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NwanyiOkpa:
Hello,

I am having a difficult time as a colleague of keeps harassing me sexually. He tries touching me and sometimes takes a picture of my ass without my consent and sends the picture to via whatsapp.

I am really pissed off and i feel like reporting. But my boss is also a womanizer and i am scared what the outcome might be. I live in the company's provided accommodation and as bad as it is, i am the only lady and female staff of the organization and hence, i am only female sharing accommodation with the rest of them. Although i have my own room but the rooms are kind of close to each other and this colleague keeps handing around my room.

I am getting really scared as i don't know what to do. I am new to the job and the youngest among them all.

Please advise me.

Have you checked the room for hidden cameras? Because people like the ones you've described can go the extra mile to harass and degrade.
Tell them you have a fiance or something. They are doing that probably because they have seen no male of substance around you and because they are rapists who cannot control their urges.But then you are living in the midst of them, so you might want to watch how you report that before his hanging around your room becomes an assault. Don't take any of his actions for granted, because he acts like a rapist.Have you thought of getting the pictures and using them against them?

madgoat:
Then how do you type on nairaland or handle a fone to read msgs here? Just curious

Paraplegic. Not quadriplegic!

OvaSabi1:
Ifemide123 you cannot lie ni? Lie that you are going for a friend's wedding or job interview or secondary school re union or something jare. Training, conferences, etc.
But be careful like someone mentioned above, if you're meeting someone for the first time, let it be in a public place. Don't let them serve food before you arrive. Let at least a friend know where you are going and forward the guy's details to the friend. Why don't you start a post graduate program and mix up with fellow single classmates? You will get a chance to develop yourself and still mingle.

And if something happens to her after lying that she's some place else? You are advising her to lie to meet strange men. Is it the friends who will care enough to raise alarm?

chudez0147:
My mother
I swore to make her proud..

What kind of bird is your DP? Never seen it before.

taiwoawoniyi:
Some people have not watched the video; some have no clue about what the Summit is about; some don't even know what climate change is and how it affects us locally, nationally and globally.

But as far as it's trending, some will still insult the president.

Nigerians ehn...we are very funny people ���

You with your clues, you swallow every lie from the presidency.

Nigeria is the largest contributor in flaring and rubbish generation. Is it plants that will stop this? Or are they wasting time on pointless activity they can never commit to or sustain?

ornicus:
And the small boys are shouting mgtow as if the system here is rigged against them.

It is the child I pity. If the man is able to take her, she will end up being a second class human being. No guarantee the grandmother will not resent her. And the grandmother is old.

No guarantee the cycle will not repeat. Marry small girl, then send her to uni where she is around guys her age, living with girls her age joking and gisting about how Mike gives it from all angles and the sex is mind blowing while all she has to think about is hubby who is old and out of shape with man boobs and pot belly and crooked teeth and who passes out after 5 minutes of missionary.

The format of smallie trophy wife from village is DEAD.

Village wife becomes city wife once she lives in the city. That mirage faded away long, long ago.

pocohantas:
Why can't you take care of your child yourself, since you feel the mother is "evil".

You want to go drop the innocent child with grandmother. You want her to become a victim of all sorts of abuse? Seems you want that child to grow up hating you (both).

I don't understand why men always "plan on taking the child from her" to give to their grandmother's who don't have time for children.
The mother is alive and did not reject the child, but in a bid to have a war and claim that the woman will poison the child against them, they decide to do the exact thing to the woman. Who made more entitled to the child? IAnd if he thinks they're after the money, he should not send any. He wants to marry another wife then deprive this one of her child while he goes on to have children with the new one because he's entitled. Men and planning on taking the child as if they're the only parent and they're entitled to take children away (kidnap) to give to their own mother's as if the other person's family don't want to take the child too. He's living in another state and is surprised that the long distance relationship of telling on her to her parents isn't working. The woman is working(the liability talk never came up) and you can see there's nothing bad she's doing save getting irritated by his silly insecurities and reporting her to her parents once she doesn't splay. There's more to it than he's saying. Too many men play victim.

MYDEBBY:
I planned taking my little girl of 4yrs to her grandmother to look after her.if I live her with that evil woman,she may influence her negatively and use her to siphon money from me.

What gives you the right to take your daughter away from her? Are you the only parent entitled to her? Because you think she's "evil"? Aren't you "evil" in her eyes, too?
Why do men like to use their children as collateral damage in the war with their wives? All this I want my child, I'm taking my child, I want my child talk is nonsensical. If you truly love the child you will not think your grandmother is the best for the child when the child's mother did not reject her and is still alive. If she can't have the child, you don't deserve the child either. None of you does. What makes you think you are entitled? Send the child to a neutral person who is not related to either of you if your intentions are pure.

HBB1:
I don't live in Nigeria egbon.
If Meghan Markle were considere white, some people won't make jokes about her monkey baby.

You are the only person I that has turned Obama's colour to a scientific discourse.

*If you are not white, you are not white ( at least that's how the racists have always thought in America, the Carribeans and South Africa).

Obama is as black as my behind.

At the end of the day you know she's mulatto, so stop pushing your fake black agenda, egbon. Obama falls under the same category with her: neither black nor white. Why you are complicating that and making your unsubstantiated claims about their race is ridiculous. Go and learn how to identify race with a pencil. 1st generation Migrants who don't understand race.

The monkey baby isn't because she is black, but because she's tainted. Live with it. Black is black, white is white. Mulatto is mulatto. Your type probably think Latinos are white.

Case closed

HBB1:
Who was the first black president of America?

Oga dey deceive yourself!

Continue your racial delusion.

He was not black and he was not white. Because one of your parents is one race doesn't make you that race. You become a mulatto. Meaning you have no true race.
In a country with only black people, I can understand why you don't understand race.
Black is black, white is white. Mulattos don't count.

HBB1:
Guess Obama is white too ( white mother)

Not white. Not black. So people should stop claiming they are one race or the other.

UIA04:
Stop with the insults.

Prince harry was only able to marry her because

1. She has a white father and a mixed raced mother. Their children will technically white.

2. The crown allowed it.

This occurred after the tumultuous marriage between Charles and Diana , Harry's parents.

Do you know how many past British princes and princess had to sacrifice their love before today?


Op's children, neices, nephews , father, mother, and grandchildren automatically become outcastes for his choice.

This isn't something that goes away in 5 years.

It's a terrible tradition.

Tell Dem. Dey r living fairy tales

Meghan is compensation 4 Diana death. That's y he's aloud 2 do anytin.
She is nt even blak

femzab:
Four years ago, I attended a wonderful marriage at ngwo, enugu. They are blessed with two kids now and enjoying their union. The guy family said no because the girl is an OSU (an outcast) and not a single member of the family attended the wedding. Today, the parent have accepted their daughter in law.
Bros it is your decision, let her go if she is not worth fighting for.
Infact for the fact that you are already thinking of the way to break up with her show that you don't deserve her love. Tell her and let her go.
After you will claim you are a Christian yet you are ruled by barbaric tradition.
How dare someone tell me I cannot marry who I want. They should be ready to lose me as a son.
Create history. Become a rally point for the change that must happen.

ND if dey didn't accept d DotA inlaw? U cnt use 1 case 2 genaralise. Dey didn't tell u d war b4 "accepting" if at all dey did so fully

KraticKratus:
When she came out of a black pussy.

She nt blak. White fada

scaramucci:
Prince Harry, a Prince in line to the British throne married a black woman, a first in the British monarchy. That's love that is strong enough to break barriers and establish new grounds. Not this nonsense thing you're talking about. Love kii you dia.

Wen did Meghan becom blak?

Upworkwriter007:
When you're in the middle of the devil and the deep blue see, make a devilish decision.... If u go ahead and marry the lady, worse case scenario they will scream for 2 years , after that you're good. ....the decisions are in ur hand....only u and ur family understands how to proceed.....but in case u decide to damn the consequence, make sure u succeed immensely in life, cose success has many family members.

Wt if dey scream more dn 2 years? No man is n island

Christopherrrr:
Nothing is absolutely wrong with me. Yes I have found love but the consequences are way far beyond me. It's not only gonna affect me alone but every other being from my father's loins. My parents will have a fair share of the consequences same is applicable to my siblings and every other person that involves themselves in a marital way with them. Honestly, I don't wish this for my worst enemy. Damning the consequences is easier said than done in this part of the world. To bad we ain't in the Western world where there is individualistic lifestyle.

Many ppl Tellin u 2 damn d consequences don't really understand wt it would mean going ahead wit it. Dey r using emotion nt reality

maggilove:
I need to read that book asap

You won't be able to sleep at night if you do.

Gideoniteprime4:
so are you trying yo tell me that if you find fame and wealth today you will say that you where suffering yesterday?
dude we have something called the middle or average class
this class is made up of people that are not rich but have enough to afford a comfortable standard of living
if you tell me that 60% of nigerians are from the middle or average class maybe then i will believe you or side with you on that
guy poverty nor be moi-moi o
i`ve been to places, based on business reasons
and i can tell you that nigerians are enjoying
guy reason well o
so are you trying yo tell me that if you find fame and wealth today you will say that you where suffering yesterday?
dude we have something called the middle or average class
this class is made up of people that are not rich but have enough to afford a comfortable standard of living
if you tell me that 60% of nigerians are from the middle or average class maybe then i will believe you or side with you on that
guy poverty nor be moi-moi o
i`ve been to places, based on business reasons
and i can tell you that nigerians are enjoying
guy reason well o

We are saying same thing. But that every Nigerian who gets successful claims that they were so poor, does this mean that there are no successful Nigerians from Rich homes? How is it that everyone claims they were Hawking water? All of them. Even the ones that are rich make up those stories so that people will say they are humble and gave come far.

Gideoniteprime4:
this one that you are killing me with parables i guess you are older than me
papa am sorry
respect!!!

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How can everyone be poor? Everyone was Hawking water. All lies. Seems no rich person in Nigeria. Even David o come from gutter

heybeemoney:
it will affect 10% of Nigerian?.. Does that implied that only 10% of Nigerian are rich, while d rest are poor?
The example they gave us is that, if we deposit 501,000 the 2% will only be on the excess 1000, amounted to #20 only...
what about if someone deposited 5 millions n the charge will b on the excess 4.5 millions (4,500,000*2% = NGN90,000)...
So bank will collect 90k of my hard earning just for deposit n for the sake of cashless policy?
... furthermore, just of recent FG announced that there will be charges on all online transactions.. why?..
don't forget also forget about VAT of 7%?

7.2%
Then taxes
Then deductions on deposits and withdrawals
Then bank charges
But what is being done with all the money? They should apply this to withdrawals of 50M and above. Those are the people who are the 10%.

sureheaven:
Though may be difficult for some to understand because they've been misled by enemies of progress but the fact remains that this policy is new and may be hard in Nigeria but it's the best.
The western world are using cashless policy and is even better and good for prompt transactions .
It reduces excessive spending.
Allow minimization of fiscal expenditure .
In America , the least u can withdraw on the atm a day is $400 cash.
While ur other transactions is based on cashless transfer of transactions. Though u are entitled to come the other day and withdraw again, it will not go beyond same $400.
In all, there will be no development and advancement if we still retard ourselves with the old method of doing things in Nigeria.
Those in Diaspora understand what i am saying.
May God Help us in Nigeria.

You still pay cash there. There is already a withdrawal limit on ATMs.

All dats happen now is that the revenue from TSA will include people's personal money that will be fraudulently used. Why extend their thieving reach to people's personal money, people who are already paying taxes?

abbasajao:
Dear Moderators,
Please assist to push this to front page so as to get useful comments from doctors and and any other persons here.
For sometime now I have been unable to sleep both at night and afternoon. I have visited hospitals and all they are telling is i'm thinking of something. This has gone beyond this because I dont sleep at night at all. I hope to get useful information here. Thanks

Just drink some warm milk at night and it will help you sleep.

Gideoniteprime4:
you wanna know what else is a waste?
your existence!
yes you been on earth is a simple waste
i bet a dog has accomplished more things in life that you
trust me when i say that i never wanted to insult you
but you called 4 it and i gat to deliver

speaking of me been slow?
i`ll love to see what your speed has helped you with apart from posting trash

this is what happens when 4g networks fall on the hands of low lifeforms like you
now try to quote me

that`s if you dare

People like that think they are more positive than the world. If you ask questions they say you are a hater. In their mind if you don't have more money than the person you cannot talk. Foolish ego. Every time "you cannot tie his shoe laces, you and your generation cannot meet up to him, he can feed you for blah blah". Is the truth that difficult?

Don't waste your time on people that can't think.

Gideoniteprime4:
why is it that the ones who get fame and wealth always tell us that they came from a poor background?

Some of them the firewood they will tell you they carried, everyone in the village was fetching it like them.

But come on, is everyone born poor or why do they all make these claims? So you can only get successful if you were poor? They shud tell that to the queen of England

abbasajao:
This is becoming stale na. So every successful persons now sell water and wood previously ?

I wonder. So nobody was born rich? As if the world is filled with so many poor people. Even dangote will tell you how he hawked groundnut cakes in the deserts of Kebbi so that we will say he's humble. It's truly stale now.

He should've made peace while alive. Why cursing his daughter? At the end of the day it's never worth it. Try and love your family even if no one else.

ladyF:
It might not have been any juju, some kain slaps fit leave you unconscious. Someone there would have tried to give him mouth-to-mouth.

It’s LadyF again

Look at the victims mouth first

tojahh:
Boss you have not HIV... It can hardly survive out a host for that long needless to say transferring to you.
Your fears are playing on your head already. You have been thinking of stuffs you've shared with your roommate whom might have the virus already as the girl is not a condom fan. Don't panic bro, you're fine. Discontinue the PEP and let your mind at peace.

If it doesn't exist outside the body, why is it that sharp objects carry the risk of HIV? Stop believing the things they tell you to stop the stigma. It is truly transmissible by sharp objects. The risk is only decreased after a certain number of days the object has been deprived of water and gained exposure.

[quote author= post=82390824]Do you mean you did not carried out any HIV test, and you just went ahead to get the retroviral drugs?

Let's start from there.

Who knows, all these may only be in your head/Subconciousnness![/quote]Why must he wait until he tests positive before taking it? He can prevent it in a situation like this, and that's what he did. It's not in his head.

donstan18:
Cleavage indeed.

Make she comot now, everywhere go drop like album.

Her color is something else. Look at her knuckles and knees. She looks good otherwise though the wedding ring is out of place

dynicks:
I too ain't lagging behind......shooting way behond the stars issa sure thing..

I looking dapper too ...oya make una shower me with salutes ND applauses!..

Is dz rilli u?