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MrBrownJay1:
Nah the rape is irrelevant... if he had reported the other crime. The fact that he didnt want to report anything is the " strange" part here.



I would scream, like most people would... OLE!!!! THIEF!!! BARAWO!!!!!



Here is a simple clue: I believe that this story makes NO DAMN SENSE.... as even after all this brouhaha of jail, that man hasn't said a word to incriminate (or get hold of) the people who robbed/raped him. It actually seem like this person simply forgot about this rape AND robbery, just as he tried to forget about it when it "supposedly" happen. It makes NO DAMN SENSE imho.

Btw do you think being locked up for 2 weeks is worst than being raped and robbed?

No matter how much you capitalize, make bold and use your opinion to judge something you haven't seen up close, it will not make sense to you. You can try using your empathy. And if it doesn't exist, then you need to be less judgemental. And if you can't stop being judgy in sensitive matters, then you need to evaluate your humanity.
You used to be sensible in your other posts, but this stance you have on male rape is appalling. Rape isn't logic. When you accept that it will begin to make sense.
Bye Felicia.

MrBrownJay1:
It has nothing to do with rigidity, and all to do with what's RIGHT, however difficult it may be. This man obviously had all his sense to find his way home... but not to follow simple procedure to prosecute this "supposed" crime.

You make it seem like it's a lie simply because the man didn't follow the police procedure for reporting a rape. That is unnecessary rigidity in the face of something nobody can predict the reaction of the victim. You feel that it's a lie because he did not report the robbery. If he was raped he would be trying to hold himself together first. Not to go screaming that he was robbed.Have a heart and don't scream "ARRANT NONSENSE!" without showing empathy first. Face humanity first, then other scenarios. You don't have to burn yourself first before you believe that others get burned.

Ryan03:
I am a police officer and I know the atrocities committed by civilians daily and how the police work tirelessly to keep a sane environment. In Nigeria, everybody arrested by the police is always an innocent civilian who is being harassed by the police.

Ok, sir. Thank you.

MrBrownJay1:
So you mean to say that man was right to walk home after being raped/robbed?!... and just forget about the atrocities that he has gone through?!

Rape isn't a logical thing to most of the victims. They are traumatized and cannot process what has happened to them. Some feel dirty and want to get clean afterwards so the first thing they do is to bath. Some kill themselves afterwards. You cannot decide for people how they will react to it. Some don't know the procedure for reporting a rape. Stop being so rigid. Not everyone was begging to be raped.

Godtschild:
I agree with you but I hope you also apply this as the reason women who are raped don’t come forward.

Rape isn't a man or woman thing. In the end the victim, either man or woman, will go through the same thing. So yes, I can understand why a woman may hide a rape as much as a man will. Even if they come out years later, it doesn't rule out the fact that it happened.

MrBrownJay1:
ARRANT NONSENSE!!!!
Yes the Nigerian police force may be crazy but putting a traumatized and confused person in jail after he has reported a crime (with social media and phone call and text proof about how he was lured) ... you make no sense.

And again, assuming what madness the police " may" do, is irrelevant to the issue... as he could have simply be quiet about rape (in shame) and report the robbery AT LEAST

you're not a police officer, and you wouldn't believe the atrocities committed against innocent people, so you know nothing.

VolvoS60:
^^^
You shouldn't be.

It has been this way in Nigeria for years - only that women were almost exclusively the victims. That is beginning to change - or at least the reporting is beginning to change.

In our system, men habitually mock female rape victims with the same old tired excuses ("she was asking for it", "what was she looking for in his house", "why was her skirt knee length instead of ankle length" etc.). When in frustration, someone said men will only begin to take rape seriously when homosexual rape becomes widespread, she was scorned. But we are slowly getting there.

There are settlements, trailer and motor parks, markets etc. in this country where you are finished if you are male and you have car trouble or are lost after dark. . Losing your material possessions such as phones and money will be the least of your problems.

There are cultural or occultic beliefs (yes - in this country) which view homosexual rape as leading to some kind of spiritual transfer (whatever the hell that means ) of the 'luck' or 'destiny' of the victim to the rapist. Yes...in this country.

This is the hell we have created for ourselves and some on here are pretending not to see it.

We shall see.

It's appalling! This is not how humans should react to things! No sympathy for the man, even from men. It's like he was asking for it. Imagine when men's daily occupations can lead them to being raped and people think it's funny or fake.

Many men who it happens to are too shamed to come out and say that it happened. If this can be done to men who don't dress provocatively, imagine what women have gone through.

I'm surprised to learn there are such communities. Men are truly under attack and they're so focused on women and laughing at men that it happened to that they can't see it's a big problem that's coming up.

Blinkers:
People are devils in this country, walahi!

Worse are the idiots criticizing the young man for not reporting as if they don't know the madness police do in the name of policing.

I'm telling you.
I wonder if these people have an ounce of empathy.

eTECTIV:
Why do some of U like to act like everything is normal in dis country? So U expected him to walk to d nearest police station to report dat he was defiled by guys he didn't know? Police neva act on female rape victims na male own dem wan act on? Why do we like to pretend like such things don't happen daily in dis country? Dis is f same country where ppl are afraid to help dying persons in public becos of d police tagging dem suspects

I'm surprised at the callous response of men. This is why he didn't report it. He probably walked confused and traumatized to wherever he did. Some are asking why he didn't show the police his bleeding anus(can you imagine that?), so that they will lock him up for 14 years without provocation, or what?

MrBrownJay1:
Read the funny story earlier

Strange how this man is not taking any actions against the men who "supposedly" raped and robbed him.... because instead of walking home to Ajegunle, any normal person would have gone to the nearest police station (with their bleeding anus), to report this "supposed" robbery/rape.

He will be too ashamed, traumatized and emmasculated to report it. Don't judge him. People react to trauma differently.

Respeckk:
I alone,but its just too sensitive a topic dont want to sound insulting,evrything is a trigger.

If you don't tell her, one day one of your kids might blurt it out and offend her. You know how kids don't have a filter for such things. Why don't you just do it, but do it lovingly or, as people have suggested, in a hospital with the agreement of a doctor?

whitering:
This is one of the shortcomings of some Africa parents. they instill fear into their children, therefore, Children don't see them as friends that they can freely relate with. ... Since you are now married, Just boldly tell her. or tell her to accompany you to see a Gynecologist that you are feeling some how with your own body... after the fake checkup, just tell the doc that your mum is ageing and you want her to do general checkup... pls don't forget to meet the doc beforehand.

It has nothing to do with African parenting. All over the world nobody just jumps up to tell their parents such things, except the person has issues. It's a parent, not a sibling or friend!

backbone503:
Just because they rap about drugs, guns, women and other unlawful stuff dosen't necessary mean they are into them. Its to stay relevant in the game, and also keep the money coming. Many hardcore rappers are very good and loving people.

Two sides to a coin. You see a saint that is good with their family, but that hasn't exonerated them from being bad in every other thing. Most musicians sing about their lives. It's that simple.

safarigirl:
LOL.....my guy, so, you carry this your mentality reach here?


You don't use a rapper's lyrics to judge their person. T.I is a family man, a great father, a community leader and advocate, but some of his music lyrics portrat him as a gun-totting, drug addict and and an irresponsible father.

Nobody is as they seem, some of the worst people in the world are Bible-thumping 'Christians', Qu'ran tutors, and generally, religious fanatics. The ones that will punch you in the facex abuse you, and quote parts of their religious books to defend their heinous acts. The racist KKK are dedicated 'Christians' and they will quote the Bible to defend their hate.

So, judging people based on music lyrics or how they portray themselves in public, is a great folly.

Do you know TI personally?

Whatever comes out of you are your thoughts, so yes, it does represent him, like it or not. Klansmen are only showing you what is inside just as this rapper does. Isn't that why what goes in doesn't corrupt, but what comes out?

frozen70:
To you they may be fighting for men but to them, they have a purpose which you don't know and won't even know until she is done with you

In all women should stop fighting for men. It makes them think they're so important. That is why they cheat with reckless abandon, because women treat them like some scarce commodity and are ready to do anything to win them. At least in Nigeria.

Jayslicky:
Many Nigerian youths are shallow and jobless, the stupidity of this present day youths is the reason Nigeria may never move forward.
We didn't protest for the restructuring of stupid laws in our constitution or protest for the herdsmen killing people everywhere.

What a generation of many useless youths.

Did you see the ones offering free services and money? Celebration and support of things that don't matter

frozen70:
Just to give commands and orders at home, which woman will tolerate that from him, lol

command and complain. But come to think of it, what exactly do women benefit from marriages except fighting for men? The men are busy complaining while the women are busy slaving. Later you will hear who is useful and productive and who is not adding anything to the union

JhayJoe:
My only question is this. Where did she put her intestines?

pushed down into her groin

y3mi:
You don't need to stop smoking dung, just endeavor to always check your self in for mental assessment. Saying I can't relate to WTH you're ranting about is me dignifying you. So kindly just heed my advise.

But you sound very negative. Try be happy with those around you. Whatever you've said above is for you. God bless you.

NaijaRoyalty:
I won't help her wash plate or change baby diapers

Thats her responsibility.

ok. But wt r ur own responsibilities?

babyfaceafrica:
generalization

Painful truth. Even you think those things. Your previous posts say it all

Karmatyra:
I don't see why this is a problem tho...i bedwetted till I was around 15...when i hit 16..the thing just stop on its own..see there is nothing wrong with your brother. very soon he'll stop,it's different for everyone, be worried when he still bedwets at 18,as of now...just keep waking him up and stop making him feel like there is something wrong with him.

peace. Did you attend a boarding school? How did it stop?

Opexzy:
Good day fellow nairalanders, i will try to keep this as short as possible.

I have a sixteen years old brother that is still bed-wetting. Dad and Mom has done everything humanly possible, but all their efforts ends in futility.... So many methods have been devised to just help him but non worked.

Initially we thought it was because of late dinner, he was stopped from eating when it is after 7pm

There was a time that dad use to whip him, but he stopped when he realized he's not getting any better.

We have bought some medicines, but it is still the same story.

Currently everyone is tired and no one is talking about it anymore... my parents believes that when he gets to uni he will change after a single inglorious display of this act.. He is currently in ss3.

what baffles me is that, my bro doesn't show any sign of remorse. He is always unapologetic and doesn't really give a damn...

Please nairalanders, is there anything else we aren't doing...?

If he's not apologetic why are you more concerned that him? Leave him be. He will get the solution by himself.

mercyviv:
I don't believe you're in love with the lady either ... listen to yourself; " why didnt they tell me this before instead..." It simply means you would have walked even in the face of a simple challenge that may have been resolved with dialogue, or do you imagine marriage to be a bed of roses all through and through?! I doubt if you'll be a better husband sir!!
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Why do you feel he must fight for marriage? Fighting will not ensure that it will be well. What if he fights for it but the mother will be a thorn in their flesh? It's not always by fighting. Love isn't always a war

naijadrivablog:
Did the topic say, "Slow Budget"?

lol, u r right

genq:


Lmao.

All I see here is an unmarried, childless 35+ year old woman consoling herself.

I'm yet to see a woman past her prime who is single and truly happy. Even the holy book says; "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."

Let's not get into the financial benefits women gain from marriage. Even to afford a flat on their own they cannot. In this Nigeria, most women cannot sustain themselves without the help of a man: husband, sugardaddy, boyfriend, whatever you wanna call it.

To fix their hair sef, they need a boyfriend - but you'll see them all over nairaland posting trash.

Sidenote: I would love if more women adopt the OP's ideology. If women reject marriage in its entirety, it will save men a GREAT chunk of our hard earned resources!

You have the misunderstanding that women depend on men for their resources. You need to change your circle of women. Or are you scared of the successful ones who don't need your resources?

babyfaceafrica:
you are not entirely right

But you know it's the truth if not that most men thrive on acting like they're so happy and women are so desperate, when the truth is that all men in Nigeria are looking for someone who will contribute to them and grow their dreams as if the woman has no dreams and ambitions for her own life. Who is helping build her dreams? Then you say women are leeches when you don't let them do their own thing just because they're in a relationship with you. You forced them to follow your dream and build you, otherwise they are not useful.when can she grow as a person if she's committed to your cause? This is a case of using women.
Any woman who can avoid that by staying on her own, and build her own dreams for herself will be much happier because the men appear to be grown babies/burdens.

bbstarr:
You're funny

Do you draw all these by yourself, freehanded?

y3mi:
So this is what you want below:

Intellectuality: 0/100
Bed Skills: 0/100
Cooking skill: 0/100.
Domestic skill: 0/100
Appearance/Sense of Dressing: 0/100
Decorum: 0/100
Trustworthy: 100/100

She was right. You're a pessimist after all.

calgaryFriend:
This does not sound like a wise thing to do, how will she call the whole village on her husband based on an accusation that has not been verified.
And even if she eventually verifies it she does not have to expose her dirty laundry in the open, she has a marriage to keep nonetheless.

When tree falls on tree you remove the uppermost one first.

The first thing she needs to do is to use wisdom to establish if her husband is the one responsible or not.

Have you though about the damage your suggestion would make if her husband is been wrongly accused ?
Or do you think it is not possible that the husband may be wrongly accused ?

This is not the time to betray emotions , this is the time to use wisdom.

Your idea on the whole thing is bizarre. Is the marriage important after fornication? Why must she protect an already bastardized union? The things you say for women to do is unacceptable. Marriage isn't heaven and Earth. Get over it and stop concealing the evil that men do.

So she should keep quiet and allow rape/societal norms to decay because she has a marriage to protect? Do you even think of what you're advising? Wisdom? Wisdom?! I hope you have this same wisdom when it hits close.

Sleevia:
Rubbish advise...no man who really like a lady will take picture of her ass and send it to her on WhatsApp. That is attitude of a predator, a perverted mind and a womanizer.

Your advise is useless because it will embolden him.

That advice is so shocking! Can you imagine what some men are thinking? That they should be understood even when they have exceeded the limits for same behavior?

Solsix:
What advice are you seeking?? How to mind your business or how to resign from a job?? Because I don't see any problem here. Just mind your business and everything will be fine

Why should she endure harassment? Would you? If the guy rapes her will you still tell her to mind her business or do you think it's his right?