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Kriss216:
Where you wan see Nepa light to charge the car


The trunk ain't big enough to contain Generator set that will power the car.

Do you know how electric cars are charged/fueled?

techgen:
If only most women would be submissive like her and be bold enough to approach any man they desire.

Isn't that contradictory?

Obarofrederick:
men benefit most from marriage? You sure about that?

When men don't lie to themselves, they benefit the most.

The only thing lazy men complain about is having to do their God-given duty to take care of their family. Money is the only reason men think that marriage doesn't favor them, and that is only lazy men.

Who would complain about free house maid, free cleaner, free nurse, free baby sitter, free support system, free baby machine to carry on lineage, free laundry services, free chef, free school shuttle, free clothing shopper, free submission, free respect, free sex machine, free slave to his parents, free money maker, except lazy men?

Now, ask what women really benefit. Except being called Mrs.

longetivity:
shameless women

Isn't this what most men advocate on this forum? Why are you angry at the women when he is living out the male dream? He can now cheat in peace and get extra satisfaction. Life is too good.

alexola20:
You don't know anything.

You know nothing, and that is why you don't have a logical response. I know something, and that's why you will find out that something changed, if at all your story is true. I will be right.

apatheticme:
Many men, not all are selfish and ungrateful, yes! But majority of those who come here to write rubbish about married women and marriage particularly are not yet married!

Nairaland is just a place for them to catch cruise and feel important that they have an opinion, afterall it's an anonymous platform!

In the real world out there, many men respect the role women (especially the married ones) play in the circle of life and they accordingly help out when they can to make life bearable for the mother of their kids! Forget these ones on nairaland toxicland, they're kids still being fed by their mommas!

So true. Most of them aren't married. The married ones have reasonable posts, but not the kids and broke pillars.

CHoccolaTE:
Are you living in this Nigeria or you just enjoy telling yourself lies? No one is pointing a gun to give birth? In a country where a woman without kids is stigmatized and relatives will not let her rest, will keep giving her "tips" and "advice" on how to conceive because Nigerians are very traditional and don't understand marriage without kids? Or is it not the same Nigeria that family and even friends will keep advising the man to marry another wife if his wife cannot conceive because he needs to have kids and prolong his lineage? The same Nigeria where a man will have 5 female children and still keep trying for a 6th one because he hasn't gotten a Male child? Dont even bring your delusions here please, unless you don't live in n Nigeria you cannot pretend you dont know having children is something expected from women after marriage, whether they like it or not.



Self delusion on display again
Arguing just because he wants to be contrarian and peddling lies to make it look like men gain nothing from marriage
Do you live on Mars?
Oh, so men know how to cook so that means it's no longer a traditional rule for wives to be the house cook after marriage? You that typed this nonsense, after marriage tell your wife to not bother cooking for you at home. Tell her anyone can cook so you will be the one cooking all the food for yourself and your children so she should not bother doing it. Coming here to display self delusion. If a married woman opens her mouth to say she doesnt cook or take charge of chores at home in public she will be insulted, even of she is working class. Nigeria is still a backward and very religious society where people use scripture to determine wives roles in marriage, dont come here acting like you don't know it.


More self delusion, like I said in my previous response to you Nigeria is still a very religious society and men expect "submission" and "obedience" from marriage, both Christians and Muslims. People draw their beliefs and marital laws from religious books and both the bible and the Quran instructs wives to submit to husbands and let them rule over them. So dont even bring your lies here. An average Nigerian man will not set out looking for a wife to be equal partners with, they want a "humble" and "submissive" and "obedient" woman because they believe that's what God asked women to do for their husbands.
And no, women dont stick to cheating husbands because they are not financially empowered. That's just bullshit. Divorced women are stigmatized in Nigeria and mocked for not being able to keep their families together. Their female children suffer the stigma when they grow up because people believe they will not be able to stay with their husbands since they grew up in a broken home.




Hahahah
Men really hate feminism because of their innate hatred for females, every gender has their benefits and drawbacks, both males and females so no gender is equal or less than the other. This will always remain a fact whether it annoys males or not. And no, societal expectations will not allow ladies remain single and not have kids that will prolong another mans lineage, it's something women are expected to do even of its very unfair to them, women that dont kowtow to these oppressive societal expectations are stigmatized. Men didnt stop providing because women demanded feminism, offline, a way from Twitter nairaland, Facebook and social media generally, Nigeria is still a very religious and traditional society and people model their marital laws from religious books, Nigeria is still very patriarchal and biased against females and women are expected to be carry a lot of stress to be regarded as good wives. An average Nigerian on the streets will not see anything wrong with a woman working 9 to 5 and being the primary home maker and child carer but if a man says he works 9 to 5 and he is the one in charge of taking care of kids and the house his wife will be regarded as a bad or lazy woman.



Men have cheated on their very sexy wives before, Tiger woods cheated on his model and very beautiful wife with a lot of different beautiful women, beyonce as beautiful as she is, got cheated on by her husband. Males cheating cannot be blamed on women. If your wife is getting old and has stopped taking care of herself then talk to her and tell her to sit up and work on her appearance. The solution is not to cheat. I like how you ended your post by saying a lot of married people only have sex for procreation, the same you that said nobody is pointing a gun at women's heads and forcing them to give birth.
If a man starts cheating on his wife and keeping girlfriends outside he will definitely stop being interested in pleasing his wife in the bedroom or stop sleeping with her totally. No amount of discussion from the wife can change that.



When you get married, tell your wife to not do any single housework or spend any money for you because you only want to enjoy her company, love and laughter. You hear?
In Nigeria if a man stops providing for his wife she has nothing to gain from the marriage and that is just the fact.
Unless you live in America or any other western country where the men actually see their wives as equal partners and can cook for her and clean and wash her clothes for her everytime.




No they don't.
In every single corporate organisation you will find females there, sometimes in equal number with the males, in every single market place you find majority of the traders are female. In hairdressingsaloons, tailor shops, makeup artists, restaurants, event planners, caterers hospitality business, health institutions you find women there working to provide for their homes. Some of these women have husband that hide their money or only spends his own money sparingly because he expects his wife to take care of herself and the children. Nigeria is a very hard place to live in presently becaue of the state of the economy so its not possible for males to be providing 80% of family reponsibilities. Women have to work to help the family meet up and these women are not getting equal assistance with housechores in return.
It's either you dont live in Nigeria or you are just being willfully ignorant.




Why are more men in jail? Who put them there? Is it not because of their criminal activities? So why the fucck should women be made to suffer for it or pay for it? If a man does not want to work in strenuous or stressful jobs he should work a slow paced job instead, nobody forced them to do strenuous jobs or work as mechanics, there a lot of alternative jobs like medicine and white collar jobs. Dont blame women for men putting their own lives at risk.
The same men are the ones ruining things for everybody with their criminal activities, they rob, kill, rape, maim, kidnap, scam, etc. Majority of criminals and deviants are males. A woman cannot walk down the street at night or live alone because of fear of what a males criminal might do to her.
These are the same people claiming that women are inferior to them.

You have done more than justice. Nice response.

gugus1:
My your excuses are blurred. First ask yourself Why would the woman take another man's child to her husband.

Why do women always have a way of acting innocent.

First ask yourself why a man will impregnate/have sex with a woman that's not his wife. Or does the woman produce semen herself? Your excuses are the blurred ones.

If men want to have indiscriminate sex, they should not complain when their wives come home with another man's baby, because the man who gave them the child just had sex like they all do. Just because men don't get pregnant doesn't mean they are saints in this.

In fact, in DNA issues, men are their own enemies. There are consequences for men having sex as much as you think they exist only for women.

Fact remains: women asked to do a DNA test should ask the man to do a DNA test on all the children of any woman he ever slept with. That way we will know that there is not only paternity fraud, and that men are their own problem.

alexola20:
When I asked my wife that I wanted a paternity test on our children.There was no discussion or arguement about it.
I booked the test.online with a lab,some swabs were sent to us.We took the sample from the children together and resent it back to the lab.
2 weeks or something we got the result.
1.by post.(It was a registered mail that I only must receive in person.The letter will be given to nobody else but me.
2.Same result was sent to my email with explanation/details of the test.

Any woman that doesn't accept a paternity test,must give her very solid reason WHY NOT.

Fear them.

When you asked for that test, and she agreed, something changed. You have not noticed it yet. One day you will.

BTW, has she asked you to do tests for all the children of the women you've slept with? Women need to get wiser.

Respect55:
Didn't u listen to the audio completely?

He has done it before and the child isn't his. The wife said she didn't accept that result. Then they fixed a new venue yet she doesn't want to go and started making unnecessary calls. Now the man has sought legal help.

She must do the test by force to satisfy him?

greggng:
I put it to you that time has changed ...we are now in jet age....since women have learnt not to keep their pussy secured ....men should continue to demand for DNA ...recall , I saw a man that does not have madness in his family ...even the wife family doesn't have madness trait ....today one of his kids is mad ....serious madness not the one caused by weed. The man later discovered via DNA that he is not the father

You make so much Ado about DNA tests. Men are their own problem.

The men who gave them these children, aren't they pretending to be married somewhere else to another woman, neglecting their true children for another man to take care of?

You should address randy men who feel it is their right to cheat and take no responsibility. It's your fellow men that are the reason why you are crying for DNA tests.

Even you could be the source of another man's disappointment if you have ever had sex with a woman you aren't married to. Or did you think it works only one way?

Why don't you call for a DNA test for the children of all the women you've ever had sex with? It will interest you to know the response to that.

You people are too interested in what women do with their vaginas, while you give yourselves no consequences for putting your p-enis into places you don't own.

onuman:
Human Rights groups need to find out if the mother of the kid in question was eventually arrested by that so-called buffoon of a Mediator.

The Mediator and the man must have tricked that mother of the child into that place.

They now intimidate the mother of the child with arrest unless she complied with them for a DNA testing on the kid.

The man had paid only N20k for child support in 14 years of the child’s life. Does he even deserve to know the paternity of a child he abandoned long time ago?

If you ask the men who have supported the man on this thread, they will say the father is a smart guy dealing with women. That he's alpha male and red pilled.


Most men nowadays are shameless. He now wants to know if it's his son, maybe because he can't have a son with his new wife.

9jaRealist:
Old school sexism and MISOGYNY still alive and kicking in Nigeria.
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It's surprising to see in 2021.

One moment of kneeling is what will destroy their life time of ego.

People who have the issue with kneeling are poor. Such toxic masculinity is found in the village only.

geendi:
A very responsible man would rather have his balls hanged on an
electric pole that's across Suleja road for eternity than kneeling down
to beg one load of problem to come into his life and start tormenting
him

Everyday this same old story. Aren't you guys tired of assumptions about marriage? Men who kneeled to propose aren't complaining. Married men aren't complaining. It is single men who cannot afford marriage who are crying more than the bereaved.

If you stand and propose, what will it bring to the marriage? Will it make everything magically good if you stand?

For people who benefit the most from marriage, you sure make a lot of noise whining about silly things. Rich men don't have these poverty dominated mindsets about women. It's only on this forum I got to know there are so many damaged angry, misogynists crawling about.

Money, indeed, stops nonsense. A guy richer than you lot is kneeling to propose. Broke singles beating their chests that they never will. Funny.

Sonnobax15:


A very responsible man would rather have his balls hanged on an electric pole that's across Suleja road for eternity than kneeling down to beg one load of problem to come into his life and start tormenting him

It's either I sit down and propose to her, while she's on her feet or I go straight to her parents and say it to them like--"Afa,make una ask una daughter whether she don ready to settle down

Hopefully you feel she will never have to lower herself to you in any way, too, whether in what you call submission or in respect.

The way some of you take kneeling to propose, an act that happens only once in the relationship as if it's a war on your p.enis, when men benefit most from marriage, is laughable.

Men playing victim and feeling special with proposals.

Pierocash:
that he is old doesn't take away his libido.

So you've admitted that if he fancied men, he would rape you too, despite your age gap? And it would be okay because you were seducing him?

Guy, you've never seen a real life rape situation in which a young girl managed to escape an old rapist, so stop your assumptions.

I've seen such a case, and he was the one who tricked her into his house and put on a towel. This girl escaped onto the main road with her clothes torn.

I'm sure you will say she was seducing the man, a man who was owing her money and insisted she could only get it from him at home.

You will soon say it was his libido. All the other men who saw her and didn't rape her, aren't they men?

Most men who covertly or openly support such rape situations have never seen such an incident, or have raped so many people they see it as normal.

The good news is that all will marry a woman or have daughters. Then men will understand the menace of rape, when the females in their custody will come across such attempts. Hopefully they will explain it in the same way they have all over this thread.

Pierocash:
those young girls are the ones seducing men,but when it happens,they pretend to be the victims.

Those girls are temptation hard to avoid.

You believe she wouldn't seduce a man your age, but rather an old man? How do you know if she was seducing him?

In this case, don't work on assumption or bias, because you will be surprised how the old man tricked her. How hard is the temptation for a man old enough to be her grandfather?

Pierocash:
Serves the girl right.

Tell us how it serves her right.

Mynd44:
She is a sex worker so? Sex work is legal in Southern Nigeria

Na she get her body; if she wants to offer intimate services, it is her business but requesting said services and not paying is criminal, using a video shot without paying her to intimidate and extort is also criminal, leaking said video is criminal too.

The focus should be on the criminals which are the men. They should be found and jailed

Are you truly a man? Because your view regarding such matters are unbiased.

pickatyouu:
Yes o common 5k na wetin the girl dey scam upandan.

Men on nairaland can scam for common 200 naira. Go to the crime threads and see what your fellow men can scam someone for.

Things are bad, but why must men do that?

Mynd44:
Yup.

But train your child do he/shvwill give you peace. Why should your child be a menace to society and you will be at peace? No way

But the parents aren't guilty of their children's crimes, and vice versa. If such a law exists, it will be abused and cause untold oppression.

Admittedly, some parents support such crimes because they are touts and local champions themselves, but let every man be accountable for his crime. Otherwise we would've arrested Evans the kidnappers wife and children simply for enjoying his stolen money.

Never4getU:
What do u need to understand about a people whose modules operandi is to kill and rape people's mother and wife, the current being kidnapping of their host community indigenes.

Nothing to understand in this case. They u vacate entire southwest.

Modus

JustMakeMoney:
Tell them.......its only stressful when your spending power is still under check.
I gave the security of NIN center here in the north 10k n after 5mins of him going inside, he back with d official men in uniform n I was escorted inside like a king. Last last I spent 17k n got my NIN slip without stress! Just make money!

You spent 17k on something technically free? Something you would get in under 30 minutes?

I didn't make money to bribe people. They should make their own.

Beverlyjean:
I hope ud b nappy if ur bf of many years that u love alot dumps u cos he wants his freedom ... even after rejecting suitors and mayb after 2 abortions or 1 kid ... afterall everyone has the right to b free to do whatever pleases them...its their right

I wouldn't care.

If I was keeping him against his will, I would know that we aren't in a relationship to begin with. It is his right to be with whomsoever he pleases, likewise mine. He is free to pursue happiness and I am free to pursue my happiness. Nobody owns another person or their emotions.

What purpose does it serve caging a free bird? If she's said she's tired of his controlling, why can't he let her go? Is it by force? She's made her intentions clear, why forcing her to stay? So that she will kill him one day?

If you really think that man loves his wife, then you haven't seen a lot of cases in the Arab world of women who want their freedom and the man wants to keep up appearances so he won't release them.

And please, I have children for my husband, never for boyfriend. Not to talk of abortions or sex with any other man. Thank you.

Beverlyjean:
Did u read the story at all??

Did you?

Is there a problem with her wanting her freedom?

JovialJune:
You are daft,

What is the natural supreme rule of nature and society at large that doesn't allow freedom of association

He's obviously pushing his male agenda. That is all misogynists use in their defense: they have penise.s and testosterone, that is the supreme order.

Nothing else.

Not even the intellect to devise something better than supreme order of nature, like he is no longer a human being. It is animals that live by the supreme order of nature, because they don't have brains to reason with and evaluate.

But that's what most men of this forum have been turned into. Even brunclezuma is surprised.


If you check carefully, it is poor men, or those that have been brutalized by poverty that embrace misogyny. They are the ones looking for who to put under them, because they have nothing else in life but to put others down.

ziondaughter247:
Honestly, i have come to the conclusion that many of you are simply retarded. It is obvious it wasn't a woman that gave birth to some of you! Obviously this woman married as a child-bride. She probably had no say in her marriage. Yes her husband is very rich, but she is willing to find her happiness now that the children have grown. Some of you are really really mean, honestly. This is a woman that is obviously trapped, even with all the money is not willing to stay again, she probably suffers domestic violence. I pray you don't find yourselves in a situation like this. We are blacks and the truth is that many blacks are already living that this in your daily life but are rejoicing because a 'woman' is being oppressed. No wonder the black man hardly makes much progress. Typical blacks have a big issue with mentality, they can barely see beyond their noses. Why force someone to stay when they are not interested? It is the same thing a white man, an Indian, a Chinese does to you and you shout oppression. but you're happy now because it's a woman??

It's obvious she isn't and has never been happy in that marriage.

You are a black man abroad. You have no say and most times you might not get justice even when you've been obviously wronged. This woman married as a child, obviously against her will. It's still the same thing!

You can't blame them. Every topic on this forum is designed to castigate women.

This case looks like the judges were paid by the man to keep her stuck with him. If she's so wayward, why not let her go? Why force her to stay with him?

And look at the brand of poor men supporting the judge. They are only happy he's reducing her monthly allowance, not that they understand the case or have any inkling of reasoning. Just their usual misogynistic drivel.

They hope to beat women down with these topics, but instead they are breeding more feminists. Men have never been particularly intelligent. When they get creative, it leads to wars and bloodshed instead.

alizma:
That judge has indebt knowledge of family affairs management. He knows that when a woman become to comfortable, she starts to allow stupidity crawl into her head

Poverty makes people sell their freedom.


It may surprise you that this women doesn't care about the money involved, and will rather be with a poor man who allows her freedom and doesn't try to control her.

Lucyspa:
Even though she decides how does it affect anyone. The way Nigerian men are so obsessed with controlling how women use their bodies is mind boggling. They keep on wailing and calling us names. So annoying.

They are too concerned with female bodies. Look at how quick they are to assume it's because she wanted another man.

And if she does, how is it they don't want him to divorce her to allow her? Later they will whine about faithful women, while they are not faithful themselves.

Godbless3:
Mr man go and sit down and be depress alone.
After 25yrs of the man paying her such amount on a regular basis, the only reason she want a divorce is she want to be free.
Yea, what the english when a woman slur on a man?

Poor people will always put the money first before the issue.

So after 25 years of enduring the controlling man, she wants to live her life, and he won't let her. Why do you think this is so? Because he's a saint? She shouldn't because of "the amount on a regular basis"? Money may buy you, but not everyone else.

frozen70:
I think she wants freedom and to enjoy life

If the husband can step up his romantic game, she can still remain there

The men outside knows how to handle women more than the ones inside with them

This life is not balance, you just want to have it all

Who says it's about another man being involved? Is it that you people only think about sex in relationships or what?

What if this man is one of those hardcore Muslims who don't ever want to see a woman outside of the house? What if he doesn't even let her to shopping, and only wants her indoors all day, producing babies? What if he wants to control her life, and she had one before she met him?

You think it is love that makes him want to keep her forever, even against her will? That is a controlling man. Who knows if he paid those judges. The judgement is so absurd. There needs to be a mentality shift in Nigeriabs when it comes to issues that affect men and women.

Liposure:
Some husbands do have them. Look at her, looking for an opportunity to venture into fulltime LovePeddler business. The judge did the needful the by jeopardizing her gameplan.

It's such a shame that once women want freedom, men think they want to turn into prostitutes.

You don't know what she means by freedom because you are not the one living under Islamic marriage as a woman to a man who wants to forcefully stay married to you no matter what. Your freedom is to simply come online and get likes from people like yourself who don't think, by posting what they want to see versus what the case may reasonably be.

You can't expect to control someone's life because you're giving them money. That's an exercise in stupidity.