₦airaland Forum

Saltybear:
So far you have tried here is my advise

You have to have a three step plan

Number 1 divide and conquer

Establish a clear goal : in this case to replace this staff with as little down time as possible and to have the school running seamlessly.

Promote the one with the most influence and gossip tendency , make it unexpected and call him or her out infront of all the other staff and praise this staff abundantly and.thank the said staff for advise in front of all the others then tell them to emulate this staff for growth and ensure that good virtues are.rewarded ensure there is a good salary increase for just this staff and place this staff above all the others , to give them instructions and have the other teachers report to this teacher only no more directly to you

Result: this will break their cabal and breed distrust and you will also have an eye amongst the team

Second phase : prior to this you must have made this teacher above set stringent rules and certain changes that you are certain will.be violated .. make.sure all penalties are announced by this teacher above never you.. ask you NYSc corpers who will be teaching assistants, to some of the other cabal members , you come up with the list yourself but give the list to said teacher to distribute to other teachers , note thr plan is these teaching assistants will.be used to replace this old cargo

Phase three: have this head teacher alot more responsibility to the corpers and announce a monthly best staff reward, make it something you can sustain like 5k monthly to the best teacher the corpers must partake , use influence to ensure corpers win mostly and never announce this yourself but always praise the so called head teacher for such ingenuity

By this time the cabal will be coming to.you to gossip against the head teacher and curry favor always play along

Your management meetings must only consist of yourself, mum.and that teacher
The teacher should have his or her own meetimgs with the other teacher ..never ever meet with them directly


Replacement phase

Have a meeting with the teacher to announce a down sizing , corpers will have to take slack since they are only paid small change.. ask that teacher to recommend two teachers to be downsized

Look what you need is a business development professional

Send me a PM

The only reasonable advice here. Exactly how I would deal with this.

You think they don't know how many children to have? It's for another purpose that people just eject babies and move on to eject some more. Do you really think they don't know why they are doing it? Look around you. It's many hands, not many mouths. And you know what hands do best.

Wow! Congratulations! This has improved STEM, the true driver of populations.

Isn't that all they do? Preying on Innocents.

The story is so dirty it's hard to believe it.

Nice list.

Add MLM to your list. I wonder how people still believe in those impossible things

This one may stay natural for a while longer. Looks like a stripper.

Thegamingorca:
Someone said your feet look dirty and you are here complaining of a stained girl undies

LMAO

B3sty:
Chai !!!
Just look at what this "small" Girl with Big God has turn this Baba to... See pose self.

LMFAO

Anambralstson:
On Monday next week Engr Emeka Okwuosa CEO Oilserv group will be dedicating this edifice to secondary school in his village Oraifite

impressive. These guys don't wait for churches or the government to do things.

Adanairaland:
Lol!!!
This is funny

there are flying snakes

drips8:
I see nothing wrong with what ozil did, just because he's a celebrity doesn't mean he can't speak up against injustice.

but when he made such statements, was he sure about what he was saying without the shadow of a doubt? Or will we interview the Chinese and hear about different things entirely? He could be acting uninformed and with his following cause fake news and angry killings for something he's not certified to know about thoroughly. He's speaking through religious sentiment. Where is his proof? And where is the Chinese proof?

lexy2014:
4u to say that I am a "hypocrite" and "that I don't no my Bible", is more or less an emotional outburst cos I don't see how that comment is relevant to d discussion. This is a harmless conversation about a very simple matter but I am surprised at ur unprovoked personal attack & use of foul language even in a so called biblical conversation.

If u didn't agree with what I said, it wouldn't cost u anything to point out d errors in my comment without resorting to personal attacks. Ur use of d type of language u use doesn't in anyway validate what u said. What validates what u said are ur facts.

In relation to my comment, if u noticed, I picked out d point u made about Eli. That point was erroneous & I did justice (without calling u names) by telling u that his docility wasn't a virtue according to scriptures. So I fail to see how that warrants u spilling ur emotions.

thanks for reminding me about Eli. His live and let live was not the best ending for him or his sons.

bluebay:
Did you take time to ask the girl if she's happy about it ? Coz her face is telling something else..

lol. It's just the make up

Prazo1:
have you seen some made estates in Abuja...fire

share pics of the Abuja ones, because they're mostly old houses from generations past

ednut1:
Clitocurrency. Sometime i wish i was a gal. I go get big ass too

lol. Never too late.

sonnie10:
Bobrisky didn’t need one

lolzzzzz

Frankyboy1:
We must make deliberate effort not to glamorise rubbish, getting a house does not justify the worthless means, everyone calls God,even the successful armed robber who kills and maims for a living, once you are acquire possessions God is good and every voice of reason is a hater, in fact its an insult to call her an actress,cause I can't recollect seeing her in any movie,all I know is she has a big pack of poo behind, and some thieves in high places will spend the countries commonwealth in compensation for minutes of pleasure with empty skulls as this,and you wonder why the nation never moves forward, they steal in billions,spend millions on oloshism who come online to Bragg and try to intimidate genuine hustling youths, and justify their ways by using God! Park of assholes

average Nigerian will h8 u 4 say ds. Fact is dey hv glamorize wealth n will l8r tun 2 motivate speaker to celebrate d ill gotten wealth n ppl will tell u 2 celebrate with Dem or any 1 in ur family hv dey Eva achieve wt d person hv?

Graxie:
please ignore that guy, do yourself a favor and do that. He has a female partner here, all they do is ridicule women and make light of their pain. You just ignore them.

I think I know the "woman". Though that person is either brainwashed, a slave in her marriage or actually a man. She and the crack addict and the man with his red pills are from the same camp. They excuse anything wrong and try to hear the other side, then turn it on the victim while claiming to be digging for info. When all info is tabled, it will somehow be there victims fault.

RisenPhoenix:
So you are a woman. I thought you were a man which is why I replied you in the first place.

I am not saying he has a right to be forgiven. I am saying he has a right to his self respect. You are thinking there's a chance of him going to jail? Dream on. The police will probably laugh her out if she tries to get him arrested and that is not even the issue here. Even the threat of jail should not make him lose his self-respect. Nothing should. If she decides not to forgive him, she should leave; as she has. He should leave her there or go through her father (if he's more rational than his wife and daughter) to enquire what is the next step. That was my advice, and that is all I have to say. You can't tell me what to advice him. Write your own advice and stop trying to amend mine.

And she wasn't just trying to 'voice her opinion'. She was actually harrassing him after he repeatedly asked her to leave him alone.

so you are a woman? I'm astonished. I thought I have been talking to a man. No wonder communication has been difficult.

RisenPhoenix:
So you are a woman. I thought you were a man which is why I replied you in the first place.

I am not saying he has a right to be forgiven. I am saying he has a right to his self respect. You are thinking there's a chance of him going to jail? Dream on. The police will probably laugh her out if she tries to get him arrested and that is not even the issue here. Even the threat of jail should not make him lose his self-respect. Nothing should. If she decides not to forgive him, she should leave; as she has. He should leave her there or go through her father (if he's more rational than his wife and daughter) to enquire what is the next step. That was my advice, and that is all I have to say. You can't tell me what to advice him. Write your own advice and stop trying to amend mine.

And she wasn't just trying to 'voice her opinion'. She was actually harrassing him after he repeatedly asked her to leave him alone.

so you are a woman. I'm astonished. I thought I have been talking to a man.

midnighter:
Attempting to level the playing field is not the same as stating that 2 things are on a level playing field.

He is right; if OP would sign anything then she should also sign not to bully him and then he should sign again not to come back back late and then she should sign not to call her parents over nonsense. Na sign dem go con sign o

If she was to have beaten him for questioning her whereabouts at 2AM, you would switch the narrative.

I repeat, is the level field of physical violence the same as nagging? Evaluate that. I'm not interested in how you wish to twist that. Is it level or not?

Voicing opinion has turned to bullying. Lol. You people are such domestic violence apologists.

Have you forgotten that he should be in jail if he was to split the lip of anyone? And that he would do worse to anyone who split his lip? Yet you've created level fields on unbalanced actions to justify him.

They should sign to that so that she cannot express her fundamental right to speech while he expresses his criminal "right" to battery. Evaluate the two things carefully

. I know that Nigerians have no fundamental human rights and that is why people will equate battery to nagging and see justification in doing so. Try that in the West and report on the results.

RisenPhoenix:
The problem here seems to be comprehension. I never said she should accept his apology. I said the apologies he has made should be more than enough for her to forgive him; meaning if she's going to. Those asking him to go prostrating for her and kissing her feet so she can forgive him are asking him to debase himself and give up his self-respect. No one should be made to do that. One apology should be sufficient. If she doesn't agree, she should leave. It is not like she was entirely blameless.

And if you had read my original comment before rushing to debunk what you did not get fully, you would have seen that I do not believe in violence as a solution for marital issues.

I agree. There's a comprehension problem here. You have made it clear in all your earlier posts that he is begging too much, and that his wife is too unforgiving of him beating her and drawing blood. Nobody should have to be beaten for voicing their opinion, whether you think they should or should not. If he has begged too much, then he has beaten too much. He has no right to be forgiven as you feel he is entitled to. If he wishes to debase himself begging, he is only doing it because he doesn't want to go to jail for giving her more than a split lip. You should've advised him to avoid criminal violence. Instead your pain is that he's to stop begging her. When you commit crimes you will debase yourself. That is what he's doing

RisenPhoenix:
You make a lot of assumptions which I never implied. My position is that one has the right to beat another. And in addition, no one has the right to expect another to debase himself before her.

so why sound like he has a right to beat her, apologize and she should accept it otherwise she is a bad person? The man should be in jail at the very least and you've somehow managed to make it about debasing himself.

crackhaus:
In your haste to appear a genius, it eluded you so embarrassingly that the idea was never to equate similar situations, but instead to level the playing field and prevent against future occurrences brought on by cause & effect.

in your haste to appear a genius you are still afraid to answer: how are physical violence and screaming a level playing field ? Accept that your level field talk is pointless and stop aimlessly trying to argue out of it.

kennylesy122:
Yep I Surrendered ���
But seriously Is there Any kind of DMs on NL ��

I don't know. And I doubt there's such.

kennylesy122:
Ah God I wished I could Continue this Conversation with you but it’s not my Relationship neither yours Ma’am I rest my case yet I don’t understand this nairaland person no fit Send DMs ? �

ok my dear

kennylesy122:
Wait!!!!!!!
Are you married Or are in a Relationship
So if ur partner slaps u intentionally or Unintentionally His Going to pay for that ?? ���

Anyone who commits a crime will face the law. There is no partner in assault. It is a lie that partners assault themselves unintentionally. It is not an accident, so it cannot be overlooked. I will not hit a partner and if I am hit, they will face the law. That is assault.

They can never find young wives. They instead prefer to adopt other mens white/semi-white children. They will even get the 5 times divorced one. Black men inferiority. At least white men know to go for young fertile black women.

RisenPhoenix:
He said he spent the whole night apologising. A fraction of that should have been enough for her to forgive him.

if someone hit you and injured you in an act of violence, would you accept their apology because they deserve to be forgiven or get them arrested for assault? You're acting like a man raising his hand on his wife is his right, so if he apologizes she must accept. You've failed to call it what it is. It is criminal force and a violent assault. No matter the provocation, if you meet such a person outdoors you wouldn't try hitting them because you would end up in jail. So why do it at home and feel like it is your right to use force on another person? You guys can't understand crime. You've made it marital sentiment and believe that women must take physical abuse while men cannot stand it. Imagine if each time as a man you say something another person doesn't like and they beat you up for it, later claiming it was your nagging fault and an accident. Isn't that madness?

kennylesy122:
Ok so you agreeing she should leave her matrimonial home cause of a little Rift right ?.
I rest my case An Accident is an Accident,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,so if not her husband that slap her if it’s another person for example they report to the police and he got arrested would that Return the Blood back Abeggiiiii Shakara is good but too much shakara dy burn body.
He at fault 70% But that doesn’t require Leaving ur matrimonial home.

and accident is a car crash, plane crash or a forest fire consuming people. Drawing blood from someone, hitting someone isn't an accident. It is premeditated. She can leave if she wishes to, because what happened is domestic violence- not an accident- and if brought to a police station, it is criminal force and he will be called a criminal and sentenced. If he touched anyone else like that it would not be an accident. He would be serving for his crime.

RisenPhoenix:
No individual should engage in self abasement and grovelling. Any woman who expects that her husband should jettison his self respect to satisfy her vengeful pride; regardless of what he did to her; is just not worth it.

but a man can do that? Is that what you're saying? So if your wife gave you a slap that resulted in bloodshed, she shouldn't beg you? You will be so kind as to forgive immediately? She shouldn't think you are worth it to apologize to you?