₦airaland Forum

lefulefu:
Medically its not ideal to involve in an incestous relationship.the closer u get to ur bloodline the more the likelihood the child will be congenetically afflicted.The child might not even survive with the diseases that will afflict cos its immune system will be very low.So no responsible doctor would encourage incest.In shirt incest is an abomination in the western world just as it is in naija.But then i am surprised that incest seems to be increasing in nigeria.the rate men rape and impregnate their dauthers is getting high.i even read somewhere where a man who impregnated his two dauthers in ibadan defended himself by saying he didnt want any guy to get close to his dauther.so these days u hear about nigerian fathers having sex with their dauthers,brothers and sisters doing it and even some guys and ladies coming here on nairaland making threads and confessing how they so much have sexual desires for their cousins.Its getting scary.I used to think incest was a thing amongst rednecks in the south in america but its like its becoming a norm in nigeria.any person that supports incest is an animal.

I'm surprised too at the way they seem to like it. I think it's mostly libidinous guys who have had sex with a relative before that are preaching it as gospel truth. Anything to support it. They don't even care that nature doesn't support it. But as they are preaching for it, they are not impregnating the relatives oh they just want the easy sex and call it love. it's quite scary. Something expected of those closeted communities as you mentioned in America. Nowadays seems too much GoT and movies have destroyed their inhibitions. Fear confessions of sexual incontinence.

yanabasee:
He's got a wide mouth.....

Like whose?

lefulefu:
even if the baby is kept alive there are high chances it will be afflicted with all sorts of congenital defects

Some people are on this thread supporting incest still, because scientists told them it's a gene they have. In this huge world, the only person they can meet is their family. Woe!

ibnlawal:
Daughters... Azin plural??

You are kidding, right?

There are many, many depraved men who see nothing wrong in that. Some are covert pedophiles, and others have sexual frustration, to yet others it is a fetish. But all who do so need psychiatric attention.

vanvino:
Typical black man, One thing is to read another is to understand, that's why two persons can understand one thing differently. There's what we called world view and there's Universe experience. It's yours universe experience that make up your world view, you disagree with my view not because you have provided an alternate explanation, am not saying they are right or wrong am saying outside "it was the Devil theory" and also blaming bad parenting there is also another explanation. What you know about life so far was not handed to you from birth Nop.... But from those that surround you and those you trust. You believe them not because you have something else to support or disprove but because you trust them, until you have experience that question what you always believe to be true then your world view change. Human race is mystery is why science never stop research.... In this country twin was once a taboo

More scientific fantasy.

How hard can it be for you to accept the incest genes since scientists have made it believable to you that everyone, including you, has them?

Now they have demystified it and you know so much more than other black people, why haven't you and why don't you plan on acting on the good info you shared?

Typical black man. They read an article and think they have gained the world, not knowing they have an empty groundnut shell handed to them.

If the white man shows you anything, no matter what and no matter how baseless, you will believe it. This is why they told you that genes are responsible for incest, and you would believe it rather than environmental factors. Black mind.

What do twins have to do with the topic?

vanvino:
This is called Genetic Sexual attraction, our DNA compels us to connect with our generic tribe but psychological imprinting and social taboo overwhelmed sexual desires.

In a layman's terms you are born into an environment that sees such act as bad, those around you and those you look up to see and practice it, subconsciously it's registered that such actions is bad, But your DNA does not understand , culture nor tradition, its science, that's why if brother/sister are raised separately, they can meet and have sex without knowing they are siblings, not until they come to village for marriage.

Evidently, the force/ bond in their DNA is really strong......not every thing is Devil... Devil.... Devil.... Before now (Victoria era) people where marring their sisters and cousins

If you ask African man to invest in Education he think its all about building Class room and ASSU strike.

Forget your kind scientific fantasy above. Why is none of your relatives carrying your pregnancy? Because you know the above doesn't exist.

blinking001:
The importance of a father figure in the lives of children can never be overemphasized. I pity all these baby mamas that feminism has destroyed.

What does feminism have to do with the story?

Globad:
How is the country wicked for this?

Shouldn't a dud cheque or a failed transaction come with charges or a penalty? What of the charges incurred by those two processed it? Who will pay?

If you don't have enough balance in your account, don't issue a standing order or direct debit, or cancel the one you have issued.

It is irresponsible to issue or sustain a direct debit on unfunded accounts. It's also criminal if it's for a service that you have already enjoyed.

On this one, I don't see why Nigeria is a wicked country as you have said unless you're willing to educate me on it.

If only they would take this same automatic approach to declined transactions from the banks and no refund until you beg them to! That's what constitutes a wicked country. Banks have rights to deduct, but citizens don't have rights when it's time to refund failed transactions? We are still yet to see anyone with compensation from a fined bank that refused to refund. All lies where the banks are concerned.

Merimental:
So wat if he downloaded it 4 free ??

if I can be steadily downloading Hollywood movies plus subtitles 4 free online, why would an average nigerian filmmaker tink his movie is too special to be downloaded 4 free ??

Can't even waste my data on Crap movies outside Hollywood/Bollywood Blockbusters.

he should be glad d dude even had time to watch his movie instead of cursing.

help us tell him. Blue tick means abuse. A very animalistic response from the "celeb"

JustforMen:
My question is why should the woman have automatic custody of children when marriages scatter?
I want to listen to arguments for and against this position!

The man should have automatic custody. He will then give the child to one of his female family members to care for or keep it in a boarding school and buy it lots of gifts to compensate. That is how he will personally take care of the child. That's what you want to hear.

Men don't even know what they want. Everything is a fight with women. Fighting for custody because you want to hurt her and "it's my child, it's my child too!" not because you will PERSONALLY take care of the child. Just for men to soothe useless ego and feel they've won. The courts know that very well. Modern men have lost the plot, but think it's being liberated.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Africans and their making money through rituals mentality

Not knowing that there is nothing like ritual

Not only Africans. It's a practice done world wide. Not African mentality.

Michdaf:
Who told am concerned about her financial status, ask her she will tell you am not type of a person. I was only being caring

Are you the man in question?

Splitmind:
You're describing the thought process of the average woman whenever an interaction with a man doesn't go the way she'd liked.



Hope you had the same energy for OP when she said the above?


Now back to the matter at hand, OP already admitted she knew he was interested in her but didn't want to "ruin the friendship" yet still wants to play with his feelings for favours. Most men have experienced it at one point or the other we aren't stupid, this entitlement mentality is not new to us.

And once men think they have an upper hand to attack women, they tend to post exactly like you do.

Men are never objective or logical once a woman is involved. It becomes perceived "emotions" from the man, once they are not getting things their own way and they know everyone can see that.

If it were a post denigrating women, you would act like the male writer is some hero coming away from a battlefield. He would've been lauded for being wise and you would be one of those to call her a bitch. Fear men and their lopsided evaluation to favor men, because they hate women and feminism and they must support themselves come what may.

The male cycle continues. Play victim, attack women no matter what, laud yourselves. Absolutely nothing new.

Next!

Zzor:
That's life,God will bless him abundantly but one thing human should learn is to help and not expect anything in return or expect the unexpected relationship or not. Men too should stop investing on women with the hope of marriage, invest on your wives only

It's not as if men are saints. We should wait for her own side of the story. There's something he did that he's not saying. She didn't just wake up with that decision. Fear men and lies. Anything to paint women black with one brush.

CalliDora1:
On the Contrary though, He's not a gold digger. And he's very much aware I'm older but because I don't look my age, hes not bothered. He's not just any guy, he's a MAN!.

If he's not a gold digger, why is he so concerned about your financial status? Why is he running when he thinks you need food from him? Why is he too interested in your pockets?

Well, you know him best. But what you described is a gold digger in male uniform. Men can be gold diggers, who said its only reserved for boys? He's immature whether you say he's a man or not.

Beey:
That’s the kind of BS I don’t want in my life. Every year, I re-evaluate my friend list to decide who stays & who goes. I took some classes with a few Africans. I’d always get to work late & lie to my boss that class ended late. Truth is that I was the only one driving & had to drop them off at their homes before going to work. One was a fellow Kenyan so we kept the communication even after the training ended. My family suffered two losses within a short span of time. Each time I messaged this so called friend, there’s be no response.In normal chats, he sees my messages but during loss, he claims not to see. Probably because we Kenyans usually contribute money. Even if he didn’t give me money, I’d have understood he was a student, but ignoring me at times of loss, that’s not a person I can call a friend, so I cut our friendship. On the other hand, I recently chatted with a guy who started borrowing money. Gave him twice & then blocked him. He could have been afraid of being exploited, but if you two were already dating, then I don’t think he’s worth keeping because it shows he’s a fair weather person.Want to enjoy the good times but, don’t look for him in your time of trouble because he’ll have taken off. If your boyfriend can’t support you in your time if need, him being in your life is a big mistake.Can’t be trusted.

You've said it all. Fair-weather friends. There for using you, but never there when you need them for a teeeny bitsy favor.

iamloyalty:
Is he aware? If he is then is all the more a clear case of chop clean mouth he wants to do.

The more she reveals the more obvious the guy is using her for something. He doesn't really want a relationship. He's just testing his fantasy as a gigolo.

CalliDora1:
He's no old school. For your info, I'm older than him. So you know.

Oh, he's one of them looking for older women because they are financially buoyant. You should know he's a gold digger. This is very clear.
He's for after a relationship or friendship. He's after financial security and your maturity. He, on the other hand, will lack both. Broke men always think you're after their imaginary money, like he did. So he's broke.

R.u.n.

CalliDora1:
I said he did and asked if I didn't have food but I just replied, I'll be fine. He actually did but my concern is why he went mute and is now coming back asking the same annoying questions.

You're going to read a lot of reasons why what you did was wrong. This is the home of patriarchal bullshit. Few men will agree with you. Most women eager not to be seen as "liabilities" will savage you.

But the truth is, that guy is one of the men of nairaland. In this place men are always right, heroes and saints, no matter the bullshit they bring up, and women are always gold diggers.

You met one of the male gold diggers. He wants to for what monetary benefits you have. Leave him, because the day you don't make a sale, he will be at the other end of the world, as far away from you as possible. He will say you're unproductive and a golddigger on that day. That is the world of women who are not liabilities and men who desire such women's money.

Splitmind:
You think we are stupid abi.

I have not eaten is a code word for women to stylishly display their begging characteristics that's why he's avoiding you so you don't drain him dry treating audio hunger.

Concerning your first paragraph lots of men are through with women's bullshit but they won't tell you in real life because women have a tendency to attack and spread negative rumours about people who don't fit their ideologies.

Men would rather stick to talking about these things online than risk job loss, loss of friends or even physical attacks because one upset woman didn't like hearing that women these days are entitled and lazy when it comes to relationships.

Any excuse for men is acceptable. You've entered this mans mind to unlock everything he was thinking. Because all men are the same. Even you that is not him, and werent in a relationship, you know exactly what he was thinking.

Bestx:
Our Engineers only bragg about research papers and degrees, no innovation, invention or problems solved to impact the Nation or the World.

How many engineers worldwide do the above annually? You people have deep misconceptions you do not care to educate yourselves on.

How many doctors do the above? How many microbiologists? Chemistry graduates? History graduates? International relations and policy? Statisticians?

Right. They don't. You're just expressing misconceptions.

Find out what engineers are doing in Nigeria and stop fuming.

jokotus:
CELEBRITY ENGINEER IN THE MAKING

WHICH INVENTION?

Must there be an invention? You celebrate doctors, but when last did a Nigerian doctor invent a human body or anything else for that matter?

If you think they didn't invent anything, go to college, read engineering, work your way up to becoming a registered engineer and fellow, then come back and show us what you would've invented.

DORS:
Engr. Dr. Victor O. Oyenuga, Author of the widely used Reinforced concrete design book

Don't mind that guy and all others asking for toothpicks, as if that's what engineers studied to become, toothpick makers.

Coronabirus:
My project was "a mobile based security patrol monitoring system" from which I derived desire to go into IP Camera, Networking & smart house and security systems. Engineers, design how work can be done and design is the backbone or any Engineering quality control while Technicians will implement engineer's design under the supervision of Engineer.

Technicians are always so bitter.

So they want engineers to do everything from innovation to design to implemention. They want them to start welding and sawing?

What then will be the purpose of a technician? Isn't that why they went to technical school? Because they don't do the heavier work of designing systems?

It's like artisans/Masons being bitter that technicians are sitting above them. Useless bitterness. Every finger has its purpose, but none can be the thumb(engineer).

McCoy662:
She doesn't seem to be or at least not again

How can you tell? They don't write it on their foreheads, even the ones who dress like Mormons without tattoos.

Ijawwomaninoyo:
Which Dubai? All na wash! Before or after birth? She is always posting herself with Ned or co wives at home.
Yes, she was expelled, she turned into a nuisance because of Ned's status, even the brothers.
She wasn't attending school, when she attends, she smokes shisha and others then abuse her father's age mates because she is sleeping with their mates.
Not everybody is an asslicker, when her cup full, she was expelled. She didn't finish 1 year.

Wow!!!!!

She tried money without education is dangerous. Even the brothers were riding on her. Really, she's not a role model to any young girl. Can't believe she would lie she's schooling in Dubai. With all that money such lying is silly. It means she can't go to any school, because with ned, if she had the aptitude, she would be in Harvard or Oxford

Ghostmode2two:
Approaching menopause and they want to marry. Night market. The truth is that Nigerian women be them Igbo, Yoruba or what have you see marriage as a business venture.

What do men see it as? A business venture, too?

Shortyy:
You think these things don't happen? Let me tell you there are a lot of perverted men out there. And this reason is mostly why women don't talk about it. Because no one believes. Or they'll be accused of bluffing or lying. Or some are even ashamed to talk about it.

Men only have that feeling when surrounded by muscular gays who are hitting on them. Otherwise they will think she enjoyed it. No wonder men who are raped are scared to talk about it, because they objectify women and mock them and say they enjoyed it. With what they've uttered, when it's their turn it's a big secret.

Toks2008:
Pornography is all around us and we don't even need to go to porn sites before seeing them but how do you explain the madness of someone masturbating on steering. This one don cast.

It's a fetish. And it happens all over the world where men think they can get away with it.

grandstar:
Read up "Exhibitionist" and thank me later

seems Nigerians are yet to understand fetishes. And most men think women deserve it, whatever it may be, be it rape or exhibitionism.

FarahAideed:
Believe that nonsense at your own peril ..so she was just calm watching him masturbate and drive at the same time ..she didn't fear for her life ? Nonsense , I can smell lies from a mile a way

You wanted her to complain so that he would increase his speed and drive her off to some secluded place where he would rape her and kill her for trying to protest? Clearly, you have never been in such a situation because you have a penis and nobody is a threat to you, except a very muscular gay man turned on by you. But if you were a woman, you would be an incredibly dumb one to start making noise so that he can do his worst. Men and assumptions when they are not women.

Just leave matters you understand nothing about. Man who wants to tell a woman how to behave when she's at threat from a man, in his own comfort zone.

Ijawwomaninoyo:
See what a greedy mother turned this girl into? We're there no rich men her own parents should have given her to?
Due to Ned, she became arrogant and was expelled from Igbinedion University.
All she is into now is nothing but "co wives".

she was expelled? Thought she was in Dubai schooling again? Or that was fake?