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KanuSE:
Please point out where I demonstrated support for bad behaviour in men?

You see, you need to calm down & learn to love... regardless.

you need your advice more.

TheFacelessMan:
Sorry about what your mum claim your dad did. Your rants sound envious. Your jealous vituperations wouldn't stop the OP from reconciling with his father.

I pray you find peace like the OP. Good luck with that. I am done with you, so pour your frustrations elsewhere

OP, congratulations. I hope both parents LEARNT from the experience.

I hope your parents will get together. I know your dad accused your mum of a lot of things, things she did actually. Forgive her. He claimed a lot of things that made you feel differently about women. Forgive her. Apologize to both him and her. Then you can come and tell us all about it. You sound jealous that someone is telling the truth about what men like him do.
Your redundant posts can't change your reality. Sorry. You may carry the bitter frustrations that made you quote me to another thread. Or lie about your life in your numerous posts. It's okay. Nairalamd understands.

KanuSE:
People like BRATISLAVA are bad losers...

Easy to spot.

How can you tell this, if not through assumptions? You are the worst loser. You support bad behaviors in men. And for that, I don't value your input.

TheFacelessMan:
Nothing from my posts show misogyny. Everything about you reeks of father hatred. Read your own posts slowly.

No matter how you hide it. Hear the side of your dad. Maybe the cycle of hatred would stop.

From my first mention, anyone with minimal IQ would see clearly I said BOTH SIDES MIGHT HAVE THEIR SHARE OF GUILT.

Only an abject fool would listen to one side of the story and hurriedly jump to conclusions that it is the gospel truth.

Good luck about your dad.

PS - Mothers and Fathers are great.

and you know everything about me because of posts? What is there to hide? You take nairalamd too serious. I stick by what I said about you. You should iron out your issue with your mother and the other females in your. You sound bitter about anything that you feel is against men. You can call me a father hater if it helps you reconcile. Good luck with the females.

luminouz:
You don vex?
The first way to healing is to forgive and forget but clearly you still hurt inside. The fact is so long you're born into this world,you're on your own. Your father was meant to be a dad bit he messer up. That hurts but then there are those without fathers(almajiris in the north especially) who decided to strive and make it against all odds. I decided long ago to look at life from a perspective that my happiness and success rest on my shoulders,not someone else. So no matter how bad I was hurt(and I have been hurt like you will never believe),I forgive them and move on. Talking to him and relating with him after such evil deeds hurts him more than you. It means you have progressed to the point of looking at the future,not the past. You are not little anymore,are you? Why does his deed ghosts still haunt you? Holding in such pain damages you more than him. He is old already while you're still young. Dont let animosity ruin your own future.

Humans are humans,flawed and limited. Dont put your whole trust in them.

One love

Why would I be vexed? I am just worried at how easily we permit bad behavior from fathers then go on to repeat it. This permission is only because he is the father, not for any logical reason. I don't see why a man would be so wicked to the OP to the point where he can't mention it, but because he is afraid it will happen to him he is apologizing to the oppressor. It cannot happen to him if he cares for his own wife and family. This is the new age, we can't keep at old crude family methods and expect love. It's a pity that Africans rever even the most wicked men. Out there you kick them out of your life and move on.

Gordieshegz:
Sister, I can relate with the sense in your argument. However, we need to consider some reality checks.

Take for instance, how do you think ANDRE will react to CHURCHILL when he grew up to realise all TONTO did to his father? Hid him from his father's reach and frustrated his father's attempts to show some care?

Many single mothers are worse than Tonto and they manipulate their wards with lies garnished with emotions. They were never faulty in their own ways, just the husbands.

This post is not to justify the stupidity demonstrated towards wives by some insensitive husbands though.

Thankfully you get my point. I'm not saying women are angels, but most of these family issues are caused by men full of the stubborn male ego who believe they can never apologize and that they are always right.

TheFacelessMan:
LOL. I love my mum. I am proudly a mother's boy

I love my Dad as well. I got full dose on both sides.

Obviously you grew up broken and the pain makes you lash out. The venom is obvious. Sorry about your deadbeat dad, maybe you should listen to him, maybe your mum lied about him.

I truly feel your pain. ALL your comments show it 100% pure bitterness. End it so that the next generation doesn't suffer same. CIAO

Why is it that when people laugh out loud they try their best to conceal their pains? Reeks of lies. It's what you say versus what I say. I still believe what I last sent to you.
I do not have a deadbeat dad. He is exemplary. There are people who got married because they loved our family dynamic. I simply hate to see families torn apart, and then you know it's from the man but you've convinced yourself that he is a man and that women are nags. This is not true. I used to think the women were the problem, then I realized that most women put a lot into their families but the men get the recognition and they are put down instead.

TheFacelessMan:
You sound very bitter and a father-hater. I can easily guess you had a deadbeat dad.

Stop pouring your frustrations and trying to discourage the OP's re-conciliatory efforts towards his Dad.

No one was there and only a fool would believe that the Mum would be 100% honest about her shortcomings to her kids.

People lie blatantly when giving accounts during a fight. It is always best to assume both sides had their own share of guilt.

uh huh. Whatever makes you happy. You sound like you had a deadbeat mother, too. She frustrated you in many ways you dare not reveal. You sound like a mother-hater I can tell that from the frustrated bitterness you are pouring on me. Only a fool would believe a father would be 100% honest about his short comings to his kids.

Martinez39:
Op only mentioned his mother suffered. He did not specify anything. What abuse are you talking about? You don't know the full story yet you have implied, in your posts, that his father is a ravenous and remorseless beast and you speak like you are sure and you were present when some virtually unforgivable and egregious treatment was meted to the mother by the father. Of course, it is expected of you to think this way after all, the feminist koolaid is a toxic and potent one.

learn to stop hating women. I didn't read a word of this your mention because you have a mantra: women are nothing/useless/manipulators/the problem of your life. Automatically, you must spew that stuff and not really interested in reading that sentiment You believe if people don't agree with your indoctrination in MGTOW, then they are women. Yes, we are. All of us. Now, what next?

KanuSE:
Lol , don't mind BRATISLAVA he/she needs a good treat.

what kind of treat?

JONNYSPUTE:
..So what you expect him to do?. Forget about him totally for life?

didn't the man forget him totally for life?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. I don't think the people that ve contrary opinion with yours are supporting the said father. The truth about it is that is a wonderful development that he is reconciling with his dad no matter the wrong he has committed. But what I will not be a party to is if by him doing so,brings pain to his mother.We cannot erase the fact that most women/men try to manipulate their children in believing that one of them is bad and the reason for a breakup.Like in that thread,I followed it up and even had to comment about how one of my friend burst into tears after realising whole truth of what the father passed through after the breakup he had with his mother.I think it's a good thing he wants to hear the father's own side.Afterall,he is still the father.

so this justifies the abuse, negligence and everything that happened in the past? This is the problem with the thread. Treat your wife right and your children will respect you. Homes were built for mutual respect and love. Not I'm the father, I do what I want.

kallmemrB:
only a very uselesss person would ignore his kids due to any uselesss reasons.. Dont bother trying to correct him.. There lots of neglecting dads here... Lots of them that would eventually become deadbeat are here

Parenting 101 never ever leave ur kids life

they don't even seem to understand what we are saying.
Anyone who neglects their children should neglect them forever. Why would anyone punish children because of spouse? Too many wicked fathers everywhere. Unfortunately this OP seems to be after his father's houses and cars and is now calling his mother's sufferings wailing. He's scared he is under a curse until he reconciles. Well, his life.

Martinez39:
These are the malicious and wicked souls who insist, subtly, that op maintain the discord between him and his father. Even though IceColdVeins never mentioned specifically what his mum suffered in the hands of his father, they readily assumed his father was a cold-hearted beast who meted cruel and grievous treatments to his wife. Of course, these three women, in typical fashion, act like women can do no wrong and men are beasts. IceColdVeins, I congratulate you on bonding with your father. Do not let these three demons and their kind sway you from what you have done. It's a shame that they cherish the discord in family because of their "women are angels, men are beast that should be hated and punished" mentality.

Notice how Graxie disdains the fact that children try to establish connections with their fathers (to hear their own side of the story and, possibly, reconcile) even though the mother brought them up. To her, the children distancing themselves from their fathers is an apt reward to a mother who brought them up. Notice how she typed "some will even claim you manipulated them" as though this is a misapprehension in all cases of parental alienation. To her, bringing up children is not worth it if they would try to make up with fathers in future. This mindset of Graxie is shared by all women, especially feminists.

No human is perfect. If a human being own up to their offences and past misdeeds and are sincerely willing to make things right, who is to say they do not deserve a second chance? IceColdVeins, carry go.


CAPSLOCKED, Ubunja, emmaodet, JONNYSPUTE, AstroG, Omar09

when did the truth become malicious? Op specified his mother suffered, if only you didn't hate women(due to the messages preached to you in the RP movement) you might have seen that

luminouz:
I feel your points.
The scenario you described happens more than often. I had to be very logical too while young or I would have resented my dad. I opened my eyes,saw things from his perspectives and knew that man would sell his soul to make his children prosper. He proved it to us all. Financial downturns sometimes make women very unruly at home and I understood that too. They are still together and waxing strong and I have learnt a valuable lesson.

Leave Bratislava alone. Dude or chick is running on emotional fumes and I totally get that.

everything becomes emotional once you see the logic in apologizing to your oppressor. Your emotional standpoint that all women become unruly when their husbands are poor is your experience. I get that as men you must stand with men, but put that sentiment aside. So because he is going through hell he should put you through hell and later you will respect the hell he gave you because you are now a man/father and he was right? Let's hear something new that isn't male sentiment and retrogressive. You give too many excuses for terrible fatherhood

Angelfrost:
You have no idea how Nigerian fathers are stuck stubbornly in the belief that giving life to a child is the highest achievement ever... The negligence of this generation of fathers is incredulous.

Our generation has got to do much better.

bro, this is a true problem. We have to do better, but look at how everyone is supporting the negligent father. It's like it is a right to do anything you wish to because you are a father and everyone will suffer, but they must respect you and come lick your ass or they will suffer same fate not realizing they are simply continuing the cycle of infallibility of fathers by apologizing even when the men are clearly wrong.

SmartyPants:
This is a simple thread on a man forgiving his father. Seems like you are on a mission of your own... Why not start your own thread?

It's a free place, you air yours I air mine.

Ryan03:
the fact they most of you had/have dads who will move mountains for them doesn't mean it was same for everyone. I will quote you in a post so you tell me how to forgive such simply because he is a DAD.

bro, this is exactly what I'm saying. They are just forgiving not because there is anything to forgive, but because they are now men(probably doing same thing) and he was a dad. Not for anything sensible.

BLEMOSEDU:
What are you bitching about?
Are you angry that he made peace with his father? So you want him to keep hating his father despite now seeing things clearer? Nawaaa o
@op never listen to any negative opinion, one thing I always tell all boys/men is no matter the relationship you had with your father while growing up, never ever fail to find out why your father acted the way he did, hear him out before passing judgment, no matter what your mother may have told you about him, when you have come of age. Because what goes around definitely comes around.

you are one of the bitchy nags I earlier mentioned. If you like abuse your wife and kids. The children will only return to you out of fear. And maybe they will learn to be like you.

prizlezzlalasky:
Every one is entitled to their opinion,

That being said, we can't judge the father cause we ve not heard his side of the story......... Marriage is a misterious institution hence we should just concern ourselves with how the offsprings from the union will experience the love of a father and also unite their parents again.

what side of the story, madam? He already said he watched him abuse his mother. I will not be surprised that a man will murder a woman and you will still want to know his side of the story to justify murder for whatever reason. Same applies here

dominique:
Deadbeat dads will be dancing with joy on seeing this thread. Now they can continue being irresponsible because the kids they never cared for will grow up one day and reward them with gifts.

Your dad abandoned your mum to singlehandedly raise you but somehow it's your mum's fault and his irresponsible act is justified. If I were your mum, I'll curse you and disown you for life. The moment you go and build a relationship with a man that never cared about your existence while you were growing, you become dead to me.

This is what I'm on about. They suddenly see their mothers as having issues because as men now they behave exactly as their fathers did and have brewed misogyny to the level that the woman who showed them love is now the enemy. I don't understand how it's now suddenly his side. His side suddenly forgives all and turns on the mother. Most children form a true opinion of their parents devoid of any interference. It is later that the sides show up when they've grown. But I realized that they are scared they will be abandoned too, so they run to apologize (what was their crime as children who saw a monster against their mother and rightly so?) Lest evil befalls them. It's fear moving them.

abimbola74:
Why sounding so bitter, are you not happy he reconciled with his dad? You don't even know him so why letting your emotions do the typing.

What emotions? Logically if the man is so bad, why sentimentally going back to him because of illogical fear?

blank:
I'm just wondering. How will the expensive gifts you want to buy for him make up for the parental neglect you suffered from him? He had a disagreement with your mom and decided to take it out on the kids by not providing for them? Sounds like a douchebag. But what do I know?

Honestly wondering at the strangeness of it all. It's like a ticket to evil and they endorse it. Imagine neglecting you and then you running after the man. Men suck in emotions they say. Rubbish. If he valued his family he would put aside baseless pride and stoop to conquer. Rather they now demonize their mothers and sympathize with the fathers. Some form of Stockholm syndrome. The oppressor deserves some love, eh?

chriskosherbal:
Easier Said than done, op first of all I want to use this medium to say you are a man, for trying to make peace with your Dad, there is a particular blessing that biological father's carry that NO man on earth no matter how highly placed in any field can give to you..Am quoting you because you are still trying to condemn and Judge his Dad, the OP said we never listened to his own side of the story cos men just know how to suck in emotions.

Being the last male in the family I stayed with family for a longtime before I left, and I must say mother's are wonderful but can choke a man to death sometimes if that man lack emotional shockabsolver when things start to fall apart especially finance, Seeing my mum cry complaining to me sometimes you will think Dad is just heartless until I grew to understand that mum most times just want things to go her way always forgetting Dad feelings, and the fact he still the head of the home, irrespective of finance and mum sometimes couldn't just be submissive.

You see when you grow older in life you will definitely love your mum but tend to appreciate your Dad's effort so far in trying to raise a family ( we were 8 in number, even though we lost 2), providing for everyone's need, food, academics, name it, and coping with mums constant nagging sometimes can be really frustrating and unbearable, you will see it practically clear when you start to have kids..

It takes God and a man that is determine to keep his family together irrespective of trials/temptation to still keep going, sincerely I love my mum no doubt but my RESPECT for my Dad have skyrocked when I came face to face with real life ...I love you DAD.

Men only love their fathers because of red pill movements and because they usually become the monster of their childhood in later life.

So you think mothers only nag? Do you know if fathers nag? With the way men complain about almost everything about women from cooking to cleaning, who do you think nags most?

Even when mothers are bread winners, at the end of the day comes underserved love and respect for a man who prioritized other things over his family. Because people need to recognize fathers. Whatever that means.

I've noticed a lot of hatred for dead beat mothers and love and "understanding" for dead beat fathers. Why? Sexual bigotry. Nothing less. Nothing more.

All I see are ungrateful kids. They always think their mothers are evil when they've grown up and swallowed the red pills, and that they need to see things from his side, even when he abandoned them or abused them.

Men don't suck in emotions; they are downright bitchy too. That is why they take it out on their families by being absentee fathers. If women dared to try this...!

And yet, the children always look for them. Not because they are good. But because society has made even evil men have a side. Even murderous men have a side. As if evil is justified simply by fatherhood because if you don't apologize to him you will suffer. Fear.

IceColdVeins:
Not that bro. I will always be on the side of every loyal woman and will treat them with love as well.
But I have now come to terms with the fact that no one is perfect, especially when it comes to marriage. During my childhood, I never saw things from the perspective OF my dad, we only kept on listening to mom's wailings(she suffered truthfully) but we never get to hear his own side of the story cos
a man never shows emotions. My reconcilation with dad is not a pat on his head for his wrongdoings but a move to make peace within myself.
You'll understand when you have a disagreement with your wife and your own children start taking sides.
I'm just trying a retrace my steps and lay a good foundation for my unborn children.

So now that you heard his side it has justified the cruel treatment to your mother that you said made her to suffer? What if he lied to you? What do your unborn children have to do with his unkindness to your mother?. Problem is that many men do evil to their wives not knowing that the people who will never forgive them are the children. The way your unborn children will have nothing to do with this is if you treat your future wife well. I have no pity for men who do evil and get abandoned by their kids. This is why abuse in any form is foolishness, because it is the children who will suffer it not even the spouse you want to hurt. His side means nothing. The oppressors do not need sympathy except from fellow oppressors. And yes, it will be taken as a pat on the back. Loyal or disloyal, nobody deserves to be abused . Just divorce. Don't torture yourself and kids.

"Her wife Mandy".
That's confusing. How do these people get pronouns mixed.

Mrman87:
Good evening all the Doctors in the house.

Please, there is a growth in my anus, which has been there for the past 7- 8 days. I've taken ampiclox, but, it's not going down. It sometimes pains me.
Please, how can I get it treated.

Sounds like hemorrhoids. Or a boil. Or a lipoma. Or a hernia . Or a cyst. Please go to a hospital to get it checked out as soon as possible. Unless you drop pics, nobody here can know what it really is. And you shouldn't do that.

When will he apologize to your mum? Or have you forgotten that part? You've forgotten why you didn't care about him? Another bro code moment. Maybe you've found yourself maltreating women, too, so now it's okay. Or maybe all those cars and houses you mentioned have to do with it.

Must they cry? Can't they pray?

Provide evidence. Or remove the thread.

Must u sleep with everything? Even after all the stories