Come on!! There's nothing special about this that this lady cannot afford. If she channelled the income from her acting into a good business that gives her Return on Investment, with 15m she could do this.

This house is decent and won't take a fortune to build.
Guys, stop thinking every lady is a LovePeddler that makes money only by sleeping with men. With genuine hustle, you too can do this in less than 6months.

AudioNews:
Kill dem All,
Sai Baba 4 + 4 = 2023
PMB = Next Level
Haters drink Sniper,
Till 2023

May the law of retribution visit you. All along, You thought it was all about Christians and Muslims. It's happening to you now.

By the way, may whatsoever you wish your wailers befall you.

KingSatan:


As a man, a father and a grandfather. I have lived life to an extent and this is my view on this subject.

The previous thread was simple and concise, "Never marry a woman who has no means of income".

But that is the truth!

Gone are the days when people marry "Obiageri's" according to the Igbos.
Back then, things weren't this bad. Considering the family setting in those days, women had no other role than to cook, birth, raise children and clean the house.

So their parents prepare them for marriage, teach them how to cook, satisfy a man and raise children. They also spend alot of time grooming their hairs, taking care of their skin (Some parents send their children to fattening rooms) and waiting to get married.

When we got married, we married to keep them at home and show off to our friends. Only a few of us married because of love. Some of our partners were not our choice but our parents.

So when you marry, your wife and children should always reflect your wealth and networth. Most especially, YOUR WIFE.

I repeat, back then things were not this bad and everyone knew their roles.

But in today's world, so many things have changed.

Women should bring to the table as much as they expect from the man.

Raising children costs alot of money and shouldn't be the responsibility of the man alone.

So many marriages have crashed on the alter of poverty or "One stream of income".

We must learn to tell ourselves the truth always.

Back then, you don't spend so much to raise a child. If he or she wants to go to the community school or follow the white man's way of life, you send them as a punishment. But those humble and loyal sons, follow you to the farm and when they come of age, you give them farmlands and wives if possible. But that's not the case anymore.

Apart from formal education abroad, I also encouraged my children to learn sellable skills. One of my son is a fashion designer and that is what puts food on his table in the UK. His college degree only reflects on his call cards.

I told this to my children (Daughters inclusive) never to marry a man or woman who has no verifiable means of income.

Money is needed to run a home in the 21st century. Alot of money!

We no longer live in mud houses or drink from pots.

As for "Entitlement", I think every couple should have that mentality depending on the context.

The man is entitled to his wife's emotional commitment. She is his wife and this also applies to the man.

I am tired of typing.

To be truthful, i warned my son's against mingling with an average African woman. They simply don't want to know the truth. They hate the truth with Passion and that is why true feminism failed woefully here.

In the Diaspora, most men who want peace of mind avoid African women because of their "Entitlement Mentality" and how exploitative they are.

Many of these women don't work but enjoy proceeds of child support from numerous partners. You think it's a coincidence? No it not. It was deliberate.

They just want to seat at home, get fat, enlarge their butts and walk up and down the street like a pussy cat that resides in Buckingham Palace.

Should I talk about Nigeria, where you meet an average Nigerian lady and realise that;

1. She is a college graduate because a "Man" sponsored her in school (Both of them are no longer together as a couple).

2. She has a roof over her head because a "Man" made that available (She has no intention of marrying him).

3. She uses the best smartphone because a "Man" bought it for her (Just another random man).

4. She has clothes on her body because a "Man" gave her money for shopping (Obviously he is "One of those mugus".

5. She has food on her table because so many men send her money.

This same woman has no other skill but sexual skills. The only thing she can offer is "Sexual Intercourse", "Birthing Children" and "Companionship" but she expects the man to "Mark her birthdays with a brand new Escalade", "Buy her parents a new house and train her younger ones in school". Is that not exploitation?

This same woman hates her mother inlaw because she sees her as her rival. Anyway, women have always hated themselves from time immemorial, don't get moved when you see them shout in solidarity, it's just for a few seconds.

When asked about their contribution in the relationship or Marriage, some will say "I birthed children for him". But that's your natural default woman!

Even if you sleep with a sexually active mad man, you will get pregnant and birth for him.

Some will even say, "I satisfy him sexually. I gave him my body and soul". But that is same thing you did with your numerous ex lovers.

According to Pastor Sam Adeyemi, he said "If a woman does not help her husband financially, then how else does she want to help him".

In this age and time, it takes two adults who have a verifiable means of income to build a healthy family.


Cheers!

You said it all sir. Infact, you nailed the topic. I totally agree with your position on both partners bringing money to cater for the home. My only concern is that most of the times, some men have this false sense of entitlement that because their partners make money, they must contribute even much more in taking care of the family.

Speaking from experience, I know someone who both herself and her partner works. She earns a fat salary and have a side business (consultancy occasionally) which brings in some good money when it happens. On the part of her husband, he runs his own business and has 3 outlets each bringing in good money too. My friend's pain is that her husband feels entitled to her income because they are "one" by marriage. So she has to pay rent, fees, and other bills as well as feeding, while he uses his own money to expand and cater for his relatives because he wants to be seen as their super-hero. And anytime my friend complains, she is termed self-centred. Infact, her greatest undoing was complaining to the man's aunt who happens to be one of the beneficiaries, about his negligence of his immediate family. The whole family turned against her and accused her of not meaning well for them.

And I think that's what the OP was driving at. A lot of men feel entitled to their partners wealth and even become abusive if she refuses to submit that to them. And that is totally unacceptable.

Karleb:
From the conjured story here, it's obvious you just want your husband to yourself alone forgetting he actually came from somewhere.


Do you know his family's contributions to what he is today?

He's only paying back his dues. Nothing wrong with that.

Total rubbish. Paying back, I agree but going to the extent of neglecting his family is just not fair.

ModestGal:

Me that I'm now dating first son nko? You are scaring me o. His family's responsibility is on his shoulder and I am happy hes taking care of his family especially his mother. But I'm afraid, I hope he doesn't turn like that. I do advise him to make sure his siblings are well taken care of, and wish he would secure them well enough

Don't be scared. People are different. Just pray he understands that you and your children are his first point of call when you eventually get married.

imam07:
I know I will see a lot of women and ladies on this trend condemning the man for financially assisting his siblings. Despite this same ladies can also sucking dry their boyfriend they met marry to. These same ladies and women complaining here are doing the same thing to their married brothers but they can condemn others.
The woman should be happy her husband has money to help out. What if your husband doesn't even have money to take care of u. What will u do.

Really? Does he have money to spare? He left a woman to be shouldering the bulk of the responsibilities while he spends his own on his people. That is wickedness. If he really wants to be fair, then let him pay the rent and school fees. The lady can brace up for feeding and some small small bills

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Good one. However he feels, inform him out if courtesy and go ahead with plans for you and your children's future. He would feel hurt but you are the one who will hurt in the long run if you don't do this now that the kids are young.

Liverpoolfc:
I hate this type of write up. Do you know where they were coming from? Do you know how far they have gone? You are complaining about first son of a family, if he do not take care of them, who will? My wife will not even dare tell me such a thing that my siblings are milking me dry, let them do.

Yes, very true. Your wife won't dare admit they are milking you but at least you will have the decency to provide for her and your children and kit give her #2000 for a week's feeding.

crackland:

In 2020, Nigerian women still don't want to share bills equally...they'd rather behave like their primitive fore-mothers.
They ought to take a cue and learn from women who are civilized.

Times have changed but they'd rather remain cave women.

You're wrong bro. Women are ready to share. They just don't want to have to be saddled with the bulk of the responsibility while the man plays super-hero to outsiders when his immediate family suffers.

mrblessed:
You have finally shown your hands after failing to separate him from his family and create a wedge, now it is your imaginary savings that is your next weapon. When are you really going to get tired and peace a chance? See where your futile battle of nine years has taken you to. If you are a women who means well for your husband and his family, there is no way he would have ignored you all these years. I don't want to believe that your husband is a fool, who doesn't know what he is doing, why overwhelm yourself with anger. I surmise you are the type of woman that goes into marriage with screw driver, to loose/separate anyone whom you think is too close, or benefits from your husband. As it turns out now, there are some nuts that are very difficult to loose.

This is the dumbest response to this thread. You obviously have no experience whatsoever in matters of marriage. I have seen it happen over and again. It has nothing to do with the woman's approach. It stems from the unrealistic Messiah ship attitude of some of these men, trying to prove to the world that they have arrived and nice
Meanwhile, most of them cannot as much as provide ordinary meal to their immediate family. Just imagine, giving her #2000 as upkeep. That's callous and wicked. Is that the division you were referring to that she brought with her into the marriage?

Anyways, I am consoled by the saying that what goes around, comes around.

bukatyne:


Families could be leeches and parasites.

And that picture is horrible.

She might not call them that if he were responsible enough to provide for her and the children. There's absolutely nothing wrong in giving, but don't do that at the expense of your immediate family. It hurts badly.

STARGREEN:
"I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property."

This is obviously the reason for your lamentations.

I pray you don't find yourself in her position. You would do even worse.

Good one. I am glad God saw your heart and heard your cries. I am also glad that you have forgiven him, but pls do not make the mistake of accomodating him. If you have enough dough, pay for a few days hotel bills for him and keep him there. He can come visiting but try to limit contacted. He is mean and not your friend by any standards. Such a person can frame you up just to prove a point.

Be wise!

Hungry and greedy folks. Give to Ceases that which is his and to God that which is His. Just because of greed and offering plus long throat for birthday shenanigans, you decided to flout simple instruction from constituted authority.

I weep for your flock sha.

My brother, you are in a relationship with what the Bible describes as a cantekerous woman (Proverbs 25:24). She has no excuse to talk back at your mum, especially for something as simple as "Kuki put am for him head" Come on!!

The red flags are very high but you chose not to see them because you want to fix the effects her dysfunctional family is having on her. Just know that you laying a foundation for a dysfunctional home for your own children.

I know you are not ripe for marriage so don't even go into it yet. At 25, you still have the mind of a toddler, and given the age difference, I bet you this girl will crush you.

Think this your marriage plans through before saying I do.

That's no news and it's nothing as far as I'm concerned because you have always exposed yourself and life and have never ever been clothed.

May God comfort his wife and give his family the fortitude to bear the loss.

Chuknovski:
I thought ogboni is a cult that had supernatural powers? well if otherwise its adherents should desist and follow the leader,JESUS

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for those who think I am mocking the dead or trying to condescend others personal beliefs, please be considerate, am here to elevate Jesus not to argue with Atheists.. those who die in Christ have eternal life john 3:16, Luke 19:10, 1theselonians 4:14, john 6:50, and a host of others, also I am personally happy that Jesus saved me twice I have escaped bullets, am not a cultist or a military personel its just his grace..

Thank you jare. I am happy to know Christ. Even if religion and Christianity is a scam, I chose to be a victim.

May it never be well with the wicked. Every plans to rip off the tax-payers' and have it end in one family's pocket backfire and bring a curse upon them. What rubbish!

Kikikikik. I'm still laughing and can't hold back the laughter. We are exactly the same, the only difference is just that we are not from same parents. I can't kill any of the things you mentioned, except mosquitoes or sometimes cockroaches. It is so bad that I cannot even hold a live chicken or come close to where it is, but that doesn't mean that I am weak. I just cannot deal with it.

Hiaa, you said it yourself. Abi are you not a fool?

You did nothing wrong my brother so stop beating yourself up and blaming yourself as if you chose not to get a job. To even think you did side jobs to meet up with your responsibilities, and yet your wife failed to appreciate your efforts is most annoying. And then to add salt to the injury, she started sleeping around without caring how you feel. I wonder how some women reason sha. It's one thing when a man has and doesn't want to provide for his family and a totally different thing when he doesn't have to provide. She refused to see the truth.

Well, I am particularly happy that God has shown up in your case. Who knows, maybe you were not destined to remain together afterall.

All those PH first sons and daughters have the same thing in common - shrewd, rude, and untamed. BBNaija Tacha see your papa. The refinery need to do it's work.

All those PH first sons and daughters have the same thing in common - shrewd, rude, and untamed. The refinery need to do it's work.

Samfloxin:
Tell us what you told him and the manner in which you told him that. Always claiming victim but when your tongue is running 360 degrees per second you felt like James Bond

Hmmm. I see no reason whatsoever for such beating. Assuming bshe had died?l from the effect of such. Anywwys, he should count himself lucky. Maybe by now he will be doing the time for murder, all on the name of being provoked by the lady.

Bizibi:
those type of girls don't spend like that.....

Don't say. They over spend, paying their way to win you and your peeps.

Petenoir:
Nice one

Nice kini? Las las, dem go pay for the masks via Bail money smh

budaatum:

You need to open your eyes too. Op shut her's and fell for "I want to be a pastor" instead of seeing what he actually was.

Other blinding things some fall for are "he fine", "he get good job, money, car, etc".

Some hardly focus on character and manner until he's baked buns in your oven and it is too late.

You are talking from inexperience. Things happen and people change. Have seen it all. Don't think you know a person's character so well. People can pretend and to say the least, become something you never imagined based on the current circumstances they find themselves in.

Pray you never become a victim.

Iffffffy:
At some point, I thought I was the one doing this narration, it is well sis.

Lol. I can relate.

sassysure:

U will never call me for something good.
Couldn't pick the lady's igbo. I got afikpo vibes a lot.
She is saying something like she gave birth through CS and the man did something bad to her during that time.
Man is restricting himself from fighting with her though both of them have acoustic mouth.
Wife desperately want the man to beat her.

Their matter started a long long time ago. And I can say that it has something to do with that big guy.
Yep, it's not in Nigeria.

I feel for the kids.
Look at them.
Even the small one is crying.

He is not deliberately trying to piss her off. It's the other way round.
The lady is fed up with something and I swear it's about that boy. He isn't her child and it's obvious the man love that boy more than that woman and her kids. He went kolo when the lady held the boy.
And the boy don't care at all. He is ev3n laughing at her.

I have to watch again to understand all they are saying.
That guy is evil. He posted this.

Well interpreted. However, the dialect spoken is Abia - Abiriba/Ohafia.

On the boy with the mixed blood, I think he has some developmental disorders, hence his non-challant attitude. But like you rightly pointed out, the man seems to love him more than his other kids (from the Nigerian wife), which happens naturally when you feel the child cannot defend himself, especially given that the step-mother might not be patient with him to treat him as her own child.

Both have had it up to their necks and want out hence building up provocations and evidences.

How sour this thing called love can sometimes turn.

jaksmillioniar:
to think ur baby Brian is leaky is astonishing

Your response says it all. You can't even think straight. Now it's clearer you need help. Shout out to Yaba left for Mayday.

illicit:
how does she make the money.

80% of the time, from one Godfather who is her paymaster, while you are the Mugu.