₦airaland Forum

helinues:
Those are the news that gives FFK joys..

See as how his muscles all raised up

do you like his muscles?

Graxie:
I see most of them as kids that are craving for attention. When you don't have proper upbringing from a good father, it's possible to treat your wife same way you saw your dad doing it.

you're so correct. They can only give what they have.

kennylesy122:
See Wetin u dy take U want to start one stupid Feminist shits here abi
He slapped and he begged I repeat he begged.
Is Forgiveness a sin again....normally I hate Night crawlers but you should have give her a call and analysis things with her why w,,,,,,,But calling ur in laws is a very stupid idea....just sent her Apology Texts possible Apology Voice Note And tell her to come home But if she is Forming on silly Femimist....then leave her for Few Days even weeks everyone gats to know is place one day one day Her sense would come back and I hope isn’t to late... but u never have to lay ur hand on a lady again no matter what...that a very Big respect bro

will his begging return her blood back to her body? Will it undo the beating? What is sorry when the trust is broken? You people think other people must regard your "begging". You act as if his begging is heaven and Earth. When he was drawing her blood he should've known that begging doesn't heal wounds

Ekene161829:
Thank you for you advise. I never done anything like it before and I taught I could never do such a thing thing to her and I regret everything. Normally we argue like any other couples, she will be screaming and get really heated , I will leave the house for some hours and comes back later , and I keep myself under control. I know that if I don’t , she won’t stop either and things will get nasty. But on that night it didn’t go down that way , I was trying to keep controlled and explain to her the reason why I came late was 2 of my friends were drunk to the point where they couldn’t walk . I have to drive them home. She just wouldn’t stop yelling and throwing hands at me , I was so tired to leave the house again that was why I left our room to go to the living room. She kept on going and I yelled at her to ship up and leave me alone as she was laying into me, she screamed back that she wouldn’t that made me angry and I hit her.the pain of knowing I did that especially when it wasn’t my intentions is killing me and I want to show her that it was a mistake and I had no reason or thought behind hitting her

I only wish her brother had slapped you in the mouth so that you would bleed and feel the exact same way. You think you're the only one who can't control his physical reaction to anger. You're now a wife beater, though your friends here won't tell you that. You have committed an act of domestic violence, and if your wife wishes to, you can be sent to a police station for that and have a criminal record.

crackhaus:
Will this be after you have written your own undertaking to never raise your voice to shout, scream, or yell at your husband?

does shouting, screaming or yelling(not physical) equate to slapping/punching and drawing blood(physical violence)? In your haste to justify domestic violence, don't forget to use proper situations that are similar.

RisenPhoenix:
You have apologised more than enough. I would advise that you forget her mother and go and explain yourself to her father with your dignity intact (don't grovel like you did with your wife). Ask him for his verdict and let him give you a timeline to come back for his response. Let him do all the work. If they decide that she is to come back, tell her in the presence of her family that you do not expect her to ever again call them into any disagreement in your home. Also inform her that as a man, you have a right to bro time once in a while and she should never again disrespect you by yelling and shouting at you as if you are a small child. If she has a problem with anything you do, she should learn how to express it in a mature manner.
Meanwhile, if she decides that she wants a divorce; as she seems to be somewhat childish; give it to her amicably and take care of your responsibilities towards the child.

By the way, having said that, I also think that 2 am is a bit excessive for a responsible married man to be coming home. And you should not ever hit your wife again no matter the provocation. If she follows you around next time, just leave the house for her and go stay in a hotel overnight, that will be the last time she would ever do it (from experience).

how do you know the apology is enough when it was not you whose mouth was hit and bleeding? I'm sure you wouldn't say this if it was the man whose face was hit.

freecocoahubby:
Thank you! I'm so sick of women's double standards and victim playing.

The woman kept following her husband up and down like a mad dog, shouting and insulting him - and he's expected to just sit there and keep silent like a veggie?

He is a human being and he reacted just like most people would... so annoyed that he was begging her sef, like she's some diety. Nonsense!

did the wife make him bleed? Or what are you comparing? You wouldn't say this if she fell dead. Or maybe you would. You would want to hear his side of the story that justifies drawing blood or murdering her. I hope if a woman drew blood you would agree and not say she took it too far and lacks "respect."

freecocoahubby:
Thank you! I'm so sick of women's double standards and victim playing.

The woman kept following her husband up and down like a mad dog, shouting and insulting him - and he's expected to just sit there and keep silent like a veggie?

He is a human being and he reacted just like most people would... so annoyed that he was begging her sef, like she's some diety. Nonsense!

did the wife make him bleed? Or what are you comparing? You wouldn't say this if she fell dead. Or maybe you would. You would want to hear his side of the story that justifies drawing blood or murdering her. I hope if a woman drew blood you would agree and not say she took it too far.

Dupalmer:
She refused to rest when he was begging her to but suddenly rested when she got a slap. OK oo.

He should keep begging her until she comes around. I hear. goddess wife.
A[b] virtuous woman[/b] could have called her husband to a peaceful dialoge rather than rant with angry words. Believe me a peaceful 5mins counsel could have been mightier than 2hours nagging.
It's not everyman that stands nagging.

When you remember how nice your woman is even when you offend her you'd make it a point of caution not to imagine offending her. Making her happy will be your top priority but when she wants prove rebellious my dear forget it.
If she Wan go let her go.

Lol. And can't men be virtuous? Your advice is so one-sided that it's ridiculous. You have made excuses for appalling behavior. So the responsibility of dealing with bad behavior falls on the woman alone? The man can behave anyhow and she must stomach it to appease him? Everything women say is nagging? You're funny, but not in the hilarious way. Are you in any relationship at all with a slave for your "love"? Graxie, come and see this.

Dupalmer:
She refused to rest when he was begging her to but suddenly rested when she got a slap. OK oo.

He should keep begging her until she comes around. I hear. goddess wife.
A virtuous woman could have called her husband to a peaceful dialoge rather than rant with angry words. Believe me a peaceful 5mins counsel could have been mightier than 2hours nagging.
It's not everyman that stands nagging.

When you remember how nice your woman is even when you offend her you'd make it a point of caution not to imagine offending her. Making her happy will be your top priority but when she wants prove rebellious my dear forget it.
If she Wan go let her go.

Lol. And can't men be virtuous? Your advice is so one-sided that it's ridiculous.

Do Nigerians ever do their jobs without expecting money from you? Corrupt criminals.

So even they are considered capable of cheating in their exams.

sexiestharam:
Job description is marketer that would suffer. Let me give you a hint of how direct sales agents worked in the defunct diamond bank.
1.you are paid by the number of accounts and how much you bring. But your basic salary is like 18k or so. Even if you bring zero accounts, you would still receive it but your branch manager and supervisor will almost kill you with threats.
2. If you have good accounts, you can be paid higher than so many full staff. I know of a Direct Sales Agent who was paid in millions because of an account she brought. When E. T is struggling with 242k flat!
3. Your accounts only read for you for 6 months. After six months, you stop enjoying the benefits of the account as it goes to an account officer.
4.Customer Address Verification is a prerequisite for all accounts in Nigeria as directed by CBN. Na there wahala dey because only full staff can sign off a verified address. So you have to beg a full staff to sign off for you or they have to go verify with you. That one na suffer because they would do shakara for you.
5. You have no access to the pool car so waka waka is your second name.
6. Full staff collect full bag of rice and a carton of vegetable oil in December but yours is only half bag of rice and half carton of vegetable oil.
7.No 13th month salary which full staff collect. No profit sharing for you too. Also, your vacation days is 15 working days while for junior full staff it is 20 days.
8. If you die on the job, no one minute silence for you. Every branch acknowledges one minute silence for full staff by 5pm nationwide.
My hands dey pain me. I don try.

I hope you didn't ever work in such a terrible place

abimbola74:
You are right , I referred to you only. Still doesn't change the fact you don't know the man in question.

neither do you, so what is your point? Take your advice on it since you don't know him, too. Chat reserved for another year. Bye

abimbola74:
#smiles , Not justifying his actions, only said none of us lived with them.

you said I didn't, not "none of us" as you claim. I have reminded you that neither did you live with them. At least be straightforward.

abimbola74:
Sounding as if you lived with them. Did you even know what he went through @ll? He is responsible for whatever decision he makes so respect that. ✌�. God will continue to guide us .

you sound as though you lived with them and know the man is innocent. Why don't you take your advice? On that note I'm not interested in further justification of the actions of his father and the responsibility to apologize to the man out of misplaced "respect". You support his actions. Okay. But the things we support are often a reflection of what we will tolerate/do. End of discussion.

To all deadbeat fathers reading this, not all children will apologize to you, and even if they do, do not assume for a second that it is your right to be wicked then expect your family to bow to you. Because you happen to be the man of the house doesn't mean you're always correct or that you can provoke your children to anger. You have no justification for it. If you are tired of the marriage divorce and never look back. Don't begin to desire the children you maltreated. You don't hold their destinies in your loins

Omakraid:
I quoted you cos I wanted you to stop the back and forth as the post as misled all enough and started causing irrelevancies before he mentioned it to someone else that mum and dad are good with his siblings excluding him. Such things makes everyone look like a joke and it's not funny. Op did not try at all by keeping that part to himself

you did good on that. I've decided to ignore other mentions on the thread. His modifications came later on, and honestly, he should've said those things in the very first instance. It still doesn't justify parental negligence and abuse, though.

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Most times,I do apologise even if I'm right.Like there was a day I came back and noticed that my wife is not happy. I didn't bother to start asking what the problem was,I simply held her and said,i'm sorry for anything that might be the problem cause I believe as the keeper of the house,I should keep it in order.Does that make me weak ? No. Rather it shows maturity.Lets stop seeing people like that as fools. Note. Sometimes I do apologise to my staffs just to reassure them that we are one and equal.

keep it up. It takes a lot to lead. And I mean true leadership.

abimbola74:
Are you saying you've been perfect all your life ? We all deserve a second chance. Let's just enjoy every moment of our life and take every burden off our mind . We should learn to forgive and forget and move on with our lives. Life is too short to be bitter about the happenings of life .

is this about perfection? Or it's about a guy who has a father who he said treated he and his mother badly? People depend too much on second chances, so they live their lives terribly and do wicked, stupid things just so that they will get the second chance. Many don't get it. So why not live right in the first instance?

KanuSE:
what about me?

you?

Omakraid:
In one of the Op's post, he said he is the only one at loggerheads with his dad. His siblings and mum are cool with him asides the Op himself...

that info is new and was never in the original post. I guess it's been modified. And even then, we still haven't heard the crime guys mother committed that warranted the neglect

JONNYSPUTE:
..That's not the right way to go about it.Let us endeavour to show love and forgiveness at all times. If not for the other party but for your own sake.What he did is not bad.

you are truly the peacemaker.

luminouz:
Will you take coldstone or not?
Just coman take it oooo

Lol.

luminouz:
That guy got to you!
Learn to ignore stuffs.

I'm learning from you, sensei

JONNYSPUTE:
..Let's not allow emotions becloud our senses of reasoning.Will you still say the same thing if the story was turned around? That's him going to reconcile with the mum assuming she was the one that abandoned them?.Life is full of mysteries and we should all try as much as possible to erase bitterness from our souls.

he should ignore his mother if she abandoned him. Anyone who abandons you isn't worth your reconciliation.

BrutusOj:
Walahi..that lady sounds so pained like she is a single mom suffering all alone. This forum is a place to learn alot from other people, like the Op became a changed man due to a nice quote here. So many bitter souls here trying so hard to harden the minds of other ladies who naturally soft at heart. Bad influence is written all over her posts since.

oh shut up. You sound like a gossipy little bitch. What sort of man is this. I know you menstruate

luminouz:
*sighs*

You still are not learning anything from the discourse,are you? You muddled everything up and that's bad.
I hope you find peace

why do you all think I need peace? I'm airing the other side nobody wants to look at. The thread that led him to his reconciliation was not a well-balanced one but one written by a well-known female hating MGTOW proponent.
He encouraged people to shun their mothers as women are apparently manipulative liars, while the men need to be listien to, forgetting that in bitter relationships, men will also lie manipulatively about their wives and they are truly cruel to their families. Ryan03, a man can testify to that. But they consider him a woman because he doesn't agree with them.
He had no true reason to reconcile, but that he's scared of what his own kids will do to him. He has simply taken the advice on that thread that men are innocent, even when their actions are evil.
That is why I put that up. And the OP later went to modify his post. What you see now was not always there. It's after the first few pages he went back to modify and now everyone has no peace.

luminouz:
Your case taya me woman or man!

lol, but this was before we argued!

Emmanuelcann:
I wish the feminists would just give up already! Honour your father and mother - unconditional! Congratulations OP for finding peace! If there's to be any further judgement be sure that God will see to it!

how sure are you that we are feminists, either male or female?

KanuSE:
Calm down madam, no be fight na...so you can't even handle banter.

the talk of a treat was banter. The other was bordering on something else

KanuSE:
Please mention what would sooth your grievance.

You ruined that by lying that I'm a bad loser. You can give yourself your treat.

I'm not aggrieved.

luminouz:
I'm not saying all these because I'm a man and check crackhaus post and one Mia dude like that. They gave insights to what may have happened. You blame the dad like OP did but once he put himself in his dad's shoes, he understood that while the dad had issues, he wasn't all bad like the mum painted him. He most likely rejected his dad based on the mum's stories without trying to ask his dad his own side of the story. He realised his mistake now he is grown and reached out.

Ryan03' s story is very different from OP's and I blamed his dad on most fronts. he left them when young and died before he could make amends.

You still dont get my points sha. I feel so much animosity from your post and I can't just relate. I have lost the ability to be that emotional.

Use your third eye and things becomes much clearer.
One love

animosity? Not at all. I just needed to bring out the other side strongly because people never want to face it. We keep talking about getting into his shoes and seeing his side, but nothing justifies negligence of ones children. Nothing at all. He can give any excuse now to counter what he knows could be the truth that the mother told icecoldveins and the OP would believe him because he's looking for the man's favor. Things happen. Men lie, too. He could be lying about his side. But his actions will have spoken louder than his words. If you check my post this is why I said it is foolishness to take it out on your spouse because it's your children that would be hurt.

And please, your post on the supernatural is...