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OneTemplate:
Guy, grow up and start showing maturity. One of the qualities of an adult is the ability to make decisions that is in the interest of what is best for all.

A representative panel was constituted over the Lekki tollgate saga to include youths representatives. The decision to handover the tollgate to LCC was put to the vote.

Those who wanted the tollgate handed over to LCC won 5 to 4. As an adult you must learn to abide by democratic decisions which is the will of the majority even if you dont agree with choices made. You can't chose which decisions to accept or reject merely to suit your sentimental and immature approach to life.

Also, proper adults understand it is important to separate issues so we can see things clearly. Justice for victims has nothing to do with whether the tollgate is opened or remains shut.

It is about establishing culpability , if any, and bringing wrongdoers to book. I am sorry to say but you Nigerian youths are very disappointing. You can't think critically , you dont appear to have the intellectual 'robustness' your peers worldwide do and you can never see all sides of the coin let alone have the ability to be fair to all. LCC (Lagos concession company) shot no one.

The tollgate was legally and contractually conceded to them under a BOT deal. Some of us live in adult worlds where we understand we must respect contracts and legal obligations and not be emotional about every single thing.

Anyone not happy about the transparent votes that handed the tollgate to LCC , when names of those who voted and how they voted was announced publicly, should go to court as the article advised. Only lawless anarchists will be protesting at the tollgate when other Avenues exist to seek redress for whatever decisions they are unhappy with.

Fahdiga:
After satisfying yourself outside you will come back home and start talking rubbish

livingchrist:
You will not understand, because to you it is a gender war! Of cause that is what feminism teaches you but that is a lie.
You think God plays blame game? When Adam blame eve, did it save Adam from his judgment? What about when eve blame the serpent, did it absolve eve? Instead of repentance they started doing blame game, exactly what you are doing.
Instead of calling men and women to repentance towards God and faith towards Jesus, satan is telling you rebellion is the solution.
Does the fact that because men are evil ( and women too )does that mean you will become more wicked?
Sorry madam growing yourself is not the solution rather repentance towards God, let men and women return back to God who created them.

Isaiah 55:7
Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts: and let him return unto the LORD, and he will have mercy upon him; and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon.

I believe Jesus is the solution not feminism not redpill, yes the old rugged cross still remain the one and only way.

jesusjnr2020:
Which man are you talking of? Joseph?

I was speaking of Joseph and Portiphar's wife not anyone else. If it's Suleiman's story, i don't even know much about that needless say believe one person. The one I was aware of is that of Bisola and Biodun.

I'm not even fond of the Suleiman if he's the one you're speaking of, so please don't accuse me falsely of something I'm not guilty of.

You're actually the one that is guilty of what you're accusing me of. You said you'd just believe whenever a woman accused a man of such, so doesn't that mean you're not willing to listen to both sides?

BLOODYSPERM:
You are bloody Simp from the Devil

Blood of Jesus

TUANKU:
There's no evil a man has done to a woman that a woman hasn't done same to a man. A woman will get married to one man while having kids for another man while still married...what could be more evil?

TUANKU:
Oppression is a human thing it's not limited to any particular gender. Women oppress their fellow women quite often too.

jesusjnr2020:
Don't do this to yourself. It seems you've been a victim of such but you're allowing sentiments to becloud your judgment. I understand that there's a lot of sexism in the church including the leadership, that's something I am making efforts to address, because I believe that Jesus was not like that. There were many instances that proved this like that of the woman caught in adultery.

So i'm committed to following His example and making a difference concerning that. If you've followed me even with my deactivated moniker, you'd know the efforts i've made towards this. I even accused Paul of sexism because of some of his teachings which I believed were unfair to women. Such a position has led me to be at the receiving end of attacks by many Christians here.

I even stood with Busola Dakolo on her rape allegations against Biodun Fatoyinbo because i was convinced it was true. I even made a thread on that issue.

I had to do this to show that you're wrong that I'm inclined towards men. I am for fairness and justice and you need to be that also otherwise you won't be any different from the men you accuse of such.

Thanks and God bless.

TUANKU:
It's just an advise, take it or leave it. Men want women to work and bring home money because they're a part of the family. Your man is not your slave or vending machine. Like the legendary Tupac Shakur once said, "Bitch get a job if you wanna be rich".

livingchrist:
Feminism is the same all over the world, the movement was created by the luciferians as part of the new world order. It is all about control, manipulations and a very bitter arrow shot against the godly family system.

The most confused are those that label themselves Christian feminist just as labeling oneself a Christian muslim.
It is either you are on God's side or you are not there is no middle ground, nothing like an extremist Christian (a word coined to mock christians) or liberalist christian.

dominique:
When is he going to warn men not to join the red pill gang? Oh, I almost forgot! It's only women that need to keep adjusting themselves to suit the growing expectations of the society.

jesusjnr2020:
Are you sure that this is not a case of mistaken identity, because going by your comments you obvious don't know me.

I wasn't even supporting anyone here, but a female here said that whenever she hears any woman accuse any man of sexual assault or rape, that she would believe, and I thought that was taking things too far. I mean can't a woman just decide to frame an innocent man up for malicious reasons? So does that automatically mean that man becomes guilty just because she did so?

Does that make sense to you? If it does, that's blind sentiments concerning women. I'm for fairness and justice but not blind sentiments for women.

Maybe you should check out this threads to see what I mean.

https://www.nairaland.com/6256833/nonvirgin-men-moral-right-condemn

https://www.nairaland.com/6271429/why-christians-not-virgins-should

God bless.

AKwin:
And someone has hammered it into your coconut head, polygamy doesn’t solve unfaithfulness. The desire for extra partners is a natural urge, polygamy can’t solve it.

That is a simple logic you have refused to get over the years. If anyone is ranting, it is you. Look at how many lines you have typed.



You are the one with comprehension issues. How many people have corrected you now, yet you keep twisting like snake. Typing same nonsense.

Toks2008:
Another stale gist. I have written many times, nobody is stopping a woman not to cheat. When a man or woman cheat they face the consequence. SIMPLE.

And the consequence is not far fetched...A man cheats on his wife, the wife leaves him abi then after that what is next? how is that a guaranty that the next man wont cheat on her with even her family member?

And if a wife cheats the same consequence happens...she leaves then what?

See when i write like this many ladies dont see sense in it cos they allow their motions to cloud their sense of objectivity...I have written before and i will write it again....It is perfectly ok for a lady to leave her marriage cos her man cheats but be rest assured that any lady who changes men cos they cheat on her must be ready to be laid by as many men as possible and at the end, she will be seen as a worthless intimacy gadget .

Any reasonable lady will never make a man's sexual faithfulness a criterion for her marital happiness cos laslas it will most likely end in tears.

Get married, make babies and focus on your life. There are more important things in lfe than worrying your head over what a man does with his dick.

And did i hear another stale gist of the man bringing home STDs? ...the truth is that as long as you will ever sleep without protection with any other man, you are never ever goig to be really safe so if you suspect your husband is cheating, make him do a test or let him use a condom...i just believe that a woman leaving her marriage cos her husband cheats on her is one of the most foolish thing any woman can do.

Im writing too much..Let me stop her

jesusjnr2020:
I believe in fairness and justice for women, but i'm not sentimentally blind towards them so I can't possibly agree with that.

Only blind sentiments for women would make someone adjudge Joseph as guilty because he was in his master's house and his master's wife came to him to demand for sex, despite that he fled from her because of his fear of God.

God bless.

Racoon:
Madam have given up on Jibril hence don japa since. Where has it ever been heard that a president's wife will do all Aisha Buhari is doing @ present? I once saw this woman in Yola airport and kept wondering what really is the matter.

Toks2008:
Lol! If the lie is about cheating i dont think Femi has anything to defend. Men cheat and as bad as it sounds, it is what it is.

Ladies should just let us hear word with all these flimsy childish cheating allegations.

I blame the simpletons who cheat on their wives when they can glady marry extra wives and boldly enjoy their sexuality. Any lady who is not cool with that can leave. Let her go and find that man in Mars who will never cheat on her.

Toks2008:
I dont even understand the allegation to start with.

A man cheating on his wife is a stale gist but it is the part where disrespect comes in is what i try to understand.

That a man sleeps with another lady asides his wife to me is wrong and condemnable but it is not worth the noise. It happens.

sureteeboy:
It takes only 3 seconds to scan through the post to realise that the manager here is a lady, not a man.

Toks2008:
I'm trying hard to make sense of the whole thing even after going through the posts but the more i try the more confused i become.

Please can somebody throw more light?

I cant even see the cans let alone the worms.

mayklef:
which Reasonable woman go marry irresponsible Tout like Oristefemi in the first place?

gypsey:
yes i did actually. I wasn't like dem niggas and latinas walking around barechested. If that is whst you mean. Unlike in Slovakia

gypsey:
As i expected, you have no point.


FYI, i lived in Flo.

sapien:
Good evening, Romancelanders. It's quite a lengthy read, so bear with me.

This lady and I have been dating for the past 4 years, and I am planning on making it official later this year, though Covid-19 made my finances quite complicated recently, but things are getting back in shape.

Recently, specifically over 2 weeks ago, she suddenly stopped picking my calls. Prior to that, we haven't seen each other since September last year. She always comes up with one excuses or the other every weekend whenever I tell her to come over to my place or if I want to go over to her place to see her. I always have busy schedules during the midweek, so we usually have only weekends to see each other.

I have gone to see her mother and her siblings last year. They accepted me as a prospective in-law. The mum said she queried her daughter and she told her that I was the one she would like to spend the rest of her life with, hence the mum's invitation. Her mum usually calls me from time to time, and I do talk to her, too.

Couple of days back, I had to call the mum to report her daughter to her regarding the uncharacteristic change in her daughter's behaviour, and how, despite living in the same city, we haven't seen each other in 4 months, and how she has refused picking my calls in more than 2 weeks.

She promised to talk to her and ask her what the problem was and get back to me. I waited for some couple of days, but when I didn't see the mum's call, I had to call her back. I had to ask her to give her daughter her phone so I could talk to her and ask her some salient questions regarding our relationship. She kept saying there is no problem and that I didn't offend her, and our relationship is still standing strong. I asked if she was going through some personal issues that she could share with me and we might find a solution; she said she was perfectly okay. We settled our issues right there and then, and she promised to call back the second day.

I waited for the second day and I did not see her call. I had no choice than to call her back. Ladies and gentlemen, this girl didn't pick my calls. When she eventually picked after multiple missed calls, she was talking to someone else, while my airtime was burning out. I became enraged. I had to call the mum the second day to tell her I was no longer interested in the daughter, that she was probably seeing someone else, and she didn't have the guts to tell me.

The mum swore that her daughter is not seeing someone else, as far as she knows, and that she hasn't brought anyone to meet her. The mum is a Deeper Lifer, and from my interactions with her, she doesn't condone two-timing. She promised to talk to her daughter, that maybe we should give ourselves more time, like taking a break for a couple of months.

I am not usually this patient, and never condoned negligence and disregard in my previous relationships. However, this girl had been special to me, prior to her negligence. She was quite dedicated to me during the course of our 4-year-old relationship. She was never demanding, and was contented and altruistic, too. She helped me many times in the past, financially, whenever I was broke, and I always repaid her back, too. She was a wife material, and loved by my family as well.

The questions are;

1. Do I disregard the mum's advice?

2. Do I still give this girl another chance after her blatant negligence?

Mods, you might do well by moving this piece to the front page.

Yoighaman:
Until you catch a woman pants down, red-handed, they will never admit to infidelity (thank God for DNA) ; they are so brazen at lying that if you are not careful, you would second-guess yourself; gaslighting is one of tactics in their emotional arsenal... is that the kind of specie you want me to believe?

Women and denial are like 5 & 6....see Morocco, see Spain....

jesusjnr2020:
That means you'd believe Portiphar's wife if she had told that Joseph tried to rape her. Smh @bolded.

Yoighaman:
So because a woman comes out boldly to accuse a man of rape makes the accusation true most of the time? A guy boldly denying the accusation should make it true most of the time too.

I shake my head (smh) for you instead.

Aloaye:
Na people like you put Joseph for prison. Even in these current times and days, check for Dr Funmilayo's story.

beehivedata:
only in this part of the world is having a house and cars something to brag about as if that is the whole purpose of living...