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MadamExcellency:
Coworkers, even junior and senior staff.

Is this true? Thought it was merit based? Or do the white men running the oil companies do voodoo to get and keep jobs?

AmazonTopaz:
You are so mentally bereft of ideas or intelligence I just feel it is because of internet anonymity that is why you say this nonsense without sense even today humans are evolving and women are getting involved in that process but your dull head cannot tell you that because in the bush you reside women have their place.

Lol @the last line.

Your dealing with angry, bitter, jilted poor boys/men whose only salvation lies in trying to oppress women to feel better about themselves.

They are confused bachelors high on red pill books and misogyny. You will never see them drop a rational or logical post as they claim to.

Imagine when they begin to talk about periods as if that is something for women to be ashamed of. They're gradually falling apart.

Kparoskii:
Its better a bad man rules and makes things bad than for a woman to rule and destroy everything.
Remember men dont have periods, there's a reason God made women weaker and it never included ruling over men.

When you have no logic or rationale for sentimentally wanting to keep women underneath you, you fall to using the name of God in vain. Or talking about periods.

Open your mouth and say your above to all the women you know if you are a real man. Do it, or didn't God make you a man again?

Buzz off.

MadamExcellency:
They told us it's normal, that even your church people do it. Evil men in evil confraternity.

Who said that it's normal? The fraternity members?

candygist:
I also lost a huge opportunity because I refused to Bleep a gay man. The man reside in PH too. The guy get money like say tomorrow no dey. The thing pain me but I'm not angry.

Lilvicky68, come and see what we're seeing.

Everything bad is happening in Port Harcourt!

SEGLIZ:
my stand is this I'm not against women neither am I for any tribe leading this nation through.
they should stop playing the victim rather act proactively. the way they sound seems like they want it on a platter of gold, this won't work. someone like Natasha Akpoti is holding her head tall for women.
I would support for a presidency if she indicate her interest. one thing they don't realize is it won't be a day job. consistency should come handy, now they've all gone to rest while their enemies are advancing.
age is still on Natasha's side repeated contest at the national level would give her the publicity and awareness need, getting the electorate familiar with her name then the final kill.
I would prefer Natasha compare to ezekwesili.

I'm indifferent about who runs any country, but there's no reason to shoot down competent people because of their gender.

There are a lot of women ready to prove themselves if they are allowed to when they follow the right channels. It is only if you have been close to a woman gunning for these things that you will understand some of these things. It's not about them feeling entitled. There's also no reason to make things harder for them than it is for men, all in a bid to make them "prove" themselves, outside of what their male counterparts would do.

It would be interesting if we could ask Natasha to tell everything that has happened to her, and the perception she receives in her opinion. It would always be welcome knowledge if she tells how she got there and how it is being there. It could spur more women into politics.

Natasha is young, as you say, and it would be nice to see where she gets to at the peak of her future in politics. Desmond Elliot would be another growth to observe.

And please, have mercy on Ezekwesili. Hope it's not because of her politicking of recent years?

AmazonTopaz:
They are fools why waste your time engaging them the misogynist on nairaland are a small segment of the men.Some of them know the OP stated facts they can lie to themselves all they want but they cannot argue facts away

It's irritating that every time there's a thread that involves women, rather than using their thinking caps, they begin to release smelly logic all over the place. Poor angry boys and men have changed the place into a misogynist Haven.

No further comment on this thread. Men and boys of today are dreadfully demented.

SEGLIZ:
@BRATISLAVA, do you think we have men on this forum? rather we have kids not even boys. I don't want to compound my headache by reading the folly of some guy that went through school but never allowed school run through them, an annoyance of keyboard warriors, that only learnt to read and write but left out the wisdom, knowledge and understanding aspect of learning.
reading through nairaland is something else entirely. bunch of kids everywhere, I'm not against our women. my issues with them is on the basis, first being the way they go about playing victim of suppression and marginalisation. second is even the women that were given opportunity blew it all, from daziani, patricia ete, .............. even recently is the case of hadiza usman. the few that has the chance had not fair better off.
that don't mean if there is any credible candidate among them I won't lend my support, why won't I? I will. for those block headed redpill and self acclaimed alpha mangoes, if only they know........... I rest my case on them.

The forum is not what it used to be before. People judge from gender rather than from reason. And the voice of those unsound people is louder than that of the sane ones, it seems. You are right they are boys, but even some older ones are into it.

But to the matters you mentioned:

They are not playing victim or suppression. You really need to ask women why they have backed from leadership roles, or what they had to pass through to get there. Sometimes it's better you hear from them for yourself. Their claims are real. Some are unbelievable. For instance, the Joy Nunieh v Akpabio saga. We cannot say they are playing victim or claiming marginalization. Imagine if the men they meet are like nairaland gender bias men?

Secondly, women have blown it, but compared to the number of men who have and still are in larger numbers, they cannot be ruled out simply because of that. There are successes more than fails. We cannot tar them all because of Hadiza or Etteh. Because there's a successful woman in leadership for each one of them.

I think both men and women should be given fair standing, equal opportunities without prejudice and we will get better results in the country. If there were too be female replacements for most political thugs/ministers, things could be better. But we will never know, because Nigeria doesn't work that way.

Weathered:
God's plan is supreme and well suited. God's supreme ruler and there's no alternative. It's for better for worse.....So it is with male leadership. 5 million years and now women discovered they were born rulers because mentally sterile whelps like you read one 200 page ideology book?

Hard but but I have simplified it for your soft brains.

You're even one of the emptiest type of misogynist. You fall on religion where your irrational sentimentality cannot hold water.

Spout off your sentiment at your wife and daughters. They are the only ones who could believe you.

Buzz off.

Rubbiish:
U keep shouting misogyny??
Can't u argue with clear facts?
U mentioned some names, I asked u to list how these women impacted Nigeria positively?? I give u a snippet of the things men have achieved! Naturally, things are done judging by antecedent, the female antecedent doesn't bespeaks of they have much to offer in leadership! The records are there!

These women u mentioned discharge their duties even below capacity! U people should stop exaggerating mediocrity! Moreover no one is stopping women from contesting political positions, if u want something go for it, don't come here to blackmail anyone with gender card, because that is the only thing u women are good at!

You know who the women are, list their achievements and stop looking for who will do the work for you.

Tell all the above and past mentions to your wife and daughters.

You claim nobody is stopping women, yet in the same breath you don't believe they should be leaders, and past female leaders aren't worth it. You have everything to say against them. They must work hard and right all the destruction men wreaked, but the men rubbishing your Nigeria, did they work as hard and aren't you men still the ones compensating them for the destruction?

Who are you fooling if not yourself?

Give women a fair chance to do everything men do, not limiting them then claiming they want special treatment. If you knew how many women have been turned down from leadership because of their gender and underpaid, you would shut up and praise the gods that you were born with a p3nis. Blackmail indeed.

Some of you need a dose of reality, not the fantasy that misogyny and male privilege have given you.

Read the comments on this thread to know why women aren't in leadership.

Or better still, go and ask a real woman with capacity for leadership.

Done with you.

Rubbiish:
Let me tell u today, if not for men, the world would have been long inexistent! U keep mentioning Dora, okonja, etc, tell me one thing they did that is currently impacting Nigeria positively till date? You people should stop exaggerating mediocrity. Men fought for Nigeria independence, men built this nation, all the wars this nation has fought were fought by men! Stop being sentimental!

Utter rubbish rubbiish that I didn't read.

You are irrational to think a person cannot lead because they are a woman. Sentimental toxic male.

Misogyny is dangerous stupidity.

Weathered:
Okay. as opined by Bratislava, the becrowned crusader of virgina is equal to virtue.

And I was thinking you were only suffering chronic forms of sexual identity crisis. I will add, perceptual disturbances and brain lesions

Do us all a favor and shut up, misogynist.

Get back to your knuckle dragging.

I don't even have time to read whatever you typed, because it's for yourself.

Weathered:
BRATISLAVA, BRA-TIZ-LAVA, such a strong-sounding name but borne by someone whose emotion drips away like a pulsating dick-graving pussy

The only indisputable remarkable thing women have done history is nurturing living seed planted inside them.

You cannot point me to any other thing.

If women were to be ruling the world, wexeoyks have bastards all over the place, no identity, no culture, or standard and they will, like you, would have substituted emotions for logic.

Go away now, I'm done with you.

Empty p3nis wielder.

You should really educate yourself and stop spouting rubbish illogical sentiment about capacity based on gender. Give women a fair opportunity without gender bias and they will do much better.

Your comments have reduced the collective IQ of nairaland misogynists. Get a life beyond trying to belittle women where you have failed.

Get back to your knuckle dragging.

Rubbiish:
List the noticeable impact these people made u mentioned??
Why do u people make it seem women are restricted from contesting?
Is anyone stopping women from contesting political positions?
If u want something, u go for it, it shouldn't be given to u on a platter of gold because u are a woman! Such is a bad start for leadership!

Why don't you list the impact they made for yourself, if not that you've made yourself blind to it because it came from women?

Your male leaders, much like yourself, have destroyed everything and even shoot you lot for sport as SARS officers, and yet, you don't want women anywhere near leadership.

In your mind, only people with p3nises could have done anything you will take note of.

Misogyny is dangerous stupidity.

Kparoskii:
What benefits? please list them
Idiots
Know your place woman
Weaker vessels

The usual retort of empty misogynists.

You're taking medicines that aren't dangerous and still have a high degree of degenerate idiocy to ask after benefits.

Strong vessels that are destroying the world. The good news is that men will destroy it and even kill themselves, and it's still the blood of men that will undo the evils that men created. It happened in 1945, it will happen again. The vessels don't disappoint.

Know your place, man. Read it again.

Weathered:
you're grossly limited in comprehensive reasoning, I'm afraid.

Misogyny is a baseless hate for women that should be condemned.

The fact remains women are unsuited for technology, leadership and power....it's fact and biology.

I'm ashamed you're mentioning only 3 women in Nigeria's history on a population of 200 million!

Two of the women functioned at ministerial positions, in Nigeria, you don't need independent mind to be a minister....you just follow the script of your boss.

Ezekwesili is a disgrace to herself and should be to people like you if you don't have your emotions dictating to your brains.

What makes you think women are incompetent except stupid misogyny? Women have bettered your life and your still moaning and hating everything they do.

Oh, so now ministers suddenly work under their bosses, because you can't stand the thought of a woman in leadership. Shift.

All your Nigerian male ministers and politicians are a disgrace and ruin to your country. But you will see nothing wrong with it, because you don't want women at any cost.

Carry your toxic masculinity/misogyny and assumptions about competence based on sexual organs to a cave. Leadership is suddenly determined by having a p3nis.

If it were your daughter who wanted leadership, you wouldn't be talking so much garbage.

Leadership by gender indeed.

Rubbish.

Weathered:
women in general.... there's little difference between Nigeria women and other women and one of the things they have in common is great deficit in leadership and independent opinion on any subject.

Nigerian women cannot handle power, yet Nigerian men benefited immensely from the changes Akunyili, Okonjo Iweala, Ezekwesili and other top performers made to previous destruction by men.

Misogyny is a dangerous form of stupidity, and leads to murder and evil.

SEGLIZ:
you are right but truth is who is stopping them from competing and contesting during elections?
the way and manner at which they about this their campaign confirms your question 'Wetin nigerian women wan introduce if they rule this country.'
they they present it like someone is somewhere holding them back from contesting for office.

If you go through the posts from men on this thread, you will see why even if a woman contested and is the better candidate it will be given to another nation-destroying man.

There are all kinds of justification for bad leaders, just because they prefer a man is the leader. Toxic masculinity is a dangerous form of stupidity, going by the posts here. Nigerian men deserve their leaders oppressing them and harassing them.

Just go through the thread right up to your comment and tell the truth afterwards. You know what is stopping them.

PuZZyNegro:
Nairaland is a very terrible place to seek advice. Most people here will write trash just for the likes.

Nairaland represents Nigeria people. Only few people are sensible. Others follow bandwagon.

Most of the people insulting you now will still blame your sister if and when the man is unable to take care of her and the children.

I had a sister like that who married her husband because the man appears to be a church goer. My sister's question to my mum then was "between a rich man and a man that knows God which do you prefer?"

Many years later, my sister still borrows to pay rent. I'm sure if we turn our back on her, she would have been thrown to the street with her children.

The only thing the stupid man does is to keep getting her pregnant. My sister foots all the family bills, from rent to school fees, feeding, hospital treatment, etc.

She has even saved up money to start some business for the husband but they all failed because every business seems stressful to him. He has a working class wife so why not?

Tell your sister that you will not look at her face when the financial responsibilities surface. That's how some girls will see fire and step into it. Which type of guy lacks self worth that he has to be eating daily in your house?

Been jobless for a whole two years? Trust me, that man will never make a good husband and father.

Forget whatever nairaland members are saying, most people here are hypocrite. Typing as if they don't need money themselves.

People should be able to live with their decisions in life. I'm sure by the time your sister ends up with this man and things get tough and you refuse to assist, she will see you as wicked.

Now her decision is hers but later she will want to share her responsibilities with your family.

That's how people go about giving birth to so many children than they can care for because it's their decision to make but when the responsibilities come, they will be looking for one uncle and aunty to assist.

Another truth teller.

Usually when a man depends on a woman for long, it is a habit that will never go away. She is automatically carrying the title of the breadwinner, and she will always have to, even when nursing babies. The man will be free to pursue frivolities and live off her, leeching and leeching. It starts from somewhere.

Many people will be angry at what she posted, that she's supposed to help him grow. But who will help her grow while she's helping him grow? And will he ever stop needing the grooming from her? Growing isn't only in one direction.

When they get married he will open a thread with: "Help! My wife is emasculating me and turning my children against me!" To Garner sympathy when he knows the truth.

Some men are inborn lazy species, and only God can help their families when they have one.

Melst:
Hypocrites are insulting you. Same guys that have been screaming they don't want a liability in a woman are now supporting a man that lost his job for two whole years and can't find something little doing rather he is living off his girlfriend. If she doesn't leave him, he will not wake up and behave like a man should. Even I can't stay jobless for two years depending on anyone. No teaching job around? Security? Any goddamn thing or even business no matter how small. She should better not carry that load. See women dying anyhow because they are carrying a load that is not meant for them. It's better she's single than be with a man that will sit idle for two years. Except you are exaggerating it sha. Anybody that is being spoon fed will not step out of his/her comfort zone and make something better for and of themselves. It is not a crime to crave a comfortable life for yourself and your sister. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. If she loves that guy, she should push him to get something no matter how small. As for the new guy, she might have her reasons. For him to be that comfortable but still single says a lot though not for all his kind.

You are one of the few speaking the truth.

awulio:
She has no say bcuz she’s not the one dating the man. It’s obviously the sisters house and not the family house..... OP should focus on her own issues instead of getting involved in the sisters drama. The Op is only calling the man a parasite bcuz a richer man likes the sister.... girls that just follow men for money will never be respected or treated well bcuz the guy knows she’s just there for money.... OP has no vision based on what she posted, her whole anger is based on the amount of money the man has and not his vision. I repeat I dislike such girls bcuz they tend to be senseless.

The man has no vision, so you can stop attacking the OP. Whether or not she jobless, the man is jobless in particular. She, too, has a deep relationship with her sister. She has a say. It's her sister. Dating doesn't have to destroy someone's braincells. Did you see where she said all he does is watch premier league matches with neighbors? The guy is just there for the sisters money at this point. And that is the sisters anger.

Which "vision"? Vision that everybody possesses is now some special thing that only broke men carry? The guy is a parasite at this point and part of his vision is to live off her sister for no gain save blinding sex.

I dislike such men as the one described because they tend to be senseless leeches.

computer0810:
Am not talking about travelling out but going our separate way coz dis union will never work

It should be about traveling, because the country is infiltrated already. These guys carry cattle right up to the ocean front.

computer0810:
It will be a thing of joy if dey attack the national assembly, Remi tinubu should have a feel of what terrorists and bandits r about so she can realise those animals don't care about political parties when doing there evil

You should be more worried for people that don't have the money to travel out.

Lazycapitalist2:
The problem is simple.

Desertification is driving many herders down South

That's why the governemt of ecowas countries should do something about the Sahara desert expanding

Desertification, and yet Shekau is in the forests up there. Desertification is a gimmick. They know the true reason for their movement.

CodeTemplar:
What happened to Niger republic that they are leaving there in raining season.

And they are on their way to Bauchi State.

It seems the FCT is falling for one of their pranks. How they moved unhindered from Niger republic is another thing, aren't the borders controlled?

Who knows what weapons they are moving with, and for which purpose.

orohbiro:
Sense they say is really far of for good 2yrs a grown up man who has balls between his legs will come to my sister apartment to eat and argue about premier league like his life depend on it with neigbours those he is even older than, and u want me to keep quiet, my sister is very beautiful to be feeding a man she deserved to live like a Queen and she will be 27 this year. The order guy in question is responsible and he is calm he is ready to pay the bride price is my sister that is delaying the WHOle thing. I don't want her to leave the life of how we go do na, my boyfriend is a Senior staff at excravors

You are trying to explain to a forum full of poverty lashed men. They will only see evil in what you've posted.

You should've changed the genders if you wanted reasonable comments from nairaland males.

Lucyspa:
So it's safe to say that about 70% of guys on here are broke and struggling. No wonder there is so much aggression and bile on here. God help you all.

Lol, if you switch the genders you know who they will call parasites, and broke ass leeches.

If you see the feet of some of the aggrieved men commenting, you will say a prayer for them. It's poverty that makes men so hateful. I've been saying it.

Op even tells us he prefers watching premier league matches all day while the sister feeds him in their home. Men of today are becoming shameless. Later they will cry the red pill.

awulio:
I repeat if he was spending on her sister when he had a job the girl has no right to call him a pest. Ppl always go through trials in life. Only a gold digger will leave a man when his broke... I repeat op should butt out of it and focus on bettering herself. All these broke ass girls always looking for someone to leech on and once they hv sucked all the guys blood they then throw them away... if op was working and doing something with her life she wouldn’t hv time to focus on what her sister does..... if the man has a vision and treats her right then the sister should stay with him and build with him.

She's a gold digger if she leaves him, but he's not been a gold digger for 2 years?

As much as there are broke ass girls, there are broke ass guys leeching on women and nobody is concerned about their productivity in the relationship rather they want the women to build with him. It's a parasitic relationship and it has not changed because he's a man and has a "vision". Don't the broke girls you referred to have a vision, or you think they want to be broke?

If the guy was working or doing something with his life, OP wouldn't have to call him out. He comes to their house to eat, are you sure it's not their parents house? She has a say. She's a good sister.

ovieigho:
He told you he can influence decisions at the embassy

Guy I am 1000% sure that you have been scammed

If you are lucky to get a visa , believe me it’s not about his effort it’s your luck which I believe you can process it yourself without paying one million to anyone

If you don’t get it , he don use u gamble and will seek his next victim

It's guys like him that make fake travel agencies work.

lilvicky68:
Lol..chai

But it's true , that's what played out in the baba ij matter

Even if they call them out, men will ask for evidence because women are scheming day and night to destroy his career, and when she gives evidence, they will still want to see the sex videos with the semen dripping, and when they see that they will still say she was an ashawo, that it's what she was looking for that she got.

awulio:
When he was working she didn’t see him as a parasite. No one knows how much the man has spent on her sister when he had money. Plus it’s the sisters choice who she marries not the OP....It’s non of her business. If the sister is not complaining then she has no right to butt in.

When he was working he was not a parasite (theoretically), but for two years he's been one. Do you know if the man was ever able to stand on his own or they were sharing bills? Would he have done the same for her if she didn't have the job? What if he's still there just to eat her money free?

She has no right to butt in, but how many people have helped your partner decide on that to do with you through their interference?

It's her sister, she has a right to be concerned about her sister being blinded by love for a guy who has leeched 2 entire years to the point he's an outright pest.

She has as much right to leech on her as the man does, don't try to guilt her, as if the man is entitled to.