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marvin906:
which bad thing did you now see there apart from womanizing..
we boys of the family ain't complaining..
my younger brother is on another level

NevetsIbot:
Looks - I look so fucking like him.

Temper - I get irritated easily and just go off like a bomb without warning. Working on this though. He just recently began working on his temper

Cleanliness - can't stay in a dirty place. Dad will never stay in a smelly place

Smartness - The man had a very sharp brain... I mean, super sharp and I too.

Conscience - I have this conscience that bites me hard everytime and he has it also.

Integrity - we both keep to our words.

Wickedness - Naim be my boss... I dey follow am for back

marvin906:
womanizing..from my dad..the guy Sha I lost count on he's girlfriends
open handed from my mom.
humbleness, kindness from my mom..
tolerance from my mom..
high spending from my dad ..
family oriented can do anything for family from Dad and mom

pcguru1:
If it is required and if the target I'm wicked towards is from my father's side. But other than that I'm a really sweet person.

Strica:
you did not hear "sarcastically" ba?

pocohantas:
She could have kept silent and someone else will?

What if that is the case? Why do we most times/always assume, people confess out of GOODWILL?

DonHummer:
if your only problem is the lie then forgive her cause she still told you the truth. if eventually you decide to find another woman who will not lie to you then you are surely wasting your time..she told you the truth cause she knows how much you hate lies and she has got a conscience. Trust me no lady will easily tell you she had an abortion.

coolguy4christ:
My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship.

When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened.

Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months.

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.

Since then, I have mixed feelings for her:

Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me!

The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again.

She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married.

The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again?

CuriousX:
I need more contributions and advice pls. Lalasticlala pls help me get to front page

seunfly:
Listening to news is not a sign of grown up, infact news to enlighten person is tools of brainwashing. CNN, BBC, NTA, AIT etc are tools of misinformation. They all present some people narrative, agenda and interest.

I used to watch news until I realised that they are mind controlling tools.

The person I take special kin in is the person that tuned TV to educative channels such is history, discovery, cosmic, cognative, national geographic etc.

Obi1kenobi:
You think Western civilization has "no true culture"? You think Germans and the French, and Italians and Swedes etc have "no true culture"? Eziokwu?

midnighter:
Nah, I mean come back occasionally to visit and know his place/people. Of course the person doesnt need to live anywhere he doesnt want to live. But they at least need to see where they come from.

You left Nigeria in the first place because the country is dysfunctional. You didnt leave because there is something inherently wrong with the people who live there. If not for destiny, you also would have been suffering Nigerian condition so I dont see what is so difficult about coming back once in a while. You have a root, you must come back and see it for yourself or you will grow into a confused adult.

This especially important for black people. Especially black boys! They are bombarded daily with the message that they are totally useless...they need to see the other aspect of their life..their position in the world.

Its actually a baseless mental restriction and a sign of inferiority complex and timidity to starve your kids of cultural education just because you believe that you have "escaped" from your stupid country. A truly enlightened person would make all the effort to inculcate their origin into their kids.

Natasha Akpoti is on Channels tv fighting INEC right now, her mother is a white lady yet she has the guts and empowerment to contest for Kogi state governorship. If her father had avoided Nigeria believing that it was too "dysfunctional", where would she be

I dont know what OP has in mind...I am not necessarily advocating for moving permanently back to Nigeria with the wife and kids...I just meant that they should at least visit.

For the long distance relationship, all that stuff you are saying is just a condition of being in that kind of relationship. People who stay together in the same place all the time also face their own problems...people who are in normal relationships still fake and cover up their imperfections. Dont we see threads about that on here every day??

People meet thousands of people in their office, the eatery, the road, wherever and still mess up So thats not particular to long distance relationships. Whether the relationship works or not depends on how patient the couple is and how much they are willing to adjust as they get to know each other.

He says she is prideful and fat because he has observed behaviour that has led him to believe that she is prideful and fat! How is that a disconnect Are you saying that she wouldnt be fat if he were by her side 24/7? And the problem isnt that shes fat, the problem is that she refuses to do anything about it.

He pointed out that she is not too free with herself because she is already well taken care of, unlike some hungry/gullible girls who will throw all their morals out of the window for shawarma and coke. I dont see anything wrong with that observation, in fact it was a smart one.

His question was, what would she be like if she didnt have all that anymore? If he is not able to provide the lifestyle she is used to, how will it affect the relationship? Again, this is a perfectly reasonable question!

Love is important but its also important to have certain standards for what you want in a spouse and what you can and cannot tolerate. Love is just the initial primer. You still have to be realistic about whether you can actually cope with the person.

She hasnt attacked his weight, maybe she doesnt have a problem with fat guys...thats her business. Moreover, he said that he was trying to reduce his weight.

He is telling her that her weight is a problem for him, instead of her to work on herself she is getting angry, does that make sense to you

midnighter:
Well thats why I said I dont totally agree with you (though the bolded is correct IMO)

A Nigerian child must come to Nigeria and know his roots (whether his mother is white, asian, whatever). He has a culture and an inheritance, a family. If the person doesnt come back, they are actually wasting away over there in a sense.

Life is not all 24-hour electricity, good roads and free education. Of what use is your wonderful education if you dont even know where you come from

Furthermore whether a long distance relationship will work depends on the two people involved in it...its not fair to say that it's fake.

Even people who were together for 5 years and decided to marry can still divorce in under a year if care is not taken.

The guy shouldnt rule out dating a woman in the place he is on the basis of travelling ...as long as she is interested in coming back and embracing his culture there is no problem. As both of us pointed out, there are Nigerian women who will "waste your sperm" finish if they have the chance so thats not a fair criterion.

midnighter:
Though I dont totally agree with Bratislava, what you just wrote there is really not true

A child whether born of a white woman or not will always like to come back as long as you as the parents give the correct orientation

I have plenty of cousins with parents from the same state sef who have never been to Nigeria in their lives because their parents never bothered to bring them. And there are people in Lagos, Abuja and other major cities who say they cant go to their place and their kids still end up getting confused

If you marry a white lady who has a positive disposition towards Nigeria and not one who just wants to corner you in one suburb in New Jersey, after a while she will even begin to come back without you

If you visit Shoprite in any reasonable state on a Saturday afternoon you will see the white ladies wandering around with their kids so being white is not the problem here but correct orientation and marrying an open-minded person who embraces you and your background

kizyalex10:
any child mostly born of a white women is seen as a lost sperm bro.they cant come bck to naija and still u carter for them.and i want a core african child.i love her but still want her to adhust atleast for love.i love her too

olajizz01:
Stop saying gibberish, how many trailers of cassava do want,only farmers for my small town will served you as many trailers as you want.

Jaynom:
It depends on what we're buying

oz4real83:
all these weapons they also smuggle through our borders, do we need them to survive? Are the illegal arms already in circulation not enough? Is it only cassava grains they smuggle? Our cassava grain is enough to sustain us. We are the largest producer of cassava in the whole wide world. We don't need smuggled cassava.

xpool:
It will die in the churches, tithing to the needy is path of humanity and will never end

oz4real83:
Since Nigeria has said " NO" in capital letters, can't these countries take their goods to other African countries? Is the African free trade not for all African countries? Egypt has an economy as big as that of Nigeria, they have large population, all these countries that keep taking advantage of Nigeria can take their goods there. Sambisa forest belongs to all Nigerians but not all Nigerians will want it as a gift even as large as it is.

jesusjnr:
John who was the closest disciple to Jesus put this better:

John 12:4-8 (KJV)


4 Then saith one of his disciples, Judas Iscariot, Simon's son, which should betray him,
5 Why was not this ointment sold for three hundred pence, and given to the poor?
6 This he said, not that he cared for the poor; but because he was a thief, and had the bag, and bare what was put therein.
7 Then said Jesus, Let her alone: against the day of my burying hath she kept this.
8 For the poor always ye have with you; but me ye have not always.

So point of correction, it was not the disciples that said that, but just one of them.

Secondly, he said that not because he cared for the poor, but because he was a thief and was the one who kept the bag.

As for your Op question, the reason Jesus said that was because poverty wasn't in the beginning when God made man but man chose it by his freewill.

So poverty would always be there even after Jesus dies for man's sins, since it would take for man's freewill to partake of His salvation combined with the fact that most men are not willing to do what it takes to be saved.

But in an ideal setting where all men had of their own free will met the requirement of salvation, the poor would no longer be there, because everything would have been reversed back to the way it was in the beginning where there was no poverty.

God bless.

xpool:
Point of order! Living of the things of the temple is different from feeding from the temple.
You talk about Peter as if you knew him. Did Peter marry?
Who was his wife if yes?
How many children did peter have?
Stop formulating what you don't know, if you so love Peter, why not follow his foot steps and stick to the only one Church he helped form?
The problem with pastors is inadequate education in theology.

That aside, life Before and after the BC, and before and after the AD and now are not same.
Our ways of life have changed.
The time you was preaching about tithe should be used to preach against social vices like LGTB,,and indiscriminate proliferation of Churches.
Tithe is a dead end, it is going to die a natural death, because it was for the Levite's and the needy, not pastors.
Preach against sins, stop wasting time on irrelevant essays about Greedy pastors.

alBHAGDADI:
Nice

Today, many fools run their mouth at pastors and act as if they know the Bible in and out. Whereas, their rudeness is only inspired by an anti-church article they read online.

Imagine people saying pastors ought to go get a job and stop depending on Church money. They foolishly use Apostle Paul as an example, saying he made his income from tent making.

Was Paul a pastor? Did he pastor any Church? No, he didn't because he was an evangelist moving about preaching the gospel. Peter, James, John etc were pastors of churches. Can anyone show me where they worked? You can't find such.

Have you ever wondered why Peter was silent after Jesus saw him fishing after his resurrection in John 21? He knew he had messed up. When Peter the fisherman was called by Jesus, what did Jesus say? He said he was going make him a Fisher of men. Peter dropped his net and followed Jesus. So, Jesus was disappointed to see him return to fishing again. "Jesus saith to Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these?"

A pastor is to feed from the Church, a thing apostle Paul also approved. If a pastor gets a 9-5 job, he won't be able to have time to study the word of God which he will use to feed his flock. If the church has a serious programme coming up, he might miss it if his company decide to send him on an assignment to another city. Imagine his church is on the mainland and he works at Lekki, think of the traffic he would be facing before he gets to church for a midweek service.

kizyalex10:
i dont want to marry a white woman and i respect relationships too.and this part of the world is where there re few africans and nigerians too.and i cant marry someone i dont love because she stays in d same country with me

Tetehjewels:
For your information even his wife knows he has changed. Right now he is totally against her dress styles and attitudes and she is appealing to him to give her time. She said his new found spiritual experience is not her way as yet but he should give her time.

I believe he has changed or is well on his way to a full change. His musical evangelism to the Prisons was a low budget secret move by him and there is no way that was meant to be a selling strategy because he not only sand but also preached and several gave their lives to Christ and were encouraged during this encounter as evidenced in the videos.

Kanye is on a journey of love. Even before he officially became born again his first change was his ideology. I noticed he was talking more about love for everyone and accepting everyone in love and even his family were shocked because that was not the normal Kanye.

If you do not think he has changed that is your cup of tea. Let all be who they are and be known to God who sees and knows the secrets of our heart including yours if you are genuine in your faith or not.

kizyalex10:
we talk like everyday .we dont really feel the distance.and distance have nt been the problem but her attitude to adjust to the things i find faulty

jesusjnr:
The reason I believe Kanye is different is because he did "Jesus walks" even when it seemed a very unwise career move for hip hop artists at the time, and had been rejected by record companies just because of that song who asked him to take it out but he refused and persisted with it.

That move alone said something about him and I have been watching him closely ever since because it takes more than an ulterior motive to have made such a career threatening move. So when this happened it wasn't a complete surprise to me, because although I knew he was arrogant and self-seeking at the time as all of us were at some point, that quality to swim against the tide for Jesus then in a sense, was a very rare one.

And this selfless move to go to the prison to perform to prisoners for free as well, hence my question, what could be career boosting about this particular move?

He didn't need it for anything, in fact it would have come at a personal cost, so couldn't have even bothered. And this should perhaps suggest to you the difference between his case and others who claimed such but weren't sincere.

The truth is that he has taken the name of Jesus to places the church has not been able to take it to, so why not pray for him even though you doubt his sincerity?

So that you'd not have yourself speaking against something that God was about just in case he was true.

God bless.

kizyalex10:
I have been dating a girl for over 2 years now.its a distant relationship so lets say the last time i saw her was when i visited naija last year.i love this girl and i even went formally to introduce myself to the parents about my intentions to settle down with her.she is beautiful and kinda reserved and intelligent. But she have pride issues lazy to a fault and she is gaining so much weight of late that iam nt finding funny.iam on the big side and i knw d health risk attached to it nd have been on exercise nd trying to cut down ny size.but all d whole thing i complain about her doesnt seem to move her or she gets angry anytime i point out her faults.now iam confused because of how far we have gone nd meeting her family nd she knowing her family.we have gone too deep for me or her to back out.she isnt making any effort to improve.and am plañning on an intro dis xmas.and i intend to set her up bfor leaving but i have a concern if she can handle d business.
N.B..my major concern is that most of things i said i love abt her like to be reserved is probably because she doesnt lack anything cos her family aupply her excess of her needs.so she is not the one u can decieve with money.my concern is what if we re married and d fund is nt coming like she used to get from d family.will she be calling her home everytime to ask for more money or keep nagging on my ear.am confused.plz help a brother