardworking and wise people. They think it's their effort that's gotten them what they have. Probably only 10% of humans actually are feisty, hardworking and wise people who have earned their keep. The rest have it by opportunity and time, not some grand effort on their part.

The question is, are we supposed to go around creating more and more dependent people? Shouldn't it be every man for himself? At what point is their state beyond their control and ours within ours? Is it ever something we can control? They can control?

Most of the things we have as privilege, we see as laziness and lack of commitment/will in those who don't have them. Referring to other things such as talents, skills, gifts, etc. Most times, we don't deserve anything we have but feel so self-righteous about it. Usually because we lack experience and empathy.

But being human is to look down from our egos and feel like gods. We're all guilty. We lack that perfection.

SamOchuko:
Your husband, your son(s), your dad and brothers included right?

"Women are whores and bitches"

In other news...

Always nice to see men fighting tags they so easily distribute and enforce on women.

fxexperts:
Can you imagine? this is all you could comprehend from this post. I think all men should avoid your type of women, Cause i pity the man that will ever marry your type, i doubt if he will live pass 32. You are Truely a bitter feminist. I blame the man for keeping and tolerating her narcisstic character for this long. I a glad he is wise now, if i were to know him personally i will advice him to igonore and divorce.

You decided to read that long gibberish, and you're affected by it. Nobody will read such an epistle in its entirety unless they were paid to. Or they're an emotional wreck.

He's much older than 32, so save your fears for yourself. Relax, "you will die single, nobody will marry you" red pill boy, many of us are past that stage. Besides, it's a Nigerian stage and not applicable to everyone. The same way red pillers get married is the same way feminists get married. So, relax.

Explorers:
The last fatal kangaroo attack in Australia was in 1936 when hunter William Cruickshank, 38, tried to rescue his two dogs from a fight with a kangaroo in Hillston in western New South Wales.

He suffered a broken jaw and extensive head injuries and later died in hospital.

The Great Southern region is home to the western grey kangaroo, which can grow to be about 70 kilograms and 97 to 223 centimetres from head to tail.


Wildlife expert Hayley Shute, the curator of the Australian Reptile Park in New South Wales's Central Coast, has revealed the warning signs a kangaroo is about to attack.

She said kangaroos will puff out their chests, lean back on their tails and do anything to 'make themselves look bigger' if they feel threatened.

'Male kangaroos will battle one another to be the alpha male,' she told Daily Mail Australia.

'Their bodies are built for kicking and fighting their nickname is the boxing kangaroo.

Just look at the muscles on that thing. Guess it's thigh Sunday for it tomorrow.

Victoria95:
He's dangerous to the society.
Nobody can be safe around him: classmates, neighbours, relatives.etc

Exactly.

Who knows what would happen if one of the people who are castigating his late mother annoy him tomorrow. He would kill them without caring.

maxnedu11:
There are some names and words we should never call people especially our own children, she brought out the monsters in him, its very heartbreaking for a mother to call her own son such a name. See the mess all this have caused in the family.
Lets learn to control our tongue and emotions, that's the least we can do for ourself, times are tough and people are easily irritated.

Do you know the monster he brought out in her that led to her calling him a bastard? Some sons are terrible creatures, and it's only testament to his horrific character that he murdered her. Maybe he's a street urchin who she was very tired of, maybe a drug user, rapist and killer. After all, it is sons that are Yahoo boys and criminals in society. He knows why she did that.

hobat4cash:
Yeah I did, so?

You deserve a medal. If you could summarize the real crux of his post, we'd all appreciate it. I had to stop after the first paragraph. He talks too much.

DollarSigns:
Omo fear that kind guyman wer fit write Nairaland statement full 20 pages cos he go fit nag full 30 hours
Asin dat kind hubby & parrot weda who for nag pass?

Lol. He is worse than a parrot. In fact, all the talk he did is beginning to make it look like a bad seasonal movie. Awaiting the wife's parroting back.

naijainstinct:
God is not coming down to save stupid people like his wife and yourself.

You are the stupid one here. Very stupid. Seriously stupid. Lol.

I feel only pity for you, as the state you're in you can't even pity yourself.

VULCAN:
Let us not forget "YOUR WILD ASSUMPTION".

Lollzz. We should not forget an imaginary assumption which nothing in the story supports.

Even the narcissistic wife did not say such.

Let us not forget...

How can we remember something that has never existed?

Hahahaha

Chaii

And this person always tries to claim intelligence

A daft person who never misses attacking men on relationship threads but is never found expounding wisdom on other type of threads

Oh, shut up with your usual deathly stupid epistles. I'm not even going to read a word of your usual tripe.

Bye, Felicia.

hobat4cash:
Really? smh. It's easy to claim Voltron online. Continue.

Did you read all of it?

DollarSigns:
Omo abeg how many pages this post go be for MS word?

Anyone who read that post really is bored. After the first paragraph, it's easy to see why the wife is tired of him.

LalastiklaIa:
Keep quiet a bitch will always stand by a bitch.

One thing I noticed about women such as this op's wife is that they have a dick that is slamming them hard doggystyle from behind and causing them to misbehave and not care if their marriage ends or not. So your last resort to provoke the man to go his way and have the Alpha big dick all yourself. Awon Oniranu.

See username the bitter bitch gave herself . Meteoritey .

You seen to be more embittered than the woman. Even the OP didn't call his wife a bitch, but in your pain that's your mantra.

Let's not forget that the man could be cheating with an alpha woman. We won't call him a dog for leaving his wife behind, though. That would be stupidity. Let us rather whine bitch when even the man doesn't think of his wife as such.

Pity.

alphabbey1:
9 weeks!!! Damm 9 weeks!!!..C'mmon sis.. without hearing from your hubby ? And you sent irrelevant message on 10th week ? .... she's obviously calling to ask for her funding for the ridiculous budget she created, not that she's interested or concerned on the man's feelings during those times she ignored him....

You can agree with me that a woman that loves you will not ignore you for up to a week... Never, unless you killed her child or extinct her family...

9 weeks is nothing when he lives in Canada and she's in Nairobi. They aren't together physically, so if they don't call each other for over a week, it isn't a big deal. After all, the OP says he's a very busy man, and she's showing him that she's just as busy.

blaise26abj:
If the husband knew her character before marriage and went ahead anyways , then he has only himself to blame . There are men who can handle her no matter how few they might be .

True. He definitely knew this is how she is, just as she knew that he's the way he is. Most married people are the same when you look close enough.

phemmyfour:
No she shouldn't..... remember that There's no correct way to do anything according to you

There's no correct way to achieve life's milestones, but there's a correct way to cover your large umbilical cord, don't you think?