₦airaland Forum

Ugosample:
stfu you slowpoke

a lecturer will rather be in a strip club than threaten his female student in this manner
with this #metoo movement everywhere

his career will be in smokes if he tries it

You think America is a nigger country like Nigger Nigeria?

Dislike your fake llhagahsgsahsha, but you make sense here.

Ugosample:
hahahahahaha

hilarious

fake

Ugosample:
you got the wrong person


hahahahahaha

you don't sound as happy as you would like to make us think. Did it occur to you that you got the wrong person?

Ugosample:
you must be meeting the wrong men


You see that is the problem of this generation

How are you sure I'm meeting men? Or you think everyone is desperate for a relationship as you must be?
All men are the same. You are one of them. They all want the same things. You want independent women but can't handle it. When you can't eat your cake and have it, you begin to heap rebuke on women as if they are the cause of your inability to hold down such unions

AntiBrutus:
Toor! The last time I did that kind love was in my final year. I was still a teenager then sef.

At this point in my life, I can't try such. No one should tell me about him losing his job tomorrow. After all, he can also lose his erectîons and legs. Maybe I should go marry a 30k-erectile-dysfunctioned-paraplegic.

We must both be financially compatible. Anything less isn't for me. I am not stuck on some High School Musical fairytale!

Experience is a good teacher.

Financial compatibility first. Domestic compatibility follows close by.

eni4real:
Mtcheeeeeew
He who finds a good wife, find a good thing jo

and she who finds a husband finds what?

AntiBrutus:
Except if me sef dey earn 25k. In that case we deserve each other.

Aside that. I no fit marry Naija man, wey go dey do like KingKong.

E no go cook.
E no fit gree help me for house.
E no go dey submissive.
Inlaws no fit allow you rest.
E still fit open big mouth say, "men are polygamous in nature".
Sees you as a second class citizen.

Oya, go outside and bring money while I handle the home. You carry 30k come back.

Hey Jehova. What can he even do right?

You know! They expect a lady from a well to do background to marry their broke asses just because they think she must support them.

If he doesn't have up to what you have, don't marry him. Don't build a future for him, because one day when you've gotten a house and everything he dreamed of, he will show you that men are ingrates. He will suddenly remember his male pride and ego in which he's entitled to more women and authority than he can handle after feeding the ingrate until his belly can stand away from his body!

Lol though at him not cooking or being submissive and bringing back 30k . Men never learn. Women should get an income to keep themselves busy in preparation for that rainy day.

AntiBrutus:
These days, guys sef no wan marry that kind babe, they want the one that is financially stable, submissive and domesticated. But they will be telling women "if your dream man is earning 10k".


Which kind bad dream be that?
Na to wake up o

"Marry us as we are, but we will give you impossible checklists which you must fulfill before we will marry you, because you are to be a help mate, submissive, financially responsible, clean our shit up and still get excited by a wink from us at night" is their mantra. But if a woman dares to expect...!

Evil dreams.

AntiBrutus:
They see them on the same road you pass. That girl selling fruits at your junction, the one that greets you will a wide smile. You no go marry that one because she no slay...

Because she's not bringing anything to the table. They're looking for ready made women. Because these men ain't loyal. All they want is money, they aren't even submissive to women. Next thing is Shiloh when theyve wasted their youth. They should get clay and mould one. Confused men.

Palehair:
Let's just agree to disagree, your mind is definitely not flexible about this

Neither is yours.

Palehair:
Nobody is born gay or straight, the concept of born this way are the factors that inspire you to shape your subconscious into the person you will be as an adult as you grow,it could be innate, environmental, physical, as you grow, you know what or who you are, trust me, I took a sexuality studies class for 4 years and I have my degree to booth so I know what I'm talking about, i've studied sexuality among humans, animals and even plants to know more and I'm still studying, it's a broad, esoteric and fascinating topic, it's warped and not even science can explain it

so are we agreeing or disagreeing that gays were created? And that their creation in the minds of those who subscribe to it is counter productive and pointless? The West has studied it before you did, and in the end being gay is a choice based on lust, not nature.

It's what happens when you say they must keep pregnancies. Sometimes allow them not to, so that they stop doing even greater evil. She's uncommonly evil.

Richy4:
I want to give you an assignment... Just Google the meaning of Bisexual and gay. than u can come back to me if u want.

Also incase you were doing selective reading or u were not wearing your glasses. I suggested that Op can seek for a divorce on grounds of infidelity or she can just stay. It's up to her. That is why I ask you to read again.

Are you afraid to admit he is gay? The man is obviously gay. I've lived different places so there's nothing you will tell me about orientations that I don't know. That he married a woman doesn't make him bisexual. He's simply hiding
I've read your piece. But the man exhibits typical gay behavior. There's nothing bi about him. Nobody was born gay, as you say. They are a product of circumstances. Ask every gay when it began and if they are truthful they will point to something particular that brought it about. Some are gay for the benefits.

koyyes:
That's because it is a female telling the story. It wouldn't be so if was a male talking about his lesbian wife.

No one will talk about prayer or anal sex.

You know. Suddenly he can be bisexual and not gay. She needs to pray and understand him and give in to his fantasies so that she can "turn" him, someone who doesn't even like females in that way to begin with! Who did this to Nigerian men?
If it was a woman he would have to trash her because lesbians would be the devil's incarnate and hate men. But now she must fight for her marriage because he is confused about asking his true partner to shave.

koyyes:
Liberal progressives only talk about coexistence/divorce in cases like this.

That one is just an air head.

Today I've seen a lot of things on the topic. Some solutions are not solutions but just confusion.

Richy4:
OK I have read your comment maybe you should try again to read my earlier post. The one u attacked me on. This time slowly and see if there are differences between what u suggested and what I said.

You said he's bisexual. That is not true. He's gay. I don't know why most men are afraid to admit it. And there's nothing to pray about or understand in gays. The only solution is divorce because he's been cheating on her and can never have true feelings for her. She is merely his scapegoat. You feel he doesn't see her as a total turn off, but he does. The children were his aim.
You said it is normal in other countries, it is not. The media has made you think so. Population of gays isn't enough to constitute a nuisance.

koyyes:
You sure say na boy? abi na one dumb girl...I don't know where all these people come from with their rubbish mentality.

They see themselves as the liberal progressives

justice12000:
Not every man that is no longer interested in sleeping with their wives or girlfriends are gay. Women make this stupid assumption all the time. Maybe he doesn't find you attractive anymore, maybe the way you smell down there irritates and makes him sick; happened to me with my ex, even if you give me 1 million, I won't sleep with her. Maybe he has health issue he doesn't want to tell you as a man, maybe it's stress or just lost interest in sex. Some men I know after they get married or even single can go years without sex; nothing wrong with them, just lack of interest. Respect his decision or seek divorce.

It's nice that your ready to defend men. But didn't you see where she says she saw a conversation between him and a small boy, asking him to shave next time, that clearly shows he was having relations with the boy?

Richy4:
OK what advice would you like to give the OP? that is why she is here in the first place. Your nice comment might work on her situation.

My advice from what I saw a gay man do to a woman is to leave him. He is only there to have children. He will soon cook up a story about her, then turn people against her, because most people are biased against women. Then he will divorce her so that he can continue living his life. His excuse will be that after devil fear women when people notice that he's not remarrying.
Advice is for her to leave him. Adultery is grounds for divorce

madenigga:
He is gay. Dont confront him, cause if u do he might stop hiding it from u and start doing it openly.

Just tell him u want the both of u to be praying together, your prayer point should be u sentence to death and destruction anything that wants to spoil your marriage, he himself would be scared and start thinking about his actions

Why shouldn't she confront him? So what if he does it openly? She already knows. He's a cheat. She should dump him and get a life before he dumps her when he feels he has fulfilled all righteousness in having kids

REDBUNNY:
Nigerian women always acting foolish.
Your husband is gay.
You want to keep being married to him while he goes out and sleep with his boyfriends or you want to move out and get a life?
But no, you want stay there and cry, play victim, pray and do everything but get sense.

Lol. They have been brainwashed or fed idiocy for so long that they feel they must fight for finished marriages. Imagine someone asking how to live with a gay man

Richy4:
Based on what you have written here, your husband is not gay. He is bisexual.. if he is gay, U will be a total turnoff when he sees u... No matter how sexxy you dress, nothing will stimulate or move him to have sex with u. As it is, he is playing on both field.. that's why his stuff can raise to accept u when u initiate sex..

Sorry that's who he is, There's nothing you can do about it..
U can either divorce him on grounds of cheating (based on that chat without letting anyone know with whom because u might endanger his life ) or u accept him the way he is.. that's just the cold fact .. It's kinda normal in advanced Countries.. I can just imagine how shocking it was for u

He's not bisexual. He is a wicked gay. He married her to conceal his status and keep people away from nagging him about marriage. If it was a woman you would all say she's lesbian.
I'm surprised at the weak advice she's being given because it's a gay and a man involved. Men, have you you forgotten to ask her what she did that the man is following other side dishes? Have you reminded her to look hot for him and cook his best dishes and pray for him?
The man is gay. No mistake of bisexuality. He just married her for the record. When he's tired of it he will find an excuse to divorce her and be with another man. I've seen this happen before.
He is a cheat. That man isn't loyal. She should dump him and find a man who actually wants her

shamecurls:
No remedy!

The foundation of everything in PH is built on Gang.

sounds pathetic.

shamecurls:
Rivers of cult members.


Over 80% of House of Assemble members are gang members.



Wike is a certified member


So it's just bound to happen .


This is even a tip of the iceberg, when Wike was chairman of Obio/Akpor LGA that year. Ask people wey observe that year. People die peices.


It's was a a free for all blood letting that the FG had to deploy war trained soldiers

Any remedy?

edward1984:
I just said I have a friend who got married with this amount,,I was just implying it was simple and easy what is wrong with that? And of cox the whites also throw big wedding parties if they have the money

Daz wt m saying. All sorts of ppl. So it's not as if d African way is bad. If dey want 2 do it, their choice. If dey r broke afta, dia biz. But no correct way 2 do it. N few ppl will marry wut 20euro in dis wrld. 1:1000000

khiaa:
So that's the choice of an individual couple but you made it sound like it was the norm, part of the culture.

It's clear 4rm my 1st post. "Dey hv all sort just like Nigeria hv. All sort". Didn't u c dat? Did I recommend every 1 duz it? No. Did I make it a standard? No. So wia did u c wen it was made d Norm? Evry post hs tat in it, so if u want 2 argue in it, no point arguing, it ws alway dia. Maybe u weren't readin.

edward1984:
And where did I mention I adore the whites? And when did I say only their way is too good? Just read what you wrote again,,

It is wt u implied wit d 20 euro story. U said we shd copy dt. Dt we need 2 emul8 d west. As if u don't know dt ppl do whatevr dey want n if Africans want fanfare, den allow Dem. White's DNT HV everytn right. When in Rome b roman

khiaa:
I live in the west, the U.S. which specific country are you talking about because I have never heard of such a thing?

Dia r sum weddings which if u r not bringing money den don't come n u must pay 4 ur meal. I kid u not. All d choice of the ppl wedding themselves. So no one cn say sum gypsies married on 20 euro n make that d standard 4 Western weddings. Diff folk diff stroks

khiaa:
Where in the west do they charge people to enter a wedding?

U hv Neva seen such wedding b4? There r such. Very common

Ryan03:
so because you FIL paid for the wedding it makes it the best and other weddings paid for by the groom rubbish? Do you know how many in-laws harvest crops from their farm and take to their married children in the city? That is what they can afford.

d guy sound like goldihger. So until dey pay 4 wedding. But wen is his turn to pay he will nt agree, u will hya hw it is fulish custom bcuz he will not want to pay

Ugosample:
just so you know


apart from that illusion of Elevated status of being a "Mrs"

there isn't much in marriage to enjoy for a lot of women back in Nigeria
its one frustration to the next

So it actually goes two ways.

And not every one complaining here is a child

some are just sick of the excessive foolishness out there

like myself for example

all those being giddy and excited about getting hitched in contemporary Nigeria
You schmucks don't know what's about to hit you


You missed the point big time

Wemen DNT HV complaint abt everything in marriage as men does. Men dnt want 2 care 4 dia families, dey r lukin 4 helpm8,as if wemen DNT HV better tins 2 do, dey nid freedom, dey nid food, dey cnt evn provide 4dia families. Wt exactly do dey bring 2 d table if nt complaints n complaimts? Dats d point

edward1984:
I don't have an identity,? So it's in our culture for a man to misbehave in a marriage or have a side chick while society tells the woman to bare and be prayerful, it's in our culture for a woman to be in an abusive relationship while she stay and just pray? I'm a Nigerian and I'm not saying anything against our culture, I just mention I have a friend that got married with this amount, same can be applied in Nigeria for couples with very low income, instead of trying to satisfy according to you,, "the society or culture" sorry but the truth hurts and you sound bitter...

Same white u adore charge ppl 2 enter dia weddings. Just bcuz 2 strange ppl married in 20 euro don't mean anytin. Mins ntn @ all. Dey hv all sort just like Nigeria hv all sort. U act as if only dia way is 2 gud, but u cnt evn b submissive 2 ur woman as dey r 2 dias. Wen ppl r broke dey begin 2 admire strange tins dt even d foreigners find fulish.